TTC 40 plus!! Lets share the ups and downs!

[Pippi_elk]

Oh barnibear, I just looked at you ovulation charts.
Hope you are doing ok.

 

[garfie]

Barni - Hope you are okay - what happenened

Misty - No reason to think your test will come back bad - fingers crossed looks like everything is going perfect

Butterfly - How is that little caterpillar - is it giving you any symptoms

Nise - So pleased the SW are out of your hair - now let the fun commence mummy - are you taking some time off in the 6 weeks holidays? anything nice planned

Pippi -

AFM - Still waiting for AF



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[Maddy40]

Nise - huge congrats on your family now being social worker-free zone. Well done you

Mistyy - low risk Hope Harmony brings harmony to you

Garfie - hope the hormones settle soon and you can get back to business

Pippi - not sure about TSH where you are, but I know here there are two different ranges, the "normal" range that is recommended for the general population and then a narrower range that is recommended for those TTC. I was outside that narrow range by 0.1 but my Dr agreed to go ahead (against her own clinic's rules) - and thank goodness she did

Greens - nice to see you still reading

Barnabibear - hope you are OK hun

Butterfly -


AFM our 12 week scan results came back as 1:830 (much better than the 1:50 that is normal for someone 41yrs11mo). So no amnio or CVS here. And Today I'm 14 weeks, so second trimester. Yay

 

[garfie]

Maddy - Congrats on the 2nd trimester



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[Nise]

Barni, nice to see you back. Good luck with the big old 'O' this month.

Maddy - Fantastic news and congrats on 2nd tri - I do not know where the time goes, you'll have a little one in your arms before we know it! So pleased to hear all is going so well.

K came home with an excellent school report, we are very proud of her. Open evening was fun. We met with her current teacher, the deputy head and the head who all had nice things to say about K. Her next teacher is a young Canadian - she's pretty full on especially in the loudness stakes! lol. Extremely enthusiastic about her work and apparently takes no shit from the kids. I think K will get on really well with her.

 

[Barnabibear]

Hi again,

Thanks for the warm welcome back after my disappearance for a while. The last month or so we have been preparing for my dh's hew job abroad. He flew out this weekend and has settled in nicely. Feels awfully lonely in the house now but im sure I will get used to it. I plan to visit him out there in a few months.

So, my ttc journey lately.... I've been for a few appointments at the recurrent miscarriage clinic in london. Not very impressed if im brutally honest. They found I had a thin lining so wanted to operate because from one scan they decided I most likely had scarring from the dnc I had last year. Knowing I've had really light periods since the birth of my darling sleeping boy I was sure this was a problem predating my dnc. Still I figured at least if they have a look about they can confirm there's nothing wrong, I think they were going to do a biopsy too but not sure. Anyway to cut a long story short the day before the operation I found out I was pregnant again. So, no op and lots of happy. At 6 weeks I started brown bleeding and again long story short it was confirmed last thursday that I had a blighted ovum or unviable pregnancy as they call it nowadays. Had to take the tablets to start the miscarriage as ironically id stopped bleeding by then. Am back at hospital tomorrow to check all is ok. So, here I am...no baby...no hubby. BUT I have a theory what's happening and im at a fertility clinic for a consultation so I will see if they agree and will be able or willing to treat me. Meanwhile the london hospital has sent a letter to say they wont see me again because I refused to have the op, even though it states you can't have it when pregnant, so if I want to go back again I will need another referral, which they will refuse because im too old now. To be fair they probably think im still pregnant but i still feel like I've been wronged somehow. Maybe im being a bit over sensitive. Hoping monday will bring a bit of positivity. Fingers crossed.

 

[Mistyy]

Oh Barnie - i'm so sorry for your loss. It really seems as if your body is ready to be pregnant again - it's just, as you say, that some small thing needs sorting and then you'll be away. I cant believe the London clinic is saying you refused the op!! How ridiculous. You didn't refuse - you were no longer able to accept he procedure. Angry for you. Are you seeing the fertility clinic on Monday? I will cross everything for you that you get someone prepared to give you the time and attention you so deserve It's been such an exhausting roller-coaster of emotions for you. Take good care of yourself. We're always here for a chat/moan/laugh/cry/gossip Hopefully by the time you fly out to see hubby for the first time you'll be firing on all cylinders again and can time it with the nearest ov day

Nise - Congrats on being SW free, and on LGs fab report You should be very very proud - of yourself as well as LG

Garfie - hope that old gets herself in and out again very soon for you.

Maddy - yay for the second trimester I still find it funny that we're so close along the line. I thought you were way in front of me! How's your symptoms? My boobs are finally a little less tender, but the nausea is still awful. I was horrified to look down and find my ankles all swelled up on Wednesday evening! Argghh. Que feet up high and DH on washing up duty. They were ok again by next morning. Having to keep an eye on how much time i'm spenidng in the heat. Typical Brit

Butterfly - loving your little green avatar Very clever. How are you feeling?

Pippi - , PDMCD - :wave:, everyone else - how are you all?

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[garfie]

Barnie - I know what you mean when I told them I was pregnant it was as if I'd upset their testing regime/schedule - and they didn't want to know me any more I felt as if I was a time waster.

I am in the same boat as you if I want to go back to the recurrent m/c specialist I have to go back through my doctor and now I feel I am getting to the point of "what's the point - the door handle is coming into view again"

I am so sorry you had to go through this again hun - I was hoping I had found the miracle cure progesterone, but even that didn't help It is also crap that you're hubby is away you must feel so lonely don't be you always have us

So what is your next move? - and what is your idea?

I am still waiting for my results on the baby - I feel I can't move on until they come back - sending you HUGE



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[Butterfly67]

Oh barni I'm so sorry hon that is absolutely ridiculous. And horrible to be without DH

Thanks for asking ladies. I'm not feeling good about this with all the cramping and spotting. If I make it to the 27th I have a scan but otherwise that door handle is right there at my finger tips.

 

[greens]

Have you had any spotting in previous pregnancies at this stage?
I always had different levels of spotting often reminding me of stewed rhubarb. It never lead to me actively loosing. My cervix on examination one time suggest erosion which is a very daft term for what it really means.
Hang in there and do you have an early scan booked soon.

 

[Butterfly67]

Lol at the rhubarb greens

My other pregnancy I had spotting which lead to the discovery it was a blighted ovum. So that is the only experience I have Yes it does sund like maybe my cervix is eroded

 

[Mistyy]

Butterfly i had cramps and spotting with one of my DDs. How are you today? xxx

 

[Butterfly67]

Been a bit better today thanks mistyy

 

[pdmcd17]

Quick pop in to see how everyone is doing its been busy on here
Misty I'm so happy for you, your in the second tri!!!!!!!!!!
Butterfly glad things are better for you
Maddy second tri!!!!
Booth enjoy your son, boys generally are more clingy till around 10-12. My dtr stopped wanting to do much with me around 10 ds was 12. Now dd 19 likes to spend time with me again
Hi pippi
Nise congrats on no sw!!!! Enjoy being a mom.
Hi greens
Garfie I hope it turns neg soon so you can move forward holiday baby would be nice!
Barn hon I'm so sorry. I hope you get some help somewhere sucks about the clinic.

Arm I'm still spotting bleeding even with the depo. I'm currently on my reg af timining it takes a few cycles for the depo to kick in totally.

I'm actually fine with moving past ttc, I'm focusing on me again. I've lost 3 lbs this week, I'm back running and have a goal race in sept the zoo run ( get to run at our zoo - killer is the zoo is super hilly).

I will admit I have moments but most times I'm good. It wasn't meant for us and I'm blessed with 2. Someday in the future I will have grand babies.

I will pop in every once in a while
Wishing you all the best, if anyone wants you can pm me and add on fb

 

[Barnabibear]

Butterfly - I've read you can get a few days of cramps and spotting around 6 weeks as the little baby implants a little bit more. As things seem to be getting better maybe it was just that.

Pdmc - Glad youre staying with us every now and then

Mistty - Thanks for being angry for me. It does seem a bit like they got annoyed with me. You wouldve thought as its a recurrent miscarriage clinic that they would have wanted to see me to try and ensure that it wouldnt happen again, but obviously not!!! Seems like Garfie pretty much got the same treatment.I do wonder if the nhs want to help sometimes. Yes, im off to a fertility clinic tomorrow. Im hoping they will help. I will be doing iui or ivf depending on what they think would give us the best chance. My husband left some deposits for us to try while he was away. Although I've seen there is an affilicate clinic in Dubai so if I do decide to go for a duration maybe we could still continue. But at the moment im here, he's there so it is the way it is. So pleased you're doing well.

Maddy - Pleased for you too. Mistty and your good self give me hope.

Garfie - I will get back to you about my theory once I've spoken to the FS because they may tell me im talking rubbish. I believe what I think is the case and have for some time now. I too believed progesterone was the answer but as no one wanted to help with that , my consultant didn't believe in it, I took natural progesterone this last time. As this pregnancy wasn't viable it wouldnt have mattered anyway. I did change hospitals this last time in an effort to get a new consultant but never got to see him because of what happened. So, i will keep you posted with what tomorrow brings. I only want one, just one baby. Ive lost 5 in total now and still dont have a son or daughter in my arms.

My sister gave birth to my new niece on friday. Lovely as it is, she was about a month in front of my last viable pregnancy so it just reminds me that i wouldve been due in the next couple of weeks if things had worked out. Still im going to try and stay positive for tomorrow.

Hi to everyone else.

 

[Mistyy]

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow Barnie. Looking forward to hearing how you get on. Forward thinking now Congrats to your sister. I know from experience how hard it can be when people close to you produce a new baby while you are struggling. Especially if it coinsides with your own special dates. So for you. Great that your DH has some frosties saved for you here though!

PDMCD - helloooooo I am sorry to hear you're still spotting. Lets hope after this AF time passes the bleeding will too. I am impressed with how strong and happy you are sounding - i think that is wonderful to hear. Well done with your weight loss and running goals. I'm always in awe of runners. Good to see you popping in

Butterfly - thinking of you. It's looking good then. When is your first scan remind me?

AFM - yep, 14 weeks on Tue. Just waiting for the last of the test results for now. (Before the 20 week point comes and all the scans kick off again ) So the Harmony clinic should ring tomorrow (Monday), i recon, 'cos it'll be two weeks on Tuesday.
<drums fingers>
I've been looking at prams on the internet. I feel naughty doing it. Seriously, i've come away feeling like i've jinxed myself

Love to all -

 

[Butterfly67]

Am sure you are not jinxing things mistyy

I have a scan booked for Saturday at 7+1

 

[Barnabibear]

Im so nervous. Worried what the FS will say..... how much this will cost etc What if they tell me its all pointless!

 

[Butterfly67]

Barni

 

[Mistyy]

Stiff upper lip Barnie Thinking of you and sending vibes Take your time and write down your questions before you go! xxx

Butterfly - ooooh Saturday!