TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Creative]

I think I am due tomorrow. I took another test today and Got a BFN, so I don't think I can be pregnant.
I'm like you all and putting a lot of stress on myself.
I have never tried to get pregnant before. The others have just happened and we always used condoms, so I always thought I must be fairly fertile to get caught 5 times.
Now I am acutely concious of my body and cm etc and have copious amounts of BD around the time of O so why not?

Roll on AF, I want another go.

 

[dancareoi]

I think I am due tomorrow. I took another test today and Got a BFN, so I don't think I can be pregnant.
I'm like you all and putting a lot of stress on myself.
I have never tried to get pregnant before. The others have just happened and we always used condoms, so I always thought I must be fairly fertile to get caught 5 times.
Now I am acutely concious of my body and cm etc and have copious amounts of BD around the time of O so why not?

Roll on AF, I want another go.

I always thought we were fairly fertile too.

PG 1 Age 30 - TTC # 1 - not aware of CM, OV date or anything - PG straight away.
PG 2 Age 33 - TTC # 2 - not aware of CM or OV initially - after 4 months i looked into why it was taking so long and found out about EWCM and OPK - first month using this method - PG.

PG 3 Age 37 - TTC # 3 - OPK - PG first month (mmc 8 weeks)
PG 4 Age 38 - TTC # 3 - OPK - PG first time

PG5 Age 40 - Accident - mmc 17 weeks

PG 6 - Age 40 - two cycles and no luck - using EWCM and OPK.

This has come as a real shock to me as iu assumed once again it would happen first time, so at the moment i don`t really know how to cope with the let down.

Also my body is playing tricks - my LP has been 10 days for ages but this month seems to have increased to 11 days, which i know is better.

I felt different this month to last month and had cramping all last week end so thought that was implantation. i have also had two temp rises since OV and my temp is still high.

Slight discharge yesterday and then nothing till this morning - then nothing til this afternoon - did another HPK to make sure and still BFN.

AF is def on way now, I just wish it would hurry up.

I really need to try and chill out and relax and try not to get upset as that, I know, won`t help.

i think i will treat myself to a curry tonight and then sit down to watch the footie (i love football!!)

Oh well onto next month - third time lucky??????

FX for everyone else still in TWW - CD 1 for me.

 

[Creative]

I'm out too
CD1 for me.
Got a fearsome migraine to go with it.

 

[dancareoi]

I'm out too
CD1 for me.
Got a fearsome migraine to go with it.

We are cycle buddies - 1 day between us - at least you can take some powerful pain killers!

My temps have told me something this time - my temp rose the day AF started and have dropped now today, the day after AF, so i can`t rely on this methid each month to know if i am PG - it is only good for seeing when OV!

FX we both do it next time round.

Tell me if i am being daft - when we have tried before I have only ever taken folic acid - this time, since feb, i have been taking pregnacare pre-conception tablets, thinking they sounded good, especially as i am now a bit older.

I keep thinking this is the only thing (aprt from my age) that is different to the other times - could these be effecting me or i am i being stupid?

i was wandering whether to just go back to folic acid only and see what happens - any thoughts?

 

[Creative]

I've ponly been taking folic acid rather than multi vitamins and I am no worse off than you so make of that what you will.
Nice to all be cycle buddies again.
hope that we all get lucky next go.

 

[Dawn2411]

Hi all, 5dpo for me. Had a nice vacation in vegas with dh and got in lots of bding and realaxing so hopefuly we caught that eggie lol. Hope every one is doing well

 

[Xanth]

I'm out too
CD1 for me.
Got a fearsome migraine to go with it.

Sorry to hear that

I'm out too
CD1 for me.
Got a fearsome migraine to go with it.

We are cycle buddies - 1 day between us - at least you can take some powerful pain killers!

My temps have told me something this time - my temp rose the day AF started and have dropped now today, the day after AF, so i can`t rely on this methid each month to know if i am PG - it is only good for seeing when OV!

FX we both do it next time round.

Tell me if i am being daft - when we have tried before I have only ever taken folic acid - this time, since feb, i have been taking pregnacare pre-conception tablets, thinking they sounded good, especially as i am now a bit older.

I keep thinking this is the only thing (aprt from my age) that is different to the other times - could these be effecting me or i am i being stupid?

i was wandering whether to just go back to folic acid only and see what happens - any thoughts?

I'm not sure about the pregnacare. I've heard really good things about it. If you think it's making a difference, go back to the folic acid for this cycle and see what happens

Hi all, 5dpo for me. Had a nice vacation in vegas with dh and got in lots of bding and realaxing so hopefuly we caught that eggie lol. Hope every one is doing well

Fingers crossed for you

Well I'm still confused over my IC's. Could be positive or could be evaps lol. I suppose I'll just have to wait and see

 

[dancareoi]

I think I`ll stay on it for now.

i`m trying to tell my self the last two months haven`t been right!!!

Month 1 I was so stressed thinking i wasn`t OV and thinking i had got EWCM when i hadnt that we ended up doing so much BD, that when it really mattered we were bith so tired that we couldn`t really be bothered!!!!

month 2 - had pos surge on the sat, day we came off hol so too tired to DTD. DTD sunday but hadn`t in a good while due to hol and sharing with kids, so old spermies in there, which i understand don`t really do the job!!

Then DTD next morning, so not enough time for good spermies to get in and DTD again the mon night, so same problem, then DTD again Tue night, but i think that was too late!!!

So this month - no excuses!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dawn2411 - your break should have relaxed you nicely, so FX for you.

XANTH - post us a picture, let us try and line spot for you!!!

 

[Xanth]

Think it's a BFN

This is how they've looked the past couple of days



Todays

 

[dancareoi]

Think it's a BFN

This is how they've looked the past couple of days

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Todays

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Don`t think I see anything - not quite sure - how many DPO are you now?

i have had the headache from hell today - I always used to get headaches with my AF but don`t recall having one since my MC in Jan, this is the first one.

I am hoping it is a good sign that my hormones are back to normal!

You should see my FF chart as well - last month showed 2 rises!! Yesterday my temp dropped down to 36.3 this morning it was 37.5!!! Hope I`m not coming down with anything!!

Also does anyone have any tips on the right number of times to DTD? this time i don`t think was quite right. in the past we have DTD from day of EWCM to day after OV and that has always worked, but I have read other things that say every other day is better for sperm count - what does everyone think?

I think this month we will try my ususal method and if that doesn`t work, next month every other day and if that doesn`t work I`ll go back to Folic Acid only - that`s my plane for next 3 months and if that fails I`m going to see the doctor!!!!

Any advice will be appreciated.

 

[Dawn2411]

Xanth, I swear i see a line on all of the top set of tests fx'd for you! Dancareoi, I would bd every other day because the spermies need time to replenish themselves. I didn't follow this stratagy this mo. though lol.

 

[Xanth]

I'd go with every other day as well

 

[Madeline]

hi ladies

I started acupuncture about a month ago and I think it has really helped me alot I also take chinese herbs as part of that treatment. Have any of you tried it before? I started it because it has been established that it stimulates the production of new blood vessels.

babydust


madeline xxx

 

[Creative]

Don't really know have this post is going to turn out. I just have to share it somewhere.
I'm a moderator on another forum and one of the other mods has just had her baby this morning. I am so happpy for her, it's been a long time and very difficult journey for her. whilst feeling incredibly happy, I'm also feeling very sad. I've seen her baby photos and he's beautiful. Gosh I wish I could have a cuddle of him.
We discovered that the baby had been born because a non mod on the forum pm'd some of the mods. She didn't pm me. normally she would have contacted me first. She knows about the mc and now I am feeling as though maybe I shouldn't be part of things.
I don''t feel like I imagined I would. I just want my own baby

 

[Desperado167]

Don't really know have this post is going to turn out. I just have to share it somewhere.
I'm a moderator on another forum and one of the other mods has just had her baby this morning. I am so happpy for her, it's been a long time and very difficult journey for her. whilst feeling incredibly happy, I'm also feeling very sad. I've seen her baby photos and he's beautiful. Gosh I wish I could have a cuddle of him.
We discovered that the baby had been born because a non mod on the forum pm'd some of the mods. She didn't pm me. normally she would have contacted me first. She knows about the mc and now I am feeling as though maybe I shouldn't be part of things.
I don''t feel like I imagined I would. I just want my own baby

Firstly i want to say how sorry i am for your loss And I hope you get your sticky bean soon ,I found myself in this situation a lot after my own losses ,other people around me getting pregnant and me being the last to know ,I guess people don't know how to cope and they feel like they are protecting us from any more hurt ,I am truly sorry you feel so sad and I hope you feel better soon and one day you get to hold your own l.o .lots of love and hugs Tracey

 

[dancareoi]

Hi all,

Madeline, nice to hear from you, you have been a little quiet, so glad to know you are doing ok. I haven`t tried anything herbal or anything that involves needles! I`ll just see how things go for the moment.

Creative - -hope you are doing ok - i don`t think people really know what to say to us.

We found out last week that my DH cousin and his wife are expecting their first baby and she is 5 months PG. We only found out because my niece told my daughter and we also found out that she is having a boy - my SIL didn`t realise we didn`t know!

i think my MIL kept it from us because she didn`t want to upset us, but in a way I`d rather we`d just been told. It`s hard but i suppose life goes on!!

XANTH - any more POAS today?

I`m going to go with the advice given and DTD every other day - haven`t told DH yet, but I think DTD day of EWCM - then 2 days after this i get pos OPK so DTD then as well and again 2 days later on day of OV and just hope that does the trick this month!!!

 

[lilblossom]

I am kind of giving every other day a try but we shall see...I rarely say no to hubby so if he is feeling frisky tonight...haha other wise it will be in the morning.

 

[Madeline]

hi dancareoi

I have been popping in and reading about how everyone is going I am glad everyone is hanging in there

I would highly recommend acupuncture. I know theres lots of alternative stuff out there and it all seems the same but there is clear scientific evidence that acupuncture assists in improving the uterine environment and more recently modern medicine which appears to know very little about the uterine environment is coming to terms with the idea that the quality of eggs is not determined by age but the environment they mature in. I only mention it because I have an aversion to needles but decided I couldn't ignore acupuncture a month ago and the day before yesterday I got my BFP on 11-12DPO ( a really dark line which came up straight away) and I really think acupuncture had a role in that. I definitely recommend it anyway

Madeline xxx

 

[dancareoi]

hi dancareoi

I have been popping in and reading about how everyone is going I am glad everyone is hanging in there

I would highly recommend acupuncture. I know theres lots of alternative stuff out there and it all seems the same but there is clear scientific evidence that acupuncture assists in improving the uterine environment and more recently modern medicine which appears to know very little about the uterine environment is coming to terms with the idea that the quality of eggs is not determined by age but the environment they mature in. I only mention it because I have an aversion to needles but decided I couldn't ignore acupuncture a month ago and the day before yesterday I got my BFP on 11-12DPO ( a really dark line which came up straight away) and I really think acupuncture had a role in that. I definitely recommend it anyway

Madeline xxx

Congratulations - sending you lots of hugs

That is really interesting about the acupuncture - if I don`t have any luck over the next couple of months I might look into it.

Once again

 

[Madeline]

thks Dancareoi I hope you give it a go good luck this month xxxx

Madeline xxx