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[Renaendel]

They have done ultrasounds and two pelvic exams. The issue is abdominal ectopics can look just like uterine ones on US, and with my hcg the tube can rupture before you can see it on ultrasound. So they can only watch my hcg, track pain and watch for any signs of internal bleeding. I haven't listed everything here but I have been to the hospital probably twelve times in the last few weeks for follow up. They are watching everything very closely and trying to not rush into everything. The fact is they still can't officially identify where my pregnancy is. My reproductive endocrinologist believes it is ectopic, tubal or abdominal. The obgyn thought it was uterine and is now split between tubal, abdominal and uterine.

 

[ab75]

Hope you get some answers soon Ren xx

Thanks ladies, scan went well, baby's heart is perfect xx

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Ren-Don't think I am trying to be a know it all or negative towards ur situation I keep asking the questions only because I have heard many horror stories of wrongful diagnoses and feel sometimes doctors make bad decisions. I really hope this will be over soon and u can move on. I know with my m/c it took 9 wks to drop from 256 hcg...just painful waiting. And the ectopic was an opinion not a guaranteed diagnosis.

 

[Renaendel]

I know you were just worried sweetie. No one here judges. I hope I didn't come across as harsh, I just haven't wanted to bombard you guys with every update.

I feel like I am getting very good care and that they are taking their time. They are as dedicated to keeping my last tube as I am. Thanks for letting me know how long yours took. So I could be looking at starting up again in December probably.

 

[Mommy_DK]

Ren- I really am going to pray that your drs uncertainty is just that , maybe their suspicions are wrong.....? You are def in my thoughts and prayers.

Bab- Thanks for sharing that with me when you put it that way I guess most women have had their 'friendly days' lol although I regret those days too I'm glad I went through it in a way because I've learned a lot and I'll have lots of info to relay to my kids! Sorry you have been so stressed at work , I hope it hasn't affected your cycle at all and good luck on getting DH to bd between now and Monday !

AFM- Won't say much.... Don't want to bombard anyone. DH had to put his swimmers in the cup today here at home and he chose to watch porn to do that and my feelings are really hurt I know that sounds dumb but he didn't really ask me to participate so I felt like he was having an affair oh well . Guess I'll just have to suck it up

 

[Mommy_DK]

Sorry again. Hope I'm not bombarding. Just wanted to update . DHs count is 2x the average amount ........ And everything checked out for me as well. Just waiting on CBC test and hsg , but the nurse said it'll probably be unexplained infertility ....

 

[ReadynWaiting]

I'm glad they r taking care of you Ren.
Mommy-that's awesome that all is perfect but the unexplained infertility is frustrating. What now?

 

[BABTTC123]

Ren- sorry if I seemed a bit against your doctors as well.. I am used to being jerked around by doctors who don't care :/ I have only had one good doctor in my life and I am trying to get back under her care. When they made the system switch I was taken off her list of clients :'( the one I have now is rude, obviously doesn't understand PCOS and puts my prescriptions and follow ups on the back burner. She doesn't even make an effort to remember who I am. It ticks me off because conceiving is VERY important to me and she could give a rats ass if I ever do or not.

Mommy- he was probably just embarrassed about it. I doubt my husband would want me assisting him when he is supplying his sample swimmers. Lol I can complete relate though. I would still be a bit offended but we just need to remind ourselves that they aren't as open as we are about this stuff
If they can't explain the infertility then it might just all be due to stress. I hope that they can figure something out to help!

Afm- I am trying not to let the stress get to me. Doing okay so far, but I had some moments today. I am just exhausted!!
I had a dream last night that I was pregnant and didn't know it and was already 2 months along. Went and got a scan and then woke up xD mean dream teasing me like that! Lol

 

[pradabooties]

Hi!
I'm new and would really appreciate some help.
Long story short(ish), I stopped taking the pill about 2 and a half months ago now. Definitely felt ovulation happen probably about a month ago, experienced spotting (brown tinged CM) 2 weeks ago, only there when I wiped for about 2 days. Then a week ago another singular spot (mostly CM with just a tinge). Symptoms I've had strongly have been:
- HUGE areolas (very weird for me)
- Heartburn (never had it before)
- Swollen ankles
- Back ache
- Gone off some foods
- Crazy chocolate cravings! (also weird for me, weirdly enough!)
- Bloated and swollen on abdomen only (even shapewear is failing me)

I took 2 First Response Dip & Read tests yesterday afternoon and totally BFN - I was honestly shocked. Thought "okay maybe my body is just crazy from stopping the pill" but did another with first urine this morning and there definitely isn't a line but there is a mark, like where the positive line would be, as if it started to form a line then stopped (see photo)
https://i1368.photobucket.com/albums/ag200/thestylenotesco/IMG_7019_zps982e5781.jpg


What do you ladies think - have you had symptoms like this coming off the pill? Or should I test again with non cheapies?

ps. sorry if you've seen this elsewhere, I posted in a hpt thread too, pretty desperado!

Thank you! xo

 

[BABTTC123]

Hi!
I'm new and would really appreciate some help.
Long story short(ish), I stopped taking the pill about 2 and a half months ago now. Definitely felt ovulation happen probably about a month ago, experienced spotting (brown tinged CM) 2 weeks ago, only there when I wiped for about 2 days. Then a week ago another singular spot (mostly CM with just a tinge). Symptoms I've had strongly have been:
- HUGE areolas (very weird for me)
- Heartburn (never had it before)
- Swollen ankles
- Back ache
- Gone off some foods
- Crazy chocolate cravings! (also weird for me, weirdly enough!)
- Bloated and swollen on abdomen only (even shapewear is failing me)

I took 2 First Response Dip & Read tests yesterday afternoon and totally BFN - I was honestly shocked. Thought "okay maybe my body is just crazy from stopping the pill" but did another with first urine this morning and there definitely isn't a line but there is a mark, like where the positive line would be, as if it started to form a line then stopped (see photo)
https://i1368.photobucket.com/albums/ag200/thestylenotesco/IMG_7019_zps982e5781.jpg


What do you ladies think - have you had symptoms like this coming off the pill? Or should I test again with non cheapies?

ps. sorry if you've seen this elsewhere, I posted in a hpt thread too, pretty desperado!

Thank you! xo

I can see a faint line on there as well as that mark! I would be a little concerned that it isn't very strong after this long.. have you contacted your doctor about Af being this late? I highly recommend a blood test and possibly an ultrasound. I hope that you get some good news soon! :3

 

[pradabooties]

Hi!
I'm new and would really appreciate some help.
Long story short(ish), I stopped taking the pill about 2 and a half months ago now. Definitely felt ovulation happen probably about a month ago, experienced spotting (brown tinged CM) 2 weeks ago, only there when I wiped for about 2 days. Then a week ago another singular spot (mostly CM with just a tinge). Symptoms I've had strongly have been:
- HUGE areolas (very weird for me)
- Heartburn (never had it before)
- Swollen ankles
- Back ache
- Gone off some foods
- Crazy chocolate cravings! (also weird for me, weirdly enough!)
- Bloated and swollen on abdomen only (even shapewear is failing me)

I took 2 First Response Dip & Read tests yesterday afternoon and totally BFN - I was honestly shocked. Thought "okay maybe my body is just crazy from stopping the pill" but did another with first urine this morning and there definitely isn't a line but there is a mark, like where the positive line would be, as if it started to form a line then stopped (see photo)
https://i1368.photobucket.com/albums/ag200/thestylenotesco/IMG_7019_zps982e5781.jpg


What do you ladies think - have you had symptoms like this coming off the pill? Or should I test again with non cheapies?

ps. sorry if you've seen this elsewhere, I posted in a hpt thread too, pretty desperado!

Thank you! xo

I can see a faint line on there as well as that mark! I would be a little concerned that it isn't very strong after this long.. have you contacted your doctor about Af being this late? I highly recommend a blood test and possibly an ultrasound. I hope that you get some good news soon! :3

Thank you for replying! That is helpful! I stared at the thing for so long wondering if my eyes were playing tricks, the only really clear thing I know for certain I could see was that mark looking like the very beginning of a positive line that didn't finish forming! I think I'll take a more sensitive test tomorrow and go from there/contact my doctor if AF still hasn't arrived. Thanks again!

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Welcome Prada! How sensitive is that strip?

 

[Renaendel]

Sorry again. Hope I'm not bombarding. Just wanted to update . DHs count is 2x the average amount ........ And everything checked out for me as well. Just waiting on CBC test and hsg , but the nurse said it'll probably be unexplained infertility ....

I hope not. Remember CBC and HSG are just the first tests they can do. You have nk cells, a month long estradiol and progesterone profile, mthfr gene, igA/IgG testing, and so many more.

Prada, I don't see anything but agree with these ladies you need to go in and get checked.

Bab, I didn't take offence to anything you said. You were worried for me and expressed it. How could that make me upset?

AB, I think I got my answer this morning. My hcg is going down in a staircase pattern. It stays the same for a week and then drops suddenly, then stalls out, then dumps. My test this morning was finally lighter! Hope this means that Monday it will be down enough.

Hubbs wants to talk trying for our first child over again. The losses are getting to him and he is afraid that something bad will happen.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Ren-how do u feel about talking things over?

Afm-I have had some strang cramping/electric twinges in lower abdominal area plus some shooting pain through one tata. I could be highly aware of every little thing therefore it may seem bigger than it is. I just wanted to make note for future reference just in case.

 

[pradabooties]

Welcome Prada! How sensitive is that strip?

Thank you ReadnWaiting!
It was a First Response Dip & Read, can't see anywhere on the box that indicates sensitivity. A few ladies on a different forum told me they didn't trust dip and reads at all - goes to show you get what you pay for! I'll be picking up an early response test most likely tomorrow

 

[Mommy_DK]

Ren- I'm so sorry about your numbers stair casing , I know this is probably so intense and stressful for you and DH . Have you felt up for talking with him yet? I know we have just begun and it's taking a toll on us already I can only imagine how you and DH feel. Keep us posted , prayers going up for you tonight that things turn around . Oh and I had NO idea that there were test beyond all of the ones we just did I' am exhausted from those already!

Bab- I so believe in these dreams tho! It is so unfair I woke up some mornings so excited thinking I was about to get ready to pack my hospital bag lol But it gives me hope and strength to keep going, I know my baby boy will be here soon! We just have to keep going. And yea you're prob right about the stress...... I am trying really hard to eliminate as much as possible. I quickly got over DH and the porn, we had our own show late last night


I have a 'friend' who keeps telling me "if you were ment to have more kids you would be pregnant , Maybe God doesn't want you to have anymore" it really hurts to hear that , so she's the first person I'm eliminating! You are the weakest link GOODBYE ! lol


Hope everyone is enjoying the weekend and doing alright! Sorry if I missed anyone

 

[Renaendel]

Mommy dk, we started the talking tonight. We took an hour long walk and strolled through the neighborhood. It was good but clearly just the beginning of the talking. He understands the desire for a biological child. It is hard though because after two ectopics, my cancer(remission), my autoimmune he has an understandable fear that life can be fleeting and his real fear is losing me. We will figure things out though, we always do.

 

[ab75]

Hugs Ren, I hope you and your dh have your rainbow soon. You have been thru enough shit now! Xx

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Mommy-That doesn't sound like a friend at all. Def vote her off the island!
Ren-u have def been thru enough. I want this journey to hurry up and be happy for you.
Afm-I tested today with a bfn...approx 8dpo.

 

[BABTTC123]

Ready- too early to yest in my opinion. I wouldn't trust a test until AF shows

Mommy- LOL I miss that show! I agree that she probably isn't the best person to have around at this time, though on the flip side, she could think the she is being helpful and easing some of your stress by saying that it must be God's decision.. I would tenitively keep her around for now. If more negativity spews out then kick her out and send her on her way!
I had baby dreams two nights in a row but I had a break tonight! Just the dream was really weird and I couldn't escape it no matter how many bathroom breaks I took last night lol not scary, just unexpected.

Ren- I am still praying that your bfp comes soon! Though if your hubby gets too worried, have you two considered surrogacy? That way it is your biological child still?
I know it is pretty expensive and of course all us ladies want to experience the whole pregnancy deal for ourselves, though it is still something to consider if he gets too worried about you carrying the baby.