TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Soanxious]

Looks like ya have a bit to go before ov so not yet positive ! But soon in the next couple of days I'd say .

Hugs to you Becks at this time its tough and you never forget xxx I too have an annevarsary coming up at the start of July . My LO would have been having their first birthday . We called them Poppy as I told oh about the pregnancy by placing a poppy seed ( off a bagel) on his finger and saying that is the size of your baby right now .
So Poppy stuck . I'm not sure if you can buy poppy plants in the garden centres but am going to try get one or some flower that will bloom in July each year .

I read this and thought it was lovely

Before you existed - you were wanted
Before you were born - you were loved
Before you were an hour old - I would die for you
This is the miricle of unconditional love

Aww we all seem to have dates coming up.. Lovely idea about the poppys.. there are Poppys on the sides of the roads everywhere around here... such pretty flowers.. Tesco sell them so you should be able to get some easily too.. https://www.tesco.com/direct/wildfl...0rshKkThr0lg4B2elgphKFLLL2dEbuLOKTC1eYvfD_BwE

Aw thanks Lisa that made me feel better hopefully Brooklyn will be ok too. Hoping your af wont be too heavy when it comes! Xxxx

Aww hope Lo is going to be better soon.. best thing for it is the Aqueous cream with calamine lotion in a tub. Pharmacists recommended it stops itching and soothes and only £1 odd Im going to buy the pineapple today ready for tomorrow and I am going to smoothie it also.. easier to drink it

Lisa hope 1st AF is not too bad for you

DH had snip? aww can he reverse it?


Well as predicted.. I have Ov just got these tests... and Temp dip

Oh had a lovely weekend.. pics on my journal

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Tanya xxx Loads of luck this cycle. Rooting for you xxx

 

[Soanxious]

Just hope I catch it this cycle...eek! not getting too excited.. infact more nervous this time... oh well.. what will be will be..

 

[Oasis717]

You cant do anymore than youre doing and you're giving yourself the absolute best chance! Xxx

 

[josie1234]

Good luck Tanya. Becks is right, you are doing everything you can xx

 

[Soanxious]

Jo I love the new piccie!!!!

Hows the reducing a bit of workout going? new job started yet?

Thanks.. will BD once more this evening..

x

 

[crysshae]

Good luck Tanya.

Becks - Hope the chickenpox isn't too hard on your little guys.

Jo - That is a nice new pic.

I've made it to 5 weeks 1 day. Thank God. Symptoms come and go and drive me crazy. Lol. Getting bloodwork today.

 

[josie1234]

Thanks Tanya - love your pic too. I haven't done as much this week fitness-wise. Don't really know official date for new job, as they are doing up new premises, I think it is a case of when the new place is done. But I am keeping busy with work I have on so it's ok. FX for you hun xx

Thanks Crystal. Looking forward to hearing how your bloodwork went. Hope you are ok and that your symptoms carry on (in a good way).

Becks - hope the chicken pox comes and goes without too much pain/hassle. Bless.

The pic is when me and DH went to Nottingham for a night out and hotel stay. Shame about timing of AF lol.

 

[Left wonderin]

Hi everyone ! Well I had a major BOLT out of the blue today . For the past few weeks maybe months OH has been saying he didn't feel himself , no interest in anything , constantly tired and lacking energy . So off we went to the docs today LO got 16 weeks needles and hubby saw doc . He has been diagnosed with depression ! You could have knocked me down with a feather as I wasn't expecting that !! I knew he was a little distant but I think I was so absorbed with LO I didn't really pay any heed to it . So here is the hard part ...... I feel so guilty as all I could think of was " crap will this effect me/us ttc ?? As I said before oh wasn't really on board but we hadn't really had the " conversation "

Anyway the doc sent us away to think about her reccomendations of anti depressants for 6-9 months . Oh in shock as symptoms really were fatiuge . Well this afternoon we went for a walk in the forest and had a big chat . We spoke about how things have been and looking back I must have been blind I think I was just too caught up with baby to notice how bad things had gotten . We had a great talk and I also was brave enough to tell him about my feelings re ttc and the fact I felt so guilty even mentioning it . I only mentioned it as I know anit depressants can effect ejaculation in a few who take them. Oh was brilliant about it and said we will talk to the doctor about it when we go back to her on Wednesday . Am I a cow to be even thinking about it when he is obviously suffering ?? But I hear that clock ticking loudly !! I am afraid if we didn't ttc due to this I would resent it forever and take it out on oh ....

Anyone any advice or opinions ?

 

[josie1234]

Hi Regina - yes that sounds like a shock. And no, I think it is natural to think of ttc still as time is critical. But what a shame that he has been feeling down and hopefully the chat will have cleared a few things up. Can you maybe get time to do a couple of things together, even like a date night. I know it is difficult when you have a baby/children but sometimes you just need to talk and get away from things, day-to-day chores. Give him things to focus on, ask him what he wants to do, make him feel a bit special, it is difficult when life is busy with a young baby. I hope you both carry on talking and being there for each other. I don't know about the ejaculation side of things but worth looking into. My mum and sister are on tablets for depression, it is difficult knowing what to say/do as it is something that people don't know a lot about and how to react to it. Hope you are ok hun xxx

 

[crysshae]

Regina - I hope everything turns out okay. It's probably natural to think about the effects it will have on TTC. I pray your OH feels back to himself very soon.

Blood work done. Scan set for July 15th.

 

[Left wonderin]

Thanks guys , it only gets better from here on in !! I was so stupid for not noticing !!! He had every flipin symptom and I missed it ! And Jo yes it is so hard knowing what to say but I think being there is the most important thing . He knows he is not on his own in the fight

And as for ttc think it was my Inital shock to the whole thing ... I'm being stupid sure my AF has not even regulated since pp . I'm just panicking and really should just be grateful for all thati do have. Having a well father for LO is the most important thing right now

Cry you won't feel it till the 15th of July . In other news my 30 Opk tests arrived today so I will hopefully get an idea of what my cycles are doing or will do in the future . Thanks girls sorry to dump on you all and really appreciate the comments xxx

 

[Soanxious]

Thanks Tanya xxx Loads of luck this cycle. Rooting for you xxx

You cant do anymore than youre doing and you're giving yourself the absolute best chance! Xxx

Thanks hunny xx

Good luck Tanya. Becks is right, you are doing everything you can xx

I hope so I managed another tonight.. so thats last night this morning and tonight..

Good luck Tanya.

I've made it to 5 weeks 1 day. Thank God. Symptoms come and go and drive me crazy. Lol. Getting bloodwork today.

Thank you.. congratulations on your 5th week!!

Thanks Tanya - love your pic too. I haven't done as much this week fitness-wise. Don't really know official date for new job, as they are doing up new premises, I think it is a case of when the new place is done. But I am keeping busy with work I have on so it's ok. FX for you hun xx

Thanks Crystal. Looking forward to hearing how your bloodwork went. Hope you are ok and that your symptoms carry on (in a good way).

Becks - hope the chicken pox comes and goes without too much pain/hassle. Bless.

The pic is when me and DH went to Nottingham for a night out and hotel stay. Shame about timing of AF lol.

It is a lovely pic.. I read up a lot about exercise and AF and ttc and if you slow down a little then hopefully you will get back a better cycle.. I think nature is trying to say your too fit and too active.. Im the opposite.. lol

Hi everyone ! Well I had a major BOLT out of the blue today . For the past few weeks maybe months OH has been saying he didn't feel himself , no interest in anything , constantly tired and lacking energy . So off we went to the docs today LO got 16 weeks needles and hubby saw doc . He has been diagnosed with depression ! You could have knocked me down with a feather as I wasn't expecting that !! I knew he was a little distant but I think I was so absorbed with LO I didn't really pay any heed to it . So here is the hard part ...... I feel so guilty as all I could think of was " crap will this effect me/us ttc ?? As I said before oh wasn't really on board but we hadn't really had the " conversation "

Anyway the doc sent us away to think about her reccomendations of anti depressants for 6-9 months . Oh in shock as symptoms really were fatiuge . Well this afternoon we went for a walk in the forest and had a big chat . We spoke about how things have been and looking back I must have been blind I think I was just too caught up with baby to notice how bad things had gotten . We had a great talk and I also was brave enough to tell him about my feelings re ttc and the fact I felt so guilty even mentioning it . I only mentioned it as I know anit depressants can effect ejaculation in a few who take them. Oh was brilliant about it and said we will talk to the doctor about it when we go back to her on Wednesday . Am I a cow to be even thinking about it when he is obviously suffering ?? But I hear that clock ticking loudly !! I am afraid if we didn't ttc due to this I would resent it forever and take it out on oh ....

Anyone any advice or opinions ?

Don't feel guilty... you have a baby to see too... as for the pills.. I would allow the shock to sink in 1st and possibly ask for a counsellor.. I have suffered on and off with depression myself and family have.. and we all found medications make you worse.. Im not saying DONT take pills.. what im saying is.. now the cards are on the table.. maybe think of relaxation days.. counseling, days out more, hobbies he likes to do.. as that is a massive part of getting better when you have depression... I would always say pills are a last resort.. if he is not BAD and in desperate need for urgent meds I would ask about counseling.. we found that we lived in a haze... and we had no emotions.. thats after trying 6 kinds.. maybe talk lots n lots more and see what you both think. I hope he feels better soon..

Regina - I hope everything turns out okay. It's probably natural to think about the effects it will have on TTC. I pray your OH feels back to himself very soon.

Blood work done. Scan set for July 15th.

Blood work should be perfect.. when are the results back?

AFM I bd last night this morning and tonight.. my left ovary feels like its going to explode.. it feels like a RED hot poker is sizzling it away... im in AGONY.. and now its given me an upset tummy.. looking back it seems to do that during ov.. not sure if that is because of the soy iso that apparently gives you stronger ov. does anyone else get that?

 

[Oasis717]

I only ever know I o now from temps but with Brooklyn I had bad cramps for two days! Xx
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[Soanxious]

Im seriously in agony this cycle.. I read up and a lot of people have very painful ov with soy iso.. so thats one negative to it...

 

[Oasis717]

Oh dear but I guess no pain no gain? Ive never taken anything like that so im not much help but I know I dont feel o. Gunna get some opks this month I think. One min I want to be pregnant then the next as soon as I think about it i get scared of mc. Something being wrong. I wish I could switch the worry off xxxxx

 

[Soanxious]

Yay!! Im pain free!!!!


Ov pain has stopped..phew!!

I know what you mean about the worry/scared

I was so dissapointed last cycle that I didnt get pregnant.. but when AF arrived I felt a little sad.. then after it had ended I felt better.. then a few days before ov I felt really good as I had not suffered another loss... I had just had a "normal" month.. this ttc is a nightmare.. the mc are such a bad thing.. but im only going to try around another 3 months and im stopping.. as I don't want to keep doing this.. I will have my 12 months after I lost my 1st baby and if nothing then I will just give up.

 

[Oasis717]

I just know you Will get there before then. You wont need to give up I know its so happy getting pregnant then tbe fear takes over. I keep worrying im running out of time too. I need to stop worrying! Xxxx

 

[Soanxious]

Im chatting in another room and a woman said someone she knows has just got pregnant naturally... she is 50!!!!

Stop worrying.. x

 

[Soanxious]

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