Ultimate Venting Thread 2

[mindyb85]

Thank you just married, navy wife, and stephie! All your comments really helped me get my head on a little more straight. Also, a lot of strange things have been happening the past few days and I am making peace about infertility. I just have to trust tgat it will happen for us one day. one more thing, dh and I bdd last night I didnt say a word about ovulation, I just gave him a shoulder rub and thinhs kind of went from there

 

[StephieB]

Ah yes, the old back rub trick. Works a treat on my DH too what also works is simply opening the door in my underwear as soon as he arrives home from work, I don't even give him time to think about whether its ovulation week or not

 

[mindyb85]

Ah yes, the old back rub trick. Works a treat on my DH too what also works is simply opening the door in my underwear as soon as he arrives home from work, I don't even give him time to think about whether its ovulation week or not

hahaha that is AWESOME!!!

 

[chellesama]

Longtime lurker here (as you might be able to tell from my tiny post count), and I've got two things I've been wanting to say. I figured I'd probably hit the right target if I can to this thread.

I'm sorry
Thank you

I'm sorry for the the person I was 2 years ago when I started TTC with J&H, for the person I was back when I first started lurking on BnB, and even for the person I was just a few months ago when I was reading through some of the old venting thread. I really didn't understand how hurtful I could be without meaning it, and I somehow managed to forget that what I see of you ladies online is NOT all there is to you, so the anger I worried about (yes, I was that kind of jerk!) seeing here was really just the only place you could express it and not a reflection of how you treat the people who are really in your lives.

I'm sorry for what's been happening in your forum. I hope the people barging in with their perky 'be positive' 'be happy' and othersuch admonishments figure out what I have and get a little more respectful of just how strong you ladies are, and how you shouldn't be attacked here, in what might be the only place you can show a little weakness.

Finally, thank you. You are eye-opening, ladies. Not everyone likes that, but they should be grateful for it! While you can't fix stupid, you can fix ignorance. I think now, instead of just blundering into conversations and possibly doing a lot of harm. I won't always say the right things, but by avoiding the worst things, at least I can be of some support to the people I know who are living with infertility.

All right, I'm done hijacking your thread. Thank you for listening to me blather on, and if I did offend someone by coming in here with my ephiphanies, I'm truly sorry.

Chellesama

 

[StephieB]

Longtime lurker here (as you might be able to tell from my tiny post count), and I've got two things I've been wanting to say. I figured I'd probably hit the right target if I can to this thread.

I'm sorry
Thank you

I'm sorry for the the person I was 2 years ago when I started TTC with J&H, for the person I was back when I first started lurking on BnB, and even for the person I was just a few months ago when I was reading through some of the old venting thread. I really didn't understand how hurtful I could be without meaning it, and I somehow managed to forget that what I see of you ladies online is NOT all there is to you, so the anger I worried about (yes, I was that kind of jerk!) seeing here was really just the only place you could express it and not a reflection of how you treat the people who are really in your lives.

I'm sorry for what's been happening in your forum. I hope the people barging in with their perky 'be positive' 'be happy' and othersuch admonishments figure out what I have and get a little more respectful of just how strong you ladies are, and how you shouldn't be attacked here, in what might be the only place you can show a little weakness.

Finally, thank you. You are eye-opening, ladies. Not everyone likes that, but they should be grateful for it! While you can't fix stupid, you can fix ignorance. I think now, instead of just blundering into conversations and possibly doing a lot of harm. I won't always say the right things, but by avoiding the worst things, at least I can be of some support to the people I know who are living with infertility.

All right, I'm done hijacking your thread. Thank you for listening to me blather on, and if I did offend someone by coming in here with my ephiphanies, I'm truly sorry.

Chellesama

Thank you!! If I was near you right now I would kiss you!

 

[beegray]

Thanks chellesama!!!

Ok, quick rant, going through hectic difficult time right now in regards to ttc, the witch still hasn't shown and so far bfn, going to test again tomorrow before going back to the doc, had to go off my meds because the side effects were hitting me way too hard and not sure if they want to give me anymore..... so I was told i can't fall pg without meds and now I can't take the meds anymore??????

 

[itakp]

Hello everyone,

and sorry to come to moan (I lurk more than post)... Just thought I´d share the gem of the day that I was treated to. I apologise in advance to all religious people, I have a bit of a poor patch in communication with upstairs (and firmly believe each to their own conviction, but my conviction is my business only).

My very helpful colleague suggested I should lay in bed at night, put my hands on my ovaries and pray for God´s forgiveness. Err, no thanks (and forgiveness for what exactly?) I did wonder if laying my hands on my DHs balls and praying would help him.

Sorry.

 

[Just_married]

Hello everyone,

and sorry to come to moan (I lurk more than post)... Just thought I´d share the gem of the day that I was treated to. I apologise in advance to all religious people, I have a bit of a poor patch in communication with upstairs (and firmly believe each to their own conviction, but my conviction is my business only).

My very helpful colleague suggested I should lay in bed at night, put my hands on my ovaries and pray for God´s forgiveness. Err, no thanks (and forgiveness for what exactly?) I did wonder if laying my hands on my DHs balls and praying would help him.

Sorry.

Well, praying on the balls certainly wouldn't hurt, unless you laid hands on a little too hard haha! Kiddin! I'm a Christian, I certainly wouldn't be so judgemental as to suggest that about forgiveness, I'm strictly of the belief that IF is not a punishment! I think that's am awful responsibility to put on someone!

But I have to admit, I have got down to ball level and given my hubs globes a stern talking to.

Xxx

 

[Armywife84]

Chellesama- Thank you very much for your incredibly kind post. It truly means the world to us, that someone where we wish to be gets us. We're certainly not asking for a pity party, or to walk on eggshells around us, we just want our section to rightfully bitch in (and a little respect would be nice too).

Thank you once again!

Beegray- How many days late are you? I'm 3, going on 4.

itakp- Never apologize for your rant! This is your space too!

Rants:

1. Don't go to Daily Mail, there's a massive picture of Meghan Fox's bump. Bitch. Let's hope she gets quite fat.

2. I went bathing suit shopping today and it was a complete nightmare. Needless to say I left empty handed, annoyed with DH (he was pouting like a naughty child), and self conscious. Now I'm at the point of ordering this cute string bikini online (on offer at a steal), and just flaunting it with as much confidence as I can fake.

3. Apple Store was wall to wall with people. I was so overwhelmed, we just walked out of there and I didn't get my iPad.

4. AF is late! Which is making my anxiety skyrocket. I cannot test today, because I know it will be a and make my day that much worse.

Ahh, better. Off to eat a frozen lemonade. If only there were a bit of vodka in it.

 

[uwa_amanda]

MY vent for the day:

1. IT'S TOO DAMN HOT OUTSIDE!!!! This triple digit crap has GOT to go!!! We've got high temps well over 100 for the next few days with no rain in sight.

2. My boss decides to tell me, "Amanda, I'm not going to be in the office tomorrow, so you'll have to take care of my work." She's on vacation next week but I still have to do her work and play "supervisor" (so she says...ugh! ).

3. It's not Friday yet.

That's all...thanks for listening!

 

[beegray]

Chellesama- Thank you very much for your incredibly kind post. It truly means the world to us, that someone where we wish to be gets us. We're certainly not asking for a pity party, or to walk on eggshells around us, we just want our section to rightfully bitch in (and a little respect would be nice too).

Thank you once again!

Beegray- How many days late are you? I'm 3, going on 4.

itakp- Never apologize for your rant! This is your space too!

Rants:

1. Don't go to Daily Mail, there's a massive picture of Meghan Fox's bump. Bitch. Let's hope she gets quite fat.

2. I went bathing suit shopping today and it was a complete nightmare. Needless to say I left empty handed, annoyed with DH (he was pouting like a naughty child), and self conscious. Now I'm at the point of ordering this cute string bikini online (on offer at a steal), and just flaunting it with as much confidence as I can fake.

3. Apple Store was wall to wall with people. I was so overwhelmed, we just walked out of there and I didn't get my iPad.

4. AF is late! Which is making my anxiety skyrocket. I cannot test today, because I know it will be a and make my day that much worse.

Ahh, better. Off to eat a frozen lemonade. If only there were a bit of vodka in it.

Today I am now .... sorry counting quick....16 days, a little over two weeks

 

[beegray]

Hello everyone,

and sorry to come to moan (I lurk more than post)... Just thought I´d share the gem of the day that I was treated to. I apologise in advance to all religious people, I have a bit of a poor patch in communication with upstairs (and firmly believe each to their own conviction, but my conviction is my business only).

My very helpful colleague suggested I should lay in bed at night, put my hands on my ovaries and pray for God´s forgiveness. Err, no thanks (and forgiveness for what exactly?) I did wonder if laying my hands on my DHs balls and praying would help him.

Sorry.

I'm christian, but this is ridiculous? what did your ovaries do in order to need forgivness????? I do pray, i feel abit stupid sometimes, been praying for awhile now. But if it wasn't for my faith I would have completely lost hope all together by now. Infertility is something that effects everyone, it crosses racial boundries, class boundries, religion boundries. It can hit someone who is super spiritual and someone who is not. I know I'll get my babba, just don't know when, but I know I will. That baby will b the biggest miracle in mine and my DH's life!

 

[sharnw]

On the GREAT Urge of deleting brag book.....
Another freckin announcement!
Twins.....

Wish it was my turn to announce

 

[uwa_amanda]

I don't even have a brag book page to delete. I told my super fertile best friend the other day that infertility will put you in a dark and lonely place, especially if you know noone who is going through it. I told her she would never truly know what was going on. I was halfway expecting her to say something about me coming over to play with her kids but surprisingly, she didn't. She said that while she will never know what it was like, she's got a shoulder for me to cry on and ears to listen. I really appreciated that coming from her. I just wish I knew someone other than you awesome ladies that I could talk to, go have a drink with, etc.

Thank y'all for being my bnb friends!

 

[Armywife84]

Amanda- If you're going to be temporary supervisor, they should be properly compensating you!

Bee- Yeesh! AF needs to get her arse here!

Rant:

AF finally came this morning while getting ready for work. I was a bit crushed, but glad she decided to show. Onto another cycle.

 

[sharnw]

Armywife84 Extra super GL this cycle for you
xx

 

[mindyb85]

F@(#! I dont think the clomid worked at all this month. I had o dip but no rise. Damn damn damn, im sick of waiting, it hurts too much.

 

[itakp]

I know this has been mentioned before time and time again but...
not one, but three people told me yesterday that if I want a child so much, I could borrow theirs. Even telling them I don´t want theirs, I want my own wouldn´t shut them up. Keep your brats, f#ng people, and stop bringing up my infertility every time we speak because it hurts!!

 

[uwa_amanda]

I know this has been mentioned before time and time again but...
not one, but three people told me yesterday that if I want a child so much, I could borrow theirs. Even telling them I don´t want theirs, I want my own wouldn´t shut them up. Keep your brats, f#ng people, and stop bringing up my infertility every time we speak because it hurts!!

OMG...I went off on my best friend over that shit. She has two great kids but it's not the same when they're not your own. Pissed me off. She hasn't said anything about it since I told her off.

 

[Armywife84]

Rant:

Adele's music= AMAZING!
Adele's BFP announcement= fecking annoying!