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[Illa]

Green : Awww... That's heart breaking.. How far was she in her pregnancy?
try to support her to the best of you ability, that's all you can do right now.. hopefully she will get another one soon.

Star: Glad it was not a UTI and you can still enjoy your vacation, are you going to be "o"ing during your vacation or has it passed already?
I am glad your boss is making an attempt to help you, hope you find something soon.

 

[mnelson815]

Green - my heart is breaking for your friend. I will however keep hope for her that since she was able to get pregnant this cycle with IVF that she may be one of those lucky ones that can get naturally pregnant on her own the cycle following! I can't imagine how such must be feeling.

 

[BelleNuit]

Green I just feel like crying for your friend. How awful

 

[sil]

Green, I am so sorry for your friend. That is heartbreaking. I can't even imagine what she must be feeling. I feel like crying for her too. I'm also really sorry to hear dh is being so hands off. Maybe it's his protective mechanism or he feels bad for it not happening so he's trying to cover another way? Either way I know it must hurt. Big hugs.

Star- so happy it wasn't auto. I hope you feel better soon and I really hope you're able to find a great job soon. They say good things come from seemingly bad things sometimes. I hope you find a great job that you fit right into and it becomes a blessing in disguise.

Mnelson, good luck in your two week wait!

Belle, I can't wait to see your puppy! Post pics when you can. I've never had a dog so I'm living through you and feel excited for you.

Illa, I am fortunate enough to have children and even I feel that way sometimes. It seems scary to think of the responsibility of bringing up a human being and that's totally normal. When it comes down to it though 90 percent of people are good people no matter what parenting style etc is used so all you can do is try your best if you end up fortunate enough to raise a little one. Fingers crossed for your bfp soon

 

[BelleNuit]

Meet Zola

 

[sil]

Belle!!! She's so tiny and cute!!!! I'm melting.

 

[BelleNuit]

Fucking husband keeps lying to me about quitting weed. Caught him again. Never trust an addict ladies.

Fuck.

 

[mnelson815]

Oh Belle, that sucks. I hate when DH can't be honest about what is going on. I feel like as women we invest so much into getting pregnant: supplements, tracking, tests, special diets, no drinking, no caffeine, etc. so I feel the exact same way when DH can't keep up his end of things.
Have you talked with him about how it can affect is sperm and everything for the ttc process? Or does he feel that with a great SA it doesn't matter much? Either way, the lying sucks so I feel for you!

Oh the upside... You have the Cutest little puppy to preoccupy your time when you need a break from DH! What's his name? I want to squeal he is so cute!! We have quite a large dog, 120lbs, so it's hard to remember when they were this small!!

 

[BelleNuit]

I have talked to him hundreds of times about how it can affect sperm in a microscopic way that cannot be tested by a traditional SA. Tonight with his glazed eyes and slow thoughts he said "ya I'm starting to think your right" dumbass. Doesn't matter he won't fucking quit so we'll never get pregnant.

And the dog is his fricken dog.

I'm already feeling emotional enough as it is. I didn't need this on top of it all. I am so damn angry.

 

[BelleNuit]

Hey ladies, I need to take another hiatus from this site for awhile to clear my head. I may pop in from time to time and I doubt my leave will last forever. Just need to take a break. This is all becoming too much again.

 

[greenarcher]

Do what you need Belle. We'll be here.

 

[Illa]

Take care Belle!

Green: How is your friend doing? Hope she finds the strength to get through this loss

 

[sil]

Belle, I'm sorry about your dh. I can only imagine how frustrated and overwhelming it must feel and completely understand the break

 

[greenarcher]

My friend hasn't reached out to me since she shared the news. I don't want to butt in yet. She was 8 weeks along, but the heartbreaking part of it is that they aren't going to try IVF again. Those were their last 2 embryos, and they're in their late 30s early 40s. It would take a miracle for them to conceive, but I'm still going to hope for one. They have male factor infertility, so yes, she was able to get pregnant, but they need help to make sperm meet egg.

Star - isn't a UTI a bacterial infection?

Belle - I cannot deal with liars, and I'm so sorry you're having to deal with him. Your anger is entirely founded. Hopefully he's at least cut back since you asked him to stop. If he's having to sneak around, he's probably cut back? Regardless, fuck that. He better bust his ass to earn your forgiveness and show he actually gives a damn.

We'll miss you, but TOTALLY understand.

 

[sil]

Green, I'm hoping for a miracle for your friend. Such a sad story.

 

[mnelson815]

Green - So sorry about your friend. Is there a reason they won't try IVF again? If it is financial, they could always look into studies? I was looking into that before, and there are quite a few that you can participate in and they cover the cost? Might be something it think about if that is the factor. Although, it may also be too hard on them to try again and there is nothing wrong with that either. Just hoping she knows she has options if she needs them.

 

[Illa]

Green: Sad to hear about your friend... hoping for a miracle.
Has she tried the softcup method? That may help

 

[greenarcher]

Not financial. Personal. She had to put her whole life on hold for years during their attempts. The hormones fucking suck. Everything about it sucks.

 

[mnelson815]

Definitely understandable. Messing around with hormones is no joke, especially at those kind of levels.
I do however talk with my neighbour quite a bit, as she is battling infertility and they decided to forgo IVF and go straight to adoption. She said it was a really hard decision, but after years of fertility drugs, she was done.
There is always options for her if being a mommy is what she wants. Adoption is a difficult thing to come to terms with if you aren't ready to give up the dream of being pregnant, but as she put it, at least with adoption, she was guaranteed to become a mom. Just something to think about as well.
Or, her and her husband can just have a life of enjoying each other. There is nothing wrong with giving it their best shot and then moving forward with a life together. I hope she finds some peace in whatever it is she decides. I can imagine that right now, nothing would seem like a great option to her. So difficult, I can't imagine.

 

[sil]

Is anyone approaching testing time soon?