TTC 40 plus!! Lets share the ups and downs!

[bdwell1904]

QUOTE=serendippy;5948274] What i found though was that my prolactin levels were raised which can be dentrimental to conceiving and a raised prolactin level can be associated with a lower thyroid level.[/QUOTE]

Serendippy TY so much!!! I am so glad you mentioned this. I did some research, that led to more research. I'm not a doctor nor trying to scare anyone but thought it was interesting. They are just symptoms but alot of the symptoms mimic prg. I know I will follow up with my GP since I got a bfn at cd 36, and still no Af. Might be an explanation.
High Prolactin levels
Problems with fertility, short periods or they disappear, hot flashes, vaginal dryness, painful sex, lowered sex drive
Galactorrhea, producing milk, breast glands becoming larger, nipples may become sore !! This should not occur unless you are pregnant or breastfeeding
Symptoms of Ovarian Cyst
Pain in the pelvic area
Severe sudden pain is a symptom of ruptured ovarian cysts
A sensation of pressure or fullness in the lower abdomen or pelvis
Irregular or absent menstrual periods, Pelvic pain during menstrual periods, after exercise, following sexual intercourse
Pressure or pain when urinating or having a bowel movement
Nausea and vomiting, Vaginal spotting or pain, Breast tenderness
Weight gain, Aches in the thighs and lower back, Infertility
Early ovarian cancer
Pressure or pain in the abdomen, pelvis, back, or legs
A swollen or bloated abdomen, Nausea, indigestion, gas, constipation, or diarrhea, Feeling very tired all the time
Less common symptoms include:
Shortness of breath, Feeling the need to urinate often
Unusual vaginal bleeding (heavy periods, or bleeding after menopause)[/SIZE]

 

[bdwell1904]

Wow Serendippy am I obsesive compulsive or what? LMAO I also found out that Some types of kidney disease can cause a false hpt. I was reading some post elsewhere and was so sad at seeing women so distraught over symptoms of prolactin, with no answers. I wish I could reach out to them, and let them know what your doctor said. I read it can take a GP 6 mos to a year to make a connection like that, all the while women are going nuts wondering whats wrong.

 

[mumoffive]

Actually, some ovarian cysts can cause false hpt! x

 

[serendippy]

Good news about the possibility of testing your egg reserve to see if you get NHS IVF - bad news for me is they won't make a decision until 2012, by which time I will be 45!

That was my very thought this morning as well when i read that lol.


Hello all

Im 43 and my OH is 37 and we have been trying for 11 months now for our first. I cant believe its been that long now...it kinda feels like its gone quick but by the same token i feel as if ive been doin this forever lol.

Ive had all the tests with my fertility clinic and everything has come back ok. There was a bit of a cock up with my OH SA so hes having to redo it.
I dont really know where we will go from here cos i dont qualify for IVF on the NHS cos im too old.

I feel as though im being penalised for finding love later on in life..not fair really

Its so unfair for you. It does seem like they are penalising you. Tbh, i wont be going down that route as , its different for me in the sense i already have a large family and having another baby is something that i would like but have come to realise that if it doesnt happen for me, i can live with it. I really do not know what i would do if i was in your position Serendipity. I think i would be gutted and feel absolutely deep despair at not even having that option. Have you discusssed all the options with the doctor treatment wise? I was desperate to have another baby before i fell pregnant with my dd and its very hard when you have that strong maternal instinct that you need to fulfill. x

Hiya hun x
Once my OH has had his sample tested and the results come back we will be discussing with my specialist what the best course of action will be, so at the mo i dont really know. Im gonna have a blood test to check my ovarian reserve..we have to pay for it but its only £40 and it seems a really worthwhile thing to do. Once i know what percentage of my eggs are viable, ill be able to see which route to take and how much its likely to cost lol.
In the meantime the advice is to just keep trying naturally

 

[serendippy]

Wow Serendippy am I obsesive compulsive or what? LMAO I also found out that Some types of kidney disease can cause a false hpt. I was reading some post elsewhere and was so sad at seeing women so distraught over symptoms of prolactin, with no answers. I wish I could reach out to them, and let them know what your doctor said. I read it can take a GP 6 mos to a year to make a connection like that, all the while women are going nuts wondering whats wrong.

To be honest i googled it at first when i got my blood results back from the GP and she said TFT's lower and Prolactin higher. She said that one kinda counteracts the other one but she didnt mention the fertility or lack of side of it. My FS mentioned that tho on me last visit cos he was pleased that it had gone back to normal and said that was a good sign.

Im also kinda wondering now wether thats why in tww i always had pregnancy symptoms whereas beforehand i never used to suffer like that. My last cycle on the higher dose thyroxine hardly had any symptoms. Im not sure tho wether thats cos we didnt TTC last cycle as i had a HSG after i ovulated so i was not looking for symptoms.

 

[bdwell1904]

As if we don't have enough things that make us go hum? I had to add to the mix lol I do feel at least a little better about what to say to my GP, though.

 

[bdwell1904]

It was digital E.P.T.and supposedly able to detect in advance I forgot how many tests I did, all negative. I am now 4 days late. So I decided to go ahead and get a blood test done Got on the phone 3 hours later and I was told......... POSITIVE. That I am in fact PREGNANT!
And oh for giggles I decided to use the remaining hpt from this morning to see what it would say, wouldn't you know it... it said "not pregnant" - yah right!

I am 18 weeks with #2 right now. I started testing the day that my period should have come. I bought "traditional" tests (with the lines), as well as a couple boxes of the digital (they just say "pregnant" or "not pregnant"). I tested several times a day with a bunch of these different kinds of tests for a week after my period should have come.
On the traditional tests, there was NO line. I realize that even a faint line can indicate pregnancy, but trust me, there was NOTHING on them for a week. Even the DIGITAL tests came out reading "NOT PREGNANT". So it wasn't as though I was misreading the tests.
FINALLY after a week, the tests started coming back positive, and my doctor confirmed.

I took 3 negitive test and had 3 periods before i finally had a positive test. I was 12 weeks along with twins when we went to the doctor after a positive test!

I even had one done before an appedectomy (at the hospital) come back negative. A week later, positive... I was 7 weeks along at that point

I was 8 weeks along before the hpt read positive. I took 5 hpt's because I had no period, but still getting negative tests, so I thought I wasn't pregnant. When I finally got a positive, I went to the doctor and said I was probably 4 weeks along. After an ultrasound I found out I was 11 weeks! I was definately prego through all 5 negative tests.

 

[mumoffive]

Well CD16 and almost on the 2ww...again....grrrrr!!!
Goodluck to everyone testing soon.
Serendipity, so hope you get your bfp au natural so to speak!!! xxx

 

[mumoffive]

It was digital E.P.T.and supposedly able to detect in advance I forgot how many tests I did, all negative. I am now 4 days late. So I decided to go ahead and get a blood test done Got on the phone 3 hours later and I was told......... POSITIVE. That I am in fact PREGNANT!
And oh for giggles I decided to use the remaining hpt from this morning to see what it would say, wouldn't you know it... it said "not pregnant" - yah right!

I am 18 weeks with #2 right now. I started testing the day that my period should have come. I bought "traditional" tests (with the lines), as well as a couple boxes of the digital (they just say "pregnant" or "not pregnant"). I tested several times a day with a bunch of these different kinds of tests for a week after my period should have come.
On the traditional tests, there was NO line. I realize that even a faint line can indicate pregnancy, but trust me, there was NOTHING on them for a week. Even the DIGITAL tests came out reading "NOT PREGNANT". So it wasn't as though I was misreading the tests.
FINALLY after a week, the tests started coming back positive, and my doctor confirmed.

I took 3 negitive test and had 3 periods before i finally had a positive test. I was 12 weeks along with twins when we went to the doctor after a positive test!

I even had one done before an appedectomy (at the hospital) come back negative. A week later, positive... I was 7 weeks along at that point

I was 8 weeks along before the hpt read positive. I took 5 hpt's because I had no period, but still getting negative tests, so I thought I wasn't pregnant. When I finally got a positive, I went to the doctor and said I was probably 4 weeks along. After an ultrasound I found out I was 11 weeks! I was definately prego through all 5 negative tests.

Thats amazing story bdwell. Thats lovely you are expecting twins now. I have had twins.. I had identical twin boys - they are now 23 now!! Good luck with your pregnancy! x

 

[bdwell1904]

I'm sry for the misunderstanding mum. THIS IS NOT ME!! lol I think I have cysts and am not preg I just wanted to share these stories of other women since I always believe in hope. My computer was acting up and didn't put the part about it being other women's stories. This was from 5 different women. ; }

 

[Sparky67]

Well, I have been to the GP this morning and she took some bloods to test hormone levels, thyroid etc, and she's going to check if the fertility clinic will see me (because I am technically out on age and weight), although we were originally referred for IUI when I was about 36 but didn't pursue it at that time.

I did sneak a peek at the screen and both partners need to have a BMI under 30, so I need to lose a bit of weight, but then I already knew that anyway.

Should get the results in a week. In the meantime, started with the cough medicine today on top of the grapefruit juice. Will see what happens...

 

[mumoffive]

I'm sry for the misunderstanding mum. THIS IS NOT ME!! lol I think I have cysts and am not preg I just wanted to share these stories of other women since I always believe in hope. My computer was acting up and didn't put the part about it being other women's stories. This was from 5 different women. ; }

Lol!!! thats ok..i just thought that you had nice news. Bummer!!!

 

[bdwell1904]

Sparky
I am larger size person myself. Out of the 6 preg I've had (3 kids/3mc) with four of them I got prg naturally after dropping 30+ lbs. I guess thats why they say that. It's a tough pill though. Just because ur larger doesn't mean ur wanting a child any less. 2 of my mc were due to the fact that I wasn't eating enough, but I had gb... didn't know I was prg. Good luck and let me know if you want a weightloss buddy.
Mum
I have seriously come to the conclusion that I must have a cyst or something, am trying to get in with my GP on my off day next Wed. see what she says

 

[mumoffive]

Good luck bdwell. Hope you get to the bottom of it. Do you have other children? Or would a pregnancy be your first?

 

[bdwell1904]

I had 3 (24,22,20) with my first husband. DH and I have had 2 mc, we have been married 3 1/2 yrs. We have not been actively trying, but haven't been preventing either. We love each other so much and have a happy little life, so either way. To have a missed period after being 28 days regular for 3 yrs...makes you wonder if maybe , then gets your hopes up... thats what I hate about it. I can handle the answer one way or the other.....it's the not knowing whats going on that makes me nuts lol

 

[doogie1970]

Hi, I just needed to vent my frustration. I am 40 and oh is also 40 and we are ttc our first. Went to dr today as have been ttc for the last 9 months with no luck and I just want to be checked out to see if all is ok. All my dr would talk about was relationship situation as my oh works away alot and am currently in rented accommodation. He would not discuss anything relating to why I may not be getting pregnant. Told me once again to come back in 6 months. I dont feel I have time to keep coming back and coming back. What business is it of his to decide that my situation is not condusive to having a baby. Feel so let down and alone. He has made me feel like as I dont have the ideal own home partner who comes home each night and loads of money in the bank I dont deserve or have a right to be a mum. All I wanted was a test/examination to see if there is a problem.

 

[FBbaby]

What an old fashion traditionalist pig.... It is not his decision to make. I hate it when clinicians consider themselves in a position to make judgements on values and morals.

Saying that I had the exact same concern when I went to see mine. My GP is quite old and traditional, typical church goer middle class etc... and I wonder how he would receive the news that I was ttc, less than a year after meeting my new partner when we don't even live together yet (we are in the process of, just struggling with selling our two properties). Also, I had a miscarriage only 1st month ttc, so I expected him to tell me that it was obvious there was nothing wrong and to keep going. I was prepared with my speech about NICE guidance and recommendations to start investigations for women who have been ttc 6 months + after 35, but to my surprise, not only he didn't question anything, he referred to a specialist although I was only there to ask for blood test. I am so grateful that he did because it turned out that my OH SA came back not good and we were recommended to consider assisted conception. When I saw my GP again to ask to be referred to the private clinic (as because of my children from previous relationship we are not elligible for NHS), he told me he would do it right away and wished me all the luck saying that he would be delighted if I came back to him pregnant. I was totally shocked with his response which shows how wrong I was about him.

I would request to see another GP and go with a copy of the NICE recommendations and insist that you get blood tests at least. Good luck!

 

[bdwell1904]

Doogie With my third child the doctor told me I should have TT. Deep down I really didnt want to, he said "we had enough kids and were low income at the time ". I was so heartbroken I had a TR 3 yrs later. Even being in the medical field myself the arrogance of some doctors floors me. Its not their life so its not their decision. I have learned over the years kids just need parents who love and protect them. Situations change.... not the love for your children

 

[mumoffive]

Hi, I just needed to vent my frustration. I am 40 and oh is also 40 and we are ttc our first. Went to dr today as have been ttc for the last 9 months with no luck and I just want to be checked out to see if all is ok. All my dr would talk about was relationship situation as my oh works away alot and am currently in rented accommodation. He would not discuss anything relating to why I may not be getting pregnant. Told me once again to come back in 6 months. I dont feel I have time to keep coming back and coming back. What business is it of his to decide that my situation is not condusive to having a baby. Feel so let down and alone. He has made me feel like as I dont have the ideal own home partner who comes home each night and loads of money in the bank I dont deserve or have a right to be a mum. All I wanted was a test/examination to see if there is a problem.

OMG!!! That is an utter disgrace. How dare he! It is not his job to pass judgement on your home life!! I would definetly go to see another doctor...preferably a female who maybe understands the need to address the strong maternal instinct that most women have and the desire to have a baby. Shocking x He has no right.

 

[doogie1970]

Thankyou all. I am going to see another Dr. Hopefully the next will be more interested in helping me rather than condemn my relationship or living situation. I even said to him today that all information confirms that any woman over 35 should be referred if she is having problems conceiving after 6 months but he really did not care or want to know.