Hi girls... feeling pretty down in the dumps this evening
I'm 7dpo today and have had cramping and now a tiny bit of spotting this evening... so it looks like my luteal phase is going to be the same now as it was A YEAR AGO, despite months of supplements and my daughter only breastfeeding 2x a day now, compared to every 2-2.5ish hours night and day a year ago. 100mg B6 doesn't seem to have done anything... I felt so hopeful reading so many success stories here, but alas mine doesn't seem to be one of them right now.
I think I need to get myself down to the doctors... which I don't like at the best of times, but needs must.
Does anyone here have experience of going to the doctors for fertility issues? What sort of things did they ask you? Did you take charts with you? I know that they'll probably do blood tests to check for ovulation (chatted to the registrar I saw for my regular ovarian cyst checkup last month), although I know I'm definitely ovulating already... but I also know that the guidelines say GPs should recommend against charting, so am worried my years worth of charts (and knowledge from charting for over a year before I was pregnant with L) will be dismissed, even though they clearly show that I have a very short LP.
Goodness, when we started trying a year ago, I never imagined that 12 months later I wouldn't be pregnant/have a newborn. Life does throw us curveballs, sometimes, doesn't it? Still, I know I am so lucky to have my little girl, and although we really wanted our first 2 close together, I have to accept that it hasn't happened and appreciate what I have.
Hi 254, sorry you're feeling down
I know what you mean though, we've only been ttc for 7 months so far, but it seems like an age, and I never for a MOMENT thought it would take this long... my sisters have had 6 children between them and none of those 6 took more than 2 months to conceive! I think they were probably lucky, but still y'know, that was my reference point...
Sometimes I wonder if we'll still be doing this a year from now - as many here are - and I'll look back on 7 months and think 'wow, how naive was i - that was nothing!'
I also never really had any luck with B-complex, although I know others have... I guess it depends on what your issue actually is.
Anyway... back to your question. I can tell you my experience with GPs. And that's that they were fairly useless actually! Didn't appear to really know what they were talking about re. ttc or reproductive hormones in general; pretty much dismissed my concerns about my very short LP and light AF, and told me they didn't really think I had a problem. They DID suggest and do CD3 and CD21 blood tests, but when the results came back they just told me that they were "normal" when in actual fact (I found out later) the exact levels of 2 or 3 things (crucial things like progesterone, estradiol, and FSH) were really on the very lower limit of 'normal'.
I know not all GPs will be like this - by any stretch! But I just think that they're not the specialists here, and be aware that they MAY try to dismiss things as not a problem.
In the end I asked to get a referral to fertility specialist, because I was really convinced that I DID have an issue with my LP. To be fair both the docs had mentioned it as an option open to me - they usually prefer that people have been ttc for a year, but that duration drops when you're 1) over 35 and 2) have an observable issue. So I don't think they really believed me about the LP defect, but they did end up referring me on that basis.
After that things definitely started to improve, and the FS was AWESOME. Such a reflief to talk to someone who knew what he was talking about, and could suggest courses of action. In particular he agreed that a short LP WAS a problem, and I'm now on Clomid to try and fix that.
Re. the charting, again, the GPs seemed quite unimpressed/uninterested by my charts, but the FS was very interested in them and said they helped him enormously to see what was going on. Meant he could do a diagnosis there and then rather than sending me away to go and chart for 3 months. So all good. Would definitely recommend continuing with that in case you see someone like that in the future.
And as for the docs - see how you go with GPs... but if necessary, my advice would be to escalate it as soon as possible if you feel it is a concern (and my FS agreed that anything under 10 days really IS... mine is 7-9 days). I can tell you that I feel immeasurably better and more calm about all of it since seeing the FS and feeling like I had a way forward.
Good luck!!! Let us know how you get on...