TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Soanxious]

Thank soanxious did that wednesday night lol ! Have gone a whole day today with no testing finally sinking in lol. Xx

Yay!! glad its sinking in xx

 

[crysshae]

Glad it's sinking in, Tilly!

No, I've never looked into it. I've always had EWCM, and sometimes so much it feels like I'm a mess all the time. Lol. This month is just a bit different, but watery is still good.

 

[Soanxious]

FX crystal xx

 

[Oasis717]

Yes fingers crossed Crystal looks like o! I hate waiting to o! I get ewmc from cd 8 but have ovulated cd 18 then 16 last two cycles so who knows? Xxxx

 

[Soanxious]

Morning everyone!!.. whats everyone been up to this week? Im happy they have found the cause of the flooding at last at the side of my property.. when it rains I have a fast flowing stream running down the side of my house and takes all the soil and grass away, so im unable to use side entrance or patio doors.. I complained about it in December when I moved here and had them out here 4 times to check... I demanded a camera down the pipes to see if it was blocked etc and after watching them closely yesterday and telling them I wanted an extra drain checked they found the problem... that being the main storm drain on the main road is blocked so when it rains my drain at side of house cant go nowhere and neither can neighbours so it all backs up into my garden causing the flood.. so a big lorry came yesterday and today to remove all the mess and flush it.. so hopefully I can get someone in to put some new soil and grass seed down now so I can eventually have a nice garden... its been a nightmare... it was coming up to my patio doors it was that high... So thats 1 good thing that has gone good for me this week .. because the workmen told me they were fed up of coming here and not finding the fault... so they almost didnt come back.. it pays to be persistent lol.. nothing else happening for me.... Oh my Middle daughter is taking me out for a nice Indian Meal on Sunday.. Mmmmm I cant wait.. I love Chana Masala it's my favourite!!

 

[Oasis717]

I love indian what a nightmare that sounds Tanya but I know how that feels with this bloody ceiling! They are coming out on 7th April to fix what the plasterer bodged so at last dh can decorate and we can have a nice kitchen again. We have a medium size back garden which is mainly paved with areas of soil, dh is as good a gardener as he is cook and every sprinh puts up lots of hangin baskets etc, looks so pretty, he doesnt look like a flower kind of guy lol but he finds it relaxing! Not so hopeful about this month. I need to get some ttc pma! Hope youre ok Jo thinking of you xxxxxx

 

[crysshae]

Tanya - I'm glad they figured out the problem. Enjoy your meal with your daughter.

Becks - Hope they get everything fixed up right this time. PMA all the way! Fingers crossed for all of us!

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Crystal I know it sounds daft but in the past its never taken longer than 1/2 months so with this being the 3rd month I keep thinking there must now be a problem must get my pma head on! Yes good luck to us all. I think this month feels special as the baby would be due 25th Dec xxxxx

 

[Soanxious]

Oh a nightmare Becks!! I have to decorate the whole house too.. every room.. I knew I would have to before I moved in so nothing new, I was hoping to of had more help off OH but he has been busy with work and on weekend he wanted to get away on day trips because we eventually had nice weather, well now I think we need to sort out my house, I too love gardening, I bought some lovely green lights like the kind you have on a Christmas tree and I put them on my connifer tree's out the back garden as they are solar recharchable garden lights, my neighbours around me all have different colour ones and it looks so pretty after dark and we were the odd ones out so I joined in and added my bit.. we all sparkle at night now.. my neighbours are lovely.. they are all so friendly and even offer help with some gardening and loaning a petrol lawn mower etc and given me cuttings of plants as the girl that lived here before me ran house and garden into the ground...they are glad I have come along and already got the garden cleaned up and bad tree's chopped down and now the flooding sorted

I felt positive last month Becks and nothing happened.. I was a bit shocked as I had got pregnant Oct.. then took Nov off and fell pregnant New yrs eve and mc that Lo Jan and get preg again Feb so when I didnt get last cycle I felt deflated as if I have had my bit of good luck getting pregnant now my eggs have run out.. but I got thinking to myself... well maybe nature wanted my womb to recharge and get nice and cosy for next cycle.. so I too am trying to get some pma.. sending you pma and everyone else here TTC.. I want us all to get our babies.. same as you this month would be great too as they would be our extra special Christmas presents.. x

Crystal hopefully this is you Ov? FX xx

 

[Soanxious]

Jo, you maybe lingering around peeking at topics and leaving without saying anything.. but just wanted to say your still in my thoughts and hope your ok xxxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Jo I hope so !! Hope you are doing ok . Becks you have been very lucky falling pregnant so easily before and SO super fertile ladies !! Its taken me 4-6 months on both occasions and I thought that was fast lol !!

Don't give up ladies remember its a marathon and not a sprint !!!

 

[crysshae]

Crystal hopefully this is you Ov? FX xx

Looks that way.

Jo, I hope you're doing well too.

Thanks for the pep talk, Regina!

 

[Soanxious]

Thanks Regina... you know what its like though.. we want it last week lol x

 

[Oasis717]

Lol I know super impatient I am! Only cause time is running out else id have all the time in the world! Xxxx

 

[Soanxious]

That's it Becks... time is running out for us all... Did you ever see a consultant when trying for Brooklyn? x

 

[Oasis717]

No hunni cause I had a loss in june 12 and then Sep 12 didnt get a neg after Sep loss on pregnancy tests til beginning of dec due to tiny piece of retained product. I fell pregnant in jan. As id had two losses and not three and got oregnant 2nd month then 1st month trying they werent going to refer me as said wasnt anything wrong and it was just bad luck. I got pregnant first real month of trying with Brooklyn so I guess they were right. I had blood tests when pregnant to ease my mind and everything was fine with high hcg and prog levels. Gd test was neg too and I was also v low risk for abnormalities. Yes I feel like time is running away and I hate that. If only I were a few yrs younger just for that reason as im happy with my age other than fertility xxxxxxx

 

[Left wonderin]

I'm trying to pep talk you too while panicking a bit about my own time running out lol !!! My little chat with my wee man today was " Sean tell Daddy you want a brother or sister the poor little mite is not even 5 weeks old !! I'm 42 in November and want to be pregnant by then please God . So im with ya with the time running out I'd hate for Sean to be an only child ....... But I know I'm so blessed to have had him more than I can ever express . I would just love him to have the experience of growing up with a sibling having come from a big family .

So in trying to calm your anxieties I'm probably trying to calm my own you ladies are a step ahead of me , more than one !!! I was breast feeding today and at the same time reading about getting pregnant while breast feeding . Did you know that you only have 2% chance of conceiving if you are exclusively BF . So looks like a point will come where I have to choose , feeding Sean or trying for a sibling mmmmmmmm its never bloody easy

Hope you ladies have a lovely weekend

 

[dancareoi]

Regina, when I was BF number 3 I got PG by accident. He was 18 months old and because I thought he was my last I wanted to keep BF. my AF returned at 10 months. Once they start weening they have less milk so as you then produce less, this in turn gets other things going. When I realised I was pg I stopped bf, but sadly when I thought I was 17 weeks I list my LO.

It then took 4 months to get PG again and I lost that one at 9 weeks.

I the did the following

- pregnancare pre conception tablets
- vitamin b6 tablets
- acupuncture

I got pg first time trying for Caitlin!

It's so frustrating though when it takes so long.

The consultant I was under at RMC was amazed how quick I got pg first time with Caitlin. She said the average time at my age(then 41) was 6-9 months

Before getting pg though, she thought I might be super fertile which sounds great but it meant my body was keeping embryos that weren't viable hence the mc

So she said she wanted to make me less fertile and I thought I haven't got enough time for this! The Theory being it make take longer to get pg but when I did it had more chance of being a keeper.

So 7 days after OV I started to insert a 400mg progesterone tablet twice a day. This carried on then until I was 28 weeks pg.

Also from 7 weeks I injected my stomach with clexane once a day and still carried on with the acupuncture, but was told no asprin when on clexane!

It all worked and my beautiful rainbow was born .

Hang in there ladies, I know and understand the fustration, but you will get there.

All good things come to those that wait!

Sending lots of baby dust to all you TTC ladies xxxx

 

[Soanxious]

Oh Becks you were lucky getting pregnant with no problems with Brooklyn then, im just hoping its been 3 bad luck episodes for me too and like you I manage to get a healthy pregnancy and that you get your next baby too I told my OH that if we did manage to get pregnant and all go well I would want to try again asap for another to try n get 2 close together but just one would be the best ever too.. x

Regina I just read yours too after I wrote what I just did above.. I feel same way but it wouldnt be as bad deep inside to have a 2nd one as much as it is to have our first together as for BF if you really want another I think 3 months BF would be perfectly fine.. he's had the antibodies for first few months and his immunisations... obviously nice to BF longer but if it stops another pregnancy yes its a tough position to be in. Hope you get another Lo x

Lisa, I had not known about your previous losses before so sorry to hear about them and im glad you got your rainbow baby... so nice to hear about all your rainbow babies and see them in this forum I would love to be able to add to that

xx

 

[Oasis717]

I know how you feel Regina I feel so so lucky to have Brooklyn especially after loosing two lo's I really do but our dream is to have a large family as both our childhoods were pretty bad tbh so we are creating what we never had, a large, much loved happy family. I just so hope its not too late as I saidIive always been so fertile since my first child each one taking just one month. One try. Even Brooklyn. Hence the worry now as we are on month 3! Xx
Thanks Tanya. We are so lucky to have Brooklyn after two back to back losses but it made his pregnancy a constant worry. Losses change everything but pma we must have and we will have good eggs still! We have regular cycles, we are ovulating so all is promising still! Xxx