Hey trish, I'm so sorry. I can look at it from both sides of the story. I've had multiple losses and I also went over 4 years ttc, so I know both sides well.
I'm not trying to be a butthead, but if she's suffered from infertility I really think she needs the support. Going through infertility you're not even sure you can get pregnant and there's absolutely no answers anyone can give you as to if you ever will be able to. And its heartbreaking to think you may never have a baby of your own. You become obsessive and depressed that you can't do the one thing your body was designed to do.
Losses are a bit different as you have to go through a grieving process, and yes, get sick of seeing babies and pregnant woman. It's not fair that all these women get to have babies and yours got taken away. And you'll hear this all to much with losses, but the good news is you CAN get pregnant. I hated hearing that, from family, friends, doctors, but it's true. And after you do get a sticky, you'll understand the true meaning of that one simple statement.
Neither situation is easy or ideal, but for women who have suffered losses vs women that haven't even had that, there is comfort in the knowing that you work.
Sorry. Again not trying to make you feel bad, I just want to provide an understanding.
I threw myself into as many baby showers as I could before I got pregnant. It was fun, you get to see the cute stuff and what you may or may not like in a shower. Like, afrer seeing so many "decorate a onesie" stations I decided to ask for a "make a headband for baby" station, and she has so many cute headbands...that she won't wear lol.
I will be testing in a couple of hours. Not expecting to see much at CD9, at least I hope not. We are not starting the BD train until tonight, I think, LOL!
Right on track so far... FX
She had that baby vaginally... no tears.. nothing. 
We are here for you!
