VENT THREAD! Things you wish you could say but can't

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My rant would be...

To you dumbass NHS doctors - cop on, will you?! I'm 32 years old and didn't have a period for 7 months after coming off the pill and you think that was NORMAL?! Really? You then send me for scans and see my one ovary is covered in cysts and you say that it's fine. Really? Then after I have enough braincells to realise for myself that it's not actually fine (because guess what... google teaches you a lot, you should check it out sometime, you might be able to actually buy your medical degree on there somewhere!), your colleague says that he 'supposes' he can refer me to a specialist. Well thank you very much, it's really useful having you in this world! :dohh: So where do you people send me? To the flipping general gynae unit - yes, that's right - pregnant people galore!! Like, I'm the ONLY non-pregnant one! After 3 months and 2 visits, you eventually tell me that you THINK I have PCOS and that you can't do anything for me and that you're referring me to the specialist fertility unit. Congratulations Genius! Without even a day at medical school, I could have told you that's where I need to be. You then tell me that the private specialist I consulted in South Africa put the 'cart before the horse' by giving me Clomid, because you have to first investigate WHY I'm not having periods. Again... really?! :growlmad: You flipping useless Tonsils... I'm not having periods because I'm not ovulating! Geez, flip and bloody hell... cop on, will you? And you say to me 'we should maybe look at your weight'... hmm... funny you should say that, because I have to look at it every day and I see it piling on rapidly since I came off the pill, no matter how many Weight Watchers points I count! So do me a favour, get your fingers out of your butts, treat me like a human being, not a bloody target statistic and HELP me! Do your bloody job and help me. That's all I'm asking. Tonsils.

Rant over... WHEW! :winkwink:
 
My rant would be...

To you dumbass NHS doctors - cop on, will you?! I'm 32 years old and didn't have a period for 7 months after coming off the pill and you think that was NORMAL?! Really? You then send me for scans and see my one ovary is covered in cysts and you say that it's fine. Really? Then after I have enough braincells to realise for myself that it's not actually fine (because guess what... google teaches you a lot, you should check it out sometime, you might be able to actually buy your medical degree on there somewhere!), your colleague says that he 'supposes' he can refer me to a specialist. Well thank you very much, it's really useful having you in this world! :dohh: So where do you people send me? To the flipping general gynae unit - yes, that's right - pregnant people galore!! Like, I'm the ONLY non-pregnant one! After 3 months and 2 visits, you eventually tell me that you THINK I have PCOS and that you can't do anything for me and that you're referring me to the specialist fertility unit. Congratulations Genius! Without even a day at medical school, I could have told you that's where I need to be. You then tell me that the private specialist I consulted in South Africa put the 'cart before the horse' by giving me Clomid, because you have to first investigate WHY I'm not having periods. Again... really?! :growlmad: You flipping useless Tonsils... I'm not having periods because I'm not ovulating! Geez, flip and bloody hell... cop on, will you? And you say to me 'we should maybe look at your weight'... hmm... funny you should say that, because I have to look at it every day and I see it piling on rapidly since I came off the pill, no matter how many Weight Watchers points I count! So do me a favour, get your fingers out of your butts, treat me like a human being, not a bloody target statistic and HELP me! Do your bloody job and help me. That's all I'm asking. Tonsils.

Rant over... WHEW! :winkwink:

I absolutely hate doctors who think they know so much better than we do because they have a medical degree. They give us no credit for knowing our own bodies! They act as if everything we have researched is just untrue internet advice!

Have you found a different doctor?
 
I absolutely hate doctors who think they know so much better than we do because they have a medical degree. They give us no credit for knowing our own bodies! They act as if everything we have researched is just untrue internet advice!

Have you found a different doctor?

I've now been referred to the specialist fertility unit, so I have my appointment on the 9th July. So no more having to deal with useless GPs - who actually said to me 'You're trying to conceive right? Well, we would NEVER get involved in that'. I wish I was joking! :nope:

We'll see what they say on the 9th, but having called them yesterday, I already know that I won't be scanned or anything, so who knows. :shrug: I'll see how it goes and might opt for going private - it'll squeeze the budget a bit, but it may just be do-able. Better to have no money and no stress than be stressing constantly because you only see someone every 3 months, who doesn't even perform the most basic of scans etc. So we'll see, thanks for hearing me out! :thumbup:
 
I absolutely hate doctors who think they know so much better than we do because they have a medical degree. They give us no credit for knowing our own bodies! They act as if everything we have researched is just untrue internet advice!

Have you found a different doctor?

I've now been referred to the specialist fertility unit, so I have my appointment on the 9th July. So no more having to deal with useless GPs - who actually said to me 'You're trying to conceive right? Well, we would NEVER get involved in that'. I wish I was joking! :nope:

We'll see what they say on the 9th, but having called them yesterday, I already know that I won't be scanned or anything, so who knows. :shrug: I'll see how it goes and might opt for going private - it'll squeeze the budget a bit, but it may just be do-able. Better to have no money and no stress than be stressing constantly because you only see someone every 3 months, who doesn't even perform the most basic of scans etc. So we'll see, thanks for hearing me out! :thumbup:

That's just awful. I've learned over the years that if I am seeing a doctor who won't hear me out or acts incredibly rushed everytime I see them, it's best to find another one. You get in there and they rush, and make you feel rushed and then the next thing you know, you've forgotten questions you had. They certainly make enough money to listen to their patients and give them answers. If they can't even do that, they are not getting my money!
 
ok... if you don't like my blog, don't read it! Simples! Don't comment and give me you're RIDICULOUS views about a life you're not living. If you don't agree with sperm donation that's fine - but i have to wonder why someone who doesn't agree with it is reading a sperm donation blog
 
ok... if you don't like my blog, don't read it! Simples! Don't comment and give me you're RIDICULOUS views about a life you're not living. If you don't agree with sperm donation that's fine - but i have to wonder why someone who doesn't agree with it is reading a sperm donation blog

Huh?
 
ok... if you don't like my blog, don't read it! Simples! Don't comment and give me you're RIDICULOUS views about a life you're not living. If you don't agree with sperm donation that's fine - but i have to wonder why someone who doesn't agree with it is reading a sperm donation blog

Huh?

It's her vent. Says in her signature that she blogs with a link. Someone was probably being a snot on it.
 
Oooft great thread!!

The next person who asks me "am I back at work yet" and "when am I back at work" or "ooh werent your work good to let you have time off" is going to get a slap. Week after week after week after week Ffs some times ten people a day. If I'm at a party or social event, I'm prickling because I know the question is coming any second and bam, sure enough it does. I feel the anger and irritation rising, but I just nod and smile. What I want
to say is : Ffs I'm on maternity leave which I'm entitled to, despite the fact that my baby died. It's a small reward the waste of what 2011 turned out to be. Can you not just let me enjoy my time off and recover, without constant reminders of work. Oh and it's my entitlement and right, work being good about it dosent come into the equation you NOB.
I'm back at work in the middle of July, so you will all be pleased to know I'm BACK EARNING MY KEEP as that's all you are all concerned about.
Think of another question bore off how about asking me how I'm coping after the death of my child, that would be a new one aaaaaaaaarrrrrrggggggggghhhhhh.
Oooft that's better. Rant over.
I know people are just being polite and making conversation but after the 100th person and the 1000th time, I sooooo wanna punch their lights out.
 
Oooft great thread!!

The next person who asks me "am I back at work yet" and "when am I back at work" or "ooh werent your work good to let you have time off" is going to get a slap. Week after week after week after week Ffs some times ten people a day. If I'm at a party or social event, I'm prickling because I know the question is coming any second and bam, sure enough it does. I feel the anger and irritation rising, but I just nod and smile. What I want
to say is : Ffs I'm on maternity leave which I'm entitled to, despite the fact that my baby died. It's a small reward the waste of what 2011 turned out to be. Can you not just let me enjoy my time off and recover, without constant reminders of work. Oh and it's my entitlement and right, work being good about it dosent come into the equation you NOB.
I'm back at work in the middle of July, so you will all be pleased to know I'm BACK EARNING MY KEEP as that's all you are all concerned about.
Think of another question bore off how about asking me how I'm coping after the death of my child, that would be a new one aaaaaaaaarrrrrrggggggggghhhhhh.
Oooft that's better. Rant over.
I know people are just being polite and making conversation but after the 100th person and the 1000th time, I sooooo wanna punch their lights out.

Oh hun, I'm incredibly sorry. I can't imagine the heartache you must be going through. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. :hugs:
 
ok... if you don't like my blog, don't read it! Simples! Don't comment and give me you're RIDICULOUS views about a life you're not living. If you don't agree with sperm donation that's fine - but i have to wonder why someone who doesn't agree with it is reading a sperm donation blog

Huh?

It's her vent. Says in her signature that she blogs with a link. Someone was probably being a snot on it.

Oooppss.. I see. Sorry. I get confused quite easily!
 
OK... im about to have the biggest f**king rant I've ever had on a forum.. ( only cuz this is the only place I can say this :haha: )

Wow... how can people be so low??? Really honestly. Seriously. You know you've REALLY upset me when my fiancee doesn't know whether to be angry or upset.

Got a lovely welcoming to the soon to be "in laws" but that quickly turned sour cuz one half is being a total asshole! :growlmad: It's not often your mother in law (to be) is pissed off, your fiancee is pissed off and im in tears all because some wanker is against his step-son and daughter in law (to be) sleeping together..

YES FOLKS, that is what this is all about.... A simple sleeping arrangement. Really what is the really huge frikking deal about 2 people who love each other and are soon to marry each other sleeping in the same bed?? Really seriously??? So I guess when we have kids they will be unwelcome up here too?? ( We're out at the family home in Country SA)

It's not very often someone brings me to tears and it's not often that someone actually pisses off my Godly husband (to be) and then his mother on top of that, but tonight really took the cake... My H2B said to his mum how can someone hurt 3 innocent people because of a moral?? I said well it's simple.. you can just come by yourself, and then he'll get the picture..

Argh so f..king sick to people's shit, just got rid of one person who didnt like me being happy now I have to deal with a f..king inlaw (to be) who has a problem with his step-son sleeping with his wife (to be)..

Oh and one more thing mate, that stupid little piss taking comment you made when I was sitting on the sofa rubbing hubby to be's back, it's called pain asshole, and it's called Ankylosing Spondylitis something which he cant help!!.. :cry:

p.s Ankylosing Spondylitis is a incurable condition which effects the movement of the spine.. Hardly something to laugh about?!?!?! :growlmad:
 
In good fashion my mother called me with bad news (that's the only calls I get from her, she never calls with good news or just to talk).
Stepdad is in the hospital again. Stroke and possibly heart attack, a blood infection on top of those. His MS is getting worse, he can't even swallow right now. He at least knows where he is and who he is. He can barely speak though and is very weak on one side.

I asked about him not getting released to home and hoping they get him into some long term care finally, my mom isn't capable of taking care of herself most days let alone his high needs.... nurse said he's a long way from that decision.

Mom praised the extramural nurse who was helping her set up paperwork for in home care should he get released...and how wonderful she was etc etc..... to which I responded, 'oh, is that the same services and paper work I told you to get set up 6 months ago, and was willing to help you all you had to do was make one bloody phonecall to get it all started'

All she needed to do was make one phone call that I couldn't make, and I would follow up with everything. 'Too busy' she said... 'it will take too much time to get the help' she said. OMFG he could have had support all this time and made stronger to fight through this but nope. Her lazy selfishness triumphed and he's suffering because of it.

And to top that off, I found out a former coworker had a baby 3 weeks ago, and a very good friend's wife is pregnant but I heard that through the grapevine instead of from them.

FML All I want to do is cry today and snuggle with my dog, my furbaby. Thank god I took the day off to give myself a 4 day weekend.

thanks for letting me vent (again) ladies. I really appreciate it.
 
I have SO enjoyed reading this thread and it has been just what I needed. Yesterday I got a BFN at 10 dpo after feeling some mild AF type cramps. I wasn't expecting anything but I was still cranky and depressed. I was in one of those moods where you're not happy about anybody else's bfp, no matter whether they've been trying longer than you or whatever their story is.

Sometimes it helps when I just get the feelings out and then I feel much more able to feel happy for pregnant women. It takes a lot of energy for me to hold the negativity inside and to pretend to be cheerful when I'm torn up inside.
 
MissFernandez - Hey! Another person with AS! I have AS too, and deal with severe chronic pain 24/7. I often get epidural spinal injections and sacroilliac joint injections, plus am on long-acting morphine 24/7. It's not a fun disease to have, that's for sure. :(

Do they not know that you're TTC, i'm guessing then? Otherwise sleeping in the same bed wouldn't be an issue.... lol
 
Thank goodness for this thread!! So i already HATE going on facebook because of all the pregnant girls and new moms that are constantly posting statuses and pictures about their babies and it makes so me jealous i could explode!!!! But today when i logged in i was greeted with a wall post notification. A friend from highshool posted something to me on my wall, so i clicked to go to my page.

Her post read: "So now that you're married when are we going to see little Alyson's running around? lol"

I WAS FURIOUS AND MORTIFIED!!!! :growlmad::growlmad::growlmad::growlmad:

But i tried to keep my cool. I wanted to delete it but i didnt want to seem rude or give off the impression that i was angry or over sensistive. And besides, this girl is really nice and im sure that if she knew what i was going through she wouldnt have done this.

So I replied saying that i was just so stressed out with getting ready for the move that i hadnt even had time to think about that sort of thing.

Heres what i wanted to say: "Well if you must know, every moment of my life is consumed with thoughts about having a baby! I spend all day researching and on forums talking about how much i want a child. However, i'm so damn unlucky that i have PCOS, and getting pregnant will be hard for me, and staying pregnant will be even harder. I have the wonderful option of taking harmful medications that MIGHT work, or trying natural supplements that MIGHT work, seeing as there is NO CURE for my illness. Also you might like to know that i DIE a little inside everytime i see a pregnant woman, whether its on facebook or in person and i hate myself for being so jealous but i cant help it. The fact that i may not be able to give my husband a child, while little 15 year old sluts seem to be able to conceive by just SEXTING turns me into a stark raving mad lunatic!! I just dont understand!! And for another fun fact: I get so depressed and mad at my self everytime i delusionally symptom spot and take a pregnancy test just to get a BFN and be dissapointed! In fact, i cried myself to sleep last night for that very reason. Some days i really wonder how much more of this i can take, and im not even actively trying to conceive yet. And when we do start ttc it will have to be this big secret just between me and my husband because neither of our families is supportive of us having a child right now and dont seem to understand why we would have the audacity to tell them that we can make our own decisions! Just more drama to add to my life.. So in conclusion, i'm miserable, childless, miserable about being childless and possibly being doomed to a life of struggle and infertility, and sometimes i truly think that if i cant have a child that it makes me a useless human being and that i'm not worthy of being called a woman or a wife or even being alive for that matter. So thanks for asking me this insensitive question on facebook for the world to see and digging the knife in even deeper. If i kill myself tonight, you should know its because of you. But dont worry, since we're cool, i'll give you a shout out in my suicide note. Any more questions???" BITCH!!

Well i'm glad i got that off my chest :)

LOL I so understand. You just want to go off on people on fb but instead you send something nice and then come here and rant :)
 
ugh

TTC after MC in feb. We got pregnant the first time we were trying no problems until the mc. It has been 4 months of let down each time AF arrives.

Sometimes I just want to jump off a bridge or hurt myself. ( I wouldnt do either) sometimes the thought of hurting myself sounds better then always thinking about the disappointment of a negative test. It just aches inside. Most days I am fine but their are days that I just want to crawl into a hole.

I know one day it will happen but when????? Why is it people who dont want it get pregnant so easily while the ones who do suffer.

Oh the other kicker is my job since I am a contract massage employee I had to go out of state to work three days after my d&c they said I wasnt happy enough for their girls to pump them up for their races. they have decided they dont want me to work trips with them anymore. Sorry I wasnt being a cheerleader but I also wasnt crying and frowning the whole time. I had a fake smile and cheery attitude I guess it wasnt enough.

Yet another friend who has tried for one month is pregnant( she didnt really want to get pregnant until next yr), another one has been trying for a few months and is pregnant and the other 8 friends of mine are between 5-8 months pregnant ( I would have been 6 1/2 months along). And one told me she got an abortion because it doesnt fit into her life to be pregnant now WTF ASSHOLE YOU COULD HAVE TOLD SOMEONE ELSE THAT!!!!!!


Sometimes friends give the worst advice. I dont need to be given their opinion or an answer. Sometimes I just need someone to listen and let me cry. It also doesnt help when your mom and mother in law makes comments well whenever you finally give us a grandbaby. URGH I AM SO MAD AT LIFE and honestly mad at God.

we havent even been married a yr. So I try and focus on that and spending time with my husband getting to know him and building a strong relationship. But having kids is something we have both wanted to have since we were children. So it is really hard on both of us.

Sorry this is a huge confusing rant but sometimes just writing things out is what i need. Especially when I can't go to any of my friends since they are all pregnant.
 
thankfully we haven't really told anyone we are ttc. they only person i really said yes we are is one of my nearest and dearest friends and she is excited for us to be. she has a one year old daughter and wants a playmate for her!! my problem is with my MIL she treats my husband and I like crap and i cant deal with it anymore and i just need to vent to someone other than my hubby and friends for a change. i just don't know how you can treat two kids like they are the best thing since sliced bread then treat your "baby" like a red headed step child?!?!?! i know we are both strong willed, independant, and stubborn but really where do you get off treating people like garbage?? for goodness sakes that is your child!! you wanted him and now this is what you do to him after he bends over backwards for you!!!! ARGGH!!!!! I just don't know what to do anymore! hopefully this will help!!!
 
MissFernandez - Hey! Another person with AS! I have AS too, and deal with severe chronic pain 24/7. I often get epidural spinal injections and sacroilliac joint injections, plus am on long-acting morphine 24/7. It's not a fun disease to have, that's for sure. :(

Do they not know that you're TTC, i'm guessing then? Otherwise sleeping in the same bed wouldn't be an issue.... lol

My Husband (to be) has it. He often has the sacroilliac joint injections as well, including Simponi Injections every month to help ease the pain.. plus a myriad of other tablets... I just get so pissed off how people think that it's "all cool" and that they think it's fun to take the mickey out of people who live with and deal with pain on a daily basis.. ( although I give my hubby to be more back massages than I get :haha:)

It's definately not nice, but we know that they do the job and it improves his quality of life a bit more untill we get a bit older ( gosh feel so old now at 25 :haha:)

Good luck and we send you heaps of Babydust! :dust:
 
My biggest vent is that the amount of people who tell me I'm too young to start a family is staggering. Firstly, I'm 22, not 14, and secondly, why the hell is it anyone else's business??

And then those bright sparks who tell me that I'm just a spring chicken and have plenty of time down the track for kids later? Thank goodness I don't own a shotgun!! AARGH!
 
My rent would be to my MIL:

The only reason we don't have children is because we CAN'T, not because we DON'T WANT to. Stop speculating why and stop saying it's because we're selfish! Your own son is about done with you and i won't talk him out of never speaking to you again.

She hurts me so much, but somehow, i don't think telling her this to her face would help anything.
 
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