ttc after a d&c

[aaronswoman79]

Oh one more thing my ob said today that you may find interesting. To minimize any chance of a miscarriage eat a lot of orange and yellow vegetables. They have beta-carotene in them that helps to correct imbalance in the hormones and keep the baby safe in the womb until it is time to come out.

Sorry I keep sharing info like this. Just thought since I'm seeing a nutritionist and my obgyn together I'd share somethings they told me about.

Great info Jen. I have never heard this, thank you so much. You learn something new everyday. Time to stock up on yellow veggies!

 

[Storked]

You know Jen I do think that all those fertility diets are high on the dairy too! I should get grapefruit juice. My hubby enjoys it and I am impatient for a BFP.
I just have one cousin with twins but it ran in her husband's family. Scratch that, two cousins. Still from spouses though but I would love twins.
I felt that I was going to have a girl. But I try to talk myself out of it because girls run in my family so I may just be feeling that way since girls are what I know.*
Oh and thinks for sharing about the orange and yellow vegetables! I know we all want to do what we can to get a healthy rainbow baby

Yay for Amy BD! I got pretty dang tired of that legs stuff too so I got some pre-seed lube and soft cups. I am a fan and may actually be converted to using menstrual cups for AF and not just TTC hehe!
I totally teared up over wanting to hear "mommy and daddy"! Me too. (sniffle)

Posey, how cool to be a twin! I wanted a twin when I was little until I realized I was too rotten to ever share anything
It is extremely natural to fear having another loss. I am scared because I have blood issues that raise the risk of it but I think just as great as the fear of another loss is..I am not sure that my husband would be willing to try again. He would push for adoption, which is great but I think can be an equally heart breaking journey. But I think it helps to just do all that you can to be healthy and know that the odds of you carrying a healthy baby to term are high. Even after multiples losses, odds are high for a healthy bean. I learned that from reading Coming to Term by Jon Cohen. Really good miscarriage book if you ever want to give it a read! I have hope for all of us

Aaronswoman, Utah makes me think of Mormons every time! My sister lives there and she is such a Molly hehe. Us Texan Mormons are much more laid back.
I can attest to baby aspirin helping with blood issues. I had a DVT once and I took baby aspirin and elevated that leg and it did wonders. Have they tested your blood for clotting disorders?
It is true that they aren't sure how it helps some women carry to term. My miscarriage book said that in a small study of pregnant women with my FVL and no APS who had miscarried at least 3 times or more, 2/3 miscarried again without intervention as opposed to a normal group of women who only had 1/3 lose their babies. The thing is, I never considered my blood thinners to be something that protected my baby- it was my own butt that I worried about. My sisters with my mutation have almost died from clots both during pregnancy and postpartum. But they never miscarried despite the increased risk. I often wonder why me? Sorry to ramble!

 

[lilesMom]

playing catch up again
bethany i dont want a totally natural birth but i def dont want an epidural, they can give me anything else ha ha after al thid i dont care if it induced , ceasarian or just me so long as it works out ok
i usde to think 2 kids but ive gone the opposite way to u bethany i just want one now, il never say never to more if its an option but i would be so gratefull for my precious one not saying u arent gratefull, i totally know u r and i wouldnt rule out more after , im just gonna try and go one step at atime.
my mom had 12 , she reckoned she was addicted to babies so u never know what will happen me once i have one. physhics before a few of htem told me i would have 7?????? i dont think so, i owuld really wanna start pumping um out ha ha

posey hi hon.
in answer to ur qs im trying for my first kiddie.
i had spotting at 7.5 weeks, very very slight. had agonising 3 weeks with a scan each week where they reckoned they couldnt see it all properly cos i have a tilted uterus and they werent sure if things were ok r not with my baba. 3rd scan they told me for sure i had lost lile
it was the worst day of my life, we had been trying since jan this yr and concieved on 3rd month in march, i was so ready to have her, i had thought it through so much. i miss her like crazy. but i know she is happy. i was so excited i was pregnant i told everyone. i had told all at work about 2 days before i had spotting, silly me. but if i hadnt i would have told them i mc anyway so its not too bad, at least most people knew an di didnt have to keep explaining.
i was so sure nothing would go wrong, i have a few people in my family including me who get real strong gut feelings and get messages that we r so sure r right and usually are, we all felt things were fine, but this time we were wrong. its weird though im startin to see a purpose in it all already which i think is pretty fast to come to terms with it , but having sadi that im shedding a few tears writing this
but srying isnt bad , its not the gut wrenching crying anymore , it softer and just a little sad rather than real hard pain.
sorry im wfflin a bit , i got a bit carried away but it felt good to get it out ha ha
this loss was horrible but it brought me all of ye, it brought way more empathy and understanding ( and i dont think i was awfull before ha ha ) and it gave me protectiona dn a friend for life in my lile xxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

i drink load so water anyway jen but i will try add grapefruit juice , im not mad about it but could mix it with cranberry cos doc told me go for cranberry all the time for kidneys. i am doin some stuff already, it takes a month to make an egg and im hoping i only have a month r less left to wait i hope my hopes wont be dashed this time but i get the feeling i could be trying soon i feel a LOT better xxx
im eating lots of fruit and veg and whole grains, ive lost some weight goin by my clothes, my scales r broken and i think i might leave it that way, i can obsess about the scales a bit so i think maybe im better off without it, i might lose loads first and then step on it and go wow ha ha
horseypants that bloody witch, she is a bi**h
would she feck off and leave my girls alone xxxxxxx
thanks for waiting for me, i have a feeling we wil all be close bump buddies, i so hope im right xxxxx
have any of ye have any knowledge of prmary bilairy cirrhosis, jen r u a nurse?
its what my doc is testing for at the mo, its really hard to get info on ttc and it. i may not have it but it doesnt hurt to check it out just in case and u never know when info comes in usefull, i like learning anyway xx

jen i agree on the one healthy baby in my arms ,i cant wait and u know what when it does work out and we have our babies some where down the line we need to meet up and show um off xxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

posey that is so nice that ur mom is looking after ur baby for u and they r both looking after u xxxxxxxxxxxxx
im so sorry u have been through so much, ur fears r totally normal chick, we all feel like that but the panic lessens a little with time. i know when i do get bfp il be s**t scared but i will try and enjoy it too, cos worry does nothing but bad for u so i try to avoid it as much as i can, i know easier said than done some times but i do try xxx
chin up babe it will get bettr and fx we wil lal have happy and healthy pregnancy next time xxxx

aaronswoman u r totally not alone chick, we feel ur pain, i know it can feel like no one understands it all properly , i dont think someone who hasnt gone through it can understand it all properly but try and allow them to give u some comfort if they r offering it, if not u have us xx and try not be too mad at um for being insensitive. some people dont know how to deal with us so they just ignore the situation r say something silly, they r only human and might be struggling with our obvious pain that they cant help. xxxx
my sis in law has 3 angels and 3 alive kids and every pregnancy that she took aspirin with went ok for her. so it def does something but she has probems with heamatoma too so thats prob why. but it took them a few pregnancys and 2 losses to find stuff out for her. im not sure if il take it r not, i dont have a medical reason to take it but if it doesnt do harm than why not. but it may do me harm with my liver so i prob wont take it

 

[Storked]

My scales are broken too Laura. I don't miss them! And you will be so grateful for you
LO that you will try to fulfill prophecy and have 7
My family told me that everything was fine too. They still insist on it and think I am a nutter to purchase anything for TTC. Ah well I still love the heck out of them
I am going to see if I can turn anything up on The liver stuff and TTC- I am ready for you to start trying again!
And hey, the hubby and I will eventually be living in Bangkok and he'll be earning more money. Bet we can cheaply fly, even with a baby, to Ireland PLAY DATE

 

[lilesMom]

bethany its only natural to think why me, i think like that sometimes too, i havent been able to do much last few yrs cos im always wrecked and sick but ive just learned to gratefull for the good patches as much as i can and to hope that they finally find a reason that might have asolution. im not at deaths door or anything but i seem to have crap immunity and get everything around and have lots of allergies as well.
i cant stay in othe rpeoples home cos all chemicals cause me to feel really dizzy and sick and blood drains fomr my sinuses down my throat and when i say chemicals i mean everyday thins like house hold cleaners , washing powder, bleaches, body lotions and loads of other stuff. its very very annoying but it is me and i just have to learnt to deal with it as best i can and have as much of alife as i can with it. sorry not trying to be depressing , the opposite in fact, we have to forget all d crap and focus on the good. it slike hte card i picked for jen , intention, what u focus on grows so i try my best to focus on the good xxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

oh bethany jumping for joy, hee hee, play date sounds great but we love thailand so we can visit u too for mangoe and pineapple play date ha ha

 

[Storked]

True! We could have ice cream on a hot dog bun eh? Sounds marvelous
We should be moved there by next November and then we could all go to Lop Buri for the monkey festival!

Aw I am sorry that everything affects you like that! I have always been the sickly one in my family. I have allergies (not severe like yours though hon), asthma, I get pneumonia pretty much every year, have had hearing loss since infancy- had to have 5 ear surgeries becausey ears don't drain correctly so even blowing my nose can lead to a stinking infection, that kind of deal. Oh and no gallbladder, had to be removed when I was 21. Aren't we a pair? but when it is all you know it is normal and just how you deal. And staying at people's homes in overrated. Yup!

 

[lilesMom]

laughing out loud, yup my house is lovely anyway ha ha
yeah it does get normal ish doesnt it
my af is like normal this time except less sore than it used to be score, i think lollys womb is ready for a baby

 

[Storked]

Sounds like it Laura! Lovely lining for a sticky baby!

My family is weirdly...well, not antisocial exactly but we are at home. We spend so much of the day being friendly and chatty and we come home and grunt and watch tv. When it was just the family at home you didn't have to put on a bra or pants or worry about holding a fart in. So we don't like to stay at people's homes or have them come to ours hehe. This used to bother me as a kid when I wanted friends over but I have kind of grown into my parents! When our doorbell rings unexpectedly now I run and hide anyways. Cracks my husband up because his family does the exact same thing (shakes head at silliness)

 

[Storked]

https://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/mobileart.asp?articlekey=1934&page=52

Does this help Laura?

 

[lilesMom]

yeah my mom and dad r real home bodies, i used to love haring off anywhere and everywhere but not anymore. im happier at home now but i love callers, callers i know well i mean,

 

[Storked]

I know what you mean! Though even the ones I know well had best warn me before dropping by

 

[lilesMom]

thanks chick, yeah i found similiar but i cant find if pregnancy will mess up my liver more if it is it, i dont think they have done much research on it, im gonna go for it soon regardless anyway and pray it works out ok, i havent read anything anywhere that says i cant im waiting now till antibs out of my system and i feel stronger and for blood test result and then we will see what happens after that , thanks chick x u da bomb x

 

[Posey]

Thank you again lovely ladies for your kind thoughts and words. Bethany, thank you for the book recomendation, I love to read so I just might have to pick that one up. Amy, awwww your sweet Lile, please don't apologize for rambling, you're right it absolutely helps to get-things-out. She is watching over you, now and always, . Aaronswoman, I started spotting (soooooo minor, it was dark brown and barely there) at 11.5 weeks, my midwife ordered me an ultrasound 'for my own sanity' basically because I worry so much about everything, and low-and-behold wee baby had been gone since 9wks4days. I think that's partly why I will worry so much when I conceive again, because baba was gone for 2 weeks before I had any symptom, and even then it was minor. I was fortunate enough to have a D&C the day after my U/S, at exactly 12 weeks. I can't imagine losing a little one as far along as you did, my heart is with you
AF should be on her way in the next few days for me, my temp went down a bit today. A hot bubble bath and a glass of wine will await Onwards and upwards. Happy Tuesday, everyone

 

[lilesMom]

me too ont he warning , i hate visitors without warning i could be wearing anything r nothing ha ha

 

[lilesMom]

i had virtually no bleeding either hon and thought i would be ok, so def natural to worry next time but i will try my best to ignore it
af now means great chance to try soon hon xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[mommylov]

Dh and I talked about three at first and now we say two but I'll take what I can get at this point. As far as birth, I'm a big baby and as much as I can't wait to have one, I don't want to remember the pain sonsn epidural is for me lol

 

[Storked]

Laura I think it will be ok, that article seemed hopeful

Posey, heck yes to the bubble bath! And maybe a sweet white wine I am a reader too and at first I avoided miscarriage books but had a bout of blues that I couldn't shake and purchased 3 of them and that one has been a favorite so far. I ordered it cheap from abebooks.

Yeah my MMC scared me because I was still suffering from morning sickness pretty much until my miscarriage/D&C. And my body just held on for so long. My sister had told me that she always started to lose the MMC at 12 weeks and it held true for me. But we just have to try and relax next time and send positive thoughts and feelings to our sweet babies