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[Jules8]

I hope everyone is having a good week! We have some pretty nice weather here.
Of course that means my allergies are here with a vengeance, but I am trying to fight through them and enjoy the sunshine.

Had my second interview for the daycare position. I really like the place, but I am just not sure about it yet! I wish I had a crystal ball that showed me what I am supposed to do....

 

[MH5280]

Ugh! Allergies are terrible! I swear they get worse as you get older! I never use to have any! And now I do!
Week is good! I feel like each week is going by so slow! But after tomorrow I will have 5 weeks left of work!!!

That's great you got a 2nd interview! May not be exactly what you want but it's a step to where you want to go! I think it'd be worth a shot if they offer it to you! It will probably be hard to be around babies tho!!!

 

[TTTTina]

I used to have allergies. They aren't as bad anymore. My son has them pretty bad tho. They suck

 

[Jules8]

My allergies are insane! I went to an allergist last year so they could do the skin test. Well, my arms swelled up and I got hives immediately. The worst thing is tree pollen. It's so bad that I am allergic to any fruit that starts as a flower on a tree because of pollination. The fruit thing only started a few years ago, I decided to have a peach for breakfast then within about 5 minutes I broke into hives and my throat started to close. I thought it was a fluke, but it happened again. I don't have as serious of a reaction with other tree fruits like apples or plums, I just get a few hives around my lips. Its super weird! lol

The being around babies doesn't bother me that much. What's holding me back is the lack of PTO/sick time and benefits. At my current job I get 5 weeks of PTO and sick time is accrued, but since it's technically the medical field we don't get paid holidays. If you work a holiday you get time and a half,which is good for the little holidays like 4th of July or memorial day or you have to use PTO if you take off. I also have pretty good benefits which is super important right now. It is covering all of this PCOS stuff and most of the fertility specialist stuff. We just got started and it would suck to have to stop.
The day care offers 2 days of PTO after a year, however they get a paid week at Christmas and all of the holidays are paid as well. I don't know much about the benefits but they don't go into effect until after the initial probation period is over which means fertility would get put on hold.

It's so hard! lol

Michele, I am so excited for you!!! I know that it seems like time is going slow, but it will be here before you know it!

 

[MH5280]

Hi ladies! Happy hump day!!! Maybe today we can all make that baby! Lol! I hope everyone is doing well!
Our weather has turned to cold, windy and around 40-48 degrees! It's terrible! So in return my body wants to catch a cold! Ugh!
Well nothing new here just wanted to check in with ya'll! We've been slacking! Although I don't think any of us have anything new going on, just the same struggles :/

 

[MamaBunny2]

It's flippin' cold here too! Where's the spring weather?! Aside from the rain... We actually lost some power at work yesterday. My OH has already opened our pool and the water is clear as can be! My DD is ready to jump in but it'll be awhile before the temp is decent I can't even get outside to plant the flowers we bought last weekend because of Mother Nature's stupid bipolar fits

 

[MH5280]

Mother Nature and AF must be related!

 

[Jules8]

Yeah, nothing new here. Just waiting for AF so I can start femara and my monitored cycle. Im praying so hard it happens in the next week or we have to skip the hsg due to vacation.

Its been OK weatherwise here. A little bit of rain and 60s, but it will be rainy and 50s the rest of the week.

I hope everyone is doing ok!

 

[MH5280]

Ok idk who else to vent this to. We NEVER fucking have sex anymore!!! I don't even care about not ttc but we can still have sex!!! So tonight we had all our chores done, took the dog for a walk, and I said "babe we should go play, we never do anything anymore" he says "what do you mean?" And I told him. And his response was "ha I know.... I'm too fat" are you F-ING kidding me dude!!!!! Like wtf can I do!?! Aside from raping him? Lol. I've touched him and tried to get him going and he just sits on the computer reading sports or work....

 

[Jules8]

You can always vent here, you know that! I am sorry he is being like that...super uncool!!!

My husband went through a thing like that last year. It was soooooo frustrating and it got to the point where I felt like there was something wrong with me. We were also under a ton of stress and once things got settled things in that department got a lot better.

Do you think he is just super stressed out about the move? Maybe he is also stressed out that he is the fertility problem? I can imagine his manhood is a bit bruised knowing how badly you want a baby and he is the reason it isn't happening. We complain all the time how hurtful it is to see everyone getting pregnant around us, he might be hurting the same way. Whatever the reason is, maybe just have a legit talk about it and see what the real reason could be.

 

[MamaBunny2]

Michele that sucks! But I agree, perhaps he is stressed When that happens I immediately think something is wrong with me or he isn't into it. We aren't exactly "active" at the moment... some play time here and there, but haven't really DTD in some time it seems but it can be kind of, er, awkward and difficult to execute My OH is SUPER stressed right now as well and overwhelmed with emotions and fears. Hoping you and DH can get back in the swing of things soon!

 

[MH5280]

True. I know he's stressed, and I'm sure, even tho he will never admit it, it does bother him about his infertility. He just never shows any of it so I feel like he's good! And if I try to talk to him about it he still won't admit it... I need to get him drunk and talk about it lol.

 

[Luckybug]

Hubs went through that phase before when we were talking about trying to conceive the first time. He DID NOT want me to touch him unless he initiated it, and ignored me when we went to bed, or when he wasn't even busy. He was really stressed out so I dropped it for about a year altogether until last year.

I have to get my hubs drunk to talk about serious stuff too! He says he's quitting drinking now, so I dunno how I"m supposed to communicate with him when he's going to be sober all the time.

 

[MH5280]

Hi all!!! :wave: so new problem.... We have had sex 3 times this week ... I know crazy right!! So anyways... 2 of the 3 times when I've gone to the bathroom afterward and wiped, and there was like a fair tint of pink.... Idk if it's me or him... I haven't noticed any other pink discharge from me... But when I've wiped it on a towel (does anyone else have designated cum towels?) I haven't notice any pink.... My hubby says "must be the toilet paper.... I mean maybe.... It is a new tp and it SUCKS! It breaks easily so maybe it's like my finger reflecting underneath?!?! It's kinda scary!!! Like ok if it's me, although it's way too early to be spotting (I'm fertile this past week!!!) and if it's him.. Uuummmmm????.... But I'm sure he's jerked it himself and he obvi hasn't noticed anything... I've read it could be like cuz it rips from not being wet enough, but it's not BLOODY... Just pink, and like I said VERY FAINT! Like almost not pink... Lol it's only been seen like when I first wipe, I go back again and there is nothing..

I hope everyone is doing well!!

 

[MH5280]

Hmmmmmm

https://www.ovuline.com/guide/143/optimize-conception-natural-twist

 

[MamaBunny2]

Ok now I believe I recall this happening to me the month I conceived... I have a thread about it somewhere. Lemme find it...

And is that one of those cups you place inside your vajayjay after sex? I've heard about em just never seen one

 

[MH5280]

But was it like before you ovulated or after?? I should have O'd Tuesday or Wednesday and it happened Friday and Thursday.... So one before and one after....

I have read it can happen in pregnancy, but I'm not pregnant... I did have AF here....

 

[MamaBunny2]

Oh ok. I couldn't find my timeline of the month I conceived but I recall I had spotting like that after I ovulated and it was after DTD at least one of the times. I remember seeing it on the TP and just knew I was getting AF again... then got my instead

 

[Luckybug]

Sometimes when people have a really good O they bleed a lil' bit.

https://www.babyhopes.com/articles/bleeding-ovulation.html

Sounds exactly like what you had. Sometimes they're just a lil' too rough, sometimes they scratch on accident during foreplay, could be 100's of things, but I'm going to be positive and say it's just a lil' O bleeding.

 

[MH5280]

Thank luckybug!!! How are doing?! Have you guys decided on a name yet?!