TTC#2 and SO EXCITED! join me

[sla545]

Ahhh... My SIL who is due in September just found out she is having a boy and SIL who is due in October just found out she is having a girl. I so wish I could be part of their party! If we can get a BFP by the end of summer (well really by fall but I want it by the ens of summer ), even though our kids will be months apart, they would all still be in the same grade. I want our kids to grow up together!!! I truly am so excited (and worried for SIL #1 who is WAY too young and IMMATURE to be having a baby) for them, but I have to catch myself and remind myself to smile and be gracious sometimes instead of mean and resentful.

 

[marieb]

So I don't know if this is all in my head (and it's very possible it is!) but I'm 11/12 dpo and...

I've been getting waves of nausea for the last three days. It seems to get better when I'm sitting down but as soon as I start moving around it gets worse again. It feels like I have this pit in my stomach. I've also been super exhausted and have been having wateryish cm. I checked my cervix this morning out of curiosity and it was definitely softer and higher up than I'd expect at this point. I'm too afraid to take a HPT but thought I'd take an OPK just to see.

Obviously it's not positive but it's quite a bit darker than my last few. I took it around noon after only holding my pee for maybe two hours.

You are pregnant. I TOLD you and its a girl, lol!

I'm way too chicken to take a test haha. AF is due tomorrow or Tuesday and I really, really want to hold out until Wednesday. It's taking all my self-control but I am sick of seeing BFN's.

I did take another OPK later that day and it was a lot lighter so now I'm wondering if the earlier one was just picking up on hormones fluctuating.

Last night I got a ton of EWCM which I've never had this late in my cycle and my cervix still feels higher and softer than I'd expect. It's make me wonder if I didn't actually ovulate when i thought I did. I'm really confused since i had +OPKS CD 18-19 alone with watery cm, ov pain and a high open cervix. i also took my temp a couple days after the +OPK and they were clearly in my post-o range (never have temps that high unless I've ovulated).

This morning I have some creamy/watery cm and a TON of it. I'm going to take another OPK just to make sure that I'm not ovulating super late in my cycle for some reason. I did read that some women get EWCM before AF and I am having some tell-tale signs that AF may be on her way. I guess only time will tell. IMO the days leading up to AF are so much worse than the day it comes. I just want to know one way or another!

 

[runnergrl]

The link to your O chart leads to no chart...?

 

[marieb]

The link to your O chart leads to no chart...?

I didn't track temps this month as I thought it was stressing me out too much. In retrospect it did the exact opposite. I just recorded everything else (CM, OPKs and cervical position) and those two temps right after my suspected ovulation.

 

[HollySSmith]

I'm so devasted, I thought it would be positive for sure

 

[marieb]

I'm so devasted, I thought it would be positive for sure

I'm sorry Holly!!!
It's still early yet though. You're not out until AF comes. Will you test again?

 

[HollySSmith]

I'm so devasted, I thought it would be positive for sure

I'm sorry Holly!!!
It's still early yet though. You're not out until AF comes. Will you test again?

Yes. Not sure when though...I got my bfp with ds at this point, so I think it's more likely that I'm out

 

[runnergrl]

Holly I'm shocked. I'm really surprised you got a BFN. Are you sure there's not a line?? .

 

[HollySSmith]

Holly I'm shocked. I'm really surprised you got a BFN. Are you sure there's not a line?? .

Nada, nothing, zip. Both DH ad I are shocked.

 

[sla545]

Im sorry Holly! Even though I am only 2 dpo I woke up this morning with this feeling that this is not our cycle either. But like marieb said it is still early. Were you charting with ds the first time? Just wondering if you could go back and see if your charts looked similar or not.

Maybe we were meant to wait and we will get our BFP with runnergrl next month

 

[HollySSmith]

Im sorry Holly! Even though I am only 2 dpo I woke up this morning with this feeling that this is not our cycle either. But like marieb said it is still early. Were you charting with ds the first time? Just wondering if you could go back and see if your charts looked similar or not.

Maybe we were meant to wait and we will get our BFP with runnergrl next month

My chart is almost identical to the one for ds, part of the reason we were shocked. Everything looked so promising.

 

[sla545]

So now Im confused. According to everything but my temp, I should have already o on CD15. My temp dropped again today back down. And I took opk last night that wasnt positive but was alot darker than the one i took in the morning. OPK this morning was back to being positive. I am starting to wonder if my thermometer is not very accurate or if I am just not charting cm and cp right. I guess we will just continue to bd every other day and i will keep using opk twice a day until af comes or we get a bfp.

 

[marieb]

So now Im confused. According to everything but my temp, I should have already o on CD15. My temp dropped again today back down. And I took opk last night that wasnt positive but was alot darker than the one i took in the morning. OPK this morning was back to being positive. I am starting to wonder if my thermometer is not very accurate or if I am just not charting cm and cp right. I guess we will just continue to bd every other day and i will keep using opk twice a day until af comes or we get a bfp.

Are you using a BBT thermometer? I tried using just a regular one a few years ago and it didn't work at all for me. Also, for some people oral temperatures never show a clear thermal shift so they need to switch to vaginal temps.
Sometimes it can take your egg a little while to "get out of the gate" making it so you get multiple +OPKS and patches of fertile cm. BBT is the only think that can definitively tell you you ovulated, everything else just shows your body is gearing up to ovulate.

 

[runnergrl]

aww, so sweet about what you said.. waiting on my BFP next month! I want you all to get yours asap though!!

 

[sla545]

So now Im confused. According to everything but my temp, I should have already o on CD15. My temp dropped again today back down. And I took opk last night that wasnt positive but was alot darker than the one i took in the morning. OPK this morning was back to being positive. I am starting to wonder if my thermometer is not very accurate or if I am just not charting cm and cp right. I guess we will just continue to bd every other day and i will keep using opk twice a day until af comes or we get a bfp.

Are you using a BBT thermometer? I tried using just a regular one a few years ago and it didn't work at all for me. Also, for some people oral temperatures never show a clear thermal shift so they need to switch to vaginal temps.
Sometimes it can take your egg a little while to "get out of the gate" making it so you get multiple +OPKS and patches of fertile cm. BBT is the only think that can definitively tell you you ovulated, everything else just shows your body is gearing up to ovulate.

Well I have a digital thermometer that measures in 1/10 of a degree, but it is the one that we bought for my son. It looks just like all the BBT Therm i see in the store, is there really a difference? If I take temp vaginally is it similar to oral temp? Or should I expect it to be lower or higher?

I think I will go buy one today if I can get away! I make cakes and have glued to my oven all day getting a wedding cake started for a co-worker at my "real" job. I need OPK too since I ran out this morning and I want to continue testing.

 

[MamaMac123]

aww Holly, I'm so sorry....but I agree it's still early, maybe it's just too early still...each pregnancy is different.

I'm also using a digital thermometer rather than a bbt thermometer....anyone think the BBT would really make a difference? I've wondered about that but DH felt it wasn't necessary. Hmmm.....

 

[sla545]

Ok well I went and bought a BBT therm. I tested it against the one I was using and our temooral infrared therm. All three were different every time!! Ahh.......... The BBT goes out to 99.12 or 98.12 while the other two are just 99.1 or 98.1. But sometimes they were half a degree different. I will start using the BBT in the morning. I also bought digi OPKs. I used one this evening and it was negative. Now I am hoping that I really did O on CD15 and my temps have just been off. This TWW sucks!!

 

[marieb]

So now Im confused. According to everything but my temp, I should have already o on CD15. My temp dropped again today back down. And I took opk last night that wasnt positive but was alot darker than the one i took in the morning. OPK this morning was back to being positive. I am starting to wonder if my thermometer is not very accurate or if I am just not charting cm and cp right. I guess we will just continue to bd every other day and i will keep using opk twice a day until af comes or we get a bfp.

Are you using a BBT thermometer? I tried using just a regular one a few years ago and it didn't work at all for me. Also, for some people oral temperatures never show a clear thermal shift so they need to switch to vaginal temps.
Sometimes it can take your egg a little while to "get out of the gate" making it so you get multiple +OPKS and patches of fertile cm. BBT is the only think that can definitively tell you you ovulated, everything else just shows your body is gearing up to ovulate.

Well I have a digital thermometer that measures in 1/10 of a degree, but it is the one that we bought for my son. It looks just like all the BBT Therm i see in the store, is there really a difference? If I take temp vaginally is it similar to oral temp? Or should I expect it to be lower or higher?

I think I will go buy one today if I can get away! I make cakes and have glued to my oven all day getting a wedding cake started for a co-worker at my "real" job. I need OPK too since I ran out this morning and I want to continue testing.

If you take your temp vaginally it will be higher, so definitely don't start until next cycle. Vaginal temps are also less likely to be effected by sleeping with your mouth open or having a window open.

 

[sla545]

I asked my DH tonight to be honest with me and tell me what his gut feeling is about me getting a BFP this cycle. I was thinking he would say that we wouldn't, but he surprised me and said he feels like it will happen and from the time we decided last year to go ahead, he has felt like it would happen the first time it could. I'm so grateful to have a supportive partner in this crazy process!!

 

[marieb]

I asked my DH tonight to be honest with me and tell me what his gut feeling is about me getting a BFP this cycle. I was thinking he would say that we wouldn't, but he surprised me and said he feels like it will happen and from the time we decided last year to go ahead, he has felt like it would happen the first time it could. I'm so grateful to have a supportive partner in this crazy process!!

I'm so glad you have a supportive husband. That really will make the whole process so much easier.

I feel like I can't even talk to mine about anything TTC because he just doesn't get it. I was feeling really down today because I'm 99% sure AF is on her way. He told me he doesn't understand why getting my period upsets me and if I was being 'normal' it wouldn't. When I tried to explain to him how it sucks waiting to see if you're pregnant, finding out you're not and then going through a whole other month where you probably won't end up pregnant again he just said "so what? it's only another month".

I know TTC isn't the same for him as it is for me but I just wish he could be more empathetic.

We're going into month 6. And I know that compared to some people that's nothing but I really did expect to still not be pregnant. It really sucks at times.