Ultimate Venting Thread 2

[itakp]

Spoke to mum on skype today and she gushed how some random person I don´t know had their fourth child. I mean, that´s ever so nice for them but a.) I don´t know them, b.) thus I don´t care nor need to know, and c.) you know damn well we´re infertile and after the countless times I have cried on the phone to you about it you´d think you would have picked up on the fact that I find it upsetting! Thanks mum.

 

[tamithomas]

Spoke to mum on skype today and she gushed how some random person I don´t know had their fourth child. I mean, that´s ever so nice for them but a.) I don´t know them, b.) thus I don´t care nor need to know, and c.) you know damn well we´re infertile and after the countless times I have cried on the phone to you about it you´d think you would have picked up on the fact that I find it upsetting! Thanks mum.

Sorry to hear. Have you had a sit down with her explaining to should and shouldn't be discussed? Most of the time fertile people say stuff out of awkwardness or just dunno what to say and have a higher risk of saying the wrong thing. Yet these are the same people that never know when to shut up in the first place lol

 

[Armywife84]

Vant:

I'm just stressed out. I've got uni to worry about. Apparently twatty (probably not grammatically correct) uni office workers don't know how to fax my transcripts to another uni. Fail.

Work is getting snarky with me about cutting my hours; I've got to focus on school. Plus we need to scrape $$ together for a down payment on another car, as the one we have won't last much longer. We do have money saved plus a trade in, so hopefully the payments won't be absurd.

It's just so much going on...I keep wondering when things will sort out and flow. But nooooo, everything has to come up at once!

 

[wannabemummyb]

Found out today one of my friends at work is ttc! I would never wish ltttc on anyone but not sure i'm strong enough to have another friends bfp announcement!
Got a baby shower on saturday! Normally i avoid them but she's my fellow ltttc buddy and i am genuinely chuffed for her! Going to be so tough!!

 

[W8ing4BFP]

Hi everyone,

Hope it's okay that I join this thread. I just really need to vent. My best friend tells me yesterday and tells me she is expecting baby #2 and tells me that she really thinks it happened because she was able to "relax" during a family vacation. Then another friend excitedly calls me this afternoon to let me know that she is expecting baby #1. She experienced a m/c last year and talked to me since I have had 2 mc. She told me she was a bit dry so I suggested she drink guafenissin. So now she is the one recommending it for me. After all, if it worked for her, it should work for her right? UGH! I feel guilty even writing things in a public forum, but we have been TTC for more than 4 years now, and I don't think I can fake being happy if someone else tells me they are expecting. Seriously.

 

[W8ing4BFP]

Found out today one of my friends at work is ttc! I would never wish ltttc on anyone but not sure i'm strong enough to have another friends bfp announcement!
Got a baby shower on saturday! Normally i avoid them but she's my fellow ltttc buddy and i am genuinely chuffed for her! Going to be so tough!!

I know what you mean. I don't wish LTTTC on anyone. at the same time, It's so unfair how some people who decide to ttc get BFPs within just a few months of trying!

 

[tamithomas]

encountered my first "why don't infertiles just adopt, its a win win situation"

 

[itakp]

Sorry to hear. Have you had a sit down with her explaining to should and shouldn't be discussed? Most of the time fertile people say stuff out of awkwardness or just dunno what to say and have a higher risk of saying the wrong thing. Yet these are the same people that never know when to shut up in the first place lol

Thanks tamithomas, sadly my mum just loooves to tell me all about what happens in other peoples´ lives (most of whom I have never met nor will do as we live in different countries) and chooses to ignore what ever I tell her. She certainly never knows when to shut up and doesn´t do so even if I ask not to hear more! Family, eh?

Rant: Saw my FS today and he told me we are unexplained infertility. I thought DH being technically infertile and me not ovulating on own due to medical condition would be something else than ´unexpained´? I stand corrected. Also, as we are ´unexplained´, no further help is to be expected after three more rounds of Tamoxifen until 3 years TTC. Now I know that´s not that long in the LTTTC scheme of things but pi#d me off anyway.

 

[Armywife84]

Welcome, W8ing4BFP!

Gosh, people just don't know when to shut their traps!

Rant:

I'm still stressed. I've got way too much going on to be bothered with IF.

 

[Armywife84]

Ugh, my endo is deciding to bother me today. It's funny how I see the symptoms now, after finding out I have endo. I wonder if I can use that to get out of work early.

 

[tamithomas]

my major vent of the day:

just faced the worst slap of all time. Went to my friends house and she had a few of her girlfriends there too which my friend is 8 months along, I found out just how immature those brats are fast. They were talking about how people who tell others to not spread their pregnancy around are just selfish and jealous b**ches.

I chimed in saying "well yea, some people take years to conceive and to have it shoved in their face that others fall bfp from one night stands they brought home from a bar is a piss off and on top of it to see some complain about pregnancy is hard to watch. It's like someone complaining to a starving African kid that your water doesn't get cold fast enough while the African kid has never tasted fresh water in his life and would kill to have that water" and guess what infertiles got called by one of her girlfriends? Whiny wannabe mommy brats who should just go get therapy. I didn't want to cause a scene so I told my friend I had something in the oven at home so I had to leave but in reality I left because it was either I leave and let her friend live or pound her friends face in to the point of needing plastic surgery.

 

[BearsMummy]

My Rant -

Why does alcohol have to come with a hangover?

End Rant.

 

[wannabemummyb]

My Rant -

Why does alcohol have to come with a hangover?

End Rant.

Lol bears, mainly because the world does not like us to have fun

 

[Armywife84]

Well done, tamithomas! Tell them fertile bitches to shove it out their arse! Too bad therapy isn't the cure for infertility.

I believe it's safe to say you're going to being making some cuts in the friends department. Piss on them.

Airing my thoughts:

I too, will be boozing it up this weekend. This cycle was a bust and next cycle DH is away for training. Oh well. Party, you say?

 

[n41210]

ive never written on this thread before. but im really mad!! i have just been to a party with my mil and fil, they had a friend there who had asked how long me and dh had been together, so i said 7years, then she asked if we were married. i said yes nearly 2 years. then came the dreaded question "do u have kids?" so i replied "no not yet" and she says "well its about time (my mil and fil) have grankids, IM BLOODY TRYING!!!! ive just had a failed cycle of ivf which is devistating enough without hearing that comment, to be fair she didnt know. i was at the party tonight to get over the fact of the failed ivf not to have a comment thrown at me like that!! im sorry to rant but i need to get this off my chest and move on x

 

[Armywife84]

Welcome n41210! No need to apologize for your rant, we accept all rants (reference page 1 for a few rules)!!

My condolences for your failed IVF. You certainly don't need to hear those comments. The world would be a much better place if people think before they speak. Ah, wishful thinking.

-----------Rant (non baby related...too much on my mind)---------------

First off, I do hope I'm not turning into one of those who rant and whine constantly about work. If so, please PM me telling me right off! No, really!

As you lot know, I'm returning to uni. However, I do have a job (crap one) and I told them I would not be available to work as much. They were rather mad by this, and were trying to get me to work days I don't wish to work. I'm going to be an older student and need time to study, plus run a household. Not to mention, I need to make the grades to get into nursing school.

They're just ticking me right off. I'm sure I'll have to tell them to piss off and quit. It sucks because we'll have to tighten up our budget, but if I wish to make the grades.... Uni is much more important than some crap job with no room for advancement.

 

[Armywife84]

Small rant (non baby related):

I had a stressful manicure today. The manicurist sawed into my fingers with the nail file! I jerked my hand away and showed her that I was bleeding!! Needless to say, I'm never going back there again.

 

[BobDog]

my rant for the day...

i'm fooking raging at my body! i'm 25 DP frigging O and one test that might or might not have been positive and then Big Fat Fooking Negative. then i had a temp dip where i thought finally the end zone! but nope! it shot right back up, then went up again this morning!

why the fudge is my body playing games on me like this! i officially HATE LTTTC!!!!

 

[HopinAndPrayn]

UGGG dear everyone with your "stay positive," "don't give up" comments I'm SO SO SO SICK OF IT! How do you know when I should or shouldn't give up? You don't know what it's like to see that month after relentless month. You don't know what it's like to go on fertility meds to have miserable side effects only to have them not work. You don't know what it's like to lose every ounce of privacy related to your sex life and having a cam shoved up there to poke around. How do you know whether 6 more months or 5 more years will be my breaking point?

I think the next person to give "supportive" advice is going to get an earful

 

[MackMomma8]

UGGG dear everyone with your "stay positive," "don't give up" comments I'm SO SO SO SICK OF IT! How do you know when I should or shouldn't give up? You don't know what it's like to see that month after relentless month. You don't know what it's like to go on fertility meds to have miserable side effects only to have them not work. You don't know what it's like to lose every ounce of privacy related to your sex life and having a cam shoved up there to poke around. How do you know whether 6 more months or 5 more years will be my breaking point?

I think the next person to give "supportive" advice is going to get an earful

I stalk this thread, but have never posted... but I just had to comment on this one. This is EXACTLY my rant for today!

Dear Positive Polly(s):

STFU.

That is all.

~MM