TTC sucess after laparoscopy

[noja]

Hello Cupcake, Don't know what to say to make you feel better, just know that you are being thought of right now. Lots and lots of

 

[cazhd]

Hi cupcake queen for you, i'm sorry to hear about your appointment, i'm not sure what to say but you know were all here for you to chat with

 

[lioness168]

Hi everyone, sorry to hear some about some of the developments over the last week, to all.

Noja - I'm sorry to hear that you didn't get your this month, it was sounding so hopeful at one stage . It was worth a shot, perhaps your body was still recovering after the op.

Cupcake - sorry to hear how your FS appointment went. I guess like caz said earlier, "I know what you mean about IVF but i think dh and i have got to a stage now where were willing to try anything"...perhaps see it as there is still an option out there, not all hope has gone. We're all here to support you

I had a look at DHs SA results here, and I didn't see any test for antibodies...is it a separate test? What should we be looking for on the results sheet? Are the other results affected also? I'm a little bit concerned

 

[noja]

Hello ladies, hope you're all doing well.
Good to hear from you again Lioness. Yeah, this cycle has been odd. No yet, she's two days overdue but def not pregnant (according to First Response, Clearblue Digital AND Asda-well one likes to be sure!) I hope she comes soon, it's costing me a blasted fortune! Think I'll follow your example Caz, just wait for the and save my money. Digital are the worst, no lines just 'Not Pregnant,' very final. Had realy bad cramps on Monday and was sure she was on her way but no, nothing like making a woman wait. Reckon the lap must've done something odd to my system, oh well, it'l all sttle down soon I'm sure.
Cupcake, how are you felling about things today? Still thinking about you, more to you.

Thanks for your advice wish2bmama, will be going to the gyno armed and dangerous. Supposed to be going to Weight Watchers in an hour, not fun when you were out for dinner the night before,Take care ladies!

 

[Sprat]

Sorry to barge in on you all but have just been told I might have a lap & dye and this thread caught my eye.

Cupcake - I am really sorry for your DH's results. I have always been not against the idea of IVF but something in me resisting it because I just want it to happen 'naturally'. However I was talking to a friend recently who said she thinks there is something really magical about IVF. The fact that you have been on such a journey and want a baby so much you will try anything. Just think how your child will feel to know that he/she was so badly wanted. It really made me think and helped to make me feel more confortable about IVF. I hope this helps you too.

Lots of luck to everyone.

 

[Cupcake Queen]

Thanks for your support everyone.

Still feeling a bit gutted and fragile and frightened.

Another appt at FS tomorrow to find out details of everything.

 

[wish2bmama]

Good luck Cupecake! My thoughts are with you!

 

[lioness168]

Noja - How are you going? Has the shown her face yet or not? Hope you find out either way as to whether you are starting a new cycle or have achieved the desired result. Let us know how you go. Hope everything else is going ok for you as well, thinking of you .

Sprat - when is your lap/dye booked in for? Best of luck. If you have any questions feel free to ask as we will be happy to help. It wasn't that long ago we had ours. Do you know what they are going to do during the lap?

Cupcake - How are you going.....? I hope your FS appointment went well today, you are in my thoughs.

Cazhd - haven't heard from you for awhile, hope everything is going ok.

Wish2b - hope things are going well for you too.

As for me - well....I am finding the whole ttc thing a bit stressful as I am over it, but at the same time....must keep going. Trying to when neither are in the mood is quite stressful. We didn't have the best night the other night. The frustrated me came out and I felt like crap. Poor DH was on the other end of it. How do you guys go when the window period appears...do you guys find it difficult sometimes?

Take care all

 

[cazhd]

Hi lioness good to hear from you.

I know what you mean about trying to get the in because it's the window of oppurtunity and neither are in the mood. It's certainly not romantic. We had great time on hol, then when you know round ov everything changes and feel like machines again We've tried to make a bit of fun out of the whole situation if neither really feel that way sometimes helps but still can be difficult.

Not been on for few days just not been feeling myself been feeling miserable about the whole ttc, nothings changed but my boobs have been really tender for 3 days and and still another 4 days till arrives and i know we've not done it AGAIN!!!!! My Dh is great but tells me i'm too hard on myself and can't keep beating myself up over this but i don't know how else i'm suppose to feel. I'm sure you all know what i mean.

Cupcake queen my thoughts are with you, hope fs appointment goes ok

Welcome sprat

Noja the dreaded seems to be playing games. I know what you mean about the pg tests, i'm convinced they only show one line never seen anything else and the word Not pregnant is the further insult

Big for everyone

 

[lioness168]

Cazhd, good to hear from you. I'm glad its not just me who is feeling the strain of trying to be in the mood to due to the window period. I have lost count how many times DH and I just can't make it happen when its the vital time. I usually end in tears and frustration over the whole thing and just can't wait until I fall so we don't have to go through this whole ttc thing anymore as its very wearing. I just don't know what the problem is. When the window period has gone..things happen more easily. DH is keen for a bubs as much as me, but perhaps he feels pressure or something...I don't know...grrr.. I seem to have alot of pain and tears with the whole thing that comes to the surface when doesn't happen in the window period. I don't know how I am suppose to feel or how to manage my feelings when this happens. We chatted about it (after my tears) and I think we both realise we just have to make it happen even if we are not in the mood, otherwise whats the point in having all this treatment, etc if we are not utilising the time properly. Sorry to hear that you have also been having an emotionally hard time Cazhd. We're both doing great...neither of know how we are suppose to feel ...! Well, you're definitely not alone!

 

[wish2bmama]

Hey ladies. Lioness, it was hard on dh during the window this cycle. The opk was + and it was time to just do it. No real passion.

cazhd, I am sorry you are feeling so badly.

If it didn't happen this month, we will take a cycle off and just try to get back in the game the next month. I test on the 3rd of July... I have a few symptoms, but it seem too early to really tell that they are or are not af symptoms. Breast tenderness, tired, an cramping since 2dpo. Not sure if that is just the hormones and the clomid or not.

Hope everyone has good luck and a wonderful day today! And the many to follow!

 

[cazhd]

Thanks, know i'm not alone with the way i feel right now.

Lioness and wish2bmama so know what you mean about the whole thing. It really is frustrating and i have also seen myself in tears cos it's not happened or i feel i've missed a day. It's good you've both chatted about it lioness cos really helps, dh was bit funny couple of months ago and i ended up having an outburst and said i know it's really difficult for him to work like a machine but just cos i've got a positive opk doesn't mean i actually feel like having sex either and we both want this equally and therefore have to do all that we can. The chat seem to do the trick.

Fingers crossed this months lucky for everyone. I'm off to work for my night shift, oh it's a thought!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[lioness168]

Thanks wish2b and Cazhd. I'm also glad that you guys have chatted about it, I don't feel so bad as I thought it was just happening to me/us. Cazhd, your outburst sounds very similar to mine the other night . Today DH and I had a good chat while lying in bed. He is a good listener and he understands, and visa versa. DH has just come down with the flu, so I'm dosing him up on Codral so we can keep going .

Best of luck Wish2b....Ill keep my fingers crossed that the stays away.

Thanks again girls....I hope you have a good night shift Cazhd

 

[wish2bmama]

Thanks ladies. I know what you guys mean about the outbursts. I had one this cycle. I had a really dark opk and neither DH or I was in the mood at all. But I ended up yelling at him and told him he needs to do it. Then I felt badly after.. Then I felt like maybe I jumped the gun and should have done it later in the day, like maybe that would habe closer to the time the eggs are released. I was freaking out and didn't know what to do. In our first months TTC, when I got a +opk, DH would get really turned on b/c of the thought we could make a baby. Now it's been so long, it's just lost all passion. I bougt the book "what to expect before you are expecting" and I think it's a great book. Helped me understand a lot of things.

Lioness, Hope you DH feels better soon!
Thanks ladies, and wishing luck for all of you!

 

[Sprat]

Hi all, this ttc thing is exhausting isn't it?!!!! I don't know if this helps at all but I don't always tell DH when it is the right time - I just jump him!! He really has no clue about my cycle or anything so sometimes he will ask me when the 'window' is and I will say 'remember all that sex we had last week...!!!" I must say for me preseed definitely comes in handy when I am not really in the mood!

My lap & dye has not been booked. I had an HSG a couple of months ago and found that my right tube is completely blocked but I don't have an appointment with my gynae until October (although I am trying to get an earlier one) and at the appointment we are going to discuss me going on the waiting list for a lap & dye - that is all I know!! It is so frustrating. Does anyone else feel that everything is going unbelievably slowly?!!! I first went to the GP in february! DH has had 2 bad SA results and I have a blocked tube - we have only a small chance of conceiving naturally and I feel like they don't care!!!!

 

[lioness168]

Sounds like our tears and emotional outbursts are a side effect of LTTTC.... at least we can listen and support each other. Wish2b, sounds like a good book, would recommend the book "what to expect before you are expecting" to help understand the feelings we go through ttc? I noticed your on CD24, best of luck for this cycle, be kind to yourself. Thanks for your suggestion Sprat. I tried that with DH for awhile, but he does his own calculations as to where I am in my cycle...so I wasn't able to surprise him . I guess I would ideally like to conceive naturally and spontaneously without all this planning and tears. Its good to know that you guys are here and understand what its like and how hard it can be .

Sprat, I'm sorry to hear about your blocked tube. I was fortunate to have progressed quite quickly through the whole process. Sorry to hear your appointment isn't until October , it must be hard having to wait so long. I had the operation done at a private hospital which sped things up alot, otherwise we would have had to wait a minimum of 9 months until we were able to get in. Are you in a private health fund? DH and I have also been going to a TCM guy and having TCM herbs and acupuncture which helps. Alot of people have success using TCM. The TCM guy DH and I go works in with western medicine which is great. My fingers are crossed that everything sorts itself out sooner than later...maybe look into TCM...it may help DH with his as well.

 

[cazhd]

hi all, sprat you've got me sitting here laughing away to myself "I don't always tell DH when it is the right time - I just jump him!!" Dh is looking at me strangely, i do this most months especially day after my positive opk cos don't want to miss it, hee hee.

Well the has got me early, had been feeling hormonal for last five days. So here i am i've passed my 24 months ttc marked and not even a glimmer of a Since coming on here and speaking to you lovely ladies i have been dealing with it much better although still have my bad days. Dh assures me next month is our month but he's always more optimistic and i'm sure he told me that last month

hope everyone okay

 

[Sprat]

Lioness - no chance of us going private - DH has just been made redundant!! It doesn't make any sense to me to stop ttc as it has been so long and who knows how much longer it will take but we certainly won't be going private anytime soon. That is very scary to hear that the wait list was 9 months!!! With regards to TCM it may be somthing I look into at some point but I have just started having reflexology sessions so I will see how that goes and DH is very reluctant to try anything alternative! You know what men can be like!

Cazhd - sorry to hear you have reached 24 months ttc - I can't work out if it is getting any easier or harder the longer it goes on. I think we are continually finding new ways of dealing with it but for me it is always there in the background - a dull pain that intensifies in certain circumstances. DH just keeps saying to me "it will happen" and I always reply "how do you know?". He has no answer to that. Glad I made you chuckle for a bit! It never ceases to amaze me how clueless DH is about the whole process and my cycle etc!!

 

[cazhd]

You'd think after all this time they'd be clued up sprat but dh still the same. Sorry to hear about your husband being made redundant. Hope he finds work soon. Hopefully you can get seen by fs consultant sooner but i'm pretty sure nhs waiting lists are not 9 months for laps, mine was really quick, i saw fs for first time in march and he booked me in there and then for my lap in the may and there was a number of early dates (i had to be done first on list so meant juggling other people if went earlier)

 

[lioness168]

Sprat, sorry to hear that DH has been made redundant . I hope I didn't scare you about the public hospital waiting list as I didn't mean to, sorry. I am in Sydney Australia and its what our specialist told us (our jaws dropped). It may be different depending where you are. I hope you get in really quick like Cazhds experience .

Cazhd, sorry that the has arrived early and you have now reached the 24 month mark of tcc . I think we are all long over due in getting our . When we do, imagine how exciting its going to be!!!! Woohooo.