ttc after a d&c

[jen435]

It took me almost six weeks til I had af after d&c. So don't be too alarmed its normal to go up to three months without af after it but most get there's sooner. You should have yours soon. Unless your trying then you could fall pregnant

Kaznib I am very sorry for your loss. it takes time to heal but it does happen. I hope your okay. I didn't test but Amy gave you great recommendations on what you can do to ease your mind if you need it. We ate here for you if you need us. You will have your rainbow baby and have a healthy lo please believe that!

Bethany couldn't agree more parenting section is going to be sooo exciting to be in offering great parent advice and ways to deal with late nighters and our baby concerns teething, fevers, crying, etc as well as all the milestones first coo, handgrip, crawl, etc looking forward to it within the year hopefully for all of us!!! I'm going to take that rainbow as a sign from your lil angel Bethany he/she is okay and telling you his/her bro/sis is coming

I must agree there is sooo much pma on this thread! Idk where I'd be without you ladies! I used to think af was the end of the world but now I look at it was a gift to be allowed to try again. Plus you ladies make it feel like everything's going to be okay! Our rainbow babies are coming!!! They have too!

 

[jen435]

Bethany as for your kitty. I understand your concerns. Dh and I leave Kobe alone for only a few hours a day and for vacation we have someone watch him for us at there house. Is there any kids in your area you trust that could maybe come over and feed him and give him company for a little each day? My mil has four cats and that's what we do for them. Wish I could watch him for you!

 

[Storked]

Jen I was actually looking up hotels where we can bring him with us. My husband is whiny of course because our cat will cry probably the whole 5 hours. But he won't be alone
I look at AF the same way now!
Our rainbow babies will be so amazing that they will fill our hearts with joy and sunshine. And when they do cry or are teething or not feeling well, we will be the most attentive of parents. How blessed we with both be eh? So much to cherish. I can't wait

It is a sign for all of us that our rainbow babies are around the corner

to everyone!

 

[Storked]

Oh Jen I also wanted to say that I am drinking grapefruit juice

 

[jen435]

I started drinking mine today too! 8oz in am and another in pm hoping for loads of ewcm this cycle (sry tmi) they say for some it can take a cycle or two but its worth a try and great to drink throughout whole cycle. Lmk if you see a change! Bfps coming our way hopefully!

 

[mommylov]

Fellow pet parents, what do you do when you need to go out of town for a couple of nights? DH thinks that our cat will be fine while we are gone but I worry about him not getting cuddled or any interaction. I can't leave him with family right now and no friends can watch him for me either.

We have left our boys for one night but more than that we find someone to watch them because they are little mischievous monkeys! One time we left them for two days at our apt and they managed to lock themselves in the bathroom. Luckily at the time the kitchen was being worked on so their food and litter were in there with them lol but this is why we can't leave them. If you think he will be ok and not get into trouble, then I say he'll be fine.

 

[mommylov]

Oh and the rainbow is a great sign!!! Xoxo

We were fortunate enough to find a kitty only boarding facility. Have you looked to see if there is anything like this around you? We had never boarded our boys before and thus place came recommended to us and they were cheaper than we thought they would be. https://www.thecathouse.info/

 

[aaronswoman79]

I have this fear that my cycle will never return. I only have 1 ovary, had the other one removed due to cysts that ruined it (this was all detected in my 32nd week of my last pregnancy). I am so scared that the other one I have left will no longer work! That is why I am so nervous. Tomorrow will be 4 weeks since my d&c. They never detected any cysts on my other ovary, but I still get worried. Then I start panicking thinking I might have scar tissue in my uterus from the d&c. I feel so paranoid about everything now. I hate living like this. Oh, and just a piece of advice. When all of you go on to have healthy pregnancy (because you will!) be careful if you are induced. I was induced during both labors of my daughters. With my second daughter I was given maximum dosages of pitocin for 25 hours straight, which caused massively painful contractions. I never knew the dangers of being given so much pitocin. My daughter was born with the cord wrapped so tightly around her neck, which we believe might have caused brain damage, and I had massive hemorrhaging right after she came out. I almost bled to death. Later on I found out that very high dosages of pitocin can cause both hemorrhaging and can cause the umbilical cord to wrap around babies neck. So just a piece of advice about being induced, when or if you induced have your husbands keep an eye on the pitocin drip, and always ask plenty of questions. My husband was very worried because he noticed they kept upping my dosage of pitocin in my iv, but kept telling them of his worries, but they kept brushing it off. After the face we found out that I was given way too much pitocin and for way too long. I just thought I would share that with all of you, in the case that any of you are ever induced.

 

[jen435]

Thank you for sharing that info with us. So glad u.and.dd.are okay! My goodness you have been through so much. Many hugs to you. Have faith af will.come.and.ur one ovary.will do its job so you can have your rainbow baby. I pray for you ladies every night and will.say.and extra prayer for you. Stay strong.

 

[jen435]

Bethany yay!! To bringing your baby with you i wish animals.could go everywhere!

 

[aaronswoman79]

Meeting all of you has been a Godsend. I can't really understand why, but I am only able to truly open up to all of you on here! I am such a private person in real life. I don't like to burden people with my problems, so I usually just swallow the pain. It's like I feel like I don't have the right to open up. I know this probably sounds weird. And also, words can't really explain the pain of a miscarriage. It is actually easier to type these feelings down. In real life I put up a smile and pretend everything is alright. I feel at times I have to do this because of my 2 younger daughters. All of your kind words really lift me up. And I really hope for the best for all of you. I hope one day when we all have our miracle babies we can all start a thread about motherhood, like you all were talking about. No more pain and heartache, just the joy of mothering our beautiful children.

 

[aaronswoman79]

And another thing. I have completely no idea how to track my fertility . I see all of you talking about it and I feel like such an ignorant. The only thing I know is that about 2 week after my cycle starts I am fertile, and that is how I knew I was pregnant this last time. Me and my husband have never used birth control, just the natural method, and it has worked. The only 2 times we had sex two weeks after my cycle started I got pregnant both times. I have no idea about basal body temps, and all the other lingo. I better read up, because something tells me that now that we are actually actively trying to conceive it is not going to come easy.

 

[jen435]

Hugs arronswomen thank you for your sweet words! We are glad you found our thread and able to help you! You help us too and we appreciate it! bbt confirms ovulation occured. You take your temperature after a full nights sleep before you even get out of bed in am to do anything. Trying to take it at the same time every day. Count down to pregnancy.com and fertility friend are great charting websites.and help you understand all the lingo.

I never took bc either was jut very very careful. 7 years with dh and no baby to show for after 14monthes then a loss now 4 cycles trying and nothing yet. You ladies keep me sane cant say i ever actually had complete sanity since i started and for that i thank you ladies!

Its beautiful today too bad i have two more days off work this.week. Then five days off to rest up to ovulate.i hope!!

 

[Storked]

Jen, I was so mad because DH made us go to bed before I finished my glass of grapefruit! I managed to get it all down though
I will keep drinking it- DH is ecstatic whenever I want to drink something besides soda so he will buy me a ton easily. Soda isn't even tempting anymore. I'd rather have a baby! All of our BFPs are around the corner, I just know it
Yay for ovulation!

Amy, my kitty has a whole bathroom to himself we used to put him in there at bedtime and he would sleep in his little bed but he likes to roam at night now. Not a problem so long as he doesn't antagonize DH when he is sleeping. He thinks he is laying on his side of the bed and will bug him in an effort to make him leave
And thanks for the link!

Aaronswoman, I have a friend who actually has to have an ovary removed when we were children and she has two kids right now so I think it will all be ok
I worried about scar tissue from D&C as well. They never did a follow up ultrasound on me to check things out so I worry about it.
Thanks for the info on induction. I really needed to know because I will always have to be induced
I too am actually very private. Especially over my loss. I can't even discuss my feelings with my spouse because he'll interrupt me and go "please tell me you aren't one of those people that will be saying years from now that that child would be 5 years old today?". Makes me feel awful. So this thread has been a blessing for me as well all of our miracles are just around the corner.
There is charting by taking your temp and there are also ovulation test strips. And checking your cervical mucus. Just find what works best for you. I had to stop with the charting because I haven't had regular sleep and I got a kidney infection from holding my pee for the OPKs. Cervical mucus is good but I haven't even done that this cycle. Silly to say but I think I got burned out already.

 

[mommylov]

Aaronsmom, I dont track my basal temp but I have used this free website for the past couple of years just to track ovulation and cycle and it has been dead on. Obv the longer you use, the more accurate it becomes but this is what I use: https://www.cyclespage.com/cgi-bin/show.cgi?sp=index I got pg on my first try..maybe it was pure luck but I did it a few days and during my "green days" from this thing!

 

[mommylov]

Bethany, I hear ya! We have two and one is more attached to me and the other dh. Its really strange but Im REALLY allergic to the one thats attached to my hubby (Leo). He would come in the bed with us and sleep right between us. Made it hard some nights to bd lol! My allergies got to the point where meds dont work so we have to close the bedroom doors at night. My little buddy would just sleep at my feet and I wasnt allergic to him btu Im sure he was like "Why do I have to go? Leo is the one that is all in your faces!" We felt so bad but eventually they got use to it and now they find places to sleep together. They have a nice big plush bed downstairs, a HUGE cat tree but we find them in the hallway together or on the couches all the time lol.

 

[Storked]

That is so cute Amy! My husband has been talking about us getting another cat but he always wants them as babies first and I am just not sure that Doyle will be friendly since he has practically reached adulthood already. Toms can be so mean :-/
Though now he is stuck on the idea of a hedgehog which I am totally ok with

 

[kaznib]

Thank you ladies for all your support and lovely comments it will be nice to share my experiences with all of you and hopefully one day share stories of our rainbow babies. I'm feeling a little bit better today, more positive

Have my follow up appointment in 2 weeks so waiting to see does anything come back from that to say why i may have miscarried x

what is this about grapefruit juice? does that work?

 

[mommylov]

Kaz, It depends on your dr. My dr didnt do any kind of testing because this was my first and I have no medical history of any abnormalities or medical issues in my family or my husband. She told me that *god forbid* this happens again, then we can look into starting some testing. During my follow up, they wanted to check to make sure everything was healing right and that there was nothing missed. Try not to stress hun, I know its easier said than done but it will all be ok. I was so stressed about the whole thing and even though I went through some difficult times after words, it was ok. Between asking my dr alot of questions when I saw her and the ladies here, all was well!

Bethany, I undertand your dh. We got Spaz first in Nov of 2007 and he was about 3 months old (Gray tabby) and then we got Leo in Jan of 2008 when he was 8 wks and even though they were young, they had a hard time adjusting. It was to the point where we had to have them in separate rooms all the time and move them around from room to room to get them familiar with each ones scent. It took about 3 weeks and they still had slips ups here and there but now they are closer than ever. We love that they have eachother and it doesnt make us feel so bad when we are out.

 

[jen435]

At work quickly read! Amy going to check out that link thank you! As for grapefruit juices increases fertility. it also produces more ewcm can take a few monthes to see it for some but others its happens sooner cant hurt and it has vit c.and its healthy tooo