TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Xanth]

CD1 today

At least I have a normal LP now. Hubby wants a break for a month. I'm not so sure.

 

[dancareoi]

CD1 today

At least I have a normal LP now. Hubby wants a break for a month. I'm not so sure.

- sorry the witch got you - my LP has been 10 days for a long time (even when I had my third) but last month it seemed to go to 11 days!!

Sorry you are CD1 again, I am now CD7 and counting down.

I can understand why your hubby wants a break, it can get a bit clinicla can`t it? Me and my hubby were talking yesterday and we`re going to try and have a bit more fun!!! Rather than DTD when it needs to be done, try a little more often when it doesn`t need to be done - if you know what i mean.

We are going to try and relax a little and see what happens. I`ve also said we will DTD every other day this time, rather than every day, which we have done before, because that too seems so clinical!!!

We briefly spoke about how long we will keep trying, i said at the moment i have no intention at all at giving up - he has said than unless I say otherwise, he will assume we will keep trying, he will leave it in my hands.

only had 2 cycles, so early days yet, I`ll be 41 at the end of August so i think i have a bit more time in me yet, we`ll just see what happens.

 

[Madeline]

hi xanth sorry AF got you ...maybe you could both go away for a night and make it fun xxx

hi dancareoi my partner and i decided the same thing and this cycle i picked him up from work i the middle of the day for quickies lol much more fun

baby dust for everyone xxx

 

[Creative]

sorry af came.

It does get rather clinical doesn't it. even in the throws, i'm thinking now where is that cushion, how long shall I balance precariously afterwards etc. It is a bit of a passion killer.

 

[dancareoi]

sorry af came.

It does get rather clinical doesn't it. even in the throws, i'm thinking now where is that cushion, how long shall I balance precariously afterwards etc. It is a bit of a passion killer.

I know what you mean - same thoughts here - make sure he`s on top, where`s the cushion, how long am i going to lie still for with legs in air!!!!!!!

My DH was asking for me for ideas how to spice it up a little!!! - I have no idea, but with 3 kids already it`s a bit difficult to get too spicy!!!!!!

i have just bought myself a rainforest CD off ebay this morning and there is also a deep meditation cd with it too, I`m going to try and listen to them when I get a chance, may be have a bath one night with some candles etc - try and really relax myself and release all the stresses!!!

 

[Creative]

sorry af came.

It does get rather clinical doesn't it. even in the throws, i'm thinking now where is that cushion, how long shall I balance precariously afterwards etc. It is a bit of a passion killer.

I know what you mean - same thoughts here - make sure he`s on top, where`s the cushion, how long am i going to lie still for with legs in air!!!!!!!

!

If I get much older, the legs in the air can just rest on me zimmer frame!

 

[Xanth]

CD1 today

At least I have a normal LP now. Hubby wants a break for a month. I'm not so sure.

- sorry the witch got you - my LP has been 10 days for a long time (even when I had my third) but last month it seemed to go to 11 days!!

Sorry you are CD1 again, I am now CD7 and counting down.

I can understand why your hubby wants a break, it can get a bit clinicla can`t it? Me and my hubby were talking yesterday and we`re going to try and have a bit more fun!!! Rather than DTD when it needs to be done, try a little more often when it doesn`t need to be done - if you know what i mean.

We are going to try and relax a little and see what happens. I`ve also said we will DTD every other day this time, rather than every day, which we have done before, because that too seems so clinical!!!

We briefly spoke about how long we will keep trying, i said at the moment i have no intention at all at giving up - he has said than unless I say otherwise, he will assume we will keep trying, he will leave it in my hands.

only had 2 cycles, so early days yet, I`ll be 41 at the end of August so i think i have a bit more time in me yet, we`ll just see what happens.

It does. I'm thinking of just NTNP and when he wants to rather than when I say we should. He hasn't got a clue about ovulation etc, so I think it's a good compromise. He'll agree to whatever I say, but I think he thinks it's sending me a bit mad (he's half right lol). He also says it will give the medication etc time to work.

hi xanth sorry AF got you ...maybe you could both go away for a night and make it fun xxx

hi dancareoi my partner and i decided the same thing and this cycle i picked him up from work i the middle of the day for quickies lol much more fun

baby dust for everyone xxx

Lol there's no chance of quickies in the middle of the day here. This house is like a bus station, with people coming and going all the time

sorry af came.

It does get rather clinical doesn't it. even in the throws, i'm thinking now where is that cushion, how long shall I balance precariously afterwards etc. It is a bit of a passion killer.

sorry af came.

It does get rather clinical doesn't it. even in the throws, i'm thinking now where is that cushion, how long shall I balance precariously afterwards etc. It is a bit of a passion killer.

I know what you mean - same thoughts here - make sure he`s on top, where`s the cushion, how long am i going to lie still for with legs in air!!!!!!!

!

If I get much older, the legs in the air can just rest on me zimmer frame!

That made me

 

[lilblossom]

Well a lot here to comment on. First Zanath, so sorry for your af showing up. And if your oh wants to take a month off then ntnp is great idea...take some pressure off both of you and maybe that will happen for you.

As for spicing things up to make it more fun, role playing is always a winner. In fact I think since I am ovulating in next couple days and in my 'fertile' period I am gonna break out my 'hooker' heels my hubby likes and put a fun outfit on and give him a lap dance. Last time we did that it worked into a very fun night haha. Another thing to try is massage. Just be careful where the massage oil gets since it probably wouldn't be sperm friendly.

And I agree with bding when its not a fertile time as well so that it doesn't take the clinical out of your bedroom.

As I said, I should be ovulating soon. My opk from this morning is more than halfway there. Twice as dark as yesterday. May have a positive tomorrow or Sunday so definitely in full ttc mode now. I am going to see Magic Mike today so he is definitely gonna get lucky tonight.

 

[Xanth]

Well a lot here to comment on. First Zanath, so sorry for your af showing up. And if your oh wants to take a month off then ntnp is great idea...take some pressure off both of you and maybe that will happen for you.

As for spicing things up to make it more fun, role playing is always a winner. In fact I think since I am ovulating in next couple days and in my 'fertile' period I am gonna break out my 'hooker' heels my hubby likes and put a fun outfit on and give him a lap dance. Last time we did that it worked into a very fun night haha. Another thing to try is massage. Just be careful where the massage oil gets since it probably wouldn't be sperm friendly.

And I agree with bding when its not a fertile time as well so that it doesn't take the clinical out of your bedroom.

As I said, I should be ovulating soon. My opk from this morning is more than halfway there. Twice as dark as yesterday. May have a positive tomorrow or Sunday so definitely in full ttc mode now. I am going to see Magic Mike today so he is definitely gonna get lucky tonight.

I'd never even thought that about the massage oil.

Hope you ovulate soon

 

[Desperado167]

Xanth ,sorry for cd1 ,same here ,Really pissed as my chart was looking so different ,am going back to the cbfm for three months then ntnp ,

 

[Xanth]

Xanth ,sorry for cd1 ,same here ,Really pissed as my chart was looking so different ,am going back to the cbfm for three months then ntnp ,

Same here. Our charts just like to look pretty to fool us

Here's to trying again

 

[Creative]

whats cbfm? yes i could go and look it up, but I am tooooooo lazy!

 

[lilblossom]

whats cbfm? yes i could go and look it up, but I am tooooooo lazy!

clear blue fertility monitor I believe... Heading off to bed...would try to bd but hubby is tired and sleeping already and I have to be back at work in 8 hours. Hell week for me has started. I will try to pop in when I can but you may not see many posts from me this week. baby dust to all.. Night night

 

[Desperado167]

whats cbfm? yes i could go and look it up, but I am tooooooo lazy!

Hi ,yes a cbfm is a clear blue fertility monitor ,I used it last year and got a bfp after a few months ,it tests your urine every day and gives u highs lows and peaks days to bd on ,hope it works ,slowly running out of hope here

 

[dancareoi]

Trying not to worry about it this month and see what happens - I think i will OV at the end of this week.

On a different note, the olympic torch came through our village today, right past our house. It came through at about 9.15am, but people starting arriving at 7.00am!! never seen so many people.

It was good fun and a great atmosphere - into our house after for bacon and sausage butties, followed by a trip to the pub next door at 10.30am to join in the fun there!!

Pity it wasn`t a bit later, but it was all good fun!!!

 

[Madeline]

Dacareoi that sounds great you guys myst b so excited Its not long now...FX for you

Madeline xxx

 

[Xanth]

What's happening with everyone?

I thought I'd accidentally unsubscribed from this thread

 

[lilblossom]

I think we all were just being kind of quiet this cycle. I am having lots of promising symptoms but have had cycles before where I got lots of symptoms and nothing. I also had a nice temp jump today. All that said I decided this is the last cycle we are going to actively try. Not ordering anymore opks, probably won't even chart anymore but will see if I can give it all up cold turkey haha. This is the last shot at a bfp before the due date and we gave it a good 6 months of trying...Its just too hard to take every month so think we should just live life normally. All that said I really think there is a good chance we are pregnant. Even had some pink spotting on Sunday night.

 

[Xanth]

I think we all were just being kind of quiet this cycle. I am having lots of promising symptoms but have had cycles before where I got lots of symptoms and nothing. I also had a nice temp jump today. All that said I decided this is the last cycle we are going to actively try. Not ordering anymore opks, probably won't even chart anymore but will see if I can give it all up cold turkey haha. This is the last shot at a bfp before the due date and we gave it a good 6 months of trying...Its just too hard to take every month so think we should just live life normally. All that said I really think there is a good chance we are pregnant. Even had some pink spotting on Sunday night.

I passed my due date last Wednesday.

I've got my fingers crossed for you. I know what you mean about trying to just live life normally.

 

[Creative]

how did it feel getting to your due dates? I am pretty worried about getting to mine.
I only managed a couple of BD over the ovulation period. now I'm on the TTW and I know it's going to be a long wait. I have no sticks at home so won't be tempted to pee on them before the 22nd. I also have a wedding that day so I'm hoping I am going to be a happy girl then.
I've got a lot of work in at the moment and have also got the orders of service to collate and make before then, I've a couple of public speaking events and the farmers market to do this weekend so i'll be pretty busy.