Hopefully the changes will come with time. My DH admitted the other day how "immature" and "stupid" some of his friends are (I've been trying to tell him this for YEARS!) I'm not just talking about "boys being boys"---but these were the friends he grew up with---they drink beyond comprehension, bash women, trash talk, don't have jobs, smoke way too much, think that going out to the bar is the only "cool" thing to do, etc. And of course my DH is not like that (how he turned out so well, I don't know), and he only hangs out with them like twice a year (they live 3 hours a way---but one happens to be his older brother, so that's difficult at times). However, the other day, for the FIRST time, DH told me how ridiculous they act and it's stupid to hang out with them (yay! Maybe a victory!?) We'll see what he does come hunting season (they all go hunting together the first week of November). I don't want to take friends from him, but I think he would be a lot better off if he would hang out with his good friends instead of them. So....I'm hoping he "wises up" and decides since he is going to be a father soon that he shouldn't be hanging out with such bad influences (he has strong will power, but they peer pressure him A LOT).
Haha---I'm not really sure where all of that came from. .. but I guess what I'm saying is that hopefully your DH will be able to step-up to the plate and make some changes along with you, whattoexpect. Maybe it just takes time? And you are definitely not alone. ..I think all women make more changes than men for a baby. . .but he should at least be making some.
I sure missed a lot! I went to my Mom's house on the beach for a few days to "relax." I ended up being the family nanny as all of the other adults relaxed and I watched all of the kids, but oh well! It was still nice to get away. I also finally told my Mom about the baby, and she seemed genuinely excited. Phew! No more hiding for me!
