TTC 40 plus!! Lets share the ups and downs!

[Morgans19]

I love coffee, probably drink far too much! Im still in limbo here, but I really do think AF will show herself tonight or tomorow - damned cow!!!!!!!!!!!! Youll all be the first to know ) I just wanna move on now - CBFM sticks on order!!

 

[Miss_C]

Hello everyone, had a rough rough week, up hospital twice with the little fella. Once cos he hit his head on the coffee table and then promprtly went to sleep and on Sunday night huge allergic reaction to something, one eye swelled shut, rash all over, scary stuff! Now it's Tuesday and d-day for blood results. Been frantically googling to figure out what good fsh results should be etc etc and find out out what the other stuff on my u/s mean and what the fibroid means etc or maybe not maybe my GP will jus simply refer me and then we gotta wait for news when we eventually get seen by a specialist.

Not feeling the best today though, spewed twice last night and have dreadful wind (would kill a brown dog!!!) Still spottign as well but down to brown stuff now so it should stop soon.

As far as relaxing goes I have been doing some more research and have found a great natural remedy that is said to be a magic potion for ttc is raw or at worst organic honey and cinnamon. Not "normal" honey cos the pasteurisation process (ie theheating) kills off most of the good stuff. Have a teaspoon of each morning and night. Or make up a paste and rub it into your gums regulalrly throughout the day. As a relaxing night time remedy a glass of warm milk (warm not hot) and stir through.

link here

 

[Miss_C]

I love coffee, probably drink far too much! Im still in limbo here, but I really do think AF will show herself tonight or tomorow - damned cow!!!!!!!!!!!! Youll all be the first to know ) I just wanna move on now - CBFM sticks on order!!

STOP THE COFFEE sweetheart. No more than 1 or 2 cups of instant per day is MAXIMUM when ttc. From what I can find but most say cut it out completely. More than this can delay conception on average more than a year and has also been linked to miscarriage. Heaps of stuff out there. Even decaff coffee is bad unless you get the swiss water treated one, the residual chemicals after decaffeinating the coffee are bad.

I am down to 1 cup per day now and am going to seriously stop. I have replaced with my decaff green teaIf my results today are good then I really really am gonna step up the pace dramatically. We all think we are doing everythgn we can but I reckon if we are completely and totally honest we all have stuff we could still change without becoming freakishly obsessed. Too much or too little exercise, one too many lapses with the coffee or wine etc. Not enough "good food" etc etc.

 

[Morgans19]

I'm out! Oh well. Least I can move on. AF certainly kept me hanging around this month and giving me lots of pain in the process!! Damn her!!!

 

[LLbean]

Morgans sorry she showed her hideous face

 

[Jax41]

Reb S - lovely news about Omi!! Garnet's still with us, on the 'over's' section and seems to be okay. Must admit, don't post here half as much as I used too since 'the move'....but it's good to catch up with you all and read what you're up too especially your day at the beach, thought it was just a beautiful thing to do together....

AFM, still here, still trying, still hoping, still pestering DH to BD at the right time and still NOT GIVING UP!!! CD10 for me so just revving up for the shagathon, god I hope it works this month. Keep thinking about what you said Glowstar that each month is a month nearer to the statistic of when we 'should' get our BFP's.

Here's another shower to keep us all going!!xXx

 

[Glowstar]

Soooooooooo sorry the evil evil hag got you Morgans feel like punching her bloody face in

Jax...thanks for the babydust and yes...keep thinking...one step closer..it's what keeps me going

 

[samiam]

Morgans: Sorry that she got you. Stupid hag. . . .

AFM: CD31--No AF. BFN this morning.

 

[Glowstar]

Oh Poo Sam what time zone you on now? Just thought...can you fly back due to the volcanic ash??

Been trawling the web...and found this, thought it was written beautifuly and it will be my mission statement when I get my BFP:

My prayer is that each of you understands that no matter when you get your BFP, you never forget the journey you take to get there. You don't forget the tears of disappointment, the feeling of envy (you hate feeling) for other pregnant friends and family, the tests you tear apart, pee on over & over, look at all day, every day. It is still there. There's no pity for anyone still there. Just admiration because you are strong to keep going and to try to have a sense of humor about it. We are all in the same boat no matter where we are in the journey and it is so nice to know we all understand.

 

[samiam]

Glowie: I'm still in Arizona until 19h tonight when I take off. So far no news re volcanic ash, but I'm hoping that it doesn't mess with me!

I love that Mission statement!!! Thanks for sharing it!

 

[Reb S]

Bad luck, Morgans.
Glowie - nicely put, I love it.
Miss C - sorry you've had such a rotten time. Here's lots of hugs to make you and DS feel better
Sam - WTF?! You must be very frustrated. Maybe you just O'd much, much later than FFF suggests? I think Glowstar suggested that a few days back. My CBFM gives me 2 days of highs after the peak, i think, just automatically, so you could be a lot later than the crosshairs.
Hi Jax! Thanks for popping in and news about Garnet - glad she's okay and let's all promise not to give up yet! You're two days ahead of me on the shagathon, gearing up here, but OH has got a spermie test on Thursday.... so we're going to miss a day or two.
Got my scan too, to see what's going on so I should have a better idea of my fertile state after Thursday. Maybe someone can finally tell me WHY I CAN'T GET PREGNANT IN THREE AND A HALF BLOODY YEARS!!!! (IVF excepted)
ha ha rant over!
Woohoo, I'm still all excited about Herbie - we kept the luck going on this wonderful thread!
x

 

[herbie]

I'm out! Oh well. Least I can move on. AF certainly kept me hanging around this month and giving me lots of pain in the process!! Damn her!!!

so sorry hun good luck for next month!!!

 

[Miss_C]

apologies this is a me post, and if I could it would be R rated!!

FSH - 12 = goodish (cos my cycle is whack this month it is spot on for mid cycle but slightly high for FP or LP)
LH = 1 - good if I am in LP - should start to rise if in FP but we have no idea where I am in my cycle cos it is all nutso!!
Oestradiol = 39 - BAD!! if I am in FP it should be 110-180, if I am in LP should be 180-840 or if mid cycle it should be 550-1650 ranges.
Progesterone <.05 - Good if I am in FP, low if I am in mid cycle and very low if I am in LP ranges are <0.5-2.5 for LP, 2.5-12 for mid and 12.0-90.0 if in LP

However if I am in menses phase then my oestradiol would be low and I was bleeding quite heavily so who the effin well knows.

That's my bloods

But

on top of this the fibroid, measures 26mm and my uterus is bulky and measures 106mm so a 1/4 of it is compromised and is a high possibility it is what caused the miscarriage. But of course we will never know for sure. But is definitely the cause for the heavy painful bleeding I have been having.

Appointment with fertility specialist next Tuesday.

pooping myself now!!

 

[Shelley71]

AF finally showed today. Never thought I'd be so happy. Now, if I can just find an effin O this time!

 

[Glowstar]

Reb - hope they can help you...I seriously mean that and hope you come back with some answers and a 'plan of action'

Shelley - Glad in a way she actually 'showed herself' and hoping you find that damn egg this cycle

Miss C - Don't Poo yourself (not like I did anyway ) it's not all bad...in fact it is positive you are moving in the right direction and they WILL help you....so keep positive

AFM - OH's SA Appt - went S**T!!! WTF!! the Dr had to look at my results and thought my progesterone (37 @ 6dpo) was low!!! she had to google it to decide it was OK!!! Silly moo! She also did the spiel about we wouldn't get any help because of my age, blah, blah...we already know that!
Anyway - eventually she said that she would need to 'find' out where he needs to take it and he has to make the appointment himself? and then the results go back to her. She said she would phone him in a couple of days to give him the number to phone! She also gave him a TINY vial, no name written on it, not even in a bag etc for him to DTD into! It's the kind you would give a urine sample in? I said to him...how the hell are you supposed to aim it into that!!! anyway rant over.....will see if she comes through.

 

[Miss_C]

I am pooing myself cos of the fibroid, I am sh!tting meself that they are gonna say it has to be removed which means ttc could be delayed by 6 months after surgery and who knows how long I will have to wait for surgery and if not removed will it flare up and cause another loss, oh Mr Satan I think I am almost ready to sell my soul to get a time machine!!!

 

[Jax41]

Reb S, Glowstar, Miss_C, Sam, I'm having a moment, please help? I AM MEGA PI**ED OFF, I can feel the frustration starting to rise already and that can only mean one thing, yes you got it an unco-operative B(Barstool)DH and no BD action last night again and we only managed one last cycle so of course no chance of a BFP. My PMA is rapidly deteriorating and shamefully I feel selfish enough to write that I don't want to read any posts of how everyone is jogging along when I'm not, I'm not even taking part in the same game. I really believe that HE is the only reason why I'm NOT getting preg and I can't seem to make him understand just how selfish he is being and how important this is to me. I haven't got the time to take the 'relaxed approach' which I would have prefered and I know he will just dig his hooves in if I turn the thumb screws on - f'ing control freak!!!! He's told me (sweetly) no chance tonight as he is late home from work and has to be in Liverpool for 8.30am tomorrow. What am I going to do? Give up and let him get away with it? CD12 now POAS last night just to check O - negative, phew. So I could still be in here as according to my calcs I'm due to Ov Sunday, but we should be warming up now and we're not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm sorry, sorry, sorry to sound off I'm going to crawl off to the loos and

 

[Glowstar]

Jax!!! I totally get where you are coming from!!! I freaked out on CD11 cos other half was too tired....and I seriously mean freaked out! I told OH to get out of our bed (first time ever!) and made him sleep in the spare room
I seriously think that men have a real stubborn streak and if it's ONE thing they like to control it's SEX! I get the feeling OH is actually turned off not on by my eagerness and it also gives them the 'holding all the cards' feeling when he is in control
On the flip side, I 'get' that it is so premeditated and there is nothing remotely sexy about that and I suppose men have feelings too. I do think mine is starting to feel a but 'used' shall we say, but my answer is always the same! you want this is as much as I do so YOU have to play your part and take a second of your time to understand how this works!
I wish I could help and knew the answer but I seriously don't I did tell him how stressful it is every month getting the timing right etc and all he has to do is have sex with me...is that so hard?

 

[samiam]

Jax: Oh hon. I am so sorry. I know that one ALL too well. I did sit down in a calm moment and explain to him that I did want to have sex with him other times of the month too, but that, because we really wanted a baby, we were going to each have to buckle down and do the deed around O time whether or not we were in the mood. I also then gave each of us two "get a freebie" cards which we can present to the other one and therefore get one night per card of whatever kind of sex we want. For me, some months, I have to present the freebie cards right before O, but then, if I'm clever about how I present them (i.e. sexy-like), sometimes that's enough to get him in the mood for one or two more nights. But he can also present the card in the other three weeks for a bj or whatever. And that seems to have helped because it reminds us both that we aren't just having sex to procreate.

I sure hope that he will come around. But in the meantime, we're here and we'll always listen!

AFM: Nada mucho. No AF. Don't know what Wed morning's temp was because I was on a plane. FS refused to give me a preg test and was an ass in general. But he did seem impressed by my high temps and suggested that I could very well be up the duff right now. Gee, thanks, pal. And you're the specialist? When I get more of the blood test results, I will let you know what they say. I'll test again on TH if no AF. And yes, I may have Oed on cd 17, but that still makes me 1 day late today, so. . . Sigh.

 

[Nise]

Ladies. Sorry I've not been around much recently, I've been up to my eyes in work and if I'm honest, trying not to think to much about ttc - but I can't stay away for ever!

Miss_C - Bloody tests, sounds like some of them might be a bit hit and miss on results due to possibly not being taken at the optimum time in your cycle. All the ifs and buts are just to frustrating for words. Take heart though, coz I truly believe that all the levels change from cycle to cycle. I believe this coz I've had em all several times now and they have changed quite dramatically, especially the progesterone one. I also got quite scared coz I thought I had an under or over active thyroid coz of one of the tests - turned out not to be so but caused me a couple of months of worry. You got a good FSH though and thats the main one. I really hope the fibroid doesn't require surgery - will keep my fingers crossed.

Jax41 - I think this is a problem we've all been through / are going through or will go through. I had a terrible time with my OH in the early months - now the tables have turned and he is always checking for when is the right time and leading the shagathon - infact he's probably more committed than me now! Hopefully you and your OH will come through the hard stage too - Its bloody hard though and I'm sorry you're having such a crappy time of it at the mo.

Sammian - Ooo, looking exciting chart wise, sorry for the bfn let's hope the stick got it wrong - it is a brainless stick after all!

Morgans19 - sorry old hag bag got you. Let's hope this is her last call for a long time.

Glowstar - Love the mission statement, we can all relate to that.

And so the moral of this post is... never leave a bath running whilst stalking That's soggy mats and 4 nice clean towels all back in the washing machine!