TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[crysshae]

I hope you get relief from the pain soon, Lisa. Glad you and little one slept well. My oldest daughter did something similar to me. She would sleep all night and try to sleep for 8 hours at a time during the day. I had to set my alarm and wake her up those first weeks, and she didn't even want to wake up then. It would take forever to get her going. She was a very peaceful, content baby. Good luck getting her more interested in eating. Have you decided on a name yet? 18 days is a long time in the hospital. I bet you'll be glad to get back home.

Jo - Yay for your OH being home. I hope that huge temp dip on your chart means ovulation! Sounds like your buggyfit class is really taking off - great job!

 

[Oasis717]

That temp drop could mean the big o Jo! So oh will be home right on time I hope so xxxx

 

[josie1234]

Aw thanks ladies, yes I was surprised at the dip this morning but fingers crossed.

 

[josie1234]

Thanks Crystal, it is good that Buggyfit is picking up. Keeping an eye on your temp, see how long your cycle is this month. FX for you hun, sending positive vibes your way. PMA XX

This TWW is a pain eh? Time just can't go quick enough. My cycles are different so if my LP is going to be 13 days and I am ov now then I've still got a bit of time to wait. Only time will tell and if its not this month then it will be soon.

 

[crysshae]

Thank you, Jo! Sending positive vibes to you too!

Yes, both of the TWWs are annoying. Waiting to O can be almost as agonizing as waiting for a BFP. However, this last couple cycles I haven't had to wait long on O for some reason.

 

[dancareoi]

Jo your chart this month is confusing. Today can't really be OV as negative OPK , based on previous positive OPK could today's dip be implantTion?

 

[josie1234]

Crystal, at least you know you have ov. My chart seems to confuse me every month. I don't know Lisa? Yet again, I am mystified. I know one thing.....I am one moody b**ch today. Happy earlier and now just had a go at OH.

It's hard as you want to make most of the time you have but I have classes on and work to do and cos he has driven up from his night shift, he is knackered. I woke him up at 3 and then he says I should have woken him up, grrrr. Ok, Jo, chill

 

[josie1234]

I had a faint second line today on opk. No digi s left.

 

[garfie]

Lisa - Every day the pain will get easier - just remember no sneezing, laughing, coughing etc

It is all worth it though - when you see your little one laying beside you

When it happens for me (do you like the PMA?) I will be having a section as well

Josie - It does look like O has taken place - looking at the dip, but your chart is very confusing this month will have to see what the next few days bring maybe you caught the tail end of O when you tested?

Cry - Good luck hun - I seem to have got longer in the O department maybe my body is still screwed up from DNC?

Oasis - How are you feeling - you are going to be the fittest mama with all that walking, I'm sure that's why I have a fat a~~ now nothing at all to do with m/c it's because I don't do the school run anymore

Left - How are you today - are you due any more scans, why is my memory like a sieve these days

AFM - I have had a days work in the family business and I loved it I felt like a person again, it was nice to look smart and be posh oh yes and I tested - BFN - still not out yet though so keeping up with the PMA (until she shows) not sure at all about this cycle as I haven't temped hope I have at least managed to Ovulate



X

 

[Oasis717]

Hi Fi, loving the pma!! You know you can do it Hun, you will do it. It will be all you ladies turn soon enough I can't wait I've had to stay indoors today the heat is wiping me out, I can't stand this humidity it's supposed to cool down tomorrow and I'm so hoping it does. Dh, his mum and dd 12 and ds 4 are going to Chessington on Sunday and I e just about managed to persuade dh to still go as he's worried about me on my own but I think Brooklyns staying put for a bit yet although the lightening pains in my cervix are so much worse this week so his head must have come down some more. I've also put on another 3 lb making 18 lbs now but I'm not going to get depressed over it. I'm eating well and walking and if its still going on there's not much I can do lol xxx

 

[crysshae]

I hope your chart makes more sense to you soon, Jo!

Great PMA, Fiona. Thank you for the good wishes! I wish you luck too! My cycle has been strange since the MC too. My charts show I am ovulating, but the length of either phase has not been my norm the last couple cycles.

 

[Creative]

Over the year we were trying for this baby following my MC, my cycles just got longer and longer and I kept thinking maybe it was the menopause. I gave up with the sticks and the confussion they gave to me plus the pressure and eventually it just happened.

 

[Oasis717]

It's funny isn't it sometimes when you stop trying is when it happens I know a lot of people bd every other day but for me and dh it really was a case of more is better and that's what worked for us the three times since Casey I've fallenxxx

 

[Creative]

We began to get so that it was a real chore to BD!! I'm not sure how it happened in the end because we were both looking for excuses not to do it and In my heart of hearts I'd given up completely. I guess it was literally taking of the pressure for us.

 

[dancareoi]

It's funny isn't it sometimes when you stop trying is when it happens I know a lot of people bd every other day but for me and dh it really was a case of more is better and that's what worked for us the three times since Casey I've fallenxxx

Becks, as we've said before, your DH has a good few years on ours. Probably a bit more stamina and perkier swimmers than our older other halves!

Afm - thought pain felt better this Morning so went for paracetemol only, thinking that if going home tomorrow I need painkillers I can use at home.

Boy was so wrong, the pain this afternoon was so unbearable I couldn't move at all. Managed to call midwife and got more morphine as well as ibuprofen. Has taken the edge off the pain but has made me so tired

I really don't know how I am going to manage this pain at home!

On a brighter note my milk has come in and has leaked all over my nightshirt! Have changed nightshirt and put nursing bra on.

Baby liked it though, a good 1/2 feed earlier and now asleep . I could now sleep standing on my head I'm that tired today!

 

[Creative]

Becks, as we've said before, your DH has a good few years on ours. Probably a bit more stamina and perkier swimmers than our older other halves!

yep! my Oh is 52!

Afm - thought pain felt better this Morning so went for paracetemol only, thinking that if going home tomorrow I need painkillers I can use at home.

Boy was so wrong, the pain this afternoon was so unbearable I couldn't move at all. Managed to call midwife and got more morphine as well as ibuprofen. Has taken the edge off the pain but has made me so tired

it's a major operation and it's not surprising you are in pain. There is a lot of healing for your body to do. When I did my Obstetrics rotation when I was nursing post CS stay was 5 to 7 days!!

I really don't know how I am going to manage this pain at home!

Do as little as possible and let your body heal (easier said than done though!)

On a brighter note my milk has come in and has leaked all over my nightshirt! Have changed nightshirt and put nursing bra on.

Baby liked it though, a good 1/2 feed earlier and now asleep . I could now sleep standing on my head I'm that tired today!

can't wait to BF again!!

 

[Oasis717]

Oh Lisa I am sorry you're in so much pain! How awful I hope they can give you some decent pain relief so you can be comfortable at home. Fab news about your milk coming in though. I still remember my boobs were like torpedos when mine came in. As for dh yes I know he's a bit younger but I think for some people that smep method is it works and for others it doesn't, just wondered if the other ladies had tried more than the every other day cause sometimes that can work xxx

 

[crysshae]

Lol. Mine is 51. He is often in the mood, but by the time night finds its way around, we're both tired half the time. And with all the kids, there's rarely a chance to sneak it in during the day.

Creative - How long did it take you once the pressure was off? I've never used OPKs. I think they would confuse me too. But I feel like it would drive me even more crazy if I didn't chart.

 

[crysshae]

Lisa - I hope you find something that helps relieve your pain and can get some rest.

Becks - You know...when I got pregnant with my now 4-year-old, we did every other day after AF and then every day for about 3 or 4 days around O. We should probably try that approach again, if we can ever manage more than just a few times. At this point, I would truly just be happy with every other day until O is confirmed. We haven't managed to get to that point yet, although my pattern always shows we BD'd enough around O. I don't know though...

 

[Oasis717]

Oh yes it does work for some people! I do understand trying to fit it in. Casey (4) has only just started infants so we had the same. Hopefully you will be able to do that method again soon as it obviously worked for you here's hoping for you xxxx