TTC after Methotrexate shot

[Angelinheaven]

Thank you so much for the support ladies

 

[PreshFest]

Yay renzal! Good luck tomorrow!

Grace...thinking of you and your 2ww!! FXed!

 

[chig]

I am so sorry Angel that you are having to make such a tough decision. I personally know how difficult this is. Only you and your husband can make this decision on what is going to be the best for the baby and your family. I will keep you in my prayers that everything goes well for you. Take care hun.

 

[chig]

Good luck Grace on getting your BFP!!!!

Good luck on your scan, Renz!!

 

[Annie77]

I am 28 weeks pregnant. This week we had been told that our baby girl has got excessive fluid on her brain. The fluid was discovered 2 weeks ago and was very little but in 2 weeks it has gone up very very high. Now it is 15ml on both sides of the brain. Doctors have told us that when fluid is more than 12ml, there are more chances of disabilities and complications. Our next step is to do an MRI in Queen Charlotte’s hospital (it s where they sent us). Some doctors think that there is a part of the brain missing. Will get more info from the fetal MRI. We feel so devestated as we really dont know what decisions to take. We have the following options:
1.Have an injection to help baby’s kidneys mature and then have early birth. 2.Let nature take its course.3.Termination
Is it fair for the baby to come into this world and live in HELL?
If we let nature take its course, there is a risk of a lot more complications as fluid will continue increasing and cause damage on brain.
PLEASE HELP

There is no easy answer here and as i have never met you and your family, it is difficult to have an opinion on what you should do.

One thing I will say is that I have worked with a number of families with a disabled child and it can be both challenging but also very rewarding. There is no doubt having a child with a disability can have an impact on your relationship so that is something to think about. Families with a disabled child statistically are at more risk of divorce, financial difficulties and feelings of isolation. That said, there are many families out there who manage and even some who work harder at their relationship for that very reason.

There is no way of knowing for sure the extent of any potential disability at this point and for all you know, it could be only mild-moderate. For the record, some of my patients are very disabled and yet appear to be happy and content. It is society who pity them, they arrely pity themselves.

Personally, I would go for the first option, mature the kidneys and lungs then have the baby early. Whilst this is still very high risk, I would feel that I am atleast trying to do the very best in a bad situation.

There is a thread on here called gestational complications which may be useful to post in as there may some others going through a similiar situation.

Big hugs and best of luck. The choice is for you and your husband & only you guys know what is best for you.
x

 

[Renzalxx]

Scan was perfect and expecting a wee little girl! Yippppeeeee!

 

[Laubull]

How exciting Renzal, yeaaa! X

 

[PreshFest]

Yay Renzal!! Girls are the best!!! congrats!!

 

[baby_maybe]

Congrats renzal, great news

 

[grace10209]

Scan was perfect and expecting a wee little girl! Yippppeeeee!

oh yay!!!!!!!!! perfect scans are awesome! so excited for you!

 

[autigers55]

Congrats on the lil girl Renzal!!

 

[Gwenylovey]

Congrats Renzal on a healthy girl!!!

 

[Renzalxx]

Hey Grace
How you holding up in the TWW? Have you had a sneaky test yet?

 

[grace10209]

Hi guys

I am dieing in the 2ww! LOL
which is commical to me as I know the wait now is going to be a piece of cake compared to the wait for my first few betas and then the wait for my first US -

Today is cd28 and I am 9dpo. I am having a lot of symptoms which are making me even more whacko than I already am. Some may be TMI so skip over if you want
cramps, bloating, diarhea often, twinges, pulling feeling *this is on both sides, so im PRAYING that is a good sign if I am pregnant again, I had a strange ton of White CM on 5dpo, wierd, i never have that. Tired, backache.....

I am dieing to test, I have a ton of wondfo's in the my bathroom and everytime I go pee, they are taunting me
Its actually quite cruel I think -

I go Tuesday for my blood test, at 7am, then I need to come to work and wait and wait for the results.................... OMG

 

[PreshFest]

Good luck, Grace! I have no idea how you don't test when you have them in the house! Much stronger than I am! I got my bfp at 9dpo this time... I can't believe you are going to wait 6 more days!!!

 

[grace10209]

Good luck, Grace! I have no idea how you don't test when you have them in the house! Much stronger than I am! I got my bfp at 9dpo this time... I can't believe you are going to wait 6 more days!!!

I know right!!!!! I am 100% crazy. I made this silly deal with myself. - I said, Ok, if I can hold out and NOT test at home and wait til my blood test (as Dr suggested) then I will get my bfp and it will be my rainbow baby....

soooooooooo, I can't risk it, its KILLING ME
but Im too afraid to jinx myself so instead im waiting. and its so so so tough.

I swear I can hear the wondfo's talking to me, but here's something even funnier. IF I do get a positive on my blood test, I have decided that IM GOING TO GO ON A POAS FRENZY!!!!!!! AND IM going to pee until my hearts content, then i'll come here and post 10+ tests all at once! LMFAO!~

 

[baby_maybe]

Blimey grace I'd so have poas by now if I were you! Knowing they are in the house kills me if I'm in the tww! In fact I still have some upstairs now left over and I'm so tempted to use them, but I figure what's the point

 

[autigers55]

I'm with the other girls. I would be going poas crazy if I was in the tww.

I give you for waiting as long as you are going to and sending lots of GL!!

 

[AllieK]

Hello, Ladies---

My name is Allison (or Allie) and I have, over the past few days, read all 246 pages of this thread! I wish I had found it when I was first diagnosed with my ectopic!

Quick version of me--- my husband and I decided to TTC in my September cycle. We conceived around September 10th. I remember testing early and NOT getting a positive (even though I've always gotten BFPs at 9dpo or 10dpo with my two other children). I kept getting negatives until I STILL didn't have my period (due on Sept. 24th). So I took a test on Sept. 26th and it was positive! 4 weeks, 2 days! I was thrilled!

But, at 5 weeks, I had spotting....feared the worse (my first two BFPs in 2006 were early miscarriages/chemicals). My Beta was only at 97 at 5 weeks. It was at 64 the day I got my BFP. So I knew right then I was miscarrying. Two days later it had gone down to 72 or so.

The doctor still wanted me to come in for an ultrasound the following week just to make sure it was a miscarriage.....and I'm glad I did come in because that's when they saw a small dark shadowy mass thing near my left tube. They took betas again and they had gone UP! Classic ectopic!

I got methotrexate that day, at 6 weeks exactly. That was October 8th. I bled for about two weeks and then it tapered off. Last week, around November 1st, I knew I was ovulating already. EWCM and O pain.

I'm waiting for my first period.


I was told to wait 2-3 months by one doctor, and then another doctor said "don't even think about trying to conceive until your January period." I've read all of your comments from this thread and I think that's what you've heard as well.

I'm hoping to have a period here soon (November), then a second period in December, and hopefully, early January will be my 3rd period.....and I'll try then. I'm worried I will be ovulating from the "bad side" that month though! But, I'm not sure if you can really predict which side you "o" from? Can you? I'm just nervous. They won't do an HSG on me because they said I was so early, I responded well to the methotrexate AND I have two healthy babies, so they doubt anything is wrong with my tubes. I guess I have to trust them.

It's so scary though!

I hope I can be a part of this thread to help me through this wait. I feel as if I "Know you" all already because I have read through every post!!!!

Thank you so much for reading!!

--Allie

July '06 m/c, Sept '06 m/c, 8/9/07 DD, 12/24/09 DS, Oct. '12 ectopic

 

[AllieK]

Oh, one more thing that made me even more sad---- in my ultrasound at 6 weeks when the diagnosed the ectopic, they also told me I had ovulated from BOTH ovaries that month....which is rare! Totally spontaneous, I have never taken any fertility meds.

So, they never said it was twins, but I always think there might have been two at one point.