Ultimate Venting Thread 2

[Kimiw]

I just wanted to come in here and say what as on my mind. This evening me and DH went to walmart and we were only in there for like an hour and I saw 6 pregnant women! me and DH have been trying for 6 years for baby #1 and I couldn't help but get jealous and then sad. I hate feeling this way, I don't want to be bitter forever, but how on earth do I get past it? It is like the world is moving around me and I am standing still. All my friends have 2 or 3 kids and they are already older ranging 8-13 years old. None of my kids are going to get to grow up with my best friends children, and it makes me sad! I am not trying to give myself a pity party but it really got to me today.

 

[uwa_amanda]

RANT!!!!!

I woke up this morning at 3:00 to pee. My next door neighbor's tv was up so loud I couldn't get back to sleep. Argh!

So I get on my computer and start reading my emails. I told everybody in here that I don't have a facebook page since it's too much trouble, right? Well, in my email inbox, there is a message from my Avon district manager announcing the births of two babies, her first grandchild, and another Avon lady's baby. Talk about making somebody feel like shit before she even has her shower this morning. WTF?!?! I usually keep her emails for future reference since most of the time they are pretty relevant to my business. But that one ended up in my trash can and deleted from there.

I hate being bitter about IF. I thought I was fine since DH and I are in limbo-land right now. Nope...I was wrong. This sucks.

 

[itakp]

Vent of the day:
Today I got a letter from my FS who had been contacted by my GP. I went to my GP as my hair is falling out due to Tamoxifen. FS now tells me to not take any more and get an appointment with him asap. WTF? I know my hair is thinning and I asked for advice from GP but to stop taking the only drug that makes me ovulate and doesn´t make me nuts?! And what exactly am I to do in the meantime when he has told me I have to have fertility drugs for 12 months to qualify for IVF?!

...and I stupidly didn´t book a holiday for August as I thought we´d be moving house around that time (as if my DH would have got his s#t together with the estate agent)... or that I´d be pregnant by then. Yeah, right.

Aaaaaarrrgggggh!

 

[tamithomas]

vent of the day: I had to quit my workout regime, Bodyrock.Tv or at least the website and have now got to find a new website or stick to old workouts in the meantime. They started doing before and afters, that's great.. but most of them were mothers of 3-4 with other mothers gathering up, it was fertile reunion 101. What pushed me over the edge is that they now have a new host and she actually brings her toddler on set. I do not want IF staring at me right in the face while I work out. grrrrrrr

 

[Armywife84]

Kimi- It's ok hun, we love pit parties in here. Often I bring the booze and Bears will bring the cupcakes!

Amanda- Goodness, even email isn't safe!! Mark as spam and straight to the bin!

Tamithomas- Email or even pilates aren't safe zones! I suppose I shouldn't be surprised if I see a mother with an infant strapped to her back in spin class! Ridiculous, that's what they have the nursery for!!!

Rant:

I went with DH to his work event at this waterpark in Nashville. It was grubby to say the least and quite expensive for snacks, parking, etc. Even though I used sunscreen, I still managed to get burned.

To top it off there were a few bumps parading around in the pools. I don't believe they should be out in the sun for too long, won't they overheat or something? They just needed to get away from me.

I also wanted to smack this one mother who kept dragging her toddler to the wave pool. The child was clinging to his mum and crying, but she kept trying to get him to enjoy it. After a while, he just tried to run back to shore! The wave pool is not a place for LOs!!

 

[tamithomas]

Thing is, Bodyrock.Tv is one of those free online workout websites where they post w-o's for free which is what i loved so much. I just can't stand that it's been all post-partum bellys everywhere on it lately. Then as an introduction the picture they posted to introduce the new host that is a mother of three is a picture of her holding her 7 month old. I'm all for getting back into shape after having a baby, that's good for them but it really puts IF people such as ourselves in that awkward felt out of the loop situation. I have found a substitute website luckily but it just sucks because I was really enjoying the system, I was just sick of hearing a bunch of selfish bratty not realizing how good they have it complain about stretch marks and how their body is the only thing they wanna work on now, meanwhile they got their toddler sitting next to them

 

[smallstar]

My vent is a bit late but went to see my newly (8weeks) pregnant friend on Saturday morning....i wake up filled with dread about the visit as it is.....BOOM AF arrives!!!! WTHF!??? Is that an almighty kick in my useless lady bits or what!?!? Thanks so much mother nature you total BI*CH!!!!

So i had to endure a whole 2 hours of her cooing over being pregnant and showing me her first scan pictures whilst i can feel my uterus crying!!!!

Was in the worst mood ever by the end of Saturday and it has just continued to dampen my mood over the past few days......

Roll on July.....

x

 

[Armywife84]

Smallstar- Kudos to you for visiting your pregnant friend!

Ranting...

1. I'm sunburnt.

2. Celebrity BFP announcements are just as annoying as Bragbook ones.

 

[shaslove]

I had a lap on 6/18. I'm on my first AF after, & it HURTS!!!!! This stinks!

 

[sharnw]

AHHHH
Im 25 and ttc for over 2 frikken years...!
And today I find out my brother (19) his b*tch gf (20) is pregnant! GGRRRRR

 

[tamithomas]

AHHHH
Im 25 and ttc for over 2 frikken years...!
And today I find out my brother (19) his b*tch gf (20) is pregnant! GGRRRRR

can totally relate,was furious a year ago when I found out my Step Brother and SIL were expecting when they still lived at my mom and his dads place!!!! Luckily though my mom pretty much kicked them out when she found out lol

 

[sharnw]

Ha your mum

And to top it off, my parents Knew (for a while) my sister olny found out last night, and told me today. So My own parents kept it a secret from my sister and I...
They dont even know im ttc actually.. But still. they didnt tell us
When I fall pregnant.... I sure as hell aint telling my mother... PPPFFTTT

 

[Armywife84]

AHHHH
Im 25 and ttc for over 2 frikken years...!
And today I find out my brother (19) his b*tch gf (20) is pregnant! GGRRRRR

can totally relate,was furious a year ago when I found out my Step Brother and SIL were expecting when they still lived at my mom and his dads place!!!! Luckily though my mom pretty much kicked them out when she found out lol

How naughty of them! I can't fathom falling pregnant while shacking up parents.

Rant (non baby related):

Dear Ms. Hindmarch,

While I like your quirky white homework tote, it's also going to get filthy from carrying it around uni. Please get your act together and come out with a decent homework tote that will not look grubby after a week of wear.

Thanks,

Jackie

 

[Just_married]

Non TTC vent, but the stress sure as heck aint helping ttc!

22yr old neice of dh, if she's not attracting drama then she's creating it, I saw right through her from the start. Looks like a child, acts like a child, lies, manipulates and hurts others then cries and feels sorry for herself, how can anybody be so cruel to her?

Messages dh, when can i see you. Dh says I'll meet you in town for a coffee. Neice, no, I want to come to your house, I have a car, when can i come? Dh says no, you know you've upset my wife in the past and her feelings matter to me a lot, so why dont we just meet up for lunch and spend some time together.

Cue phone call wailing 'You really hurt my feelings by saying that, I have never done anything wrong, I've always tried my best, Why are you saying you dont like me and wont meet me? Then it descended into complete howling emotional blackmail. Hubby simply said 'Im not being drawn into an arguement' and ended the call.

Thing is my dh is a softhearted person and this really upset him. She has just made it even less likely that I will forgive her now. Dh is worried she will now cause chaos with his family and make him out to be the bad one.

I'm sorry honey, but if telling me you feel dizzy because you're hungry and you have no food in your flat, then letting us spend our last £20 on groceries for you, then a week letter to say you have £300 saved up to buy a van is trying your best then I don't really want you near my home. If describing to my 15 yr old how your ex is being done for violently murdering his ex is doing your best, no thanks. And if promising to be an attendant at our wedding, then saying you cant collect your outfit for the wedding because you're giving evidence at your ex's murder trial, then being tagged 5mins later on your friends FB check-in at a shopping centre is your best. And also asking me, the bride, to organise your transport to church and then not even turning up on the day, no reason, then no thanks. If I don't make you welcome in my home, please forgive me, because I'm waiting for you to act like the adult you are, I'm waiting til you try and avoid drama and I'm waiting til my teenager is old enough not to be influenced by your chaos.

Sorry, just so very angry!!

 

[tamithomas]

my vent is indirectly related to TTC but affects it major. Just got screwed over by the legal/justice system so the feel for BD/TTC went out the window for now this month

 

[Armywife84]

Non TTC vent, but the stress sure as heck aint helping ttc!

22yr old neice of dh, if she's not attracting drama then she's creating it, I saw right through her from the start. Looks like a child, acts like a child, lies, manipulates and hurts others then cries and feels sorry for herself, how can anybody be so cruel to her?

Messages dh, when can i see you. Dh says I'll meet you in town for a coffee. Neice, no, I want to come to your house, I have a car, when can i come? Dh says no, you know you've upset my wife in the past and her feelings matter to me a lot, so why dont we just meet up for lunch and spend some time together.

Cue phone call wailing 'You really hurt my feelings by saying that, I have never done anything wrong, I've always tried my best, Why are you saying you dont like me and wont meet me? Then it descended into complete howling emotional blackmail. Hubby simply said 'Im not being drawn into an arguement' and ended the call.

Thing is my dh is a softhearted person and this really upset him. She has just made it even less likely that I will forgive her now. Dh is worried she will now cause chaos with his family and make him out to be the bad one.

I'm sorry honey, but if telling me you feel dizzy because you're hungry and you have no food in your flat, then letting us spend our last £20 on groceries for you, then a week letter to say you have £300 saved up to buy a van is trying your best then I don't really want you near my home. If describing to my 15 yr old how your ex is being done for violently murdering his ex is doing your best, no thanks. And if promising to be an attendant at our wedding, then saying you cant collect your outfit for the wedding because you're giving evidence at your ex's murder trial, then being tagged 5mins later on your friends FB check-in at a shopping centre is your best. And also asking me, the bride, to organise your transport to church and then not even turning up on the day, no reason, then no thanks. If I don't make you welcome in my home, please forgive me, because I'm waiting for you to act like the adult you are, I'm waiting til you try and avoid drama and I'm waiting til my teenager is old enough not to be influenced by your chaos.

Sorry, just so very angry!!

Goodness, such horrible behavior! Where did she learn her manipulative ways? And where is her mother to help her out?

Rant:

I'm so exhausted. Don't know how I'm going to conjure up the energy to catch up on housework this weekend and grocery shop.

 

[Just_married]

Army I gave up on grocery shopping a few months ago and get it delivered over Internet now, best decision ever!

And can u believe the niece actually turned up at dh gig tonight and eyeballed me for about half an hour before marching over and asking if she could sit beside me?! I'm not going to be made out to be the horror who causes a scene in public so I said go ahead. Dh over the moon as he thinks I'm over the anger, but I'm actually fuming inside at being backed into a corner by her. He thinks it showed maturity to come, I can plainly see it was more manipulation, her way of saying she has control of it, ye know? He thinks she is more settled, but all I feel now is dread that more manipulation is on it's way and she is going to start asking to visit & I'll be the bad one for disagreeing.

 

[tamithomas]

Army I gave up on grocery shopping a few months ago and get it delivered over Internet now, best decision ever!

And can u believe the niece actually turned up at dh gig tonight and eyeballed me for about half an hour before marching over and asking if she could sit beside me?! I'm not going to be made out to be the horror who causes a scene in public so I said go ahead. Dh over the moon as he thinks I'm over the anger, but I'm actually fuming inside at being backed into a corner by her. He thinks it showed maturity to come, I can plainly see it was more manipulation, her way of saying she has control of it, ye know? He thinks she is more settled, but all I feel now is dread that more manipulation is on it's way and she is going to start asking to visit & I'll be the bad one for disagreeing.

trust me i totally know where you're coming from, as well as his which sucks. My ex best friend for 15 years was the same as your niece, manipulating.. i was sadly the one who was convinced she was changing time and time again, my mom was in your place seeing it for what it really was. luckily i eventually woke up..hope its the same for your DH

 

[Just_married]

It just got worse last night after I posted that. Apparently I'm 'addicted to all those websites and forums'. I'm surprised my head didn't actually explode last night.

I'm still fuming this morning. So many points I could make back, but the bottom line seems to be that my feelings always come last. Do you know the neice actually said "why haven't you had a baby yet?'.

And then my friends who are meant to be coming for a relaxing wee overnight can't get a babysitter so are now bring baby for overnight.

I hate feeling like this, but I don't even think dh will understand how taken for granted & used I feel. So I'll just need to speak to you guys xxx

 

[Armywife84]

Army I gave up on grocery shopping a few months ago and get it delivered over Internet now, best decision ever!

And can u believe the niece actually turned up at dh gig tonight and eyeballed me for about half an hour before marching over and asking if she could sit beside me?! I'm not going to be made out to be the horror who causes a scene in public so I said go ahead. Dh over the moon as he thinks I'm over the anger, but I'm actually fuming inside at being backed into a corner by her. He thinks it showed maturity to come, I can plainly see it was more manipulation, her way of saying she has control of it, ye know? He thinks she is more settled, but all I feel now is dread that more manipulation is on it's way and she is going to start asking to visit & I'll be the bad one for disagreeing.

I suppose he defends her because he feels horrid if he doesn't. However, she seems to be a vile child...why can't he see through her? It doesn't surprise me that comment came out of her mouth.

Ugh, couples and their babies. They should've just canceled then.


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I've no rants, yet. Edit: I can't understand why someone would be TTC (adults who should be standing on their own two feet) while living under their parent's roof. It's understandable that times are rough in the US and UK, but why would you try for a baby when you can't even afford your own living space? Then they end up pregnant and are fearful when OH's job is on the line. Well, you should've waited to have a baby!!! Duh!!!