Ultimate Venting Thread 2

[RKW]

Hi girlies,

Have been a stalker in this thread, ont 18 months TTC so not sure if I belong :-/

My rant: today my fiancé asked a couple and their baby to ours for his birthday BBQ. And she announced she would not be drinking as she is a pregnant whale, again. Her daughter is only 6 months old. And she is only 6 weeks gone, (why tell people??).

We live in a new house, and I wanted to be the first pregnant belly in here. I want it to be my turn, and I just can't stand her asking (as she always does) when your married (6 months) will you start trying??? Babies are amazing.....you'll never know true love until you are a mother..... Blah blah. I can't even get battered to block it out as will be in the 2WW by then.

Meeeeerrrr :-/

 

[Armywife84]

RKW- Unfortunately, you belong here hun. Welcome to our dark corner!

Rant:

1. The heat index is killing me.

2. I've got so much to do and not enough energy to do it all.

Oh well. Happy weekend!

 

[sharnw]

Rant- Non ltttc related

My DH started working on the mines (its been 2 month now), (1 week on- 1 week off)
we live in an average sized smallish town, have to drive an hour through a curvy down-hill (rainforest) range to get to the major coastal city to drop him off and pick him up from the airport....
Anyway, he has a friend that works on the same mine, his wife has to take him and pick him up etc...

But we agreed on car pooling.. to save fuel and mileage on our cars..
She's only picked them up ONCE out of the 7+ weeks so far.. excuses excuses excuses,
Im fed up already! So I told DH- either his friend pays $10 or his wife commits to transporting or I dont give his friend transport.... Simple.......

Hope i dont sound too harsh on them but i dont care lol

 

[sharnw]

Armywife84 Happy weekend!
Its sunday where i am in Australia... BLLAAHHH monday tomorrow booooo

 

[RKW]

Well now I'm here,

My fella is out drinking tonight, I'm staying home with the dog, an there is a girl out with them who is breast feeding, and they are doing shots of her milk!!!!!

That is so wrong on so many levels, I can't stop thinking of the germs! You wouldn't drink a shot of someone's blood, or semen would you ;-) I told the other half not to even consider it.

Maybe I'm being uptight but I think it's a bit gross!!!

 

[Just_married]

I'm getting annoyed at my bridesmaid. This is the one who told me she was going to ask me to be her bridesmaid until she discovered I was trying to conceive & now I have the "pregnant friendly" job of doing a reading (how is getting up in front of 200 ppl pregnant friendly? Oh that's right, photographs!). So I've done lots of homework and asked her 3 times if she likes any of the verses I've picked yet she hasn't responded. Then she gets mad at me for not rsvping, so I said of course I'm coming I'm doing a reading and hub is your usher! She's completely oblivious to the fact that I had hospital hsg this week and got bad news about a blocked tube, but obviously her feelings are more important these days.

 

[Armywife84]

Sharnw- Visiting Oz is on my bucket list! I want to pet a dingo or maybe a joey..

JM- Everyone else's feelings are always important! Pffftttt. I'm so selfish that I can't be bothered with other's feelings.

Rant:

It's so hard to make friends round my age, when they're all mothers. There's just no common ground.

 

[sharnw]

Armywife84 omg when i was 10 years old, we had a pet joey and one night I accidentally fell asleep with him beside me... Woke up in the morning and he was squashed worst day ever I reckon..
DH has a blue cattle dog, he wants to catch a female dingo puppy, raise her and get her 2 breed with our cattle dog lol

 

[sharnw]

Another vant for my day-
(I hate my sister inlaw)
Ok, so anyway, my nana chucked the hint again- "who's going to give me another great grandchild"....
I kept quiet...
An then she said!!!>>>!! That my (MY) mother told her that christy (my b*tch SL) will beat me and my sister for having a baby...
Im so angry at my mother for saying this!!!!

 

[Armywife84]

Armywife84 omg when i was 10 years old, we had a pet joey and one night I accidentally fell asleep with him beside me... Woke up in the morning and he was squashed worst day ever I reckon..
DH has a blue cattle dog, he wants to catch a female dingo puppy, raise her and get her 2 breed with our cattle dog lol

Those joeys are so darling. Although, I wouldn't want to be around when the mother kangaroo is lurking about. I've seen those kangaroo attacks on youTube.

Aww, those dingo puppies are so chubby and cuddly. You must post a picture if he catches one!

Oh my, shame on your mother! IF makes you feel bad enough, there's no need to rub in that SIL is likely to conceive for you. I've already been thru that twice. Thank god SIL (I hate) has her tubes tied.

RANT:

DH is pissing me off..I'd really like to strangle his neck atm. He's loafing on the sofa acting like he can't be bothered to help me with housework. Also, he has this bad attitude that I want to smack off his face. I believe an argument is in order before the end of the day.

 

[RKW]

Sister in law is pregnant, announced today, and also my sister announced today. So so happy for both of them, who are such lovely people and truly deserve it, and feel like such a shit human being for the 90% of me being extaticly happy and the other 10% of me wishing I also had good news to share. It's such a happy day for them but tinged with a bit a sadness for me.

 

[sharnw]

Armywife- lol when my dh does that, I start sweeping the living room and deliberetly take my time sweeping in front of the tv haha, if it gets too much to me, I randomly ask him.. "so what ARE you doing today" then he goes and cleans his shed

RKW- I hope you dont have to feel that little bit of sadness soon xx

 

[Armywife84]

RKW- Big . Don't feel bad, you're only human! Of course you're happy for them...it's just weighted down by your own devastating LTTC journey. Your feelings are important too! And you certainly can't help the way IF makes you feel.

Sharnw- Pfft, if I had an Aussie DH...I'd be all the time! Especially if he remotely resembled Chris Hemsworth. When I was in uni I dated this yummy Aussie for a while, then he had to return to Melbourne.

More Rants:

1. Rang my mother to have the usual Sunday chat and she revealed that my cousin's girlfriend is due next month. My grandmother is over the moon to have a great grandchild. I'm so upset because I thought it would be me! I also feel like garb because I can't give my grandmother a great grandchild.

My cousin's girlfriend doesn't even need a baby, due to the fact she already has an 18 year old she doesn't take care of! In fact her daughter left her mother at a young age to live with her father. The poor teen has nothing to do with her mum to this day.

2. I was feeling annoyed and left to mill about the shopping mall. While I was browsing thru one of the department stores, I accidentally ended up in the baby section and started to cry.

 

[HopinAndPrayn]

So I'm usually just a stalker of this thread. Seeing what makes you ladies mad makes me feel a bit more sane but I've lost it. Things that drive me nuts:
1. My mom gives me the "just relax" line even though it took her THREE years to get pregnant with me (her first). You'd think she'd get it!
2. Women who tell you "it will happen." Oh yeah? Do you have a front row seat to my reproductive function and know for a fact things are going to just "work themselves out."
3. The fact that EVERY FREAKING WOMAN IS PREGNANT EXCEPT US!
4. This woman I work with told me how they "didn't really plan to have a second this soon" and she's so uncomfortable and huge and it's so awful being pregnant (SHUT UP ALREADY!).
5. How Clomid seems like a wonder drug for PCOS until it DOESN'T work for you!

Ugg, I am totally raging out this cycle. I had mid-cycle bleeding just when I'd thought I'd got things reasonably regular (as regular as a 37 day cycle can be) and have pretty much lost any confidence I'd gained.

 

[tamithomas]

Vent of the day:

"friend" announced 3rd bfp within 3 years now, pops them out like a pez dispenser. Wouldn't be so pissed about if i didn't tell her the last 2 BFP's to please give me a heads up next time she blasts it on bragbook. I swear people like her are the reason i sometimes feel like just deleting it all together. But, it's also the only way to stay in touch with long distance family.

On the upside, hubby and I got into a long deep discussion about TTC. For 3 years we had been trying to go by my instinct of when I feel as if I'm O'ing and swinging it sorta speak and surprisingly he's the one who brought up wanting to try using OPK's and the every second day until O is over method. It is so refreshing that he brought it up as I never brought it up in fear that I would make him feel like he's being pressured into it but I now feel reassured that I'm not the only one who really holds this dear to my heart. Even saw a few tears when he said "I'd be happy with just one, one would be all I need. Any others would be seriously bonuses of blessing"

 

[uwa_amanda]

I think my DH is a hell of a lot more optimistic about everything than I am. He said he is still holding out hope that we will have our baby. I told him one night that I thought I'd be done having our children by now. I will be 30 in three weeks and I thought for sure I'd be done, but nope.... I've pretty much resigned myself to letting nature take it's course even though my siggy says January 2013. I may end up changing that again to show differently. We've always wanted two children. Right now, I'd be happy with one.

HopinandPrayn, I was fed the whole "Clomid is the wonder drug" speech by my doctor last summer. I lasted eight cycles before I said that was enough in May. The side effects are enough to drive you crazy and I just felt like the more rounds I did, the crazier I was going to get. Couple that with DH not getting such rave reviews on his third SA (the other two were "fine") and you'll see why we threw in the towel for a while, maybe ever. I have become more cynical towards EVERYTHING!

Anyhoo...

It's Monday. I'm waiting on my mid-week Independence Day break AND I work the early shift this week AND my supervisor is on vacation this week

^That in and of itself could turn into my rant for the week, seeing as that I have been nominated the "office supervisor" in my supervisor's absence.

 

[Pinkie 33]

Dont often feel the need to rant but today I do. Been through the monthly habit of testing on AF due day (just to make sure... ), got the not pregnant of course and now waiting for AF to arrive.

Coupled with my 21yr old cousin calling to tell me that her and her on/off boyfriend of a very tempestuous relationship are now expecting after a couple of months of trying. To be fair, she has no idea what we are going through however I am at an utter loss as to how to be happy about this.

I have had a poor week on the diet (not gained but not lost either) and am feeling thoroughly cheesed off.

AAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

 

[timeforababy]

hi guys, can I join in?

vent of the day : which is pretty normal for most lttc i guess, my sister tells me to relax when I tell her I'm not pregnant again.

 

[Armywife84]

Come on in! I want to hear your vents, even if it's not LTTC related. Vent away!!

Tamithomas- "Pop out like a pez dispenser!"



Rants:

1. The pregnant cow came back from her "babymoon" and waddled about all day. She's incredibly puffy and just needs to go on maternity leave already, I'm fed up with looking at her.

2. Tomorrow I have to go to this waterpark and see all sorts of happy little families. More bad news, they don't allow outside drinks in the park, thus there goes my flask of vodka.

3. I went to this one nail salon to get my nails done, but had to leave because the patron wouldn't stop going on about the manicurist's bump. Can it already! So I went to this other place and the manicurist painted them all bubbly.

AF is over, but I'm obviously still PMSing.

 

[tamithomas]

Rant of the day:

Cousin was having a freak out last week about losing her hair from post partum hormone decline. She's another one like my friend who pops kids out like they're a fashion accesory. She's still complaining about it 4 days later while having two beautiful boys in her home UGH.

my own personal rant is, I wish high school taught us about infertility. Where I live in Canada, sex ed. is no problem everyone gets it in grade 11. Problem is, you only hear about how to avoid getting pregnant and how it happens. Never do you hear that there are chances you might not be able to, I feel as though had I've been told that instead of being brain washed with fear that one single sperm inside of you and that's it you're pregnant my feelings of frustration to IF would not be so strong. You get told all through out high school and your life being told "careful even if he pulls out not to have any drip inside or else you'll get BFP" Then for us who end up with IF problems feel ten times more betrayed..that's how it feels for me atleast.

Point of the matter, IF should be made more aware in high schools instead of the opposite that it's so easy. I would not feel so betrayed right now.