TTC sucess after laparoscopy

[wish2bmama]

Sprat, sorry about DH.

Czahd, I am sorry about your 24 months ttc. That is a real bitch! I find a deep breath and watching a funny movie help me sometimes.

As for me, I tested today... ... BUT I was impatent and didn't wait until 10 days had passed since I took my last HCG shot.. so it could be a false bfp.. I really don't know about this.. kinda freaking out, but not getting my hopes up you know? I'll go to my doc today and see if I can get blood done or not. I am 8 dpo today.

Good luck ladies!!

 

[Sprat]

oh my goodness wish2bmama - I really hope it is not a false I have no idea how it all works with HCG so I am just keeping my fingers well and truly crossed for you!!!!!!! xxxxx

Lioness - I forgot you were in Australia!

I think it varies from area to area within the UK but I would think Cazhd's experience is more likely for me than the 9 months! Thanks Cazhd - feeling better about it now!

 

[cazhd]

oh gosh wish2bmama i've got my fingers and toes crossed for you hope not a false

Sprat glad you feel better about waiting times for laps, most health boards in uk have 12 weeks max waiting time for explorative procedures, although i'm sure some fiddle with times for there tables but can't be far off.

 

[Sprat]

I got a letter today saying my appointment with my FS has been brought forward to 14th August.

 

[noja]

Hello ladies, back online after a little laptop prob. Wish2b I really hope this is the real thing for you, to you, the waiting to redo must be a killer.
Caz, keep your courage, that must be 24 months of hell. It can happen, it will happen and when it does, we'll be here to share every moment of it with you. And until it does we will share every frustration, tear and disappointment with you.
Sprat, sorry about your husband's job, that's a bummer! Fingers x that you don't have a massive wait for your lap. I'm in Ireland and I would have had to wait to have 3 miscarriages before they'd start investigations. So I skipped over to Northern Ireland and had it done privately as I was lucky enough to have good health cover.

Ladies, yet again I have found myself so encouraged from the chats in here. Lioness, the pressure with Dh that you described and that everyone added to sounds tearjerkingly familiar. came for me a few days late. Even before she arrived I knew I wasn't pregnant and what I didn't say to my lovely, gentle, patient, DH with whom for most of the month I am completely besotted. I blamed him that I'm not pregnant, accused him of sitting back and letting me be cut open when he won't bother to chase up a Sperm analysis appointment. Blamed him for being too tired and not bothered when I'm ovulating and not doing enough to get me up the duff! I accused him of not wanting this enough, of not caring...... Why do we do this to our men? I swear I'm not a nasty person but something inside me seems to crack when another cycle ends in tears. I hope and pray that our time will come soon, sometimes I believe it will. Sometimes I sit and imagine what it will be like to be handed a little newborn baby in the delivery room and I just cry because part of me is So scared that it will never happen. And if it doesn't, because it might not, I do know that we'll get through it, because i have other friends who have. But right now, I don't want to believe that I might ever have to.
Sorry for ranting.

 

[Sprat]

I hope and pray that our time will come soon, sometimes I believe it will. Sometimes I sit and imagine what it will be like to be handed a little newborn baby in the delivery room and I just cry because part of me is So scared that it will never happen. And if it doesn't, because it might not, I do know that we'll get through it, because i have other friends who have. But right now, I don't want to believe that I might ever have to.

Noja - you have summed up how I feel! and I am sure how a lot of us feel.

I had a dream last night that I was looking after a little baby boy and he was asleep on my chest. You know how some dreams really stay with you? It was so real and I still remember how amazing it felt.

I am trying to decide what my feelings are about having a lap & dye before I go see my FS in August so I can tell her straight away whether to put my on the waiting list or move forward with the next step whatever that will be.
I know you will proabably all have mentioned this at some point but could you remind me how long you all took off work?
I am in a job where I sit at a desk all day, so nothing strenuous - I am trying to work out if I could get away with taking 2 weeks holiday and therefore not having to tell anyone why I am away!

 

[noja]

Oh Sprat what a beautiful dream. Hold on to that feeling. We'll all have it for real someday.I took 2 weeks off work and to be honest I could have done with 3. It may be different for you but to be honest I wouldn't waste holidays on your time off becuase a holiday it is not. The pain does go and it is bearable but you may well be stiff and sore. Getting up and down from a chair is one of the more painful movements, getting into bed may a bit of a challenge, stairs may cause twinges. Really, it's not the worst thing in the world a woman can ever go through but there is discomfort involved. I couldn't even think about driving until 10 days afterwards. As for having to tell people where you are, well, I'm a principal in a small rural school and unfortunately this sometimes means that there are those amongst the parent population who believe have a stake in my life and feel the need to be aware of every detail. I told them all I was having an operation, no more, no less. It drove some people insane but for once in my life I didn't crunch under the pressure of questioning looks and fishing comments and let people stew. There are certain things a woman doesn't have to justify.

 

[noja]

But don't let what I said puy you off!! The procedure shed some light ona few things and it's not that bad. If the doc recommends it, seriously consider taking that step because it may save time and heartache in long run.

 

[Cupcake Queen]

Hi Everyone

Seems like there are a few of you that have been having a hard time and feeling the pressure of TTC. Lioness, it is definitely not just you with the timed intercourse thing being soooo unromantic! It doesn't really do much to create the mood when you are on a schedule.

Just an update on where things are at with me - seems like the whole laparoscopy and hysteroscopy was a waste of time for me - given that our fertility issues are pretty much all now with DH and his sperm antibodies. Sperm can't swim to egg because of them, so no matter what, it can't happen.

Am annoyed I went through operation and pain etc for nothing. IVF is the only way for us and that is what we will be embarking upon in a few weeks *sigh*

So I'm not sure if this is the right forum for me anymore, given I'm not in the TTC 'naturally' category anymore and I imagine IVF will be even more traumatic than the last 12 months of TTC and my rants will not be about timed intercourse, but rather timed embryo insertion!?!

 

[cazhd]

Sprat that's great new your fs appointments been brought forward. I took 3 weeks off work for lap, i thought i was ready after that but wasn't when it actually got down to me doing my job, i'm on my feet for 12 hours and work can be quite physical however equally i think you would still be uncomfortable for first two weeks at least even sitting at a desk. I never told anyone why i was off and they all took it upon themselves to make the reasons up which i found even more upsetting.

So good to hear from you noja. Sorry got you too. Thanks for your words of encouragement it means alot. Your rant also summed up how i completely feel at the moment and burst into tears , oh dear i'm a hormonal wreck cd 4 and poor dh has to deal with me. Even worse he said if i wasn't too tired after nite shift we'd go to cinema this afternoon, off we went i picked my sister's keeper, i must be mad i just sobbed the whole way thru!!!

Hi cupcake queen, sorry your feeling that lap all done in vain. Keep your courage, you can do it, best of luck with embarking on ivf and i hope you stick with us and keep us up to date with how your doing, i'm sure we all agree that were all here to support you and listen to you. Take care

Big all

 

[noja]

Caz, our cycles are probably similar this time so maybe we'll be testing at the same time AND getting our at the same time Let's break that 24 month run for you. Find your inner strength and let's battle on (I can't use the ninjas because someone in another thread is using them to keep away! )

 

[cazhd]

That sounds good noja, we need to battle on. Forgot to say i'm taking clomid 50mg this cycle, wasn't sure about it when fs spoke about it just cos i ovulate regularly but thought about it and decided it's worth a try so think doing three months which will take me up to my next fs appointment in sept which i i'll not need

 

[noja]

I was supposed to go to gyno today to discuss things like Clomid but I had to cancel as DH arranged meeting with a builder re new house we hope to start soon-ish. He's been so goos I hadn't the heart to ask him to change it.

 

[lioness168]

Hi guys, hope you have all been well. I've been busy (and tired) with work and been tcc all week, poor DH has been sick the whole week and we have still soldiered on. I have been temping as well as using OPKs (even though the specialist said not to worry about doing all that), and I am a little confused. Before the Op and taking Clomid, I use to have one day where I get a positive OPK... but this cycle I have had 3 days of positive OPKs! So....DH and I are still running the marathon . I wonder whats going on...hmmm.

Congrats Wish2b!!! Great news about the !!! Wishing you a h&h pregnancy Hoping the rest of us get our soon.

Good news Sprat on your FS appointment being brought forward, things are moving a bit more quickly for you now which is great to hear. As for time off after the lap, my work requires me to be active, out and about with bending and twisting etc, so I took 4.5 weeks off. If your work doesn't require this you could get away with 2 - 3 weeks I'm sure. I wasn't in too much pain as I kept on top of it with the meds they recommended. It was the swelling that took awhile to go down - about 6 weeks. And about 7 weeks for my belly button to stop oozing and heal up. They also recommended no heavy lifting for 4 to 6 weeks.

Good to see you again Noja. Hearing that you guys go through the same stressful and heart wrenching conversations with your DH certainly helps me feel not so insane And Noja...you're definitely not ranting...thats what we are here for it helps to share.

Cupcake, please don't feel like you have to leave here, we would love to hear how your going and support you on your journey. I am so sorry to hear about whats happened for you and your DH . Maybe see the operation as providing a clean slate where the embyo will readily embed and stick rather than a waste of time...greatly increasing your chances in getting your sooner than later and hopefully only needing one cycle of IVF!!!

Cazhd, how are you going on the Clomid? I am also ovulating on my own and taking Clomid to help increase our chances. Fingers crossed that it helps.

to all

 

[noja]

Hi all,
welcome back Lioness, good to see you again, good to hear you were...ahem....working on a for the thread! Here's hoping... Thanks for your encouragement. Poor Dhs.

How are you feeling today Cupcake? and the rest of you ladies?

 

[wish2bmama]

okay ladies.. so I just got off the phone with my RE... :BFN: It was either a chemical pregnancy or a false I'm heart broken. I just want to cry forever. I'm sick of this. I just want to be a mom so badly. Well, we will take a month off of this and then try again. I hate this... I feel dead inside right now...

 

[noja]

Rotten news Wish2b, you're entitled to a good cry-in fact I think if you get a chance you should scream and roar and sob. Hang in there,we're here for you. You are a strong woman and you will get through this.

 

[Sprat]

Wish2bmama I am so so sorry!!!! I am CD1 today so also feeling very sorry for myself but to get your hopes up like that with a must be so much worse! Sending you lots and lots of love and hugs.
Take some time to cry and grieve and scream and rant but remember you will feel better again and you will find the strength to pick yourself up again and keep trying. Just remember we are here for you and understand the feelings you are going through - you are not alone. xxxxxx

 

[cazhd]

wish2bmama i'm so sorry to hear your rotten news i can't imagine how your feeling right now. You know were all here to chat and i know you'll battle on

Sprat sorry to hear the got you, i'm on cd 6 and and also felt completely sorry for myself, i don't know why but last month felt different and i just had a feeling, hmmm

Hopefully you'll get an appointment with fs soon noja. Good luck with your house building plans, sounds stressful!!!

Good to hear from you lioness, this months cycle sounds positive and your on the marathon run now, oh dear, my turn next week! I'm doing okay clomid seems to be okay, i'm quite hormonal normally but seem to be okay at present however have an outbreak of spots on my lower back today which i've never had, not sure if related but unusual for me. Praying it helps

to all

 

[Cupcake Queen]

Wish2bmama I'm so sorry to hear your news. Sending you lots of hugs.


You have every right to feel sad, disappointed and like it's the worst thing in the world - don't be hard on yourself and give yourself time to take it all in and grieve.

Thinking of you and hoping you are feeling a bit better today.