TTC 40 plus!! Lets share the ups and downs!

[Pippi_elk]

Garfie, Try your dh pee if you still get a positive after drinking more, would be a good control to test its not a dodgy batch! It cud just be a dodgy test stick in a otherwise good batch.
Think you have be a full member of ff to change Opk detection method to research...I usually find that's the best if my charts a bit wired


Here here for the worryingly lighter af. I have had a number of cycles like that over the past 6 mts. I thought I must be getting near menopause but my tests for the ivf suggest my egg count is good for my age, so lighter af may not signify near menopause.

Still not sure whats going on with your chart misty. You must have ovulated a few days ago.

Sounds scary alright max with the twins especially the premature labour. It's nice to be able to look back though thankful that it all turned out ok in the end.

Welcome Cheshire ...

 

[biggerfamily]

Closer that what I thought... I tested this evening an my CBFM shows a eggie sign with peak an OPK strips all show a +. Then tested with the smilie face one an got a smilie too...Heck I knew was getting close too ovulation but didn't have no idea that it was that close. No wonder my RE said to start bding after 48hrs of the HSG.. I already have EWCM so got to get busy busy as they say..

WOW!!! Only 2 days after HSG. This is Fast just hopes it leads to a BFP..

 

[pdmcd17]

Welcome ches

Thanks Spoomie and max

Bigger I hope you feeling better

Garfie were cycle buddies of course I'm due to ovulate on mon or tues

Barn hope the tests give you answers

Misty I'm sitting with crossing everything for you
Tmi alert-- Omg to a horrible af I leaked through a tampon and a pan in less then 1 hr I had to go home and change made it through the day at wrk yesterday changing the tampon every 1 hr. the girls at wrk were so amazing but scary stories of this happens regularly in perimenopause wow. I missed that in health class joys of what to look forward to.

It slowed down to normal last night I feel better. I don't want anymore cycles like that again. On a plus I'm not as bloated now

Do dh has his dr appoint with his family dr for a referral for the v on the 22nd
It'll be a wait to get into the specialist still. Kinda sad and scary at the same time to know the time is coming to an end. Of course he's like are you sure you want this lol he's so sweet.

Have a great night ladies

 

[Mistyy]

Sorry to hear about that PDMCD
I can remember AF being pretty late once a while ago (BFNs all round) and when it did arrive it was ridiculously heavy. As if it had built up more than usual through being late. On the 1st night I soaked through a tampon, a pad and right through a folded bath towel i was sleeping on to protect the bed, all in one big 'blob'. Ew After that it lightened up allot and was over sooner than usual

xxx

 

[Pippi_elk]

You have plateaud Misty !!
Must have ovulated before you chart started going beserk

Sorry to hear pdmc about the horrid af. Is dh going for the vasectomy so you can draw a line under ttc and move on?
Would you not just consider ntnp rather than the vasectomy ?
Don't mean to offend...It seems to final especially when you are ttc.
And for him to undergo surgery with the risk that comes with any surgery when you do want to conceive....
Sorry maybe I'm just opening up old wounds and I really apologise if I am.

 

[pdmcd17]

Somehow my post was not where I last read so I just saw after catching up

Hoovering lol I hear Hoover and think of the American damn
It's vacuuming here, I love our different terms even though we all speak English

I don't want to do ntnp, I don't want an suprise baby in a couple if years. I'm an anal planner and I want us to be able to retire at 65 and not worry about a child in unniversity. If we continue to wrk after it will be a choice not a must.
I have friend who are 45 expecting I don't think I want a 20 when I'm 65
I have no problems with anyone else ttc till they feel its right, I just want to entire retirement not stressed about $

I'm already trying to max out the savings for it as who knows what will happen with the govt plan by then. Thank goodness for other plans

That is my reason for the definate cut off when it happens
Till then were still ttc
I hope I don't offend anyone

 

[Pippi_elk]

Hear you loud and clear pdmc. You want certainty and this world of ttc certainly brings noting but uncertainty. Sorry for questioning you.
Hope all goes well with dh vasectomy and hope you'll continue to pop back here and keep in touch.

 

[pdmcd17]

Dh is seeing the family dr for the referral to the specialist
It will most likely be many months before it actually occurs

I plan on popping by even after we're done
I pray for everyone here to get their bfp, I have shared all your joys and dispair a so I can't imagine totally leaving

 

[Mistyy]

Aw ... y'know, PDMCD after you posted about the docs appt. for the V yesterday i nearly said the same sort of thing as Pippi, but couldn't work out how to say it. We all just want you to be sure i suppose. I admire the fact you have a plan! Can you work out one for me?

Pippi - i have indeed plateaued! What a lovely word, i like it! I woke up feeling sick this morning. It made me grumpy - i refuse to get drawn into the horrible tricks nature likes to play on us during the 2ww - i just want to enjoy a light game of 'maybe' once every few cycles, that's all. I don't expect more, any more. I didn't want to actually get my hopes up, it's too far to fall.

Love to all xxx

 

[Mistyy]

X posts. Glad to hear it honey We'd miss you! x

 

[Butterfly67]

Pd yes I also thought the same as Pippi but you have explained it well and it makes sense so thanks for that of course hoping that you get your bfp before that

 

[garfie]

Misty - Look at your chart I know it's still early but wow how different does it look

PD - I understand where you are coming from - we are quickly approaching that time to (unless a miracle happens) I have one last shot at the fs on the 27 March depending upon what he says our time is out by Christmas - as hubby says he wants to enjoy his retirement

American damn called Hoover? is that what you mean or am I being a bit thick here?

AFM - Got some great OPKs - but hubby is to tired still got sore boobs when I get up in the morning and throughout the day if I catch them (by the way they're not huge) anyone else had this? thinking about sleeping in a light weight bra tonight to see if that helps it has been over a month now since I first noticed this

Love to you all



X

 

[booth19]

Hi Ladies hope you are all well welcome Chesh

Pd - I admire your courage to finally say enough is enough and of course you don't offend. Hopefully you get a little surprise before it actually happens.


Barni- I have under active thyroid and take thyroxine for it, but when I fell pregnant they checked it and needed to up the dose but after I gave birth returned to same levels. I would mention when you get results that you think it may have been too long afterwards ?

Garfie = good luck for the 27th but you never know what may happen before


AFm - well after having a 2 month cycle this one was 33 days! only light bleeding so who knows if this may be the road to the menopause and finally no longer POAS every month!

 

[Mistyy]

:wave: Butterfly and Booth.

Garfie - i know! what is going on?? I mean seriously. This isn't right. It'll probably all go back to normal tomorrow

xxx

 

[pdmcd17]

Garfie yeah I meant the Hoover dam.

I find the older I get the more tender my boobs are, when bed I sleep in a sports bra ( they have different strengths light to firm- I wear different ones at different times)

Good luck on the 27!

Misty wow look at that spike!!!!! Fxd for you

Booth after this 46 day cycle I'm not looking forward to meno. A friend has it so bad she's considering bc again at 46. I know because of my moms history I can't use any of the treatments available.

My af is hanging around longer then usual not sure if it will mess up my ov or if I will have another nonovulatiry cycle. I have to admit I'm tempted to go back on metformin just to have a regular cycle and to know what af will be like.


So there's an American version of shameless I love it. I can't believe actual people live like that. I just found out its a redo of a British one, I'm gonna watch some episodes to see if its very similar. Anyone else watch it ( either version). It's my guilty pleasure lol

Waves to everyone else

 

[Pippi_elk]

Hi butterfly and booth...nice to see you popping back.

Hope you get your bfp pdmc before your dhs appointment with specialist...if it takes as long as in the uk, you'll have loads of time! Thought initially it was scheduled this month...


Loving your chart misty. I'm getting my hopes for you. Implantation dip and now the rise????
When I got my bfp, my temp started to go up on cd 9-10 which is roughly where you are....see you gave up waiting for ff to try predict ovulation!
And you your temp is much higher than usual

Never have sore boobs except the odd time before af...so not much help,Garfie.
You are ovulating early this month..

Ivf drugs arrived today, they take up half a shelf in the fridge. Need to ensure any visitors don't offer to get the milky etc from the fridge as dh said its probably easy to guess what they are for due to their names...ovitrell, menopur.

 

[garfie]

Misty - Still doesn't look normal

Pippi - Well I got fed up of my sore boobies in the end and went to see the doc yesterday - he said it's not cancer arrrrgh I wasn't even thinkink along those lines it's not from the last m.c, women of a certain age don't o as often so don't worry, you're not on the change, take some paracetamol and keep testing until your next period - WHAT! so ladies under doctors orders I have to keep testing

Good luck with the IVF hun - I know nothing about any of that so I hope you keep putting up regular updates so I can follow your journey

PD - I love the British Shameless - I think everyone has heard of a family like the Gallaghers or maybe even knows one

Butterfly and Booth - how are you ladies

Ok ladies - I tested last night NEGATIVE but will keep on testing now and then - not so much fun now someone has told me to do it another thing I got hubby to pee on the OPK the control line is like mine but his OPK has a faint line nothing like mine - so I guess they are not a faulty batch(if he didn't think I was mad - guess he does now)

Hope you all have a lovely weekend



X

 

[Butterfly67]

Lol Garfie at getting your hubby to POAS

I am ok thanks for asking was feeling quite positive if impatient about the ivf but am In a bit of a flunk right now thinking it won't happen. I guess we all go through these ups and downs. Doesn't help with mothers day tomorrow

Love to everyone, am reading and cheering on from the sides if I don't post

 

[pdmcd17]

Garfie lol at dh poas, fx'd

Hugs butterfly

Happy Mother's Day to all my UK friends ( I had to think for a minute on that one as its in may in Canada and the USA I believe

 

[Pippi_elk]

Yea.. Butterfly,.looking forward to Mother's Day tomorrow..not !

Garfie, did you try taking evening primrose oil? I remember years ago one of my breasts was sore on one side. I got it checked out and at the mammogram the consultant said its normal for breasts to be sore sometimes. She recommended epo which did help.