TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[gingerbread]

Well AF showed this morning. I guess I'm kind of relieved its over with because I knew this IUI was a bust. I'm going to call the nurse tomorrow and then make that appointment with the doc to talk about next steps. I just know I want to try a couple more IUI's before we go to IVF.

I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend.

Sorry missy..witch got me this morning too. What to do now!!!

 

[twinkle1975]

Hi folks - sorry to be MIA for weeks and weeks & then jump in with a question but I'm a bit worried!
DH & I dtd on Friday & today (cd17) I've just been to the loo & had a big splash of bright red blood on the paper - enough to take 3 wipes to get rid of it. Any ideas??? Thanks Twinks xxx

 

[Dwrgi]

Hi Ladies, well that's me just out of the 2ww forum BFN again, gutted
ttc is such hard work, need to find some serious positivity to keep going.
Back to the drawing board for me.

x

Hia Lee, how are you? How long have you been TTC?? Really sorry about the BFN, but I'm sure that it's only a temporary set back! Good luck for next time, and don't lose heart-it'll all be worth it in the end!

Best of luck and lots of to you!
Axx

 

[Dwrgi]

Hi girls hope everyone is enjoying the weekend so far. I have been with out power after terrible tornado weather thursday nite/friday morning..rough nite squished in the hallway with my zoo of animals in the middle of the night!! I revert back to a 5yr old during that kind of weather & DH is on a golf trip till sunday. But the power is back so all is good!!

Missy I think its a good idea to not test with your stepson there. You need to just enjoy the visit & try to take your mind off of it(as if thats possible) Its all out of our controll anyway so I think you made a good choice. Good luck & fx'd for you!

Skye no I'm not a ginger & I've noticed how people tend to feel about them. I love red heads & think redheaded babies are sooo darn cute! Its so interesting to hear all of the technical stuff going on with you. Im sure you were freaking about mixing the meds so glad its ok. Sounds like they really keep you busy & WOW 17 follies!!!!!! I hope everything goes smoothly for you & you are able to keep down all that milk & water..you must be spending all your time running to the loo Good luck to you hun!

Lava I hope you enjoy the dogwood festival. Sounds lovely. What beautiful trees! So now your done with the femara..when is the iui? Are you feeling better about it? I hope your nerves are settled over it. Good luck & Fx'd!

Luv,FM,HA,Lynnb,Jocr & Dwrgi sending you all lots of love!

AFM I started spotting friday so I do believe the witch is here. Now I have some big decisions to make as to go ahead with ivf. So nerve wracking!!

I hope you all have a beautiful weekend & Hello to anyone I missed!

Hi Gingerbread-just wanted to say that I was thinking of you, and hope that you have got over the anxiety of sitting through a tornado-it must have bee really dreadful. I saw it on the news, and thought of you! I am sending you lots and lots of love.

Also, sorry that the old hag has arrived-it is soooooo depressing, isn't it?? I was basically commanded to go for IVF, as I just ain't getting any younger. I was soooo upset, because I felt as though THEY had given up on me and OH conceiving naturally, and it also means a huge financial outlay, without any guarantee of success! But you do hear of lots of success stories, so I figure, why can't I be one of those! I feel excited now, but apprehensive, and sooooooo scared of the BFN, but I have to remain positive and upbeat.

I hope you come to the right decision for you and hubby-I am wishing you all the luck in the world and sending you lots of
x

 

[Dwrgi]

Hi folks - sorry to be MIA for weeks and weeks & then jump in with a question but I'm a bit worried!
DH & I dtd on Friday & today (cd17) I've just been to the loo & had a big splash of bright red blood on the paper - enough to take 3 wipes to get rid of it. Any ideas??? Thanks Twinks xxx

I found this for you Twinkle-I'm sure it's nothing to worry about, as it only happened once-
Sometimes, during the middle of a woman’s menstrual cycle, when she is ovulating, she may have some bleeding. Ovulation bleeding is different from the regular menstrual flow. Ovulation bleeding tends to be pink to red in color. Ovulation bleeding is lighter than menstrual flow. Ovulation bleeding typically will last for one to two days.

A variety of factors can cause ovulation bleeding. For most women who experience ovulation bleeding, the cause is not clear. It may be related to the emergency of follicles. Hormones prompt ovaries to produce around 20 follicles that contain an immature egg, and out of this only one follicle matures. It is during this process of maturing and bursting out from the follicle that pain or bleeding occurs. Ovulation bleeding that is severe or that lasts longer than a couple of days can be a symptom of certain medical conditions, including endometriosis.
Hope you're okay?
Ax

 

[skye2010]

Hey girls

Twinkle hon, I'd probobly worry too if I had that cause you don't always have it. I wondered if it would be implantation bleeding but that doesn't have that much blood I would imagine. I just looked it up and found this thread
https://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090819033656AAhlOMm
I hope it's implantation xxx

AAAwww Ginger, I'm sorry. Are you going to go for IVF now than? I'd suggest you to research well before you decide. The clinic results vary quite a lot. All our IUI girls this month just asn't been luck OMG do you also have a tornado where u are. hope u and DH are all right hon.

Missy I'm sorry hon. Going for another IuI is probably a good choice for you since you produced some good eggs this time. Don't feel that all those life changes hasn't been positive cause it really has. Sperm can take up to 3 months to be produced so what he had that day could be because of any odd thing. Even having a fever can effect his results. I talked to another girl who I met in my clinic. Her DH has sperm issues and she said macca root really worked for them. I would definitely get that spermatocle checked out too. You also can arrange to freeze a good quality sperm sample as a back up plan. in case on the day of your IUI his sperm sample isn't great. (cause it can vary from one to another) OOh also does he suppose to take the fertilaid 3 times a day? Isn't that a bit too much. Mine only takes it 1ce.

Dwrgi how are you? What's the weather like in Wales than? You can't believe how beautiful and sunny it is in London. First time since I'm here (12 years) I experience such wonderful weather in April U r waiting for the AF to start down regulating no?

Loads of kisses all...

 

[luvmydoggies]

Well AF showed this morning. I guess I'm kind of relieved its over with because I knew this IUI was a bust. I'm going to call the nurse tomorrow and then make that appointment with the doc to talk about next steps. I just know I want to try a couple more IUI's before we go to IVF.

I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend.

Hi Missyt,
I'm so sorry af showed. Dang that witch! Sending you lots of I think that having more IUI's is a good decision. I would like to try IUI's before heading to IVF. Thank you so much for the advice about the vitamins/supplements. I will def. try the maca root powder. I love Whole Foods. Before, I joined this site, I bought dh fertilaid (after google-ing like crazy...I should have earned a degree) because his motility and morphology were so bad. That is excellent news about your dh's motility!!! My dh's last s/a showed 44%, it went up from 7% motility and his morphology went from 5% down to 2%...it so confusing as to why the motility went up but the morph went down. He was only on the vitamins for two weeks, when his second s/a was done. My dh is the same way, I am always on him about the vits. I also had to have a serious talk with him (he chews tobacco and lied to me about quitting, until I caught him red handed with it) He will not give it up..it is so disgusting! I think it is because we have our younger guys. He went to go play softball with his co workers and he said, "I will take my vits when I get back." I was thinking, Wow! Thats a first....thinking ahead....not used to that from him.

 

[luvmydoggies]

Hi Skye- I'm so glad that the medication mix up didn't mess anything up for you!

Hi Gingerbread- I'm so sorry af showed. Dang that witch.

Hi Twinkle- maybe is was implantation spotting.

Hi Futuremommie, Missyt, Lynnb, MommysAngel, Happy Auntie, Dwrgi

 

[gingerbread]

Hi everybody! I am enjoying an ice cold ahhhhhh!

Dwrgi thank you for thinking of me during our awful weather. It really makes spring & fall(and the occasional summer) dreadful since that is when the worst hits. Thankfully we are looking into having a storm shelter put in during construction on our house..especially since at times we spend night after night in the hallway with the sirens going off. It IS sooo depressing when the witch shows although this time it wasnt so much that she came but that I knew I would have to make the BIG decision. I am 37 & 1/4 now(yes I count every month now!!) and I know ivf is what my FS wants to do but it still doesnt make the decision any easier. Im glad I'll have you to go thru it with though! I am sick that your clinic made you feel as though they had given up on you conceiving naturally. Im sure its because they want to take advantage of every young follie we have left before theyre gone but I think they lose a certain bit of sensitivity with as many couples they deal with daily. I bet you are so anxious to get the whole process underway. And you are right about the success stories..I believe you will be one of those stories very soon!! Love!

Skye Im so glad to hear you've had lovely weather there. How are you feeling with all of those injections? Have you been having to do the progesterone in the tush? My friend said those were the worst while the others were a breeze. Have you felt any side effects? Im so thankful that when I start all of it I will have learned from your experience. I hope you are feeling ok thru it all. Lots of love to you!

Hello Luv! Hope you are good. Glad to hear DH is on top of taking his vitamins but you tell him to give up the dip or he'll have a bunch of girls here to deal with I know its hard sometimes for the men to give things up since its not their actual body trying to get pregnant. Lots of luck to you!

Hello to everyone else..hope all is well.

 

[gingerbread]

Oh and to all the british ladies..I'm watching "Absolutely Fabulous" with my cold beer...I'm SO excited as it just recently started showing again in the US. Was one of my favs 12yrs ago as a newlywed...Pats & Edi are such a hot mess but oh how I love them!!! What a great distraction!

 

[skye2010]

Ginger. I am still on stimmulation. The progestrone is after the transfer so still quite a few days before that. Last time I didn't mind the progestrone as much but eostrogen and progestrone combo did make me feel tired and ill. Hope this time they would give me less eastrogen. Injections are all right too. Actually they cut back on my meds quite a bit. i think I respond really well to them. Hope they wouldn't hyperstimmulate. Ginger taking the decision is the hardest bit really. I remember i crawled around a bit before I decided. Once you decide though you will have a piece of mind and it's really easy to let go and follow instructions. So good luck and loads of hugs.

 

[gingerbread]

FM I hope you werent affected by the tornados there? I saw so much devastation on the news this morning. I always forget to mention to you that I grew up in NC..well 9yrs(which was the longest we lived in one location in the airforce). Beautiful state & heatbreaking to see the video of the destruction. I hope you are well.

 

[LeeC]

Hi Ladies.

I finished my progesterone on Thursday after getting BFN, AF showed up today.

Gutted, it didn't work out this cycle, I had such high hopes, that will teach me a lesson

Good luck to everyone.

 

[FutureMommie]

:wave:Starlight- Thanks for sharing your story it was encouraging

Sky- glad the mix of meds didn't affect anything!!!

Ginger- you are so sweet, I'm in coastal NC so we got some wind and rain but thank God we did not have any tornados, But other areas were not so blessed. I'm glad to know that you are safe and sound with power. I'm sorry AF showed but bet the beer was delish!

missyt- so sorry af got you but glad that you aren't too down about it. Time to get back in the saddle for both of us. Yes my dh is 48 and he deligently takes the vitamans 3 times a day and luckly I dont' have to remind him, he is actually better about it than me, I can usually remember to take my fertleaid CM twice a day but sometimes I forget the third one. Had your dh been to the dr recently about the growth?

Luvmydoggies, jocr, never, dwrgi :wave:

AFM- Af has just made her exit so just waiting to O, let the bd'ing begin.

 

[Jocr]

Missyt – Sorry the got you hun – when can you get to see your nurse to ask about more IUI? I haven’t had any IUI yet, I was told they wouldn’t bother but may go straight to IVF waiting list after LAP.

LeeC- Oh I'm sorry hun. Here’s a hug and positivity for you. I know it’s hard each month but you will get there.
Keep your hopes up even though it can be hard sometimes.

Skye – Got loads done at the allotment. No snow here nice and sunny.
How are the early morning scans going & how are you feeling? I bet you are ready to burst with all the water and milk! Good news about the meds not doing any damage and also not having to have too many of them now.

Gingerbread – Blimey I be that was really scarey. Even more difficult to keep calm when the animals are scared too. Glad your all ok.
Talking of ginger, I didn’t get to go blonde at the weekend after all as the hairdresser was concerned that when she lightens my hair it could go ginger! So she cut a few clumps of my hair out to test and I'm going back next week.
Scary and exciting too re IVF, what does your heart say? At least there are lots of ladies starting IVF on here too that can go though it with you too.
I loved Ab Fab – it was the best, my fave is Patsy she is brilliant.

FM – you’re lucky having a DH that remembers to take his vits – mine can make a one month box last 3-4 months!

Hi Dwrgi

hello to all the other ladies :wave:

AFM - Im in my tww now, so feeling hopefull
Although aparently my DH is 'normal' it has just occured to me after reading the ladies info on such matters and probs that my DH takes quite strong pain killers for his back , not every day but every week. Can this have a neg effect too do you think?
I tried cycling my legs in the air this time rather then just legs up worth a go I thought.
Im gagging for loads of chocolate at the moment and nothing is touching the sides being a piggy.
Weather is lovely here - just heard on the reports that it is just going to get better and better for our easter weekend.
Jo xxxx

 

[luvmydoggies]

I knew I forgot some of you...I'm such a ding dong.
Jocr and lavalux..Hello to both of you.

 

[missyt]

Ginger, I'm sorry AF came. I was really hopeful that IUI would work for one of us girls this month. It is so frustrating. I just think getting AF while TTC is a double slap in the face. Not only does it mean we aren't pregnant but its just annoying and uncomfortable.
Also glad that you weren't affected too bad by the storms.

Luvies, your DH does sound like mine. I always have to remind him about vitamins. And yes, I heard that chewing tobacco has the same effects as smoking when it comes to fertility. Ugh, its so hard to discipline ourselves nevermind worry about someone else. After AF came, we broke down and got a bottle of wine and ordered a pizza. All of this is taking such an emotional strain. So my SIL called yesterday (the one that made those stupid comments) and she actually admitted that she thinks that my DH is the one with the fertility problems because apparently she knew about his spermatocle.

FM, I was thinking about you when I heard about the storms in NC. I'm so glad you are okay. Good that the witch left. She wasn't welcome anyway. On to ovulation.

Dwrgi, on with the BDing!

Jocr, did the doc give you a reason as to why they won't do an IUI for you? FX'd for you on your TTW. I hope you don't have to go to IVF and it just happens naturally. I have heard that medication can affect sperm. I'm not sure about painkillers though.

Twinkle, I hope you are feeling more assured about your spotting. Doesn't it seem like we pay so much more attention to what our body is doing while we are TTC?

LeeC, I'm so sorry AF showed. Each month is just seems like a slap in the face. I am disapointed as well this IUI cycle didn't work for me. We just got to keep hanging in there. I know its so hard to do.

 

[skye2010]

All US girls, these tornados look really scary. Sorry I have been so loopy and didn't check the news at all the last few days and didn't realise it was this serious. I'm glad that u are all safe and sound. Has it dyed down or is it still going on? Where is MA from? NY I believe. Hope she is ok too
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[Mommy's Angel]

All US girls, these tornados look really scary. Sorry I have been so loopy and didn't check the news at all the last few days and didn't realise it was this serious. I'm glad that u are all safe and sound. Has it dyed down or is it still going on? Where is MA from? NY I believe. Hope she is ok too
.

I'm fine thank you. I'm from Central NY and we RARELY get storms. The only thing we've had so far is rain and windstorms but nothing like they had down south. I feel for them, it's been pretty bad in North Carolina with over 92 Tornado's. We have snow coming again today. I'm over it, but if that's all I have to complain about compared to what others have been through, we should be counting our blessings.

Thanks again for checking on me. Glad everyone else is safe.

 

[gingerbread]

Hi girls!

Been researching all day(as if i havent for the past year already) trying to decide what step to take next. My sil who went through iui & ivf 9yrs ago but got pregnant naturally at age 43 after the process was over wants me to take a break..and i mean a looong break. And my friend who gave birth last nov who had 1 iui & 1 ivf(insurance paid over half) is pushing for ivf. DH is strongly suggesting a 5th iui...so i went ahead with setting up the cd3 bw/us for tomorrow..ugh! I know its what I think is right but I seem to have NO idea now that the day has finally come & really just needed to vent!

Lee Im so sorry af showed. Can someone please catch her & throw her in a well????

Missy I too hoped one of us would get a bfp this cycle altough I think neither of us felt very positive this time around. How are you dealing with possibly going natural or one more iui with being 37? How do you feel so confident?

Jocr I sooo send you lots of good thoughts during the 2ww. Im cracking up picturing you cycling in the air!!! So glad to hear someone else loves Ab Fabulous..I was worried I was a freak..go Pats!!

FM so glad to hear you werent in the mix of the tornado..so scary!

Skye thank you for the concern. Unfortunately more tornado weather is on the way. Looks like tuesday night may be spent in the hallyway again & possibley friday nite too if our house is still standing. I still have alot to learn about ivf..Im happy to hear a positive response about the progesterone injection after my friend made it sound dreadful. Gives me nightmares! Im so glad to hear the shots havent had too much effect on you. Responding well is such a great thing! I have high hopes for you this cycle!

Lava,HA,Dwrgi,Never,MA,Luv and anyone Ive missed