TTC 40 plus!! Lets share the ups and downs!

[jeniwi]

Hi Ladies

I've been lurking here for a while so I hope you don't mind if I post. Currently 5 weeks pregnant. Bit surprised as I assumed that I was out this month and didn't test positive until 25 DPO. That's probably not a good sign though.

But anyhow I'm 41 and after 3 cycles I have gotten my BFP.

Jeni

 

[pip7890]

Congratulations jeniwi. A positive is a positive!

Pip x

 

[bellamamma]

oh god, can somebody please cheer me up??? My best (and only) good friend here in Rome just told me she got a bfp this am. AFter only 2 months of trying (she's younger than me by 6 years but still...). She's the one I turned to all these years with my feelings when I was ttc for over a year, and thru both my mc's...then suddenly she and her bf decide to try, and voila! bfp. I KNOW I must be happy for her, but have literally cried my eyes out this am. Life just seems so unfair right now, and I've completely lost my hope and want to give up. It's the second friend of mine who's gotten pg and I had to watch get big and fat and inside I feel miserable, angry, old, jealous and broken. Plus the guilt I have for being angry tho it's not her fault. She says "this is our year" but I think, "no, this is your year, I give up". It makes me feel that now I won't be able to share my true feelings and fears with her, as I don't want her to worry about mc, or about me, but she's the only close friend I have, who I told everything to. life is such crap sometimes.

 

[pip7890]

oh god, can somebody please cheer me up??? My best (and only) good friend here in Rome just told me she got a bfp this am. AFter only 2 months of trying (she's younger than me by 6 years but still...). She's the one I turned to all these years with my feelings when I was ttc for over a year, and thru both my mc's...then suddenly she and her bf decide to try, and voila! bfp. I KNOW I must be happy for her, but have literally cried my eyes out this am. Life just seems so unfair right now, and I've completely lost my hope and want to give up. It's the second friend of mine who's gotten pg and I had to watch get big and fat and inside I feel miserable, angry, old, jealous and broken. Plus the guilt I have for being angry tho it's not her fault. She says "this is our year" but I think, "no, this is your year, I give up". It makes me feel that now I won't be able to share my true feelings and fears with her, as I don't want her to worry about mc, or about me, but she's the only close friend I have, who I told everything to. life is such crap sometimes.

Pip x

 

[Garnet]

Hi ladies, not been posting for a while, but have followed the chat on this thread nonetheless. Could do with some good vibes as I'm feeling very despondent just now.

After 12 week m/c at the end of last year i had been thrilled that, with the help of my herbalist, my cycle had returned to a 'perfect' 28 days so speedily. Was all set for SMEP again this month along with grapefruit juice, tons of water, opks, preseed for the optimum days but......I started my opks on cd11 to find a very faint line then my chart showed I'd ovulated on cd10. I NEVER ovulate so early, almost always day 13/14 and occasionally day 12, but day 10??? Now feeling so low that we only managed bd on cd8 and 10 and that odds of a good egg, healthy implantation etc are reduced with such early ovulation. I'm now 5dpo. I try so hard to hang on to the fact that I've been pregnant 4 times in my life (only one gorgeous little 2 year old to show for all my efforts though) but time ticks on, I'm going to be 43 this month and I'm guessing I'm not gonna be getting an early birthday present when I'm due to test on March 14th.

We're off on holiday to the sun for a week tomorrow to build some sandcastles so hopefully that will take my mind off how cr*p I'm feeling, I hate feeling this self indulgent and miserable Trying to pluck up the courage to leave my bbt thermometer at home, but I know I won't manage that!

Aah Spoomie, I just turned 43 and I still have hope!!! So cheer up and maybe leave the therometer and hope and just have fun.... You never know it might just happen...

 

[deinekatze]

oh god, can somebody please cheer me up??? My best (and only) good friend here in Rome just told me she got a bfp this am. AFter only 2 months of trying (she's younger than me by 6 years but still...). She's the one I turned to all these years with my feelings when I was ttc for over a year, and thru both my mc's...then suddenly she and her bf decide to try, and voila! bfp. I KNOW I must be happy for her, but have literally cried my eyes out this am. Life just seems so unfair right now, and I've completely lost my hope and want to give up. It's the second friend of mine who's gotten pg and I had to watch get big and fat and inside I feel miserable, angry, old, jealous and broken. Plus the guilt I have for being angry tho it's not her fault. She says "this is our year" but I think, "no, this is your year, I give up". It makes me feel that now I won't be able to share my true feelings and fears with her, as I don't want her to worry about mc, or about me, but she's the only close friend I have, who I told everything to. life is such crap sometimes.

I think it is your year too. Try and not worry about it too much and it will just happen.

Some times we drive ourselves to stress counting days and temperature and stuff and that gets in our way. Try to be happy for your friend and focus on other things that you DO have going for you. The saying is "that which you think about you bring about" so think more about great things, even if it only is to have this board, or the pretty flowers outside. Pay attention to things that make you happy (other than baby right now) and when you start surrounding yourself with those things and filling up your mind with happy thoughts more things will appear to make you happy. I know it is easier said than done but try it.

Sending you hugs and positive thoughts....all sprinkled with baby dust

 

[mztova]

Hope its ok that I tell my story...hopefully it will give others some hope...
I am about to turn 43 in a few weeks...in Dec I married the love of my life who is 31. We have known each other for a long time and you know how life is....
We have been TTC for 2 years. The first year on our own and the last year with the help of our fertility clinic. Our specialist decided that IUI was our only and best option due to "old eggs". My DH has fantastic sperm so there is no problems there. I was diagnosed (wrongly I believe) with PCOS, and have a bicorneate (spelling?) uterus.
Sorry for all the info but I think its important.
We did 2 rounds of IUI and then met with our RE. He said we could do 2 more rounds. I am sure you all understand how frustrating and emotionally draining trying and failing is. This past November we did round 3 and it also was a BFN. I was completely done! In December when I got my cycle it was the worst pain/bleeding I had ever had!! Pain for 2 days and clots and blood like I had never seen. I suspected I was having a miscarriage but didn't know I was pregnant. This sent me over the edge. I was an emotional wreck.
I slowly took myself off the Metformin (for PCOS..which I don't think I have) didnt even consider any fertility treatments and didn't even track my temps..I WAS DONE!
January 16th I had my normal cycle...fast forward a month...
Feb 16th I realized my bbs were tender...and realized I hadn't had my cycle...I started to count back and thought 32 days was waaaay to long inbetween cycles.
That day at lunch I POAS and 2 lines showed!!! I was in shock. I called my husband bawling my eyes out!! Called the fertility clinic right after and they sent me for Beta blood work the next morning. The call that afternoon was....."your pregnant" my level was close to 1000 and my US would be March 4th.
That was yesterday.....The best words I could ever imagine where.."there's the fetus and there's the hearbeat". Needless to say I was crying and overjoyed!! My husband has been my rock and was also so emotional!!
I hope this story is inspiring and brings someone else hope....Having FAITH has helped me get through all of it!!
Hugs to all.

 

[Nise]

Hey Ladies, well I hope everyone is having a nice weekend.

Oh Bellamama, I'm so sorry you feel like you can't confide in your friend anymore - I know it's hard lovely but I'm sure she would hate to know you're feeling like this and I bet you she is not gonna let you just go quiet in any case. How's your Italian Stallion these days?

Oorweeisty - Damn that dratted witch to hell. I'm sorry about your friends untimely announcement, that's always hard to take but worse when AF is here.
What does your OH do? is there no chance of a secret liason!

Inkdchick - Loving your painting, wow. Glad you're all chilled out too, hopefully this will give you the edge. Shitty that your pot smoking, hard drinking pal got her non tried for bfp before you but at 45 she has to be a source of inspiration to us all - maybe all this crazy don't do this, that and the other is actually working against us! Somebody pass me the bottle!

Glowstar - How you holding up!

Garnet - Welcome and I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Such a difficult situation. I do hope the soy and softcups do the trick for you.

Jax 41 - Oh well, the intent was there, the shagathon is a tall order Hope you get some good w/end action in

Mztova - Welcome and congratulations that's some journey you've had, thanks for sharing with us and I wish you a happy healthy 9 months.

Well 8dpo for me and nothing to report - I hate the 2WW. I've been a bit poorly for the last week what with a cold, that's on the way out but has been replaced by a throat infection - Oh happy days...

 

[Glowstar]

Hi Ladies. Welcome to all the new ladies, those giving us inspiration with those elusive BFP's and those of us that are still living in hope.

Bellamama....pick yourself up, dust yourself off....your time will come I am certain.

I like coming here...it's calm and I find some solace in all of you ladies of a certain age TTC

On another thread I am on a lady has her 2nd BFP from taking Soy, 1st one resulted in MC but she has conceived again quickly and is 40. I tried Soy for 2 cycles but it didn't work for me (yet)...on a cycle break from soy and just going with the flow but having a weird AF as CD9 and still spotting, I NEVER spot just using OPK's, Conceive Plus and plenty of BD'ing this time and in the lap of the gods

 

[Nise]

The elusive bfp's seem to be becoming quite common now on this thread! This I am liking - lots

 

[Reb S]

Yippee!!! Two more BFP's since I last checked up. Love you all! x

 

[ciarhwyfar]

So nice to see all of the bfps. For the new ladies, welcome and hang in there. It seems like the timing is good as we are getting more bfps every month.

 

[pip7890]

Morning

I've been charting for the first time this month, as well as using a CBFM. I was worried that I might not be ovulating. Looks like I am: I got 2 days of peaks on the monitor and FF has shown a sustained temperature rise after CD12. Looks like I'm 3DPO! OH and i have been very busy: CD7, 8, 10, 11, 12, 13, and 15!! Not bad for a couple of forty something's!!!

to us all.

Pip x

 

[bellamamma]

but having a weird AF as CD9 and still spotting, I NEVER spot

I did the same thing, spotted til day 8!!! strangness...I usually spot before period but not so long after, must be "spring cleaning"??

 

[bellamamma]

Thanks to all you ladies for your cheering me up!! I am better today, starting to see the other side of the pie, I always crash when I first get news...

Welcome to all the newbies, and thanks to all the pregnant ladies popping in to give us hope!
Great Sunday to all, and get shagging!

 

[truly_blessed]

FRER this morning had no line so I think it's a chemical this time. Digital said 1-2 weeks 4 days ago and the line was very clear so I'm sure it's just a matter of time now. Gutted but more hopeful than I was this time last month.

Come on ladies, I've left a seat warmed up over in the first tri

 

[bellamamma]

FRER this morning had no line so I think it's a chemical this time. Digital said 1-2 weeks 4 days ago and the line was very clear so I'm sure it's just a matter of time now. Gutted but more hopeful than I was this time last month.

Come on ladies, I've left a seat warmed up over in the first tri

No! so sorry truly,
Had you had it confirmed with a beta, I can't remember now I'm writing this? Really really bummed hope it's not true!

 

[Nise]

NOOOOOOO. Truly I'm gutted to hear this. Like Bella, I shall keep my fingers crossed that today's frer is a blip. What dpo are you today? Huge hugs to you lovely.

 

[Glowstar]

I hope it's a blip too....FWI I didn't get a good line with my first until 9 days after AF and even then the Dr's test came back negative, keeping everything crossed for you

 

[deinekatze]

Hang in there, sending positive vibes your way!