ttc after a d&c

[aaronswoman79]

You all are not going to believe this. I just got the Autopsy results of my baby. I was 18.5 weeks along, but guess what? The baby only measured at 13 weeks (so I guess that would be 15 weeks pregnant for me) The baby had stopped growing for 3.5 weeks, but was still alive to the end. They said that ears looked abnormal small and so did the features, but they tested for all of the trisomys and they all came back normal. They said the baby had no chromosomal problems, that the baby probably appeared like that because the baby stopped growing so long ago, the the ears barely formed, and the body was swollen due to slow demise. So do you all wanna know the shocker here? My baby BOY was actually a baby GIRL. Apparently she still had very primitive genitalia, and had something called the genital tubercle that is something all fetus's have on ultrasound until the female fetus would have been older. They both have a protrusion. So it is called a genital tubercle. I am shocked, depressed and feel like I am going crazy. I have been call HER a HIM for the last 3 months. I have been mourning the loss of a BOY when all along it was a little girl!!!! I am not feeling very good right now.

 

[xoxo4angel]

Awww Jess

 

[mommylov]

Thanks Laura! glad you are doing better.

Jess big hugs hun. Thus pregnancy is going to be great!

Angel, I know I felt like saying "oh heeeeeeck no. You are not getting the best of me this time!"

I'm still scared to death for tomorrow's blood test. Hoping Thursdays results are good and Fridays us goes well. Even though my levels were there and in on meds for progesterone now, still fear the worse. I want this baby so bad and I want him to be healthy. praying for us all! Xxx

 

[Storked]

Catching up!

Laura, everything will be ok

Amy, I hope that the progesterone helps but that they couldn’t tell you how things are going yet. I am rooting for you!
Oh no your hubby is also your political opposite? Mine too!

Jessica, oh honey it is going to be okay I am so sorry that you didn’t have any answers as to why your sweet baby quit growing. Don’t feel bad for thinking your LO was a boy because your DH thought it was a boy too. I don’t think your angel was saddened by that and is probably happy to know that in that sense you know it was her all along and will mourn for her. It will be okay. I love you honey.

Natasha, I am being a total bear to my DH too. Dang messy men

Horsey, NOOOO to partner voting for the bad guy! Gosh if you didn’t need the sperm I would tell you to beat him. My husband wasn’t able to get to where he needed to be to vote so I can gloat about how our votes didn’t cancel out each other

Angel, how are you doing?

Jen, where are you?

AFM: I am tired. We cought some cute fish, saw some freaky huge crabs in tide pools and now I am freshly showered and finally getting around to chopping and freezing veggies.
I am so PMSing though. My back hurts and my husband is annoying to me.
I kind of want to go to the doctor for some help. Could I get checked out by a regular doctor? I need to be treated for a UTI anyways. I became pregnant the moment I first tried but since the loss, nothing. It kills me to know that I was due on the 15th and I will be empty

 

[mommylov]

Bethany... You have had so much going on. Ups and downs with dh finding out about the new job and new apt and moving and on top of all that mc and ttc. You're bound to feel the way you do right now. Now that you are in your new place, maybe getting with the dr to see what you can do to increase your chances might not be s bad idea? Although, just want to put out there that I got snippy this evening and I'm pregnant.... Just saying it may not be pms

 

[Storked]

Yeah I do want to talk to a doctor. Just seems so wrong when it wasn't this hard before.

Hehe I would love to hope for pregnancy hormones but I am starting to feel crampy too. Typical AF signs. Argh.

Everything is crossed for you

 

[mommylov]

Awww like we told Jess, it ain't over until af shows! Hugs hun and thanks for the prayers. Praying for you too!

They just announced Obama is re-elected. So much for being zen.. I'm sure colleguezilla will be in a mood. She already posted on fb. Sigh. Why can't people just accept that everyone is entitled to thier opinion and we are all one nation and all humans. I really just want this all to be over already. Did I tell you girls that she doesn't live with her husband? He lives in Cali and safe lives here in a house with her two daughters. She told me its because he makes good money there and she didn't want to live there so thus works for them. I thought cool and didn't think anything if it but dh thought it was weird. I was trying not to judge but now I think I understand why she is the way she is. It's because she lives with her children and does and says whatever she wants at home. Lack of some kind of social skill is what I'm thinking. Ok sorry, went on a little rant there.

 

[mommylov]

What cd are you Bethany?

 

[mommylov]

Thank you for sharing Jess!

Amy ~ The Return of Colleaguezilla.

Laura ~ Well, fx you are close to it!

I would really like to go on to bed (it's 5:30p) to see what my temps are like tomorrow, but I kind of what to see what Virginia does. Hope my vote counts...darn Electoral College!

and and warm wishes for all of you ladies!

Exactly!!!! Sigh

 

[aaronswoman79]

Awww like we told Jess, it ain't over until af shows! Hugs hun and thanks for the prayers. Praying for you too!

They just announced Obama is re-elected. So much for being zen.. I'm sure colleguezilla will be in a mood. She already posted on fb. Sigh. Why can't people just accept that everyone is entitled to thier opinion and we are all one nation and all humans. I really just want this all to be over already. Did I tell you girls that she doesn't live with her husband? He lives in Cali and safe lives here in a house with her two daughters. She told me its because he makes good money there and she didn't want to live there so thus works for them. I thought cool and didn't think anything if it but dh thought it was weird. I was trying not to judge but now I think I understand why she is the way she is. It's because she lives with her children and does and says whatever she wants at home. Lack of some kind of social skill is what I'm thinking. Ok sorry, went on a little rant there.

Why would Obama's reelection make her in a mood? This lady is seriously pissing me off!! Tell her I said to leave you the heck alone!! This is coming from Jessica tell her. j/k. I wish it were that easy! I know if you go and tell her that all hell is going to break loose. I know you are super sweet Amy, but is there any way you can give her the cold shoulder? I give you credit for being able to put up with her, but you don't need her sh*t right now, seriously.

 

[mommylov]

I know! I have my beliefs about a lit of things but I judge no one on thier beliefs. She claims the same but obviously not. I married someone on the opposite end of the political pole and I'm madly in love with him and carting his child. I agree, she shouldn't let something like this get her in a mood but she does with stupid crap like this all the time. So annoying. I'll tell her that you better watch out, my girls have my back and won't let you bully me! Lol

 

[aaronswoman79]

Catching up!

Laura, everything will be ok

Amy, I hope that the progesterone helps but that they couldn’t tell you how things are going yet. I am rooting for you!
Oh no your hubby is also your political opposite? Mine too!

Jessica, oh honey it is going to be okay I am so sorry that you didn’t have any answers as to why your sweet baby quit growing. Don’t feel bad for thinking your LO was a boy because your DH thought it was a boy too. I don’t think your angel was saddened by that and is probably happy to know that in that sense you know it was her all along and will mourn for her. It will be okay. I love you honey.

Natasha, I am being a total bear to my DH too. Dang messy men

Horsey, NOOOO to partner voting for the bad guy! Gosh if you didn’t need the sperm I would tell you to beat him. My husband wasn’t able to get to where he needed to be to vote so I can gloat about how our votes didn’t cancel out each other

Angel, how are you doing?

Jen, where are you?

AFM: I am tired. We cought some cute fish, saw some freaky huge crabs in tide pools and now I am freshly showered and finally getting around to chopping and freezing veggies.
I am so PMSing though. My back hurts and my husband is annoying to me.
I kind of want to go to the doctor for some help. Could I get checked out by a regular doctor? I need to be treated for a UTI anyways. I became pregnant the moment I first tried but since the loss, nothing. It kills me to know that I was due on the 15th and I will be empty

Bethany, all I can tell you is that sometimes things happen when you least expect it. Maybe when you least suspect that you are pregnant it will happen. I know this ttc is so stressful. I really was about to give up, and I didn't do it for long (and who knows maybe I will be back in the ttc again ). But my husband was being a serious pain in ass about it. Most of my stress revolved around him acting like a child about everything. There were times when he knew it was important for us to bd and I would find him in the bed asleep, and he always made me initiate everything, its like he took advantage of my need to be pregnant. Maybe I am wrong about his intentions, but that is what I feel like. I am so sorry you are struggling. Gosh Bethany, I wish I could just give you a big hug right now.

 

[aaronswoman79]

I know! I have my beliefs about a lit of things but I judge no one on thier beliefs. She claims the same but obviously not. I married someone on the opposite end of the political pole and I'm madly in love with him and carting his child. I agree, she shouldn't let something like this get her in a mood but she does with stupid crap like this all the time. So annoying. I'll tell her that you better watch out, my girls have my back and won't let you bully me! Lol

Yeah, tell her your gonna get your ttc and prego gang to come and back you up! lol. You don't wanna mess with us, we got some serious hormones over here!

 

[mommylov]

Lol. She is still posting away on fb. I posted "trying to stay zen through all this political bs and fb war" and she posted right after "what's wrong with this country". I just want to be like "maybe you should leave" lol

 

[Storked]

Amy, CD 28 here. Ugh.
As for the evil colleague…getting those hate posts on my FB feed too. What the heck, if Mittens had won I wouldn’t have lost my sh*t on FB and started calling our nation stupid. GAH!

Jessica, right on about the cold shoulder!
As for the other…it just isn’t happening, whether I expect it or not. And I don’t think it is stress anymore I just really think that something is wrong :-/ This long after my loss and I am not even regular yet.
Btw, don’t think you are wrong in how you feel re: husband taking advantage. He may not have been fully conscious of how he was acting but he was acting out

 

[aaronswoman79]

I know! I have my beliefs about a lit of things but I judge no one on thier beliefs. She claims the same but obviously not. I married someone on the opposite end of the political pole and I'm madly in love with him and carting his child. I agree, she shouldn't let something like this get her in a mood but she does with stupid crap like this all the time. So annoying. I'll tell her that you better watch out, my girls have my back and won't let you bully me! Lol

Correct me if I am wrong but she sounds a bit intolerant and close minded. How do you and your husband work out the whole different political opinion, do you ever get into arguments, or not really talk about it? Or does is not really play a huge role in your lives anyways. Plenty of couples share different political opinions, different religions or religious denominations.. etc. I date a Muslim, Mormon, Baptist, and who knows what else. lol. heck I have gone through religion changes too. Born Catholic and became Christian. This lady has to understand that this world revolves around diversity, and know matter how much she doesn't like it, she has to learn to suck it up and respect other people.

 

[mommylov]

I know me either!!!! It is what it is. I really don't want to deal with her tomorrow.

 

[mommylov]

I know! I have my beliefs about a lit of things but I judge no one on thier beliefs. She claims the same but obviously not. I married someone on the opposite end of the political pole and I'm madly in love with him and carting his child. I agree, she shouldn't let something like this get her in a mood but she does with stupid crap like this all the time. So annoying. I'll tell her that you better watch out, my girls have my back and won't let you bully me! Lol

Correct me if I am wrong but she sounds a bit intolerant and close minded. How do you and your husband work out the whole different political opinion, do you ever get into arguments, or not really talk about it? Or does is not really play a huge role in your lives anyways. Plenty of couples share different political opinions, different religions or religious denominations.. etc. I date a Muslim, Mormon, Baptist, and who knows what else. lol. heck I have gone through religion changes too. Born Catholic and became Christian. This lady has to understand that this world revolves around diversity, and know matter how much she doesn't like it, she has to learn to suck it up and respect other people.

I think she thinks this is kitty's world and we all just live in it!

 

[aaronswoman79]

Lol. She is still posting away on fb. I posted "trying to stay zen through all this political bs and fb war" and she posted right after "what's wrong with this country". I just want to be like "maybe you should leave" lol

Yes Amy, I think like you about politics. It is so important we respect the views of others. She just categorized the country as something is wrong with it. I don't like Obama, but he won, I can't change it. I really don't like Romney either. I don't trust any of them. I am just glad all of this is over. The smear adds were just so annoying. I just said screw it this election. I didn't want to vote for either, and didn't believe in what either say, so I didn't even care about who won. Left right left right.. there is too much division and arguments over politics. This colleague of yours is part of the reason why I hate political discussions. A lot of my family are complete political opposites and we can get along. But I have these cousins, who don't agree with us politically. And they can be out right mean rude and judgmental. So, I haven't seen them in 3 years because of it. I refuse to let them insult and be rude. I wish you could find a way to get really far away from this lady.

 

[Storked]

The most annoying part of Romney is that he is LDS and I can't even avoid politics at church. He is not a prophecy. Ick.