TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Oasis717]

Thanks Jo, really hope you are by then too, you have plenty of time to make that happen, yes my first scan picture my Lo looked like a little turtle lol xxx

 

[dancareoi]

Been to diabetic clinic again. They are pleased with the way it's going but have warned it is probably only a matter of time before I am injecting insulin at other times of the day!

Asked if they would listen to baby, they said they don't like to until 20 weeks as it can cause too much worry as finding HB is a bit hit and miss.

Well I got them told it and then started to wish I hadn't because she couldn't find it. I was a bit concerned but not too worried at this point as I had felt baby moving earlier. Finally she got it briefly and faintly, the little monkey was hiding.

Phew, what a relief.

Back to diabetics clinic in 3 weeks and seeing consultant in 5 weeks. Community midwife tomorrow.

Interesting piece of information which I have read a few times about the best sleeping position when PG.

Always best to sleep on left hand side as it is better for blood flow to the baby.

 

[Oasis717]

I've spent my whole pregnancy on my left side! I read that too Lisa, fab news you got to hear even if briefly, at least you are feeling movements I've not felt anything since last week so am wondering if it even was baby? Xxxx

 

[dancareoi]

I've spent my whole pregnancy on my left side! I read that too Lisa, fab news you got to hear even if briefly, at least you are feeling movements I've not felt anything since last week so am wondering if it even was baby? Xxxx

Could be wind

Just felt a flutter then as I was reading your post.

I find in the night I'm waking up to make sure I'm still on my left!

Need to start putting pillows behind me to make sure I stay on left and don't roll over to my back or my right! Why couldn't it be the right, this is my usual position!

 

[Left wonderin]

Hello everyone , glad to see your all in good form . Beck's hugs for you and your lost little soul. I also lost my little soul at 11+4 . And I agree the whole process was awful , like a nightmare I lived through I decided that my little soul although very very much wanted was needed else where more urgently and him up above knew although I'd be sad I would be strong enough to carry the burden until my time came My little soul I believe brought much hope to desperation and joy to overwhelming despair . I believe it wasn't the end for those little souls lost to us just the start of a new pathway in life . I truly believe everything happens for a reason and that in the end it all makes sense but we don't get to see the bigger picture . Which at times is devastating .

Sorry for going on lol.... Me cd 6 and 1st poas this cycle oh btw how do I share my chart from ff as I will be seeking all your expert advices

 

[josie1234]

I added the link/url from ff to my signature. Bloated and bad cramps last night and what is happening to my temp? What you all up to today?

 

[Oasis717]

Lisa it felt so different from wind, it was a tapping as opposed to the usual gas feelings I get all the time but since I haven't had anything since it may have beenxxx

Thanks Regina, hopefully one day I'll be able to accept things xxxx

 

[Oasis717]

Jo one more rise and you should get your cross hairs, you def are on the up temp wise!! Xxx

 

[crazymam]

I read that too lisa, about sleeping on left side. That's the side I sleep on anyway, plus I don't have very good circulation to start off with .I must have rolled over onto my right side the other night and woke up in middle of night with my left leg going numb!! Luckliy it hasn't happened since.
Becks - I too have fibromyalgia so not sure if this is what is wiping me out? But it was only diagnosed a few years ago and to be honest I really think they misdiagnosed as it does appear to be the 'in' thing for doctors to diagnose when they don't know what is wrong with you!
My self diagnosis is it was down to stress and lack of sleep due to being stuck in a very miserable marriage at the time.
Funny once I got out of it the symptoms went haha . The way they diagnose it doesn't really give me much confidence in them either.
I was back at doctors yesterday and my blood pressure is still very low, have to keep hydrated at al times she said and she suggested salt, yuk!
I think I will just put up with the low blood pressure and the fatigue instead.

 

[Oasis717]

Yes I'm def wiped out with the fibromyalgia, it comes and goes, same with me when I was with my abusive ex I suffered really badly with it and ocd, both are triggered by stress, but when I met my wonderful husband it all got so very much better, I researched fibromyalgia and realised that all the separate conditions I'd had for years were all under the umbrella of fibromyalgia so I do believe for me anyway it's correct as I have so very many of the symptoms, I've never taken any medication for it, I just soldier on xxxx

 

[Oasis717]

Oh and do they know why your blood pressure is low? Xx

 

[crazymam]

Becks - maybe the diagnosis is correct then, I don't take medication either and found exercise actually improves it, obviously not too much!
My blood pressure is naturally low and always has been , but I have always done regular exercise and ate quite healthy. I read though it can drop on pregnancy if it is already low, and I had problems with dropping very low when I was pregnant with the twins. My fibromyalgia was diagnosed a few years after the twins. I hated my ex, in fact that is an understatement, and would often stay up til 2am waiting for him to fall asleep and then get up at 6am to avoid him! So the stress and lack of sleep took its toll. My muscles are always tender but I do a lot of strength bearing exercises more than anything so used to think I had just overdone it.
When I was diagnosed I was given a leaflet to read , told where my nearest self help group was and advised NOT to stop exercising under any circumstances. I was told they could give me amytriptolene to help me sleep and prescription painkillers.
I thought I am not going to rely on medication so got rid of the cause of the stress instead.
I have also read that processed foods and refined sugar can aggravate it too Becks.
If I have a naughty day and eat cake biccies I crash completely.
But I read an interesting article on low blood pressure too Becks, the symptoms can mimic mild fibromyalgia, ie the fatigue and and muscle pain.
all I know is I am knackered either way

 

[Oasis717]

Ah I see, so I wonder if it is fibromyalgia or the low blood pressure symptoms, I also have ibs, ocd, dry eyes, had painful periods and endometriosis, neck and back pain and joint pain, fatigue and jaw problems, all of which come under fibromyalgia, when I was with my ex I was the same, I did everything I could to avoid him, I hated him but I was terrified of him too so me too the stress really took its toll and my ocd was running at 100% whereas since meeting dh I'd say it's about 10%, ill never get rid of it but it's completely manageable now I'm away from that situation. Some days I was so tired I'd feel the exhaustion wash over me and all I could do was sleep! I admit me too if my diet is bad it would definitely reflect in me and particularly joint pain, I walk everyday and try to stay away from sugar and processed foods, it really seems to help xxx

 

[crazymam]

I don't have any other symptoms Becks, I do have neck pain but its due to a damaged nerve.
I have mild raynauds, but I stress it is very very mild and suffered from cold hands since I was a child.
I just found the whole way it was diagnosed as baffling? they did blood tests to rule out rheumatoid arthritis first, then the consultant asked how I slept and did I still feel tired when I woke up well of course I did given my sleep pattern!
He then started to press on different pressure points and yes they did hurt but more uncomfortable and tender rather than very painful. so he concluded my condition without investigating any further!
I have spoken to loads of women since who have this condition and I feel like superwoman compared to them.
Either I have found a way of managing it very very well or it was a wrong diagnosis.
Good news for you becks is I have read pregnancy can actually improve it! x

 

[Oasis717]

They never did those pressure points on me! Just went on all my symptoms, there is a huge variation in severity so wondering if perhaps we are amongst the lucky ones who's lives it doesn't dominate! Xxx

 

[dancareoi]

Jo, your chart is confusing this month! Lets see what happens the next couple of days.

Becks, could have been baby. I think mine started about 12 weeks. At this stage you could feel them one day and then go a few days without anything else.

Crazy, hope you feel better soon.

Hi to everyone else.

Saw my midwife today, just to have a listen to baby and she got the HB straight away!

 

[garfie]

Lisa - Amazing when they have the right equipment and experience how easy they make it look so pleased is your mind at ease yet?

Josie - Do you normally O early? - I think I have but my temps are not reflecting it yet so like you I am waiting a few more days

Becks/Crazy - Sorry about your symptoms - my hubby says I'm falling apart I tell him if he looks as good as I do when he is 41 then he can say something he soon shuts up

AFM - Feeling a bit sad today my BF had her baby girl last night 6lb 13oz after a three hour labour - I know I should be pleased but she decided she wanted baby number 1 (a boy) and fell pg straight away no probs - then was on the pill - came off the pill as I was going through my DNC and announced to me she wanted another a girl this time as her son was now at nursery and she was bored of work and BAM pg again - life can be so unfair and I'm just having one of those days hope the FS can give me some hope tomorrow

I will feel better tomorrow just having a down day that's why I haven't been on today didn't want to bring the thread down



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[dancareoi]

Lisa - Amazing when they have the right equipment and experience how easy they make it look so pleased is your mind at ease yet?

Josie - Do you normally O early? - I think I have but my temps are not reflecting it yet so like you I am waiting a few more days

Becks/Crazy - Sorry about your symptoms - my hubby says I'm falling apart I tell him if he looks as good as I do when he is 41 then he can say something he soon shuts up

AFM - Feeling a bit sad today my BF had her baby girl last night 6lb 13oz after a three hour labour - I know I should be pleased but she decided she wanted baby number 1 (a boy) and fell pg straight away no probs - then was on the pill - came off the pill as I was going through my DNC and announced to me she wanted another a girl this time as her son was now at nursery and she was bored of work and BAM pg again - life can be so unfair and I'm just having one of those days hope the FS can give me some hope tomorrow

I will feel better tomorrow just having a down day that's why I haven't been on today didn't want to bring the thread down



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Fiona, that's what we're here for

I feel happy that I can now hear the HB but still can't let myself believe!

 

[josie1234]

Crazy and Becks, sounds like you have been through the ringer with all the symptoms/diagnosis.

Lisa - I know, it is confusing but it was last month too but later on in the cycle. All congested in my sinus' today, it just comes on really quick. Had really bad cramps last night but none today so that's good as it was a bit painful. See what temp is like tomorrow. Lovely that you got to hear the heartbeat.

Garf - I don't really know, didn't look like it last month but the month before my temp went up at CD 6, CD 9 and CD 18. So, god knows lol. I think your temp will go up tomorrow perhaps. Sorry to hear that you are feeling down today, hope you feel a bit happier tomorrow. I find its the pregnancy bit that makes me feel a bit sad, not them having the baby. But that's only sometimes, not all the time if that makes sense. Some days I am fine.

And yes, that's what we are here for as we all understand hun. My opk for today.

 

[dancareoi]

Crazy and Becks, sounds like you have been through the ringer with all the symptoms/diagnosis.

Lisa - I know, it is confusing but it was last month too but later on in the cycle. All congested in my sinus' today, it just comes on really quick. Had really bad cramps last night but none today so that's good as it was a bit painful. See what temp is like tomorrow. Lovely that you got to hear the heartbeat.

Garf - I don't really know, didn't look like it last month but the month before my temp went up at CD 6, CD 9 and CD 18. So, god knows lol. I think your temp will go up tomorrow perhaps. Sorry to hear that you are feeling down today, hope you feel a bit happier tomorrow. I find its the pregnancy bit that makes me feel a bit sad, not them having the baby. But that's only sometimes, not all the time if that makes sense. Some days I am fine.

And yes, that's what we are here for as we all understand hun. My opk for today.

That still looks positive. Just out of interest, how long does it take for the test line to appear, is it a little while after the control line, the same time or before?