TTC 40 plus!! Lets share the ups and downs!

[Glowstar]

Reb - I love your idea for a book!!! it would make riveting reading for anyone TTC....40+ or not!!

Sam - Your temps like awesome....I so want this to be it for you you are so right about 'managing' Dr's! I think I have learned a lot from my Sister to be honest (she doesn't know I'm TTC!) she has a severely Autistic daughter and has had to really 'fight' the system to get what she is entitled to. She used to be such a quiet person and embarrassed by any kind of confrontation, not anymore though! she has literally had to fight tooth and nail for everything...she is like a dog with a bone and won't let go and to be honest I am starting to take that attitude now and fed up with being fobbed off

LL - sorry the old hag got you she's hanging around here FAR too much!

AFM - temps do look high but it's only because I am snatch temping for the first time, so don't really think it's anything to go by to be honest. Still not really feeling anything this cycle, well apart from the Diarrhea which I am pretty sure is a nasty bug. Woke up this morning with a stuffy nose...to add to my feeling crap already and have a skin break out...actually got a spot on my eyebrow that is literally taking over my eye...I look like I've been punched OH thinks it's because I'm run down which is more a likely reason than anything else

 

[pip7890]

Sam

Pip x

 

[Spoomie]

Samiam

Thinking of you all day long, and of your lost little one. I pray the day is not too difficult for you both and that, like Reb, you manage to enjoy your time together and feel close to each other. Much love xxx

 

[Miss_C]

Sam hugs and hugs sweetheart, no words can say what is in our hearts they jus havenlt been written yet but know our hearts are with you and if love is all we need to bring our precious littlw lost souls back then their journeys here will very soon come to an end. Love and more love and hugs to you.

afm - well I took my chart and split it and had just the 2nd bleed as cd1 and ignored that other weird one and stuff and I am bang on track as "normal"!! Got a smiley face today so getting jiggy with it! FS appointment on Tuesday which should be 1 or 2 dpoish!! he he he

only thing is we seriously wonder whether we should perhaps have abstained as I am terrified the fibroid caused the miscarriage and if we do catch eggy will it be a loss again and we should have waited until after the FS appointment etc - but then we said nah every egg is precious let's not waste any!!

 

[Glowstar]

Sam

Miss C - I agree you have to go with what feels right....glad things are getting back to normal and you got your smiley face....let the shag-fest commence xx

 

[LLbean]

Sam...sending you hugs

Glowstar... I knew she was coming LOL...would not want to miss out on all the birthday fun after all HAHAHAHA

... BTW HAPPY BIRTHDAY GRACE if you see this!

Miss C...try to focus on positive thoughts and things that are happening for you right now... the good ones. I know it is scary to think and we can let or imaginations run wild...try to visualize the healthy eggy and a wonderful outcome. HUGS!

 

[Reb S]

Evening all,
LLbean- sorry the old hag got you, lots of hugs
Miss C - glad you got the smiley face. Don't worry - I have a friend whose baby fought a fibroid and won; IVF got her her 2nd and her 3rd came along as a pleasant natural surprise. Join me in tonight's shagathon!
Glowie, sorry you're feeling crappy. FYI I had a spot like that when i was pregnant...! Hope you feel better soon x
Sam - I hope today has been okay for you, love. Take care x

AFM - off to

 

[Morgans19]

Hi Girls, Just trying to catch up here, Ive been awol for a few days. On Day 5 just waiting to POAS for the CBFM BUT I am away on holiday next Sat (day 12) so lots of BD'ing and no CBFM will be going with!!! Then just hope and pray. Feeling really quite stressed now with the CBFM - still want to temp though while Im away - I do like seeing that on the chart. Hope your all well

 

[Spoomie]

Hi ladies

Sam, hope you've made it through your day, what a bugger that your temp dipped today of all days. We're still keeping it all crossed for you.....apart from those who are BDing, they're crossing most things for you

Glowstar, embrace the illness! I'm quite intrigued by the theory that pregnancy can occur during illness. I mentioned a few weeks back that I had got a positive pregnancy test with my son while taking 16 antibiotics a day for pneumonia! Is there anything in it that your body is too busy fighting the illness to view the fertilised egg as a foreign body? We shall find out from you in a couple of weeks!

I'm very impressed by how pro-active you guys all are about Drs, even though you think you are too meek in their presence. I haven't sought any kind of medical support since mc fearing that I'd never get referred because I'd been pregnant recently and because of my age. We saw a consultant privately a couple of weeks before I discovered I was pregnant last year and that was a very bad experience so I do know how condescending they are (check out my post in 'TTC and Weight' on over-35s board and tell me if I'm being hyper-sensitive). Maybe that's why I haven't explored it further. I just think that I'm doing all I can to facilitate it in terms of healthy living and wouldn't really know where to start aside from another private consultation and I already feel sh*t enough without having another patronising lecture!

AFM, I think I may be back. Sorry for my absence, it seems the depression is getting longer for me each time AF arrives. I hate her so much. This week has been compounded for me by the death of my father-in-law last Thursday. Not my husband's Dad, my ex-husband's Dad, who I still saw regularly as ex and I are very good friends, a lovely man and I feel so sad at his passing, worried for my ex-husband who was his carer so feels the loss acutely and (guilt here) I know that all my feelings are magnified by my impending due date. Last weekend I saw my herbalist and decided to keep going with the potions for a while longer, even though I fear it is adding to my stress that 3 times a day I am reminded of my quest (not that I need a reminder, it's always there) but, you get what I mean? Every time I get my period I throw my toys and I think I probably blame her, as if she is supposed to work some magic for me. Trying to keep the faith.

 

[Glowstar]

Thanks for the support Reb...but I honestly don't feel this cycle is the one...don't know why just feeling pretty normal...well apart from shitting a lot that is enjoy your shagathon...ours has come to a grinding halt because I've felt so rubbish

Morgans - hopefully a relaxing break is what you really need to take your mind off things it will also make the time pass quicker while in the dreaded TWW!

Spoomie - sorry for your loss sure it's only adding to the stress and depression Why don't you go and see your GP? some of them are really nice and if nothing else you've got something marked on your file. Just because of your age doesn't mean you aren't entitled to other testing (if you want to that is). Just thought I'd put that out there....it's an option to explore. I think sometimes offloading and maybe feeling like someone else is helping takes some of the burden away

AFM - CD8 so AF due in around 5 days time. We go on holiday on the 27th June so think the way my cycles are next AF will be due slap bang in the middle of the holiday. I suppose it might be a good thing as I won't have time to really think about it too much and certainly will not let it ruin my holiday or on the flip side....maybe a July BFP as last reading I had said 'positive result' in July...and we don't return until the 4th July. Either way it's all good and will give me something to focus on for the next few weeks rather than obsessing day after day, though for some reason I have felt less obsessive this cycle

 

[samiam]

Well, I made it through yesterday, though it wasn't the special getting closer day I'd hoped for and today, seeing the enormous temp dip has already sent me into a huge tail-spin. Thanks for all of your kind words, ladies. You're the best. I'm guessing that the hag will be here any day now. Part of me is slightly relieved, because with all of those negative hpts, I was worried that I somehow had an anovulatory cycle or a luteal cyst and that it was going to take months (again) for me to get back on track. I'll try to hold on to the idea that my chart was that much better this month, but as I cannot figure out when/if I Oed on there (must have been MUCH MUCH later, which isn't so good), I guess I'll need to make it through the crash and burn that this part of the cycle always brings and then go back to the doctor with a list of my questions already printed out and not leave until I get some answers. I've also decided to have my results faxed to my gyno and have him explain it to me and/or give me a name for a second fs.

Anyway. Too tired and depressed to say much more, but wishing you all well during your shag fests.

 

[Glowstar]

Sam

I am so sorry....and sure nothing I will say will make you feel better. I do 100% think you O'd though...somewhere between CD17-21 which considering the length of your cycle still gives you a brilliant LP! your chart is soooooo much improved it really does look like things are getting back on track which is a positive. I can't see it being anovulatory because you had a vast difference between pre-o and post-o temps. I know none of that won't give you any comfort the way you will be feeling now but hopefully in a few days you'll look back at this chart and see it as a turning point. Take Care

 

[inkdchick]

good luck girls xx

 

[Reb S]

OMG Ink, did you do it?!!! Have you tested yet? I'm crossing my fingers x
Sam - well done for getting through your due date, I'm sorry your temps have dived after such a promising month, but as Glowie said - that's a great looking chart.
Spoomster - I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope you come out of the blues soon. You really perked up last month, so the world should give you a break and you'll be feeling better again soon xx
Hi Morgans! Have a great holiday, I'm very jealous! Come back and let us know how you did x
AFM - shagfest is on-going, although I have no hope for this month, having eaten lots of cake, drunk wine, OH giving a sample for SA in the middle of the shagathon... Can I ask you chart-specialists out there - who do I believe, my temperatures, which have risen today, meaning it's now too late, or my CBFM, which says that today and tomorrow are my peak days? Thanks ladies! x

 

[Morgans19]

AFM - shagfest is on-going, although I have no hope for this month, having eaten lots of cake, drunk wine, OH giving a sample for SA in the middle of the shagathon... Can I ask you chart-specialists out there - who do I believe, my temperatures, which have risen today, meaning it's now too late, or my CBFM, which says that today and tomorrow are my peak days? Thanks ladies! x[/QUOTE]

Your temp could dip again, Id still go with the CBFM, have you missed days temping?

 

[Glowstar]

Don't feel guilty Reb....I'm 9dpo and just drank a whole bottle of wine hic

I would go with CD12 so far but would like to see some more temps in first

AFM - the shits continues EVERY time I eat something which is doing my head in now

 

[Spoomie]

good luck girls xx

Oh my gosh Inkdchick!!! You are 'nervous' and 'shocked' and have a countdown to due date but, aside form these signs, you are being cryptic.........It would be amazing if this means what I think it means, particularly as you had decided to hang up your BBT thermometer, OPKs, CBFM etc etc. Brilliant news

 

[mrsdh]

good luck girls xx

Come on inkdchick !! Do an official announcement hun
xxx

 

[Spoomie]

Reb, I'd keep going with the BD! That way, you have your bases covered whoever is right. A couple more days of temps needed for a clearer picture.

Glowie, remember what I said about positive effects of being ill during 2WW! That should help you as you're sitting on the loo wondering when you'll ever be well again!

Sam, I'm so so sorry sweetie. You MUST take comfort from the fact that it is a great chart, as has been said. If you scroll back through your FFF, you'll see that things are getting back into a much better rhythm; without doubt, that is an ovulatory chart with pretty even phases. Take some time to yourself and then come back xxx

AFM, have to laugh really. CD9 and we're both trying to summon up the energy to get started!!! When I told DH earlier that it was CD9 and we were yet to get out of the blocks he said, 'I'm still trying to recover from last month. I used to have a high sex drive!' Poor man!!!

 

[Miss_C]

good luck girls xx

Come on inkdchick !! Do an official announcement hun
xxx

Ink'd if you can't find words you know all you need to do is put holly on!!!! It seems forever since we said that would be the code and yet we havenlt seen her yet!!!