TTC 40 plus!! Lets share the ups and downs!

[Reb S]

Reb: Can you change and go to a different GP? Or call the Early Pregnancy Unit and see if they can refer you directly based on your miscarriage.

Sam, I'm not sure - the NHS seems to pretty much wash their hands of you once you're over 40. I could try the GP again, or just call a private hospital... x

 

[truly_blessed]

I'm good Reb thanks for dropping by. Just going with the flow now and trying not to stress about things.

I just went to my doctor and said I've been trying for 18 months then had MMC and had been trying for over 12 months since then. I told her I wanted tests done to check everything was ok before I got any older and she just said fine, no problem and referred me straight to the fertility specialist, no questions asked and I'd just turned 41. Then fertility specialist then said she didn't think there were any problems but she would get all the tests scheduled and then take it from there. They really should refer you if you tell them that's what you want, they have no right not to. You are entitled to all the tests on the nhs maybe even the clomid, just not ivf.

go and give them hell

 

[Glowstar]

Book in with a different GP at your Practice Reb. Seriously they can't refuse you.....and don't let them!! It's time to take the Bull by the horns and get it organised. Explain it's the only route you haven't gone down and there are people far less worthy (I know some!!) who are getting all they can on the NHS!! now go and kick some GP ass

 

[Reb S]

Woo-hoo! You ladies are inspiring me to get me tubes jet-hosed! I've got my orders, I'll see what I can do x

 

[ciarhwyfar]

Woo-hoo! You ladies are inspiring me to get me tubes jet-hosed! I've got my orders, I'll see what I can do x

Good! Knock those doctors into shape!!

 

[Jax41]

WOWZERS!!! Glowie, so pleased for you hun that you got that BFP!! You can leave the pants shitting behind now, just stay cool, stay with us and think good stuff okay

Inkdchick - huge congrats for you too, keep us posted with how you're doing

RebS - I think come the summer I maybe in for the same stuff as you if not preg by then, Dr said she would send me to the fertility clinic but that I def wasn't going to be up for IVF.....oh well, I'm going to keep chasing that BFP until then!! Good luck, make sure your Dr listens to you x

Sam - you would be excellent at the book, your anecdotes have me rolling

Miss C - glad the fibroid is in a 'good place' and not in the way - full steam ahead now!!

AFM - confession. Since my meltdown last week over DH's lack of interest in TTC, I felt awful that I'd not replied to your messages, thank you so so much for taking the time to reply to me, I did read them and they helped me heaps in feeling that I'm not alone and that all our DH's/OH's can be f'ing control freaks at times!!! I think the truth is that deep down my DH doesn't really want anymore kids but is now feeling hugely guilty (good!!!). Anyway, after my mad post I just felt I had to do a 'stop the bus I wanna get off ' bit and chill, to my delight and amazement DH upped the anti and we had a great weekend with postive OPK's all the way. So I'm CD19, 3DPO and waiting....waiting....waiting....

Thanks for being there for melove to all of you on this rollercoaster journey

 

[Glowstar]

Jax...I am sure for OH (if he already has kids) maybe the thought of going back is daunting...especially for a bloke...he will come round and I am sure it will work out fine...looks like he's already got back on YOUR bus anyway ...next stop BFP!!

Thanks for the congrats - appreciated

 

[mrsdh]

Sadly i just read that inkdchick lost her little bean. Life is so cruel at times

 

[Spoomie]

Sadly i just read that inkdchick lost her little bean. Life is so cruel at times

Shame, poor poor Inkdchick. We will be here for her when she returns. to you Inkdchick xxx

 

[Morgans19]

Such a shame for Inkdchick - life can be so cruel.

I am off on my holidays so will be missing for a couple of weeks - to you all good luck for your BFP's and those that already have them, well done again. AFM Day 10, think I could ovulate Day 12-13 usually 14. Still been using the CBFM and will do tomorrow also, but then thats it til next cycle. Ill take a few OPK's though and get BD'ing!!!! Maybe a relaxation is what we both need, this is just so stressfull! Want to try these magical instead cups too!! Spk soon lovely ladies and I hope you all stay well x

 

[Reb S]

Poor Ink - I hope she's okay. If you're reading this, Ink, lots of hugs xxx
Bye Morgans! Have a great time and check in with us as soon as you get back!
Jax - sounds like you've had a good month with OH and i'm really glad you got things sorted out.
Ciarhwyfar - how're you and bump?! Glad you popped in and thanks for the positive encouragement! D'you know everytime I type your name I have to copy and paste it as I can never remember the spelling! What does it mean?! x
Miss C - where are you? How're you doing?

 

[Miss_C]

Hi All!!

I have been distracting myself!! LOL and just in the usual tww obsessing over charts etc. have overlaid my chart this month with ziggy and it's looking so very similar it's not funny so I also did an overlay with all my pregnancy charts be it the miscarriage or the 2 chemicals and they are the exact same O day temp, I wonder if this is signifcant or not or just coinkydink? I overlaid all the non preg ones and they are all scattered. Anyone else do this chart overlay obsession?

Inkd more hugs for you honey, left you some on FB too so there are hugs everywhere for you.

how soon do you have to get the SA sample to the lab, the place we have to go is about 30 minutes away, dp leaves for work at 6:30am so we will probably have to fill the cup around 6am, I will be dropping it off so does hubby need to have a later start that day ro something. I am sure the FS told us but buggered if I can remember that detail!!

oh and one other Q - when FS said test the tubes what would that be is there a name for that procedure, he said it was painful!! If they test and see a block or something do they do what needs to be done at the same time or is that a different procedure? Any info greatly appreciated!!

 

[LLbean]

Hi All!!

I have been distracting myself!! LOL and just in the usual tww obsessing over charts etc. have overlaid my chart this month with ziggy and it's looking so very similar it's not funny so I also did an overlay with all my pregnancy charts be it the miscarriage or the 2 chemicals and they are the exact same O day temp, I wonder if this is signifcant or not or just coinkydink? I overlaid all the non preg ones and they are all scattered. Anyone else do this chart overlay obsession?

Inkd more hugs for you honey, left you some on FB too so there are hugs everywhere for you.

how soon do you have to get the SA sample to the lab, the place we have to go is about 30 minutes away, dp leaves for work at 6:30am so we will probably have to fill the cup around 6am, I will be dropping it off so does hubby need to have a later start that day ro something. I am sure the FS told us but buggered if I can remember that detail!!

oh and one other Q - when FS said test the tubes what would that be is there a name for that procedure, he said it was painful!! If they test and see a block or something do they do what needs to be done at the same time or is that a different procedure? Any info greatly appreciated!!

30 mins tops...only because it liquifies and they need to time that too...have him do the sample at the hospital if he can.

 

[Glowstar]

Have a fab holiday Morgans

Miss C - I think with OH's SA they said it had to be there within an hour and for me to put it down my bra to keep it the right temperature

In the UK they call the tube thing a Lap & Dye or a HSG see this link for further info https://www.ivf.com/hsg.html

 

[Reb S]

Morning all!
Hi Miss C - my old clinic said 30 mins, but they didn't tell us about the boob trick! We're also going to be looking into the HSG thanks to the ladies here who have got me fired up about my shite NHS treatment! Ziggy-lookalike chart is looking VERY nice! My chart obsession kicked in yesterday and my ovulation is what my acupuncturist would call 'weak'. Huh. x

 

[truly_blessed]

I think they told DF he had an hour to get in there a couple of months ago cos we live 20 mins away and 30 mins would have been cutting it fine. I just remember he had plenty of time to 'make his deposit and deliver'

 

[Glowstar]

Morning all!
Hi Miss C - my old clinic said 30 mins, but they didn't tell us about the boob trick! We're also going to be looking into the HSG thanks to the ladies here who have got me fired up about my shite NHS treatment! Ziggy-lookalike chart is looking VERY nice! My chart obsession kicked in yesterday and my ovulation is what my acupuncturist would call 'weak'. Huh. x

Have you thought of trying Soy Reb? I took it this cycle...only a low dosage though

 

[Reb S]

Hi Glowie - yes, I tried it for two cycles, 2 cycles ago - certainly made for a good ovulation so maybe I'll try it again next month. Thanks! x

 

[ciarhwyfar]

Ciarhwyfar - how're you and bump?! Glad you popped in and thanks for the positive encouragement! D'you know everytime I type your name I have to copy and paste it as I can never remember the spelling! What does it mean?! x

Thanks for asking! To be honest, I read pretty much every day but I am not sure when or how often to comment. Don't want to seem too out of place with my bfp and all.

We have our next regular appointment this afternoon but everything was good two weeks ago. Heartbeat is always good and this one seems to move just fine. As long as we don't get anymore mystery bleeds (no matter how small), I will be very happy. At 24 weeks, I still haven't regained any of my weight and in fact lost yet another pound at the last appointment so hopefully I can at least get it to stabilize. I am just not hungry so much of the time still.

Don't worry about the name. I would probably copy and paste it myself. It is Welsh and means dark fairy/spirit. I tend to use the the mysterious definition for dark instead of evil/bad. I think it suits my spirit.

 

[Reb S]

Ciarhadwhyyrrfar, I can only speak for myself, but I love when our successful over 40's and proud owners of BFP's pop in and comment. It gives me new hope every time. Very glad your bump is a wriggler and that the HB is always good. Here's hoping you regain your appetite soon x
Morning all, it's very quiet round here! Where's Spoomie gone? Hope you're okay x
Someone post something funny to cheer me up, cos I've got to work all weekend!