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[banana07]

Ah Sla545 we are ov at the same time I got my positive on the OPK this morning- lovely smiley face smiling back at me So will you be testing about the 4th Aug - thats when I will well if I can wait that long but I know I didn't get a BFP with DS until I was 7 days late, took a test the day AF was due but nothing plus I'm not exactly sure of my cycle yet. Yet last month I was flat out testing about 6/7 dpo!!! Am developing a serious POAS addiction!!

 

[ooSweetPea]

Sla - good luck catching that egg!!!

Mama - I have watched that documentary previously (business of being born) and it really was an eye opener! I had sooo hoping for my last preg to be as natural as possible however with all the issues I had it was the total opposite. I'll already be considered high risk this time around and will be getting a cervical stitch put in at the end of 1st tri, but I am hoping that is the extent of intervention at that point this time. The one good thing about last time (besides my little baba) was that I didn't end up with c-sec! Labor and birth was just an amazing experience and I cannot wait to do it all again. Last time I ended up with pitocin (as my water broke at 35 weeks, baby's HR was sketchy and they needed him out asap) and bc of the pitocin things were sooo strong and I got an epi about 6 hours in (2 hours before he was born) - which only worked on half my body - I feel like it made everything worse because everything was concentrated to one side! Needless to say epi was turned off because of that and by transition there was no pain relief for me, but my transition phase was very fast and pushing felt sooo good so I wasn't even thinking of pain relief at that point. I only pushed for about 10 mins and he was here so I am so hopeful I can do it all natural next time around and am so excited to give it another go!

Labor and birth was the best part of my entire pregnancy - I feel crazy saying that but I wish I could just fast forward pregnancy and get right to the good part LOL!

I know that I will never have a chance of not being in hospital during pregnancy/birth because of what happened before with incompetent cervix, but I am hoping to keep things as natural as possible. The hospital I was at is actually pretty accepting of doing things naturally, and only really intervene when circumstances are dire - so I have high hopes for the next time around barring crazy circumstances

 

[MamaMac123]

My last period finished on the 16th may ive taken at least eight pregnancy tests which all came back negative. I have been feeling nauseous loss of appetite and lost five pounds in weight without trying. I have been having period like pains and feel bigger in the stomach but don’t look fatter. I feel like someone is pulling at my stomach from the insides. Am also having trouble sleeping at night . I went to the doctors twice and explained my symptoms he cant do a blood test till I get a positive pregnancy reading. A few months ago I had hormone tests done which all came back negative as I had other concerns so I know I don’t have problems in that area.

I was on the pill over a year ago my periods returned a month after and I continued to have regular 28 day cycle periods until two months ago. Me and my feller have been trying for a baby after I stopped taking the pill. Ive never been pregnant so I don’t know what to expect am very confused as I don’t know what’s happing to my body my head is saying am pregnant as I am desperate to have a child what is really annoying more then anything is not knowing. I have been reading some cases about the HCG hormone not showing in a home pregnancy test and even blood tests.

I am at my wits end I don’t want to wait for a positive reading because if I am pregnant I could be at least ten weeks pregnant. And if I am I need to know if my baby is growing ok I don’t know what do to .I thought about going to hospital and saying am having stomach pains and think am pregnant but the pregnancy tests are showing a negative reading. And the doctor not doing a blood test and am worried because this don’t feel normal I think I might be wasting there time if I went to the hospital.

Hi Charlie, do you know why they wont do a blood test without a positive home test? My doc did both just to fully rule out pregnancy as I haven't had a period since May.

 

[MamaMac123]

Sla and Banana - yay for the positive OPK! Go get those !!!!! Fx for you both this month!

Alliesmom - sorry about AF but at least the mc hasn't messed up your cycles too much. On to the next cycle hun!

 

[MamaMac123]

Sla - good luck catching that egg!!!

Mama - I have watched that documentary previously (business of being born) and it really was an eye opener! I had sooo hoping for my last preg to be as natural as possible however with all the issues I had it was the total opposite. I'll already be considered high risk this time around and will be getting a cervical stitch put in at the end of 1st tri, but I am hoping that is the extent of intervention at that point this time. The one good thing about last time (besides my little baba) was that I didn't end up with c-sec! Labor and birth was just an amazing experience and I cannot wait to do it all again. Last time I ended up with pitocin (as my water broke at 35 weeks, baby's HR was sketchy and they needed him out asap) and bc of the pitocin things were sooo strong and I got an epi about 6 hours in (2 hours before he was born) - which only worked on half my body - I feel like it made everything worse because everything was concentrated to one side! Needless to say epi was turned off because of that and by transition there was no pain relief for me, but my transition phase was very fast and pushing felt sooo good so I wasn't even thinking of pain relief at that point. I only pushed for about 10 mins and he was here so I am so hopeful I can do it all natural next time around and am so excited to give it another go!

Labor and birth was the best part of my entire pregnancy - I feel crazy saying that but I wish I could just fast forward pregnancy and get right to the good part LOL!

I know that I will never have a chance of not being in hospital during pregnancy/birth because of what happened before with incompetent cervix, but I am hoping to keep things as natural as possible. The hospital I was at is actually pretty accepting of doing things naturally, and only really intervene when circumstances are dire - so I have high hopes for the next time around barring crazy circumstances

It's so crazy how one intervention leads to the next and the next and often a c section. Makes me ill! Whenever I watch baby story on talc I'm usually yelling at the mom to say no to pitocin and to never let cytotec near them! Cytotec isn't even approved for inducing labor and can cause the moms to die yet hospitals keep on giving it. Soooooo dumb!!! Glad your hospital supports natural. Of course interventions have a place a sometimes are truly needed but most of the time they're not and given anyway. That's my fear. If I need a c section so be it, but it better be for real and not because Rey gave me a bunch of unnecessary interventions first!

I love hearing that you loved labor! I know it will hurt like hell and will be so hard but I also expect it to be incredible! I feel so lucky to be a woman to have the potential to experience that. Just hope my body cooperates and gets us there!!!!

 

[AllisMommy]

Actually in the USA it depends what state I guess.. Because in the three states I've lived in (Oregon, California, New York) Maternity is paid under "short term disability" for 6 weeks vaginal and 8 weeks cesarean. Then, after that is exhausted you have the option of taking an additional 12 weeks of FMLA (federal medical leave) which is unpaid or supplemented by your vacation/paid time off.

I got taken out of work for pre eclampsia 3 weeks before my due date, and then had a csection. I got paid 75% of my pay for 11 weeks after Alli was born.

The US doesn't suck THAT much

 

[Jessicabaxter]

Anybody ever had natural birth after 2 c sections? My doc said it was possible just worried cuz my first boy was emergency c section he crashed cuz my birth canal and girly part are to small to let him come, with my second doc said he d be just as big some decided not to
Risk his life so he was born Planned C. I wanna try and give birth with my last but am also scared to Try and fail like my first. But unless my AF shows or i get BFP I may not get a shot! Ahhh still little confused bout everything but I
Guess it ll happen when god sees fit!

DH's sex drive has been crappy since I got my mirana takin out for like 3 wks I was all over him and I either got denied or just sex. I could have sex 3-4 times a day right now and that started when i got bc takin out course his testosterone is low but gee! Give a girl some action! I've even tried dropping my towel being soaking wet with baby oil on, or coatin myself in lotion naked in front of him, parading naked, suckin him and still don't get action often! Lastnight we planned to make love and l I got was come on and ride! What the heck! And then he didn't even go! Ahhhh! Ok I'm
Done venting! Thanks ladies!

 

[Jessicabaxter]

Sorry that was probably a lil TMI!! Just stressed and was venting

 

[IsaacRalph]

Right its official I can't keep up with you girls, geez i'm having troubles here! Well done banana & sla for getting your + opk go get those little eggies we need somes.

all other girls i'm going to have to catch up with you all later.

Afm something very strange is occurring with me at the moment, well after stupidly opening my big mouth& saying I only get 2/3 day AF, on cd5 i'm still spotting fresh blood & have got lower back periody pain, this is usual for me. yesterday it was more browny coloured and just there when I wiped, last night dh had his wicked way with me, well actually I was reading 50 shades of grey & well it went from there really, what,a raunchy book! anyway today is pink/red spotting so i'm just wondering if the BD has maybe dislodged abit more blood?? I don't know but it's weird! just thinking few months ago I had a similar AF & also had a bad month with pms just like I did this month, I wonder if its correlated?? what do you girls think??

 

[Jessicabaxter]

I know if im on my last day of af or day or two after and we get it on a lot of
Times I'll spot or bleed a bit. I don't know y it does that but it happens to me. I think it may be from what u said him dislodging some more blood or something like
That

 

[banana07]

Ha Jessica thats what these threads are for highs lows and everything in between!!! Plus almost everyone in the same boat frustrated and need to vent every now and again!! I might have the same rant on me shortly still have my smiley face on opk and DH due home very shortly but he sounds grumpy on the phone so will see, i know its hard when hes on nights but needs must and all that!!

My SD is 10times higher then DH - dunno where this men only want sex and women don't comes from judging by my friends I would say its 50/50 what sex has the higher sex drive!! Maybe we just enjoy it more!!!

Isaac I would agree with Jessica would say it just excess being dislodged from bd - has happend to me only a couple of times ago and obv years ago since I've only had one visit from AF in 5 years!! Suppose its like everything you'll have good days bad days and so good months and bad months

 

[IsaacRalph]

Thanks banana & jessica yeah that's what i'm thinking too! I always open my big mouth & sods law it changes. So i'll open my big mouth again and jinx us all on getting our s! waa hooo!

 

[Hann12]

Wow I haven't been on today and have missed loads!! I have read all but can't post much now as its my DD 1st birthday

Alliesmommy - take b6 plus b complex, I wouldn't try progesterone cream yet, see how your next cycle is because it may be just adapting after your mc.

IssacRalph - weird, if it's red then it's fresh blood do unlikely to be dislodged, but could be from DTD, see if you get anymore?

Goodluck to all the BD! We do need some positives!!

Afm - had the blood tests today, they do a repeat next month if I haven't ov. I have very bad ov pains today though, still negative opks. Very strange but looks like my situation is always strange lol!!

 

[MamaMac123]

I know if im on my last day of af or day or two after and we get it on a lot of
Times I'll spot or bleed a bit. I don't know y it does that but it happens to me. I think it may be from what u said him dislodging some more blood or something like
That

Yeah, same here. Think it's probably pretty normal. I'll spot after sex if my period is about to start or if it's just ended.

 

[MamaMac123]

Ha Jessica thats what these threads are for highs lows and everything in between!!! Plus almost everyone in the same boat frustrated and need to vent every now and again!! I might have the same rant on me shortly still have my smiley face on opk and DH due home very shortly but he sounds grumpy on the phone so will see, i know its hard when hes on nights but needs must and all that!!

My SD is 10times higher then DH - dunno where this men only want sex and women don't comes from judging by my friends I would say its 50/50 what sex has the higher sex drive!! Maybe we just enjoy it more!!!

Isaac I would agree with Jessica would say it just excess being dislodged from bd - has happend to me only a couple of times ago and obv years ago since I've only had one visit from AF in 5 years!! Suppose its like everything you'll have good days bad days and so good months and bad months

Haha glad I'm not alone in the sex drive department. DH always says its because he's tired and not because he doesn't want it. But I usually get him to cave lol I'm very religious so I waited till marriage to have sex and I think the 28 years of waiting for it gave me a sex drive that can't be quenched lol

 

[IsaacRalph]

Ha Jessica thats what these threads are for highs lows and everything in between!!! Plus almost everyone in the same boat frustrated and need to vent every now and again!! I might have the same rant on me shortly still have my smiley face on opk and DH due home very shortly but he sounds grumpy on the phone so will see, i know its hard when hes on nights but needs must and all that!!

My SD is 10times higher then DH - dunno where this men only want sex and women don't comes from judging by my friends I would say its 50/50 what sex has the higher sex drive!! Maybe we just enjoy it more!!!

Isaac I would agree with Jessica would say it just excess being dislodged from bd - has happend to me only a couple of times ago and obv years ago since I've only had one visit from AF in 5 years!! Suppose its like everything you'll have good days bad days and so good months and bad months

Haha glad I'm not alone in the sex drive department. DH always says its because he's tired and not because he doesn't want it. But I usually get him to cave lol I'm very religious so I waited till marriage to have sex and I think the 28 years of waiting for it gave me a sex drive that can't be quenched lol

Well me & dh are equally matched & don't have either high or low sex drive somewhere inthe middle I suppose! some weeks we'll be lucky If we have sex few times, when we hit the sack we just need sleep! I know my dh doesn't masturbate as a rule either unless he's desperate, he he! My ex used to have a very high sex drive & it drove me mad, keeping up with him was so tiring

 

[Jessicabaxter]

My sex drive b4 marriage was sooo high,when u married my DH we were pregnant and if he wasn't gettin sex he got BJ then after baby it slumped a lil then when our first was 5 mo old I got pregnant again and again he got it all the
Time, I think part of it was he worked on oil rig and was gone anywhere from 14-42 days them after second was born it went backdown and has kinda stayed that way till mirana was takin out. I'm just glad he ll be around when this one was born! When r first son was born he left when he was 10 day old and was gone 6 wks when second was born he left when he was 6 days old and was gone 7 wks it was rough.

On another note I hope we all get our BFP soon! Ive waited 1 1/2 for my husband to agree lol

 

[AllisMommy]

Oh yes, healthcare in America is scary. I actually work for one of the few GOOD health insurance companies, and I see the best side of it, but the system is broken overall. The insurance offered at work is very good for the premium and deductible and out of pocket are lower, but we actually have insurance through DH job. He is part of a union at work, so the benefits are good and premiums are a bit lower than what we would pay at my work. I think we are looking at paying approx $2500 out of pocket to cover birth and baby costs. That includes the deductible and then the out of pocket (like 20% of the bill). Thankfully we both have good jobs and will have no problem paying that. Im just grateful we can at least (hopefully) have a baby without the extra cost of assisted conception, because then I dont think we would spend the money if we couldnt do it without help.

What insurance company? I used to work for regence BCBS in Oregon...I see you're in Idaho so I thought maybe you worked at regence?

 

[sla545]

Oh yes, healthcare in America is scary. I actually work for one of the few GOOD health insurance companies, and I see the best side of it, but the system is broken overall. The insurance offered at work is very good for the premium and deductible and out of pocket are lower, but we actually have insurance through DH job. He is part of a union at work, so the benefits are good and premiums are a bit lower than what we would pay at my work. I think we are looking at paying approx $2500 out of pocket to cover birth and baby costs. That includes the deductible and then the out of pocket (like 20% of the bill). Thankfully we both have good jobs and will have no problem paying that. Im just grateful we can at least (hopefully) have a baby without the extra cost of assisted conception, because then I dont think we would spend the money if we couldnt do it without help.

What insurance company? I used to work for regence BCBS in Oregon...I see you're in Idaho so I thought maybe you worked at regence?

I work at Blue Cross of Idaho. I live in Boise. It seems as though most of the Blues are non profit or not for profit so they run differently that most of the other companies out there!

 

[elt1013]

Well thats a bit of an eye opener how different it is in the 3 countries!! Wow!

Elt wouldn't worry to much about the BFN as you said its only 8dpo. Have you any signs of AF arriving do you usually?? with DS i tested the day my period was due and nothing then tested 5 days later and bang there it was - I was on the pill the whole time so was as regular as clock work so when I was due back on the pill after the 7 day gap I knew I had def missed it. Do def test again and make sure you use your FMU even at 7 days late my second test said no cause my urine was so diltued but the first one was a very very strong line... Also what tests are you using???

I usually only get light cramps the day the spotting starts, but so far today, no spotting and no af cramps. I am having some pressure but it could just be af knocking on my door. And actually atleast the 4-5 days before af I usually get bad mood swings and nothing this month. I am hoping the lack of symptoms is a good sign! I am just using the internet cheapies (ultra sensitive 10miu), and not dumping the urine until after the result. Any hint of a line and I have frer to test with!
With DD, we weren't really trying, so when I realized I was 4 days late, I took a clearblue digital and it said "pregnant". I was shocked but DH knew it befroe I did. The problem with symptom spotting is that most pregnancy symptoms are also AF symptoms. Keeping my fingers crossed!!