Tubal Ligation regret

[momofone08]

Has anyone regretted their tubal? I just had my third baby and all three have been c-sections. I have also had 4 miscarriages and have pcos. I work full time, and am a full time mommy, wife, and college student. I understand that medically, time wise and financially it is not the best decision to have anymore children which is why I had the tubal done. I was dead set on getting it. Hubby offered to get the vasectomy but since I was having a c-section I decided to do the tubal. Now I regret it deeply!

I feel almost cheated. I know that sounds stupid since it was my personal choice, but I feel mad that my husband can still have children and my choice is gone. I'm only 10 weeks PP and I can't shake the feeling that this will be the last time I will ever hold a baby, the last time I will change diapers, breastfeed, feel their kicks, etc. I know this was the best decision for my family but I have no idea how to cope with the fact that I will never be pregnant again. The last 6 years I have been TTC or pregnant and now that is all over. How do I embrace this new part of my life?

 

[josephine3]

I know theres a couple of women around somewhere going thru the same thing or waiting to make the decision. And one lady who saved all her money to have it reversed!
At least u know u made the best decision for your family.. Maybe look forward to this new phase of ur life where u can become ur own person again, socialise more, get out of the 'baby' world you've been in for so long! Plus ur 10 wk old will need u for a few years yet before she isnt a 'baby'l anymore so u still have all those moments to look forward to!
I can understand how u feel, even tho u dont want anymrore children, knowing it can never happen again would be difficult.

 

[pinklizzy]

I haven't had this done but little man will be our last baby and I feel the same about it being the last time I'll have newborn snuggles, feeds etc. I don't want him to grow up!
I think making plans for the future that wouldn't be possible with more babies can help, or at least I hope so!

 

[momofone08]

Thank you for the support ladies.

 

[SRTBaby]

I am thinking of having mine done on Monday, I really don't want to be pregnant again plus doctor said it will be easier with csection. I just don't know how I should decide, I have to sign papers Monday morning

 

[HBGirl]

I can understand how you feel. Being pregnant is such a huge part of a womans identity. Knowing that you can no longer do that impacts on you. Maybe you can look into seeing someone to speak to about it. It is akin to an amputation even though you made the choice.

 

[Dinah93]

I haven't had it done, although it's something we're discussing. I'm not quite ready to draw that very final line under my ability to have more children, even though medically I know having more is very very unlikely since I struggle to carry a baby to term, and haven't made it past 29+1 and my obstetrician has told me I'm unlikely to get past 30 weeks no matter how many times I do it. I'm trying to consider myself lucky that I have two gorgeous children, and part of me feels that my family is complete anyway, but we always said we wanted 3 or 4 so I feel a bit like I've been railroaded into making this decision for logical reasons and I can't separate the sadness that even if I change my mind in the future and wanted another baby I can't do it knowing I could easily be signing them up for a lifetime of health struggles.