TTC after miscarriage before AF

[TinyLynne]

That sounds so heartbreaking xanzaba, I hope that those are the only losses you will ever have and that you get your rainbow soon

 

[ttcnumber2ky]

Yay ttc! That does look so much better!!!

I did start bleeding as expected. I'm just in the dumps, as if 4 mcs aren't enough to deal with, my mother and step dad are moving in for a couple of weeks and borrowed more money yesterday. And then today she said that he needs surgery and will be out of work for a couple of weeks after that and can they stay with us and can we HELP them then. So I have no idea what is going to happen or how long they are staying. I just don't think that it can possibly end well.

Oh, and also, seems like my insurance won't cover any testing now either.... We meet with the GP next Wednesday to discuss. My insurance specifically excludes infertility and everything about it. And it sounds like rpl is considered infertility.

So now I get to pay for my parents, my tests and any treatments out of pocket, still paying our student loans and on top of it, I'm not happy with my job, it is unfulfilling. But for now, I'm stuck.

Sorry again for the negativity, I'm just at such a loss for what to do right now and honestly, I'm scared.

I'm so sorry and I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this while going through your 4th mc . It just is not fair.

That stinks your insurance won't cover any costs! I often don't understand why insurance companies won't cover any tests for infertility. Just from a pure cost perspective, if those that are struggling with infertility don't cover the costs themselves to have the tests run, it likely will end up costing the insurance company more in Dr's bills and procedures for the miscarriages that they have. I think the bill for the D&C I had from the hospital totaled around $15K alone (not my cost, but the total).

Maybe your GP could help you sort through some of the tests to start with that maybe could offer some good information, but maybe aren't so ridiculously expensive. I would hope a lot of the blood work stuff wouldn't be too bad. It's not fair you have to think about those kinds of decisions though!

I hope you are able to find some answers soon.

 

[ttcnumber2ky]

xanzaba - so sorry to hear about your losses, and i hope your cycle figures itself out soon!

 

[TinyLynne]

Thank you so much TTCNumber2. What's bad is its not that the insurance company doesn't cover infertility, my company that I work for specifically excluded it from the plan that they offer. It's one of those things in fine print on page 264, you know? I'm really disappointed in my company and I will bring it up to them. Meanwhile, I do hope that we can get some good discussion in with our GP and maybe get some of the cheaper or most useful tests going.

I really appreciate this support so much. You have no idea.

 

[xanzaba]

Tiny- I had some infertility tests done before getting pregnant the first time, and there are some infertility tests that can be billed as general health tests. Also, if you need tests/procedures done and are paying out of pocket, some doctors will give you a discount. It's not perfect, but when you have to pay out of pocket, every dollar counts.
Finally, avoiding doctors in hospitals keeps the costs down significantly.

 

[TinyLynne]

Yeah, I had some thyroid and lupus tests done and those went towards my insurance, but genetic is a little harder to bill. But we will absolutely ask about cash discounts. Thanks!

 

[Pato]

Hi ladies, can I join you here? I'm CD9 cycle 4 TTC. Had a EMC last week at 4 weeks. Started spotting on 13th July and went to OBGYN on Monday. He said I had an infection and was spotting from my cervix not my uterus. Scan showed my uterus intact with no bleeding, but too early to c anything, gave me a vaginal antibiotic for the infection. Woke up Tuesday morning with heavy bleeding but no pain. Remained in bed Tuesday and Wednesday but by night time the cramps set in like labour and I passed clots and tissue Thursday. Bleeding stopped Thursday. We started bd yesterday at cd8 hoping for an LO this time. We lost our 3yr old two years ago and I never considered trying again until recently. We really miss her and believe another would help us heal...

Sorry for your losses ladies I know it's hard. All the best to you all

 

[ttcnumber2ky]

TinyLynne - That is really disappointing about your company. I would definitely bring it up to them. I hope your GP is able to find a way to get some of the testing covered for you!

 

[ttcnumber2ky]

Welcome Pato. So sorry to hear of your losses. I hope those are the last for you. I wish you the best of luck this cycle.

 

[TinyLynne]

Hi Pato, so sorry that you find yourself here. I hope that this month gets you your rainbow baby. I am so sorry for your mc and the loss of your daughter, I can't imagine what you have been through.

 

[xanzaba]

Hi Pato, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. This thread seems to have nice people and some baby mojo

 

[Pato]

Thanks ladies for your welcome...hope everyone had a wonderful day

 

[Teeny Weeny]

Hi Pato, we are on some other threads together. Welcome. Xx

AFM, finally CD1 after a lkng 6 week cycle. Clomid must have really screwed me up this month but at least it's over now. Into a fresh new cycle, starting Clomid again tomorrow. Praying for a better cycle this month with tracking.

 

[xanzaba]

Teeny- it's good sometimes to start with a fresh cycle. How have you been tolerating clomid? We're thinking of trying it. Fx'ed this is your cycle.

AFM- don't know what's going on, but I've had a lot of ewcm and no temp spike. Also, even though I have been a bit bloated like usual around O, no O pains. I guess maybe my body decided to keep the little eggy for next cycle? Or maybe it's just taking a long time to gear up this cycle. Did anyone else have lots of ewcm? Did you O?

 

[Pato]

Teeny- it's good sometimes to start with a fresh cycle. How have you been tolerating clomid? We're thinking of trying it. Fx'ed this is your cycle.

AFM- don't know what's going on, but I've had a lot of ewcm and no temp spike. Also, even though I have been a bit bloated like usual around O, no O pains. I guess maybe my body decided to keep the little eggy for next cycle? Or maybe it's just taking a long time to gear up this cycle. Did anyone else have lots of ewcm? Did you O?

I've had EWCM for the last 4 days now and O pain each day as well. My app keeps changing my O date each day bc I have no Temp spike either. I started DTD since CD 8 and I'm on CD 13 today and I'm a little tired IYKWIM....hoping I get a rise tomorrow....GL to you

 

[Pato]

Hi Pato, we are on some other threads together. Welcome. Xx

AFM, finally CD1 after a lkng 6 week cycle. Clomid must have really screwed me up this month but at least it's over now. Into a fresh new cycle, starting Clomid again tomorrow. Praying for a better cycle this month with tracking.

Teeny, how are ya

 

[xanzaba]

Pato- I know what you mean. DH has been enjoying the uncertainty. To be fair we weren't DTD much before the miscarriage.

Looks like I finally have my temp spike after 7+ days of EWCM, bloating and finally some consistent pain on one side. Funny how you can yearn for that pain in the side.

I think that my thermometer is not the best. My main thermometer finally bit the dust after so much temping. I bought it because when I got fed up with this thermometer and it's wonky temps. Today I made DH take his temp and it was only 97.8 after waking up and having coffee. If this month doesn't take, then I'm going to invest in a new thermometer for my next cycle.

 

[Pato]

Pato- I know what you mean. DH has been enjoying the uncertainty. To be fair we weren't DTD much before the miscarriage.

Looks like I finally have my temp spike after 7+ days of EWCM, bloating and finally some consistent pain on one side. Funny how you can yearn for that pain in the side.

I think that my thermometer is not the best. My main thermometer finally bit the dust after so much temping. I bought it because when I got fed up with this thermometer and it's wonky temps. Today I made DH take his temp and it was only 97.8 after waking up and having coffee. If this month doesn't take, then I'm going to invest in a new thermometer for my next cycle.

Yea I'm with you on that. My thermy no longer beeps and I think I may be needing a new one so I'm gonna get one soon, tomorrow if my temps don't rise actually....

 

[ttcnumber2ky]

So i disappeared for the weekend to take a much needed break! I think I have caught up.

Xanzaba- so this most recent cycle where we have been lucky enough to conceive, i had a LOT of bloating and no o pain when I mustve ovulated even though i almost always have o pain. So you definitely could've still o'd without it although it sounds like now with your temp spike it could be now! Good luck!

Pato- hope you get that temp spike too!

Teeny-best of luck with this next round of clomid.

Tiny- i hope you are recovering well and things are okay at home.

Mssk- i hope AF has shown her face so you can get going soon!

 

[mssk]

Welcome Pato and xanzaba. I am so sorry for your losses. I am glad you found us here though! This group has saved my life and my husband from me constantly talking to him about my every worry.