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Hey all! Although ttc over 35 has stress on its own, i think for us without a child it can be extremely overwhelming at times. Lets all support eachother!:hugs::hugs:

Hi girls-The above post was written by Vicky, who has gone on to have a BB of her own. I have just taken over the thread from Vicky. I only actually joined in April/May of 2011, so about 300 or so pages in!!

Good luck to everybody who visits and joins-let's all make sure we get our :bfp: ! Come on girls, we can do it!

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Hey all! I thought we childless over 35 should have our own thread. Although ttc over 35 has stress on its own, i think for us without a child it can be extremely overwhelming at times. Lets all support eachother!:hugs::hugs:

Hope this thread sticks! I'm 38 (soon to be 39) and ttc #1. I started last summer after coming off birth control which I had been on since age 21. Since then I've had one miscarriage and one chemical pregnancy. My obgyn thinks I'll be fine but I panic every month!
More importantly I notice that your picture is of a long-haired dachshund! I have 2 short haired - Maxxi and Niko (hence my screen name). If I could figure out how to make them my screen picture I would. Maxxi will be 13 in the fall and Niko just turned 15. They're doing really well for their ages. I'm obsessed with the breed!!
 
Hey Max! I too have suffered two losses and every month that goes by is like a stab in the heart when AF arrives... Im sure this thread will stick as unfortunetely there are quite a few of us in the same boat...
The photo is of my lovely dog Popi, who actually is of unknown breed!!! I rescued her off the street when she was 1 month old. 2 years later and everyone who see her guesses what breed are in her!! Its really funny actually!!!!
 
Hiya Girls!

Hope you dont mind me sticking my nose in !!

Just wanted to say....i'd have LOVED this section of the forum when i was TTC !!!

I'm 37....we were TTC for our 1st for exactly a year.....got our BFP boxing day and are now in third trimester section !

Just wanted to say....good luck to you all......

Karen xxxxxx
 
Congratz hun!
Just got our first sucess story girls! Lets keep strong and hopefully soon it will be our turn!
 
Count me in. I'm 35 TTC. My DH is 46...I have a daughter already through adoption, but this will be our first pregnancy. (if it ever happens) We've been really trying since January.. ugh. It is like a stab in the heart every month when AF comes a calling. It's hard being older, I never thought it would take this long!
 
Hello!

I'm 36 and TCC, had 2 losses already this year and just about ready to start trying again! keeping my fingers crossed for 3rd time lucky :) Lets hope we all move on to the first trimester forum very soon xx
 
Hey Max! I too have suffered two losses and every month that goes by is like a stab in the heart when AF arrives... Im sure this thread will stick as unfortunetely there are quite a few of us in the same boat...
The photo is of my lovely dog Popi, who actually is of unknown breed!!! I rescued her off the street when she was 1 month old. 2 years later and everyone who see her guesses what breed are in her!! Its really funny actually!!!!


How funny! She's got a doxi face. She how crazy I get over the breed? AF came for me today and even though I had no reason to think otherwise it's still upsetting. I drove myself crazy every month symptom spotting and testing early and am not planning on doing that anymore. No point. I'm glad the thread will stick!
 
Count me in. I'm 35 TTC. My DH is 46...I have a daughter already through adoption, but this will be our first pregnancy. (if it ever happens) We've been really trying since January.. ugh. It is like a stab in the heart every month when AF comes a calling. It's hard being older, I never thought it would take this long!

It's so hard being older and even harder seeing people around you getting pg without any problem. Your pregnancy will happen. I'm hoping all of ours will.
 
Hello!

I'm 36 and TCC, had 2 losses already this year and just about ready to start trying again! keeping my fingers crossed for 3rd time lucky :) Lets hope we all move on to the first trimester forum very soon xx

Three's a lucky number!
 
Count me in. I'm 35 TTC. My DH is 46...I have a daughter already through adoption, but this will be our first pregnancy. (if it ever happens) We've been really trying since January.. ugh. It is like a stab in the heart every month when AF comes a calling. It's hard being older, I never thought it would take this long!

It's so hard being older and even harder seeing people around you getting pg without any problem. Your pregnancy will happen. I'm hoping all of ours will.

It is hard seening all those bumps isnt it?? i have to remind myself everyday that since it happend once it will happen again for me... At the moment im finding it really hard to go to work since ive got 2 bumps to stare at. They both are secretaries so at the moment im avoiding sending faxes from the main office and generally trying to do all my admin work myself so that i have no excuse to go in there LOL!!! ofcourese everytime one of them has a twinge or spotting they come to me (the expert in loss!!!) for advice :dohh:

Im in the 2ww at the moment, definately not symptom spotting and just trying to get through everyday without breaking down!!!
 
hey may I stick my nose in here too???

I am 39 soon to be 40 (in Aug) and childless here too... I had two MC in the last 9 months- one in Oct 2009 and one just recently April 22nd :(

but back on the bandwagon again

keeping you all in my thoughts and that we will all soon be heading over to the 1st tri section :) :) :)
 
Count me in. I'm 35 TTC. My DH is 46...I have a daughter already through adoption, but this will be our first pregnancy. (if it ever happens) We've been really trying since January.. ugh. It is like a stab in the heart every month when AF comes a calling. It's hard being older, I never thought it would take this long!

It's so hard being older and even harder seeing people around you getting pg without any problem. Your pregnancy will happen. I'm hoping all of ours will.

It is hard seening all those bumps isnt it?? i have to remind myself everyday that since it happend once it will happen again for me... At the moment im finding it really hard to go to work since ive got 2 bumps to stare at. They both are secretaries so at the moment im avoiding sending faxes from the main office and generally trying to do all my admin work myself so that i have no excuse to go in there LOL!!! ofcourese everytime one of them has a twinge or spotting they come to me (the expert in loss!!!) for advice :dohh:

Im in the 2ww at the moment, definately not symptom spotting and just trying to get through everyday without breaking down!!!


Awww...how nice of your co-workers!!! Are you doing anything different to help with ttc process? I bought the cbfm but that's about it for the moment. Where in Greece are you? I've been to Mykonos (of course) and Santorini. One of my best vacations.
 
Hi ladies,

I wanna join too. have had 2 mmc and turned 40 in March. My sig says it all really.

Just wanted to add that you can add your own photo as long as you load it onto your pc. Then when you go into avatar it gives you the option to search your pc for the photo and then you can add it. Keep in mind though that the file might be too large (happened to me..damned fancy camera, lol) and then you probably need to make it smaller. If you're a muppet like me when it comes to photoshop you can upload your pics to something like photobucket or similar and make it smaller there. It gives you a link you then just copy and post into the avatar page.

Hope that helps!

All the best ladies - we will do this!! :)

:hugs: Omi xxx
 
Hello,

Its good to know we are all in the same boat and can talk about our concerns without feeling like we are the only person in the whole world who doesn't seem to be able to get pregnant easily.

I'm 36 (37 next month) I had a MC in September 2009 ( after trying for a year) - I thought all was going well until I went for my 12 week scan and there was no heart beat. Not really been the same since and still feel like crying some days. Went for a smear test last week and it brought the whole D&C experience back - I cried all the way home.

TTC but to make matters worse husband works away a lot - months at a time - so feeling my chances of getting pregnant are non existent at the moment. The ticking clock is getting louder and louder and the next person I meet who asks me have I got any kids and assumes I never wanted any when I say no I will SCREEEEEEEEEEM!!!! AND then go on to say "Did you just not fancy having children" - I'm 36 not 56 - I'm not past it yet!!!!!!

Aaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh

Sorry it just annoys me :wacko:
 
Syd go on girl let it out!!! My husband doesnt travel but wrks very long hours so he not always up to bd...I find the time of ovulation very stressful on its own but having to come up with seduction scenarios on top really takes it out of me....This month i managed to bd all the right days even though dh had a terrible tooth infection (moaning in sleep kind of pain!) working 15 hours a day!!! we are both exhausted at the moment....

Max, im from Athens. Mykonos and Santorini are excellent vacation spots...You should also visit the quieter islands like karpathos, limnos and leros. Maybe you can go with your baby and dh for a serene family holiday to relax from the craziness that is ttc!!!!
im not doing anything different really, apart from taking high dose folic acid 5mg, 1 baby aspirin a day and just last week i started vitamin B12. I might start temping next cycle, as im having a hard time pinpointing my ov exactly.

Kelster welcome and yes lets hope we will all move on to 1st trimester soon enough!
 
I'm going to crash this thread too if no-one minds. i'm 34 but will be 35 in a few months. i'm so glad there are some of us 'oldies' out there. i am really trying hard not to panic but i do feel like time is running out. we've been TTC #1 for 4 cycles now and the disappointment each month is gut wrenching. hello to all and good luck
 
Welcome syd :wave:. I had a d&e at 9 weeks. At 7 weeks there was no heartbeat and at 8 weeks my ob started to think the worst. I was devastated and an emotional mess for many months after. Then I followed with a chemical pregnancy. I feel so self-conscious sometimes and I HATE it when people say things like "Having kids isn't as great as you think it is" or telling me I need to go to a fertility specialist even after I tell them that my ob thinks differently. 2 friends of mine are set to deliver next month and it just kills me. So I say to you rant away! We all hear you.


Vicky - my husband has never been to Greece and those islands sound lovely. He wants to go to the islands but not before Athens since he's so into history. I need a break right now. I have a fertility monitor so I know when I ovulate but it's still stressful. I don't tell my husband I'm ovulating because at least one of us should be having fun and not look at this in terms of cycle days, high and peak fertility, etc People tell you to relax and it will happen but it's hard to do that. And I know that it won't end if I get pregnant since I'll always remember that I m/c'd.
 

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