TWW Support group to help get you through the nitty gritty...and beyond

[Mrs. Burch]

Thursday, my temps usually start to go down on 12dpo so that is what I am basing it off of.

 

[Mummy to be x]

Keeping my fx for you. Keep us updated.

 

[Smommy013]

I hope it goes up!

So this is completely off topic of ttc, but do any of y'all have problems with the in-laws?

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Mrs-I'm going with a bfp for you!!
Smommy-my in laws make me want to drink heavily. Whats up with yours?

 

[Smommy013]

They are the same way ready. They are super controlling. And they are very deeming. They treat me like I'm under them

 

[Mrs. Burch]

Smommy- hope everything is ok!! To make you feel better here is my situation!! Mil is a total FING BITCH!! (I don't curse often) what started it off was she told dh I was cheating on him when we first started dating!! I confronted her with dh and she called me a snot snoozed bitch! I was pissed. Keep in mind she lived with dh, he owns the house and she lived here. Well my lease was up and I wasn't gonna sign another year so I moved in with dh. He was turning a shed, about 30 feet from my back door, into an apt for her (600 sqft). We all three had to live under this roof for about 3 months, of HELL!! She told me that I was an intruder in her home, I quickly reminded her that it wasn't her house and if she didn't like it she could leave at anytime. She has manipulated dh for his whole life. This got so bad we went to counseling. Counselor said she needed to move but she laid it on dh pretty good and she still lives in my back yard. She at one point called my employer and told her she needed to fire me because I was a b word!! Not lying!!! When dh told her he proposed she cried she did come to the wedding and didn't say a word to me which I was fine with. It is better now, only in the way that we don't speak to eachother which is better than fighting. I hope yours isn't this bad. Oh and fil and I get along great. I see why they got divorced.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Omg mrs! I don't even want to tell my issues cuz that is crazy town. I hope dh is totally supportive of u?

 

[Mrs. Burch]

He is getting better, in the begining it was hard but now he does. She still manipulates him and we argue when I point it out. But it is SOO much better then it was. It is kind of scary us trying because she flat out told us both, to our faces, don't ask me to watch your kids but I'll watch ur dog. Dh is an only child and she has 10 dogs in a 600 sqft apt. I had to rip up all the carpets in the house because it was so bad with all the sags she has. So I am nervous because I don't know how she'll treat my children and if she messes with them she will think I'm the devil on earth Bc I will be. She will have to find a place to live other than my back yard lol

 

[Smommy013]

Geez mrs. That's insane. And me and DH had to coucenling as well because of them. His father is probably the worst. He just treats my DH like he is a worthless piece of crap. But my DH is a good person. When I have time I will write some situations. Cause there is a whole back story

 

[Mrs. Burch]

Oh wow, I don't know if I can handle that. Atleast mil is overly obssed with dh. Lol I can't stand it when someone treats dh like he is a pos, unless it's me jk

 

[Smommy013]

Yeah, it's bad. So a little back story. My DH has a 3 year old that I am the only mom he knows. So, I am the primary care giver. While DH was in Afghanistan, his parents had the kid. At one point told me I was killing the child's spirit. And at another point threatened to leave my house because they didn't like the way I was parenting. They call DH and tell him that he is not doing a good job. The small child loves us and is a big mommas (me) boy, but his parents don't want us to have him this summer. The child has all his friends and everything up here, but they think he is depressed. He isn't at all but when he talks to them he reverts and baby talks. Me and DH have had to go to therapy because I was slipping into depression from them

 

[Mrs. Burch]

Smommy-I am confused on why his parents get to decided whether you have him or not, doesn't he live with you? Do Dh's parents have custody or something? This does sound awful. I am so sorry you are going through this, I can't imagine. I do fear that MIL will try to tell me how to raise my children and at that point I will go off!! I am so sorry girl, this is tough.

 

[Smommy013]

DH has full custody. And they are just controlling like that. They think they are the perfect people. And thanks girl. I'm sorry you have to deal with one too.
How do you deal? Any suggestions?

 

[Mrs. Burch]

Smommy-I don't know what to tell you, other than to tell them to shut up and it is your son and you will raise him the way you see fit. How far away do they live from you? If it isn't too close just watch the communication, make it a little less. I would watch son talking to him if he is reverting, that isn't good for him and to me means that they are treating him like a baby. NOW don't get me wrong I DO NOT have children so I have NO idea. You need to do what you feel is right!!! Does DH see a problem or is he just kind of like mine, where that is all he knows so it isn't that big of a deal?

 

[Smommy013]

He realizes it's a problem. But he just feels so guilty for telling them no. And yeah he reverts back with them, but they don't care

 

[Mrs. Burch]

That is sad, I am sorry!! I can't imagine dealing with that, that would be worse then MIL just being a b word I think!! Good luck and I hope you get something figured out soon!!

 

[Smommy013]

Don't know if it's worse, or just the other side of the same coin. Hahaha and thanks. I'm kinda what some would call a hard a** so it's time pull out all the stops

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Smommy and mrs-I don't know how u both don't freak out on them. As far as the child I wouldn't allow dh parents to control anything. Dh needs to stand up to them and tell them to respect his parenting. And mrs tell mil to suck it! I couldn't imagine having my mil making such rude comments.
My mil makes me nuts but its due to her over excitement and enthusiasm for being a grandma. A few things that have happened...dh cousin was getting rid of all of their baby stuff and mil kept it instead of asking if we needed it, wanted to get a crib for dd and our nephew fpr when they "sleepover", bought a carseat to drive them god knows where, mistakenly called herself mommy to dd. This all maybe doesn't sound bad but at times I feel like she's planning to steal dd. Plus I have ds from another relationship and they very clearly favour their own grandchildren. Everything is just way over the top with them.

 

[Mrs. Burch]

Smommy-my own mother has called me cold hearted because I can be such a hard ass!! I'm more of the facts kind of person vs emotions! You know this is how it is sorry get over it and move on!! Lol (my mom is VERY emotional)

Ready-yeah that is for sure odd! That would drive me crazy!!! See the good thing about my mil is that we don't talk really so I don't have to deal with her too much. Just the bs she says to dh. If my mil told my child that she was mom I'd be pissed beyond belief. That is just very odd to me!! And why does she wanna keep stuff??!! Is she "young" like for a gma??!! Maybe missing out that she wants another baby??!! That is so sad about ds, I was in his shoes when I was younger and it sucks!! He will grow past it and I was always glad my mom was there and kinda did extra for me when other gparents didn't!! Good luck to all of us with these crazy in laws. You know I always thought people just made this stuff up about in laws but we see where that got me!!! Lmbo

 

[Mrs. Burch]

Ps ready are you back to temping or taking off again??!