TWW starts today! Who's with me?!

[BabyHopes.]

So, AF came last night in full vengence. I had a bachelorette party to go to last night, and wasn't going to drink just in case, but Hubby sat me down and said 'you're going to hate me for this, but hear me out' and essentially told me he didn't think I was preggo, and that the super melt-down was probably PMS. I hate when he's right
I'm not as broken up as I thought I would be - I guess I knew I wasn't really preggo with all the negs on the FRERs. Oh well, we have a plan in place for the next cycle, and I'll give it everything I've got - again. May start temping, taking DHA and baby aspirion, although I need to do some research on the last one.

Take care ladies. xo

 

[Torres]

I'm taking baby aspirin babyhopes. My OBGYN told me to take it as I had severe Pre-eclampsia and HELLP syndrome. Is it supposed to help conceive?
Glad you're okay and you have a plan for next month. Make sure you keep BDing even after you think you O'ed!

 

[onebumpplease]

Babyhopes But you have a plan, I have a plan. We CAN do this I'm sure. Maybe this time next month you'll be celebrating, because you will be, I'm just hoping it's sooner rather than later.

Torres, I understand why you're panicking. I hope you can settle a little as statistically everything is going to be fine with your little bean xx

 

[Torres]

I hope we'll all be celebrating everyone's BFP's next cycle! Actually hopefully we'll be celebrating snows in a few days!
Maybe I'm selfish- but I don't want new BnB friends, I want you all to be my bump buddies!

 

[snowflakes120]

Well it was def the flu. I had a bad fever last night and this AM. I go to the RE in a few hours. I'll update with a new plan of action. FRER today and BFN so I am totally out! Pretty disappointed but not too surprised! Just thought we had it in the bag with my higher Progesterone and my chart looking so nice... Onto cycle #15. WTF.

 

[Torres]

Snow I thought this was your month too. Hopefully the RE will be able to come up with a plan and you'll get your BFP next month!

 

[onebumpplease]

Snow I can't imagine how you're feeling. I really hope the next stage is the stage that gives you your BFP

 

[Torres]

How are you doing Onebump? Why do you think this cycle is going to be so long?

 

[BabyHopes.]

Well it was def the flu. I had a bad fever last night and this AM. I go to the RE in a few hours. I'll update with a new plan of action. FRER today and BFN so I am totally out! Pretty disappointed but not too surprised! Just thought we had it in the bag with my higher Progesterone and my chart looking so nice... Onto cycle #15. WTF.

Hey Snow, how'd it go with the RE? Any insights?

 

[snowflakes120]

Well, I am back. I was there forever! We talked for like an hour. Basically, she is recommending IUI with Femara, mid-cycle ultrasound & Ovridel (a shot that will make me OV within 24-36 of injection). I don't know what to do. I don't know if I'm ready for all this. It's really super expensive. Hubby only works part-time and goes to school full-time and we pay cash for his tuition. It's gonna be hard. I just don't know what to do or think. My mind is mush after all the info that was given to me. I am so confused right now. I have some serious thinking to do. Sorry to be the downer of the day.

 

[BabyHopes.]

Well, I am back. I was there forever! We talked for like an hour. Basically, she is recommending IUI with Femara, mid-cycle ultrasound & Ovridel (a shot that will make me OV within 24-36 of injection). I don't know what to do. I don't know if I'm ready for all this. It's really super expensive. Hubby only works part-time and goes to school full-time and we pay cash for his tuition. It's gonna be hard. I just don't know what to do or think. My mind is mush after all the info that was given to me. I am so confused right now. I have some serious thinking to do. Sorry to be the downer of the day.

Snow
That sounds like a lot to take in. At least the positive side is, should you choose to proceed with it, there is a plan. It sounds like your specialist is willing to do whatever it takes, which is a good thing. I haven't actually looked into it, but I'm sure the costs are nuts. I don't wish this on anyone! Take whatever time you need to process, talk it out with hubby. Maybe a year or two of saving isn't a bad thing - take the stress off TTC. (Of course still to NTNP in the meantime!), but know at the back of your mind that when you're ready to be more proactive, that the help is available.
I'm really sorry you have to go through all this
I can only imagine how long a road it's been for you. This is why I'm worried about having to wait a year to get tested. If there is a problem with me/hubby/us, I feel like we're wasting time just letting the months go by.

Take care, and try and have a restful night, I bet you're utterly exhausted after all that. Whatever we can do, we're here!!!

 

[Torres]

Snow - No need to apologize! You know that! You don't have to make your decision at this moment. You don't even have to make it within the next month, or even in 4 months. I have no idea how expensive it is, but I do know what it's like having one person working full time (my hubby) and one part time and in school (Me 2 years ago). It's not easy, and I applaud you guys for doing it.
What my suggestion is, is to take your time to think about it, go through the pros and cons (money vs. rate of success), and while you are thinking about it, keep TTC and start putting whatever money you can aside. Either you will get pregnant on your own, and you will have extra money already set aside for whatever you want, or you will have the money to go ahead with the IUI.
No matter what you do, we'll be here cheering you on, sharing the hard times and celebrating the good times.

 

[Torres]

Babyhopes - did you look into temping? Are you going to try it this cycle?

 

[Torres]

Snow - did the specialist say anything about your progesterone levels?

 

[onebumpplease]

Snow I'm so sorry you have to go through all of this. I can't believe how many women have difficulty TTC. I always expected to have difficulties (I have been known to be a bit of a pessimist), but I am so surprised as to how many women do have difficulties.

Snow I hope you and DH and come to a decision. Although it's horrible, saving up over a certain amount of period (not too long hopefully) will cause your body to do the trick that you hear so often, stories of women falling just before starting treatment. Wish I had something more helpful to say. You are always welcome to either have all the positivity in the world or when you are at rock bottom. We are with you, we want you to get that BFP.

 

[onebumpplease]

Torres, my pattern since I came off BCP April 2011 to have a 2month cycle followed by a one month cycle. Therefore just had a lovely 28day cycle, so expecting a longer version. Would obviously be delighted if my body proved me wrong

 

[BabyHopes.]

Babyhopes - did you look into temping? Are you going to try it this cycle?

I'm still hesitant - although I know I should technically have started on CD1. My concern is that it will give me one more thing to obsess about. And I know I ovulate, so I don't really need it for confirmation; and now that we're going to keep BDing a week past when I think I O, I don't know if we need to.

But yet, it'll be good info to give the doc... I guess the answer is I still haven't decided! Do you temp? Do you find it helpful, or an added stressor?

 

[Torres]

I never temped. I wake up a few times a night, and am normally going to and from my daughter's room, so I never thought it would be accurate for me.
Fx'd this is your month and you won't even have to think about temping again.
How are you doing snow?

 

[onebumpplease]

I think it could cause extra stress if there is no real need. I don't have regular cycles, so find it necessary to confirm ovulation, in order to know when to expect AF. But am considering quitting temping a few days after that as I find the TWW can be a bit stressful.

 

[snowflakes120]

I'm here following you girls. Just lurking away (in a non stalker creepy kinda way). xoxo

We are going forward with the IUI. I'm prolly quitting temping after AF arrives for the IUI as they will be giving me a schedule of dates that will outline when and what will be done. They will also tell me when and when not to BD. RE said the cycle will be all planned out for me and I won't have to think about a thing. Hoping this will alleviate some of my anxieties of missing OV and such. I might even not do any OPK's either. I plan to ask at my next appt that will be when AF arrives. Which should be Thurs or Fri.