Have any of you guys felt like this? I start to wonder if he wants a child as much as I do OR if he does and I just have been driving him crazy and he wants to take the more laid back approach. Opinions are more then welcome ladies! I haven't told anybody that we are TTC so I have nobody else to talk to about this. I want to the TTC process to be as enjoyable as possible for both my DH and myself 
Thanks everyone once again for the kind words and support, and welcome to Sophiee20 and Lotus Womb.
Babyfeva, how are things going with FF? Has it settled down to a confirmed o day yet? I hope so
Also, I was wondering how everyone has found their DH copes with the whole temp thing? Mine bleeps for quite a while after I've taken my temp and this bugs the life out of my DH! I keep expecting to wake up one morning and find him jumping up and down on it. Mind you, that would involve him having to get out of bed!
SignoraL thanks for the love and prayers, it means a lot. I'm sending lots right back at you and praying for your BFP.
Rosababy my scan is booked for 31st Jan, when I'll be about six weeks. I'm just hoping the bean continues to snuggle in safely until then. I honestly didn't expect it to be this scary. I suppose I bought into the whole 'glowing pregnant women' thing I've seen on tv. That is soooo not the case! How are things going with you? Are you back on water yet? I hope you're taking it easy and relaxing as much as possible.
Mini update from me: still spotting.
Bigger update from me: Ended up at accident and emergency last night and if you continue to read this post then you'll want to punch the doctor I saw last night as much as I do.
Okay, I'm going to keep this as short as possible, but be prepared to be annoyed!
Yesterday morning I woke up at 5.30am with a really sharp pain in my lower left abdomen. I assumed it was a wind pain and continued with my day. Throughout the day it was coming and going, always in the same place and felt like someone had poked me with a knitting needle (not that anyone has ever poked me with a knitting needle before! ).
Anyway, it continued all day every four or five minutes and I just couldn't think what it could be. I was nervous it might be associated with a m/c, but it was just one small stabbing pain, not a cramp. So, I didn't go to the toilet for four hours so I could take another HPT (knowing full well it wouldn't necessarily tell me anything useful but it felt like the only thing I could do.) So, I came home, pee'd like a camel (!) and the line on the FRER was darker than the last test taken two days previously and the Clearblue Digital said 'Pregnant 2-3'. I was actually really happy about this seeing as the last one had said 1-2. So, getting to the point, my hubby advised me to call NHS24 because of the pain. I told him it wasn't that bad but he was worried there could be a problem with one of my tubes and I knew it made sense to speak to someone who might know more about it than me. I called and told them my symptoms but also that I wasn't sure what it was and if this was a normal part of early pregnancy. She told me to go to Accident and Emergency, so I did.
When I got there, the doctor was really horrible. He told me to pee in a cup (which I would say I'm now a black belt in!). I told him I had just gone for a mammoth pee before I left and explained the whole HPT thing. They fed me water until I was able to pee again and by the time I did, it was practically just water that came out (sorry, TMI!). He then came back, gave me a horrible look and told me his HPTs had come back NEGATIVE - as if I was lying!!! He asked if my doctor had taken a pregnancy test and I said no, that she thought I was perfectly capable of peeing on a stick and reading the word 'pregnant'. He then said that their pregnancy test strips aren't as sensitive as HPTs and that HPTs are aimed to 'prey on the fears of vulnerable women' as they find out they are pregnant much sooner than they should and that I shouldn't worry as "it's only a 'clump of cells' right now anyway". I wanted to punch him. He said the pain was probably from my bowels and to go home and come back if the pain got worse. HOW INSENSITIVE AND HORRIBLE!
So, if you have ever used or ever plan to use an HPT then you are classed as a 'vulnerable woman'. What a complete *!@!*$!
So, I'm either a 'vulnerable woman who is having my fears preyed upon' or else First Response, Clearblue, supermarkets and internet dip test manufacturers have come up with an elaborate plan to fool me into thinking I'm pregnant. When I came away I was in floods of tears and poor hubby thought something awful had happened.
I got up this morning, more blood, so decided to 'have my fears preyed upon' once again. Still positive, so hoping that's a good sign.
I feel like taking all of my tests over to him this morning, shoving them in his face and reminding him that he was once 'just a clump of cells' and probably had more sensitivity when he was 'just a clump of cells'.
I've never been more angry!!!
He is the type of person that is a wait and see and I am a take control kinda gal. So as you can see it takes a lot of patience in our relationship.
for you and your bean!
- hopefully you will get your 
soon! to everyone!!!
at least 2-4 times a week before O. It becomes less of a stain because you become relaxed about it. I know it must be hard for you, especially when you miss an O. Work patterns effect us too. Hard on men they don't like to feel under pressure to perform.I need some advice ladies!
I'm so frustrated! I don't think that my husband gets the concept that there are only a few days to conceive every month. I am definitely the planner in our relationship and that seems to be coming in between me and my DH. I try not to get crazy about TTC, but I have always been the type of person that when I set my mind to do something I do everything in my power to do it right and be successful. Now I see these traits coming thru in our TTC process and I think I am driving my husband crazy.
My husband works weekends (Saturday and Sunday 7a-11p) and of course our luck I was scheduled to ovulate this weekend. Had my first positive OPK and was ecstatic Now we talked about the timing of things at the end of last week and he was on board with BD after he was done work both days. He seemed to understand that even though it wasnt ideal it was what we had to do. However, it was a different story once he got home. Saturday felt like "job sex". Do any of you guys feel that way? That when you are TTC BD feels like a job. Now Sunday when he came home I tried to keep things "interesting" in the bedroom, but he totally blew me off and it started a fight.
I see his point that he was really tired and not feeling into it, but there are a few select days that we can conceive. I was reall frustrated that he couldn't see the bigger picture that if we don't BD we will have another disappointing month
Anyway, it went from doing it when we felt like it to every day for about 8-10 days (my CBFM started always shows high days really early!). The next month I sat him down and explained things a bit more. He didn't understand that there was only one day a month I could get pregnant and how, if we missed the important days leading up to it, we could miss our chance completely. He bought into a lot more after that! Also, I found this video which DH and I watched together - DH thought it was VERY cool and started to think of his little swimmers as 'warriors on a mission' https://watchdocumentary.tv/curiosity-life-before-birth/Sorry guys - I've been following along, but was feeling kind of blah this weekend so didn't end up feeling like posting. Feeling better now though!
Welcome Lotus Womb!!! We're happy to have you on here and excited to get to know you!!!
Happenstance - I can't believe how insensitive your doctor was! I'd write a letter or file a complaint or something.
babyfeva - FXd for you!!! Sending you
neha - I don't know what to expect with a TV Scan (Rosababy, maybe you can chime in if you did this?) What is it exactly? I hope it's not painful for you though!
Lillyrose20wd - I know what you mean about husbands getting stressed or overwhelmed. Ditto what babyfeva said - I try not to overwhelm my DH with the details about my cycle, but it's tough sometimes. Maybe explain to him that men can be fertile all the time and women are only fertile a few days out of the month, which is why you're trying to pinpoint those days. And I think it's good to keep it as romantic as you can.
Anyways, gotta go, but
Happenstance
That's ok, we are all here for each other and keepig up the positive energy with you.
I am 4DPO now and trying to relax lol
Lillyrose20wd
My DB does not want to know about O at all, he just wants to move with nature. Well nature has a window for me so I make it romantic and bring on the suduction. If you can make it so you can
Wishing you lots of luck with your scan.
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or both. I won't only wait till D day to test but always said I won't test till I am a week late so it will be the 9th Feb. 
Just try to dtd throughout the cycle (even though I'm sure you probably don't feel like it all the time) here and there, and a little more during the o time. Maybe that'll help him with not feeling like a job. He'll just feel like he's getting lucky more! Remember, if you don't get a BFP today then don't worry. I didn't get mine until 12dpo. How long has your luetal phase been on average? They say anything 10 or more isn't anything to worry about. Last month mine was either 6 or 9, depending on whether my monitor of FF predicted the correct o date. I'm sure it's nothing to worry about but I'll keep you in my prayers and hope that you get the answers you want at your appointment. HappyDance my cycle around 28/29 days 32 the longest cycle last year in October. This is when you ladies will think I am crazy &
lmao I can't bare BFN so I test as little as poss.
What a shame, do you know what was causing it? Hopefully you're feeling much better and getting plenty of rest. There's nothing worse than a lack of energy - it's so difficult to get motivated to do anything. I prescribe lots of Red Bull and pampering from DH!
I hope you o soon and that your DH can keep up with you. I prescribe him lots of Red Bull too
Oh, and thanks for updating the first post with the lucky list. I'm not changing my signature until after my scan as I'm too nervous to do anything in the meantime - I just feel worried all of the time and like it's not really happening. I feel like I'm living in limbo land.
Good morning.
So, I tested this morning and got a BFN! Also, my temp dropped below coverline! I'm dpo and it's my first time charting. Does this mean AF is on her way??
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