TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[redredwinelov]

Thanks everyone for the advice, but I would like to stay here too. I'm new at this and would love the support. I just was curious if anyone knew the answers to my questions. But I go to the doctor today, so we will see what happens.

Also, CONGRATS SKYE!!!

And... Baby Dust to Everyone!

Jennifer

 

[onmymind17]

Good morning ladies, still no af for me, weird, i am normally a 25 day cycle, she should have been here wed, now its friday and nothing, i feel like it will be here, but not even a spot yet. I tested on sunday, it was BFN, i am afraid to waste a test now, i know as soon as i take it she will show up lol.

 

[redredwinelov]

I will cross my fingers and toes for you.

Jennifer

 

[onmymind17]

Thanks everyone for the advice, but I would like to stay here too. I'm new at this and would love the support. I just was curious if anyone knew the answers to my questions. But I go to the doctor today, so we will see what happens.

Also, CONGRATS SKYE!!!

And... Baby Dust to Everyone!

Jennifer

Of course you can stay here, welcome, unfortunatly we cant answer many questions about being pg, but we will try to help whenever we can, i myself have been pg 4 times, but sadly have lost all of them, so i am still trying for my first one. I will help you any way i can.

 

[onmymind17]

I will cross my fingers and toes for you.

Jennifer

Awwww thanks, i am not holding out much hope, just not sure where she is lol. It would be a total shock if it turned into a bfp thats for sure lol.

 

[Rowan75]

congratulations Skye

 

[labrat44]

I just finished reading the 'twins anyone' thread - interesting stuff! I've told my DH that since I'm only getting one pg (probably) that it'll have to be twins, cuz I want 2. Mostly I say that to see the look on his face! He's gotten used to it now, so I start mentioning triplets.....

 

[Baby4MJ]

Good morning ladies, still no af for me, weird, i am normally a 25 day cycle, she should have been here wed, now its friday and nothing, i feel like it will be here, but not even a spot yet. I tested on sunday, it was BFN, i am afraid to waste a test now, i know as soon as i take it she will show up lol.

You and I are just about floating in the same boat. I am normally a 25-day cycle so the should've landed today (CD26)...aside from a bit of low-grade crampiness and lower abdominal gurgling on and off all week, no sign of her yet. I haven't tested, and don't want to get my hopes up because the progesterone I'm on always delays AF, so I think I'll just wait until Sunday or Monday morning to test. I only have 2 tests left from the last round of BFN tests, so like you I don't want to waste them because dimes to doughnuts AF will show her ugly mug soon as I POS. The ovulation calendar I use at babymed.com indicates that, if pregnant, 95% of tests will show positive by May 16, so may as well wait. Pretty used to waiting by now anyway!

 

[Baby4MJ]

I just finished reading the 'twins anyone' thread - interesting stuff! I've told my DH that since I'm only getting one pg (probably) that it'll have to be twins, cuz I want 2. Mostly I say that to see the look on his face! He's gotten used to it now, so I start mentioning triplets.....

I said the same thing to my DH...I want 2 so it's either gotta be twins or Irish twins. He goes into a blind panic at the mention of triplets, so I keep my lip zipped about that now LOL

 

[labrat44]

I just finished reading the 'twins anyone' thread - interesting stuff! I've told my DH that since I'm only getting one pg (probably) that it'll have to be twins, cuz I want 2. Mostly I say that to see the look on his face! He's gotten used to it now, so I start mentioning triplets.....

I said the same thing to my DH...I want 2 so it's either gotta be twins or Irish twins. He goes into a blind panic at the mention of triplets, so I keep my lip zipped about that now LOL

Baby4mj: lol! mine is scared of multiples, so I won't tell him about eating yams, and that twins are more likely for older moms.... he's pretty used to me joking around, but I think he's worried I'm not really joking!

The funny thing is that the prof in the office next to mine, and the one that was in my office before me both have twins! maybe it's a location thing? They are both male profs, though, so I don't think they had anything to do with it! We'll see!

 

[padbrat]

WAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Skye!!!

I am so thrilled for you chick! That is seriously the best news I have had for nearly 2 months!! I am made up for you hun!! xxx

hey Redwine... guess what I am drinking... it's Friday.. I am celebrating Skye's good news and drinking red wine for her! hahahaha

I have been pregnant with 5 babies (but am still waiting for one of them to stay with me) and each one has been different... the only thing that is constant for me in all of them... but not for others women is excrutiatingly sore boobs... and I get that as my first symptom every time.

As I said don't rely on that as every woman and every pregnancy is different.

 

[Baby4MJ]

I just finished reading the 'twins anyone' thread - interesting stuff! I've told my DH that since I'm only getting one pg (probably) that it'll have to be twins, cuz I want 2. Mostly I say that to see the look on his face! He's gotten used to it now, so I start mentioning triplets.....

I said the same thing to my DH...I want 2 so it's either gotta be twins or Irish twins. He goes into a blind panic at the mention of triplets, so I keep my lip zipped about that now LOL

Baby4mj: lol! mine is scared of multiples, so I won't tell him about eating yams, and that twins are more likely for older moms.... he's pretty used to me joking around, but I think he's worried I'm not really joking!

The funny thing is that the prof in the office next to mine, and the one that was in my office before me both have twins! maybe it's a location thing? They are both male profs, though, so I don't think they had anything to do with it! We'll see!

My DH feels he has a right to panic because twins run rampant in my family, and no one on either side has had twins since my maternal uncle had my twin cousins 46 years ago! My paternal grandmother is a twin, she also had a set of twin sisters, and she gave birth to my twin aunts and, as I mentioned, my maternal uncle has twin daughters. I'm not sure who carries the "twin gene" the man or the woman? If it's the man, then maybe those naughty profs have something to do with it after all. LOL...

Do you mind me asking if you're TTC naturally (no drugs, IUI or IVF)? We were doing fertility meds and IUI (all BFNs - taking a break from that now), so with my family history and the increased chance of multiples with meds, my poor DH was really breaking into a cold sweat! Now I know why there are no longer any sweet potatoes allowed in the house...lol

 

[padbrat]

My second pregnancy was twins... and they don't run in either mine or my Hubby's family. Doc said it was because I was 'of an advanced maternal age so my body decided to buy one and get one free' hahahahha

 

[labrat44]

It seems to be that the woman just releases two eggs, and not really the man at all, but if there is a twin gene, then either could carry it.. dunno! I was warned by both of them when I started here that twins were popular....

DH had a vasectomy 18 years ago, so that is most likely the main reason we're not pg. We haven't decided yet what we'll do to get around that, but GIFT is seeming pretty 'natural' and straightforward. We've also talked about reversal, but that has a low chance of success. the drs we've talked to are pushing IVF as the most reliable way to get a baby, but we have concerns (extra embryos, cost, time, cost,,,,), so we're still looking into things.

I do like the idea of a two-fer-one deal, though!

 

[HappyAuntie]

Thanks everyone for the advice, but I would like to stay here too. I'm new at this and would love the support. I just was curious if anyone knew the answers to my questions. But I go to the doctor today, so we will see what happens.

Also, CONGRATS SKYE!!!

And... Baby Dust to Everyone!

Jennifer

Of course you can stay! Let us know what the dr has to say.

As for twins, I have totally had the same thought. When we first started ttc I was 35 and we had enough time for two. Now I'm 37 (almost 38) and if we want two, it will almost have to be twins or Irish twins... which is one reason why I wasn't so concerned with the risk of multiples when we started the drugs and IUIs. But really, at this point, I'll take what I can get. If we have an only child, we'll just work hard to help him/her foster a strong relationship with his/her cousins.

And as for twins running in families, it's thru the female line, it's fraternal twins only, and it's just a tendency to release more than one egg/month - as far as I know, there's no actual "twin gene" that gets passed along. Fraternal twins are also more likely as you age because your body starts going all wonky and spits out multiple eggs, regardless of whether or not anyone in your family has ever had twins. (I have a friend who had her twins naturally at 41 - she went to the dr thinking she'd hit early menopause!) Identical twins are a completely random event that happens when one fertilized egg splits into two very early on in the embryonic stage.

Padbrat, I will be drinking lots of red wine tonight! DH's boss's boss is taking us out for a fancy dinner tonight to celebrate DH's 15 years at the company. Enjoying a nice Malbec is one of the BEST things about being on a break!! off to my closet to choose a proper outfit for dinner with the boss....

 

[Baby4MJ]

As for twins, I have totally had the same thought. When we first started ttc I was 35 and we had enough time for two. Now I'm 37 (almost 38) and if we want two, it will almost have to be twins or Irish twins... which is one reason why I wasn't so concerned with the risk of multiples when we started the drugs and IUIs. But really, at this point, I'll take what I can get. If we have an only child, we'll just work hard to help him/her foster a strong relationship with his/her cousins.

My older brother used to give me the "twin whammy", since I was the last holdout with no kids and we had so many twins in our family. I used to run screaming in my late 20s/early 30s...if only I had known then what I know now. Now at 39 with 2 years of no luck, I pretty much am wishing for twins, but will also take whatever I can get. I mean, my DH is an only child and he pretty much totally rocks (if I do say so myself in my totally unbiased opinion ...LOL). So I certainly will not be shedding any tears if we get a singleton. I'll more likely pass out from shock and then surgically attach the kid to my hip so he/she never ever leaves me..lol

 

[onmymind17]

Good morning ladies, still no af for me, weird, i am normally a 25 day cycle, she should have been here wed, now its friday and nothing, i feel like it will be here, but not even a spot yet. I tested on sunday, it was BFN, i am afraid to waste a test now, i know as soon as i take it she will show up lol.

You and I are just about floating in the same boat. I am normally a 25-day cycle so the should've landed today (CD26)...aside from a bit of low-grade crampiness and lower abdominal gurgling on and off all week, no sign of her yet. I haven't tested, and don't want to get my hopes up because the progesterone I'm on always delays AF, so I think I'll just wait until Sunday or Monday morning to test. I only have 2 tests left from the last round of BFN tests, so like you I don't want to waste them because dimes to doughnuts AF will show her ugly mug soon as I POS. The ovulation calendar I use at babymed.com indicates that, if pregnant, 95% of tests will show positive by May 16, so may as well wait. Pretty used to waiting by now anyway!

I will keep my fighers crossed for you!!!! I am not on progesterone, and i have had it where she was a day late, but never two days late. I have a bit of campiness, and my lower back is hurting today, the one werid thing for me is i am so warm, i am constantly sweating these past few days, its driving me nuts, normally i get that a day before af, and then it goes away, this time i am still like a blast furnace. The reason i am not getting excited is i checked my cervix and to me it seems firm and open, i dont know though maybe i am wrong, normally i will check it and i can tell the firmness but never if its open lol. I will wait until tonight, if nothing then i will test, i dont really think i am pg, but just in case i would not want to mess something up. It would be funny that the one time i was like it wont happen, would be when it does lol. Sending you tons of

 

[onmymind17]

I would love to have twins!!! I really want two children, and twins would be great, lets face it i am running out of time here lol. Although i say that now, when i have two of them screaming at night it might be a different story, of course never having had a baby what difference do i know lol. I did have a dream that i had triplets, the funny thing was they were easter eggs, and i could see my babies in the eggs, they were all decorated pretty and the babies were in the middle lol.

 

[Tititimes2]

skye- Sooo happy for you. Wishing you only happy moments ahead and a H&H nine months.

 

[missyt]

Onmymind, thanks for your words! They make me feel better. You are right, we are having this baby for us. I just hope it happens soon for both of us!

Jennifer, I hope you do stay. We have a lot in common. I'm 37 as well and DH has a child from a previous marriage. I have had to help raise him and deal with the ex too. One of the biggest challenges for me and TTC is being with someone who already has a child. My thoughtless SIL made a stupid comment last year that we know DH isn't the problem because he already has a child. I wanted to hit her and when I see her to this day, I still think of her stupid comment. You should definately stick around here. Nikki Leigh, who is on here, has a stepchild too. She makes me feel like I'm not alone on that. The best thing about all the ladies on here is that they all make you feel like you aren't alone.

Labrat, padrat and MJ I'm having red wine this weekend too. My fave! AF is here so no point in worrying about being pg.