TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[dancareoi]

Hi Ladies

Still stalking - but when you haven't commented for a while it's hard to dip your toe back in - well I'm dipping

Bash - Sorry you are still waiting hun - I reckon the witch will fly in at the weekend for you and then are you starting straight away? - I'm still waiting as well - but ordering some PMA for when the time comes

Josie - 14 days is great hun - wish mine was so reliable - mind you though who knows what will happen next month, wonder if my cycle will lengthen?

Cry - Hi hun and a belated welcome - so sorry for your losses - but as the other ladies have said we all understand where you are coming from BIG

Karen - Lovely pics hun well done for staying on team yellow although I have to say I think it's a - no I won't

Lisa/Oasis - How are you ladies doing? getting big now I imagine - maybe time for another bump pic - pwetty pwease

Left - Not long until your scan now hun - how are your symptoms hun

AFM - Not a lot to report - trying to keep busy just when I think I'm getting over it ( a little) something comes along and BAM I'm back in the hole - today was just because on television someone said I'm pregnant with a big beam on her face - I knew she was as I watchi the series but still ouch a punch in the gut

Did my test today still positive 2 weeks post DNC will test again next Wednesday



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Fiona, we all know that feeling, it's like 2 steps forward 1 step back, but ever so slowly you get there.

It's also the only time you want a Bfn too!

Sending lots of dust your way for when you try again .

Also sending lots to you other TTC ladies xx

 

[FindingKismet]

Hi there, I am 41 and TTC #1. We started a couple of years ago. I had surgery last summer to remove a huge fibroid. I chart the old-fashioned way on paper LOL.

I had a chemical pregnancy last cycle (my first BFP). Now I'm in the 2WW and going nuts! I'm on progesterone due to short luteal phases. My husband tested with low motility.

My mind is all over the place ... one minute I think everything is fine: I'm probably pregnant or I'll get pregnant soon and have a healthy full-term baby. The next minute I am terrified I'll have another chemical or a later loss.

 

[Driving280]

Hi all - Thanks so much for the warm welcome. You definitely give me hope, thanks. It is nice to see many of you pregnant here after going through losses.

 

[Driving280]

Driving...we are sorta in the same boat. Sorry for your CP...I was on a rollercoaster from the end of April until June 10th with being told I had a CP then, a vanishing twin, then "you're going to miscarry", then had a D&C to be told, nope "it's ectopic". I feel for you, truly I do. Now I'm waiting for my HCG to be zero. I was at 16 on Saturday. Starting to feel crampy and PMS is kicking in because I want to eat everything in sight. I figure within the next week AF arrives (please God). But my doc (who really isn't my doc anymore) said the same thing. The "good news" is that the egg and sperm met, that's a huge deal. At the time, I wanted to tell him to go you know where, but now I have to keep thinking positive thoughts. I'll be 40 in less than 2 months and my DH is going to be 49 later this year. If God wants us to have a baby, it will happen. (Remind me that after we try and I want to pee on a stick every day...LOL). Keep your chin up

Thanks so much! Wow, that is a real rollercoaster... much worse than mine this time.

 

[dancareoi]

Welcome kismet you are not alone, we have all had those feelings and as they say it is a real roller coaster of emotions.

You are in a great place here for support and encouragement xx

 

[Oasis717]

Welcome Kismet, it's perfectly natural to feel like that, after two losses one after the other it took til 20 weeks for me to even think I have a chance and I still worry! But you get there one day at a time xxxxxxx

 

[crysshae]

Welcome kismet. I'm so sorry for your loss. As the other ladies said, you are definitely having normal thoughts and emotions. I'm doing my best to try and keep the positive feelings at the forefront in my mind.

 

[FindingKismet]

Thank you for the welcome! dancareoi, oasis717, crysshae ... you brought tears to my eyes. Off to work! Feeling encouraged by sore boobs this morning 7dpo, but not wanting to get smug.

 

[josie1234]

Welcome Kismet to this fab thread. I have learnt so much from here and since taking B6 daily my LP has become longer which is great. Still ttc though and atm just waiting for AF which I feel is on its way. Sorry for your loss, I hope you find some comfort chatting to us all on here, all I can say is take one day at a time otherwise it will just get you down. Here's hoping for you hun, FX'd for you and lots of fairy dust

 

[bash73]

Driving...we are sorta in the same boat. Sorry for your CP...I was on a rollercoaster from the end of April until June 10th with being told I had a CP then, a vanishing twin, then "you're going to miscarry", then had a D&C to be told, nope "it's ectopic". I feel for you, truly I do. Now I'm waiting for my HCG to be zero. I was at 16 on Saturday. Starting to feel crampy and PMS is kicking in because I want to eat everything in sight. I figure within the next week AF arrives (please God). But my doc (who really isn't my doc anymore) said the same thing. The "good news" is that the egg and sperm met, that's a huge deal. At the time, I wanted to tell him to go you know where, but now I have to keep thinking positive thoughts. I'll be 40 in less than 2 months and my DH is going to be 49 later this year. If God wants us to have a baby, it will happen. (Remind me that after we try and I want to pee on a stick every day...LOL). Keep your chin up

Thanks so much! Wow, that is a real rollercoaster... much worse than mine this time.

Thanks but the worst part is still having to see the doctor. I can't wait for my last visit with him!!!

 

[bash73]

Welcome Kismet...we are all in this boat together.

I am praying that the reason why I can't seem to stop eating is "PMS". It's out of control. I eat and 2 seconds later I feel like I'm starving. Thank God, I workout 1-2x a day otherwise I'd be a blimp. It's 9am in NY and I just ate eggplant parm. Not one piece but 2 and now I want chocolate....Salty and Sweet. It's been so long since PMS I'm not sure what this is. I know I'm not prego since my HCG is dropping (not that it would be possible) plus when I was prego I didn't want to eat certain foods. Anywho...enough babbling, until my neck lab test. Have a great day ladies!

 

[Left wonderin]

Well ladies the big day has arrived and I am TERRIFIED ! I have to go in for my early scan in 2 hours , I should be 8+3 today ( first time I've actually written that down or admitted it ! ) I've been in denial I think too afraid to even hope , god I'm tearing up now what am I like !!!!! I'm so so afraid that they will not see a heartbeat and it will be like last time I will be devastated So I'm guessing that ill just have to take a BIG BREATH and get on with it . Leaving for the hospital in 30 mins ............ Wish me luck and if you believe in a GOD I'd welcome any prayers xxxxxxx

 

[garfie]

Left - BIG breath hun you will be fine - 8+3 wow that has soon come round

I'm not really a believer - but I send you lots and lots of LOVE

Enjoy



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[Left wonderin]

Thanks Garfie it means a lot xxxxxxx ill keep ya all posted

 

[bash73]

prayers coming your way left wondering!!!

 

[crysshae]

Sending prayers, leftwondering, and I hope you get to cry tears of JOY at your scan!

 

[Creative]

Wish me luck and if you believe in a GOD I'd welcome any prayers xxxxxxx

Prayers coming your way!

 

[josie1234]

Good luck hunny, prayers for you xxxxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Regina, sending lots of prayers your way, really hope a went well xx

 

[Left wonderin]

Well ladies THANKYOU SO SO much for your prayers as the paid off

My bean measured 9w four days ahead of my calculated 8+3 . Had a really strong heartbeat and everything looked just perfect I'm so so happy , there were most definitely tears of absolute Joy ( at one point I think they were going to send for the men in the white coats I was crying so hard ! ) the midwife had to ask me to stop,so she could take measurements .

By far the best bit was seeing the heart beating and hearing it , the most comforting sound I've ever heard So far my journey towards motherhood has been filled with pain , struggle , heartache and fear and at times desperation but the briefest of time hearing the heartbeat has made it so worth it

Still a long way to go but today I am hopeful and so very very thankful