ttc after a d&c

[aaronswoman79]

Lozzy, I just read your post. First of all I wanted to tell you how so sorry I am for your loss! And second Happy Happy b-day. I hope we can in some way cheer you up sweety. I felt so sad when I saw how much pressure you are putting on yourself to get pregnant. You are not letting anybody down hon. And remember it takes 2 to get pregnant. My husband is not much of a talker either, so I get all of the support I need from these beautiful babies: Amy, Angel, Natasha, Jen, Laura, Bethany and Horsey (I think i mentioned all of you, if I didn't my brain is a bit foggy lately.. sorry ). I love these ladies they have been my life saver. I hope you stay with us here Lozzy. We all know about loss, and we understand your pain.

 

[horseypants]

some docs believe that if you have a good egg, your progesterone will be fine on its own. my last mc, i asked them to test progesterone and my doctor said it wasnt necessary. .....i changed doctors.

mommylov, happy new years sweety! is this dwali? festival of lights? or is it different?

welcome, lozzy

 

[TTCSecrets]

hey horsey hope youre well xx

 

[lilesMom]

hi guys,
angel im glad its less painful, hope breeze through it, im sure u r well cos ur tough and strong xxxx nd ur right we will do anything for our LO xxxxxx
sorry bout ur doppelganger hon , it is a kick in the gut xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxbut i know what u mean , u cant begrudge someone their LO, im same with my sil, due within 2 days of lile but course im happy for them but does remind me big time xxxxxxxx
us and our high roads but we r the better for being less bitter xxxxxxxxxxxxx

jess glad ur hsg doubled sweetie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx whoop whoop xx

amy honey hope this is ur body taking care of things naturally and hoping ur not in too bad pain sweetie, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxx

tash how u hon? still cathcin up. xx

lozzy hope ur ok honey nad hope ur bday got better xxxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

hi horsey too xxxxxxxxx

 

[mommylov]

some docs believe that if you have a good egg, your progesterone will be fine on its own. my last mc, i asked them to test progesterone and my doctor said it wasnt necessary. .....i changed doctors.

mommylov, happy new years sweety! is this dwali? festival of lights? or is it different?

welcome, lozzy

Hiya Horsey Yes it is, thanks hun! Hope you are doing well Did you O yet?

Jess, I was told that progesterone was needed to develop the baby and was crucial to have in the first 12 weeks until that fully developed and working placenta takes over. Im a bit confused why they wouldnt think that is important My level was at 8.73 when I first concieved this last time and then put me on meds right away. Seening as how you have had two healthy girls, Im thinking you dont have the same problem as I do but none the less Im thinking it is important and hope they monitor that along with everything else for you and your lo.

Angel, love your sweet letter and hope he listens . Hugs to you.. you are one strong cookie and I know that you will make it through this. Im sorry that dh isnt here for you right now but Im sure he wishes he was home with you. He will be home before you know it and will be cuddling you to pieces . Its only natural to feel the way you do.. I felt the same way when I got my friends babyshower invite (That was due a month before me) so Im sure I will feel just same when her baby is born. We dont wish ill on them but cant help but be hurt from something that is so joyful to them.

Tash, still hanging in there thank babe

Laura & Jen, hope you and LO's are doing well.

Kaylee, Geegirl, and anyone else I missed.. hi!

its 3 here now so I have a little over an hour left to go (Came in a little late this morning ). I feel like at this point I just wish my days away... always waiting to go home or for the next day. I wish there was a fast forward button in life that you can push so that you can get through the tough times faster.

 

[lilesMom]

i wish there was too amy to get u beyond this bad patch and to happier times xxx

 

[Lozzy1985]

Hey guys I wish I could give u all gd news but there isn't I bit the bullet and took a test only to find out its a BFN so made my bday even worse and for me to think what am I doing wrong? U see all these ppl getting pregnant that don't even deserve it and us that keep trying that love our OH so much u just wana give them the miracle of life I feel like giving up I really do xxxxx u girls have been amazing today xxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

bfn at this stage doesnt put u out for defo this month, some times it just takes a bit longer to get u r bfp, fx for u honey, sorry u didnt get ur bday pressie, xxx
it wasnt first morn pee either which can cause bfn at this early stage xxx dont lose hope and remember that even if it isnt ur month, every day brings u closer to the day u do get ur bfp xxxxxxx

 

[mommylov]

Awww lozzy, dont let this ruin your bday. I hope that you are able to have a great night with dh. What dpo are you? You might be testing too early...

 

[horseypants]

lozzy, dont be sad, there's still a good chance

hi ttcsecrets :wave: lilemum and everyone

mommylov, i'm on my second round of clomid. i am definitely having more sad times than good times lately. i notice it especially when i start writing responses to all the things ive read and i just have a hard time putting the cheer on!!!! i know part of it is that the grief over my mc hasnt gone away, it's gotten worse really. my due date is rolling around, i think it will be hard for me to say anything constructive really until that date has come and gone. there's always a lump in my throat, except during the times when im forgetful. im so sorry you are going through this.

 

[mommylov]

Oh horsey I'm so sorry. That hopeless feeling sounds all too familiar. I wish I could say something that would take away the pain. Thus has been such a rough year for us all. It aggravates me that this has to happen to such a great group of girls. Hugs to you hun.... I hope that dh can be there and comfort you in person and we will be here if you need is as well.

 

[lilesMom]

horsey i second amy, sorry u r having a bad patch xxxxxxxxx
but jus remember things will get better even if it doesnt feel like it now. xxxxxxxx
xxxxxxxxxxxx we r all here for u chick xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[TTCSecrets]

Laura im fine babes, just very tired! How are you??
Angel temp didnt go so well this morning lol looks very similar to last months chart to be honest

Amy hope youre okay, cant wait for it all to be over for you so you can get on with things xxx

The rest of you how are you?

Lozzy youre not out yet and like the girls said, even if AF comes you will be fine theres always next month! We are here if u need us xxxx

 

[lilesMom]

hi sweetie, im fine but peed off, im awake since 5.30, just bright as anything cannot sleep. there is really nothing to do at that time of the morn u gettin ready for work? xxx

 

[lilesMom]

im a bit annoyed i prob cant return to work too and my odc never got back to me yest about it so im still in limbo. htink my hormones may be acting up cos its not really that huge a deal. i feel a bit alone r something, OH doesnt seem to think its any big a deal and hasnt offered to help me financially r anything, we dont share money just bills, and since ive been out of wor ive been down in money with no effect on him, , now il be down to about a third of my wages in future cos ive run out of work sick pay nad he just seems to think its no big deal. he doesnt seem to realise that i cant earn same money and its cos im baking our baby, its not just mine so why does all of it only affect me. he is goin about his life with no change whatsoever while i get it all turned upside down and in limbo. peed off!!!!!!!!!!
i dont mean to sound ungratefull of course im happy im preg and want it all to go well. but just peed off that im the only one in my house that it has any effect on

 

[lilesMom]

my scan is only nest thirs but im so tempted to get a privte one if i could sat, , i stil have htat dul ache in my tummy a lot of the time and im gettin paranoid cos t has been 3 weeks since last scan. im so tempted just to book it and go on my own and tell no one. i knwo htey would all just say , sure u only have a week left, why pay for one. havin a mini melt down again, feck it

 

[lilesMom]

im just gonna go back to bed and hope i get up in a better mood next time ha ha xxxxxxxxx

amy thinking of u sweetie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[TTCSecrets]

hey laurs, yeah getting ready for work sadly!

I know what u mean, your not being ungrateful! I dont blame u for feeling like that, when i get pg im gonna be shellin alot out for private scans etc just for peace of mind if anything to be honest

Bad oh for not realising you and your money worries! Have u tried speaking to him about it? me and my dh dont share money, i pay the bills he pays the rent and it averages out that he pays more, but because im reducing my hours at work because health and mentally wise i cant handle full time, luckily hes going to pay the shortfall so i still get how much i used to get on full time, you should speak to oh sweetie xxx

Yeah u go back to bed for a bit, ive been up since 7 but then realised i didnt have to be at work til 10 n i didnt dare go back to bed for an hour because i wouldnt get up! xxxxxxxx

 

[TTCSecrets]

my scan is only nest thirs but im so tempted to get a privte one if i could sat, , i stil have htat dul ache in my tummy a lot of the time and im gettin paranoid cos t has been 3 weeks since last scan. im so tempted just to book it and go on my own and tell no one. i knwo htey would all just say , sure u only have a week left, why pay for one. havin a mini melt down again, feck it

Yeah they would probably say oh you only have a week left why pay? But they ahvent been through what you have!! They dont realise you are going to worry continuously until the day that little bubba pops out of you crying its eyes out??

I know if it were me in your situation, i would book one and go on my own, just for peace of mind, f*** what anyone else thinks/would say, think about you and LO because apart from you,LO,and OH, nobody else matters , you just look after you xxxxxxxxx