TTC after a loss: buddy's now pregnant

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That's great Kate!

 

[kgriffin]

hopeful - how arethose twins doing!!

nice avator future!

 

[DaisyBee]

Agree.. Love the avatar future!!

 

[hopeful23456]

Hi girls- love the avatar too future!
And so happy for your good scan Kate!

I was lurking yesterday but felt icky, not puking but just icky and I couldn't work. Feel better today though.

My uterus feels big, lol . I have an u/ s tomorrow and pray it goes well.

How you feeling daisy?

 

[DaisyBee]

Good luck on your ultrasound tomorrow, hopeful!

I'm feeling pretty good overall. Heartburn, pelvic pain, and lots of round ligament pain as I think my bump is growing lots this week. My belly button hurts a lot as well the past few days. I remember it being tender with Megan... But this is more of a shooting nerve pain right inside my belly button. But baby is moving lots! I don't think I will ever get used to the feeling. The other night we could see by belly move when baby was moving around! My uterus is way up past my belly button, like 1/2 way to my bb's. Don't remember it being this high up so soon with Megan but dr said I'm measuring 24 weeks when he got his tape measure out.

I can't believe none of you are as sick as I was!!! So unfair! Lol

So I'm pretty sure I know the answer... But any preferences in the group for boys or girls?

 

[futurephotos]

Hi girls! Thanks- I love my first pic of little bean too I'm surprised that at 7wks I was able to see the facial features a little bit. I'm really looking forward to whenever I get to have my next one because by then beany will look much more baby-like!

I'm really hoping for a girl, DH is hoping for a boy. Either way we'll be happy as long as it is healthy. I think they say that girls make you sicker though? I haven't had any vomiting either- just feeling queasy at times.

 

[hopeful23456]

https://pregnancy.familyeducation.com/first-trimester/7-weeks-2-days.html?detoured=1

I couldnt believe they look like they do at 7+2. .

 

[kgriffin]

im happy either way, dh thinks its a boy and i think its a girl, we are just hoping for a healthy baby like everyone else

Scans are soo nerve wracking but so unreal at the same time.

 

[futurephotos]

I had my first OB appt today. Lots of paperwork! My next u/s wont be until I'm 20 weeks- so that will be a long time to wait!

 

[hopeful23456]

hi girls! scan today went great, they are measuring right on track. so happy!

future- i have my first appt like that on Dec 28 but it's with my RE as she's also obgyn/high risk/multiple specialist and did my septum removal surgery. i hit the jackpot with her as i'm with her throughout, so lucky...did you have to determine if you want the extra scans and stuff to check for anything extra they don't routinely check for?

they went over the tests they do at diff stages at my appt too and were going to do the routine pap but i am waiting a month as nervous about my cervix getting irritated. i just had a pap last may so i think i'll be fine

 

[kgriffin]

wow great news to both of you

it will be a long wait future, mine is at 20 weeks too, so we can be impatient together!

 

[DaisyBee]

Glad your appts went well! My pap made me spot FYI... And I had a bit of light brown spotting after a few bms the 2 weeks following my pap. They said it was related. It was really hard not to freak out even though they said everything was fine.

I'll write more later... Megan wasn't to play a game

 

[kgriffin]

daisy i cant believe you are due in April, that seems so soon!

do you guys have any ideas for a nursery? Daisy, what does Megan's look like?

 

[DaisyBee]

I know! 112 days to go... And I was induced 21 days early with megan. Sooo.. If that happens again I've got less than 100 days left.

I'm so different during this pregnancy. We've only barely started thinking of names. We had megans picked out by 20 weeks. I haven't started thinking of most things( shopping, clothes, etc). We live in a split level and have 2 bedrooms up and 2 down. Right now Megan is on the same floor as us. She seems so young to move her downstairs by herself. So... We aren't doing a nursery for the baby yet. Figure baby will sleep in our room for at least a few months. ( Megan did for 10-11 weeks in her bassinet before we moved her to her room, and we only moved her so soon because she was such a light sleeper ( still is) and would wake whenever we would even roll over in bed.) we are hoping this baby can stay in with us a bit longer. And by then we should be able to figure out if the 2 girls can share ( if Megan can sleep ok since she is not a good sleeper and wakes at anything).
We moved house last Xmas. Megans room until then we painted light pink, and she has a dark brown ( espresso) crib and dresser, and we had pink and brown accessories. Her room now we just have colored polkadots and winnie the pooh sticker type things from target as we didn't want to paint or do any real decorating til we knew whose room it was going to be. It's been a year....and still dont know...

I miscarried a year ago today.... A year ago tomorrow is when we moved house. And yet today is v day.... 24 weeks. Been an emotional day for me.

 

[futurephotos]

They told me about all those tests and said I need to have a decision by next time (at 12 wks) - I could have told them right on the spot though that I'd be refusing them. I don't believe in the extra worry for something we can't do anything about anyways. I'll deal with whatever I've been given.

I had my pap last year around this same time and was expecting that it was going to be done this time- but Dr. wanted to wait till next appt for it instead, so that's fine.

 

[futurephotos]

Kate- you've already got almost a month on me though- so the wait wont feel as long for you (hopefully).

Daisy- that's tough because I'd want to keep everyone on the same level too while they're that young. Good idea about not decorating more permanently until you know for sure what you want to do with the room.

 

[kgriffin]

daisy - sorry to hear you are having such an emotional day, but v day is pretty huge news so congrats on that, stay positive. i wish i had some advice on the floor thing, i have no idea.

future - i can understand why you arent interested in all this other testing.

our news is that we have to see a genetic counsellor jan 3rd due to my dh's stillborn a few years back. i had to have him email his ex (who now has a healthy baby) to get some medical records, hopefuly she is cooperative, i think she will be, but you never k now. i know its very emotional for him, and im sure her too once she sees the email, the counsellor seems to think dh could carry some abnormal gene, its pretty scary to be honest, the stillbirth occured at 39+6, i cant even imagine making it that far i hope she sends everything and we can have some resolution

 

[DaisyBee]

Kate... Hopefully all is fine. It is scary but chances are that everything will be fine. I still worry about the cysts on my babies brain.... And think about the fact that I don't know 100% that she doesn't have a chromosome abnormality. I thought worrying about miscarriage was stressful.. Think this worry is almost worse. Part of me really wonders if we did the right thing deciding not to do amnio.... But I think I'm the only one worrying about it. Dh isn't at all. He wasn't thinking about the miscarriage a year ago either... Think it's different for him. It's easier for him to not think about it.... Where as I can't imagine not thinking about it. I don't constantly think of it... But certain times I think of it...

I agree about the testing and extra worry. It's why we chose not to do any of the earlier testing. It didn't even really enter my mind until we got our news about the cysts at our 18 week scan. Then I wondered if I should have gotten some testing. But like our decision about the amnio... Would we do anything with any info? No.... So not worth the risk just for my peace of mind.

 

[DaisyBee]

Happy 12 weeks Kate! Is your ticker the new date they gave you or the old one?

Seeing baby moving from the outside now! ( we would see a few before... But now it's quite a lot)

 

[kgriffin]

amazing daisy! my ticker is my old dates, im 11+4 though, so not too far off.

thank you ladies for all of your support.

His ex was extremely gracious, she said that the autopsy results showed her placenta broke, which i suppose she was referring to placenta abruption, and that her blood was not a match with the babies blood, and that is why the baby died, they classified this as a maternal to fetal bleed. She said it had nothing to do with the baby.

I suppose that is the best to come of a terrible situation. She was so generous to say that if we have a boy she would be happy to pass onto us the babies things if we have a boy. Sometimes people can really surprise you, and I have much more respect for her now than I have ever had.