Waiting for AF after M/C, anyone else? OCBM

[Lindsay109]

LL, glad to hear there has been no more spotting. I hear you on the insomnia! Unfortunately I have no good ideas for what to do about it besides try not to stress too much.... it just seems to come and go for me. Fortunately I seem to be in another sleepy phase and have been sleeping very very well the last few nights.

Teacup, you definitely still have a chance!! Fingers crossed

Crys, how are you feeling, any symptoms?

Blue, so sorry the doctor wasn't more helpful. I'm really surprised that he thinks 18 months is the "magic" number. If you know when you're ovulating, and the "practicalities" as you say, it shouldn't take that long. Maybe if you go see the gyne, that person will be a little more understanding about how long this has taken for you and refer you on. The SA is a good step too, because at least you'll know where you stand in that department too. Hang in there hun

 

[Linnypops]

Teacup - Seems like anything could be happening, so I think you're def still in with a chance. Sore boobs are a great sign x

LL - Sorry the vomiting is still striking! Hopefully that'll dissappear for good soon. Sorry also about the insomnia, it seems to be pretty common. I had it for a while, same thing - waking to pee & being unable to get back to sleep easily or at all - now, like Lindsay i'm sleepy again. I reckon hormones must have an influence. I didn't really do anything to change it except start listening to audiobooks on my headphones when I was getting too frustrated - found that helps. Hope it passes soon! It does seem to be a temporary thing - preparation for when baby arrives?!

Blue - You've got to be kidding. I thought it was a year if under 35 and 6 months if over 35. Can you go and get a second opinion/switch doctors? Can't believe you got the 'relax' advice either?! I guess an SA is at least something, and if you're referred because of potential PCOS maybe you'll find something out anyway through that. Ugh, i'm sorry love. That sucks.....I do hope he's 100% correct though, and your rainbow babe turns up without ever having to go back there. xx

Cryss - Good thanks - how's things with you? Hope the tww is flying by, any nice symptoms? x

Brighteyes - how are you doing love?

LJS - How's things with you? Hopefully just having a plain-sailing stress free pregnancy!? x


Afm - Still having difficulty breathing, partly because it feels like there's a balloon inflated up my nose (I can hardly get air through my nose now, have turned into a proper mouth-breather. Obviously I look really intellectual) and partly I think because of hormones. I'm going to mention to mw next week and see what she says. Meanwhile, just trying to keep leaping up from seated position to a minimum right now x

 

[bluestars]

Yeah I want Dons to go for SA. So hopefully he actually looks into and organises something.

AF is on it's way spotting kind.i totally broke down last night and never got any sleep so that's probably why it hasn't really showed yet.

Xxx

 

[crysshae]

I'm so sorry Blue. I just wanna give you a big hug.

I'm doing okay. Everything is a symptom! It's the TWW! I'm doing my best to ignore them and not announce. Don't know how much longer that will last.

 

[Aleeah]

Sorry I can't type much ladies, still at work and really need to get home.

House move went ok, still ongoing and typical no broadband yet, hence the quick msg at work.

Blue - I'm so sorry, I seriously think you should consider moving doctors or go back and plead that it's depressing you etc. I remember thinking I looked super pathetic at my doctors appointment and I managed to get referred quicker than a normal patient would. So maybe try that? I know it's horrible for you, I hope they pull their finger out and test you soon bet the impending appointment will have you up the duff before you even get there xxx

Crys - Your chart is looking really good! Excited to see it go green and turn into a BFP!! xx

Linny - I had the dreaded congestion too, it still comes and goes and normally with a nose bleed. Try and have lots of hot drinks and a little steam on your face, I found that helped me xx

Lindsay - Annoying your ultrasound got moved, especially so close to the appointment time. But hoping Wednesday comes here real quick so you can see the little man again xx

LL - I was glad to see you were more optimistic but am sorry about the spotting. These things are always sent to try us!! I hope it all stays at bay now and that you get into the pregnancy full swing, you really are over the worst of it now but I appreciate how hard it is to believe that yourself xxx

Teacup - Still rooting for you xxx

Sorry if I've missed anyone x

AFM - Same stuff, different day! Hardly know I'm pregnant bar the clothes getting tighter, have now put on 9lbs, is that good or bad???!! Who knows!! xxx

 

[teacup]

BFN this morning on cycle day 43. Pretty sure I'm out. I never got a scan after my miscarriage last cycle - should I be worried about ectopic or anything? I have never had a cycle this long before. Maybe my body is having a phantom pregnancy? I might make a doc appointment for Friday if AF still hasn't shown. Can I have some guilt free alcohol tonight do you think? (Day off tomorrow - yay!)

LL - glad you're still puking! It must be reassuring, even if it isn't very pleasant! xx

Blue - Sorry your doctor was useless. I thought that they offer help after a year - not 18 months. If I were you I would book an appointment with a different doctor (and cry!) and they might refer you to a fertility specialist. Hopefully your BFP will be here before you have to see anyone. xx

Crysshae - what dpo are you today? When do you plan to test? Good luck! xx

Linny - Sorry to hear your breathing is worse, I hope you can get lots of rest. Has the doc recommended anything to help your breathing? xx

 

[bluestars]

I cried my heart out and pleaded. He said even if he wanted to refer me the fertility clinic Would reject me because iv fallen pregnant before. I just want Dons to get his SA done I might be a little more relaxed knowing his swimmers at at there full. Dont know what to do this cycle dony know wiether to temp or use opks. Xxx

 

[Literati_Love]

Blue - That makes me mad about your doctor. EVERYWHERE I know considers 12 months the "magic number" - not 18! That's just ridiculous. And to dismiss you because you've been pregnant before is ridiculous. There is such a thing as secondary infertility! You have waited the prescribed amount of time couples are supposed to wait. Clearly there is something up that is making things take a little longer this time, and I don't see why your doctor wouldn't be eager to figure out what that might be. I'm glad your dh is getting a SA and you're getting checked for PCOS again, but I think you should switch doctors. I agree with Lindsay that you should ask your ob/gyn when you go and perhaps he/she will be more helpful. I am so sorry you're feeling terribly down from this all.

Lindsay - Mine definitely hasn't "gone" since it's come but that is hopeful if I might get a bit of a reprieve at some point. It really is an annoying thing and I am glad you are going through a sleepy period at the time being. I've heard it gets even worse in the third trimester. I don't really think depriving us of sleep now will help us when we have a baby! I'd rather save up my sleep while I can!!

Linny - Also good to know that your insomnia is taking a bit of a break. I can't wait for mine to do that! I'm really not sure what would help me. I'm glad listening to audiobooks has helped you a bit when frustration kicks in!

Sorry about your difficulty breathing. The stuffy nose is definitely a pregnancy thing and I've had one non-stop since I got pregnant as well. It's fairly annoying! I hope you get some relief soon.

Crys - Good job on ignoring your symptoms. I can't wait to hear about them when you cave.

Aleeah - Your weight gain sounds like it's quite normal, so I think it's good! I'm sure I'll have gained quite a bit more by then! I can't believe you're barely showing yet! I can usually see a small bump on people by 13 or 14 weeks! Do you wish you were showing more, or are you enjoying being able to hide it a bit longer?

Teacup - Thanks! It actually was reassuring. I agree you should talk to your doctor about this crazy long cycle. It might be worth checking things out. I'm not sure if I'd feel safe to drink at this point or not. It's probably fairly low risk if you don't have even a faint BFP.

 

[bluestars]

Thanks lit. I know I thought it was a year... but hey.

Thanks for all the support. I will reply better soon so exhausted .


Hope you all are well. Xxx

 

[Linnypops]

Blue - I think your doctor is talking total bs to be honest. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/fertility-tests.aspx
It says 12 months. Although their advice for trying for a baby is ancient . He needs to take you seriously, send Dons in for a stern word!

Also, if you fancy trying something different - I have Fertilaid for men and women here unopened. I'd gone into fertility survivalist mode before bfp and bought mega bottles of them - DF was definitely going to be getting fertilaid in his porridge if I didn't get pregnant. If you think you might give it a try out, pm me and i'll send them over. x

Aleeah - Thanks for the tip! I've been necking decaff tea recently, it seems to help a bit. 9lbs sounds like a modest and respectable amount to have put on I think i'm about 9lbs extra aready - oops. I think it all evens out in the end as I can't really eat as much now. x

Cryss - Well your temps are through the roof atm! Are they normally that high in the tww? Well, whenever you're ready to share a symptom or two, we'll be here ready to analyse it!

Teacup - Oh i'm a bit confused, I thought this was a cycle immediately following mc. Maybe it's just taking a while to get back on track....might take longer to OV? Have you got any more opk's? I don't think you should worry about ectopic - I think if that had been the case it'd have been pretty painful by now. Seeing the doc sounds like a good plan, and tbh if there's no double lines at the mo - I think a glass of vino won't do any harm . Haven't spoken to doc yet - i've always had better responses from the midwives. I'm seeing mine next week so i'll just wait for that I think. Meantime lying down on my side helps, and sitting up straight! X

LL - Now the spotting's died down are you feeling ok? Maybe even a teeny bit positive again You're nearing the second tri mamma! X

Afm - In the last year noone I know particularly well has announced they're also pregnant. The last week - 2 people I know very well and work with! Both due a few weeks after me. It's bizarre! It's funny as well because I was chatting with one and mentioned the spotting I had, and she said 'oh yeah i had that, i didn't think it was a problem though? I never spoke to anyone about it'. I was quite jealous of her relaxed attitude!

 

[teacup]

Teacup - Oh i'm a bit confused, I thought this was a cycle immediately following mc. Maybe it's just taking a while to get back on track....might take longer to OV? Have you got any more opk's? I don't think you should worry about ectopic - I think if that had been the case it'd have been pretty painful by now. Seeing the doc sounds like a good plan, and tbh if there's no double lines at the mo - I think a glass of vino won't do any harm . Haven't spoken to doc yet - i've always had better responses from the midwives. I'm seeing mine next week so i'll just wait for that I think. Meantime lying down on my side helps, and sitting up straight! X

I miscarried on December 9th, and I haven't had a period since. So yes it is my cycle immediately following (2nd) miscarriage. Still waiting. I might make a phone appointment with the doc maybe. x

 

[bluestars]

Thanks linny. I will go in and speak to the other doctor when he comes on. Whats fertilaid?

Im taking royal jelly at the minute... not sure its going to make any difference.

Linny it seems like half my facebook has announced a pregnancy. July is going to be a baby month! I can remember with the first pregnancy I was soo relaxed lol. Xxx

 

[Aleeah]

I miscarried on December 9th, and I haven't had a period since. So yes it is my cycle immediately following (2nd) miscarriage. Still waiting. I might make a phone appointment with the doc maybe. x

I miscarried in May last year and didn't have anything AF or a positive OPK until CD49 following it. It was a positive OPK and I did conceive that cycle (with twins in fact) but sadly miscarried them as well. I think you should maybe go to the doctors, mine were useless and just said if they give me something to kick start it, it might mess up my cycles really badly. So really my only option was to wait, I actually then had a positive OPK a matter of days later.

But your doctor might be more helpful, worth a try xxx

 

[teacup]

I miscarried on December 9th, and I haven't had a period since. So yes it is my cycle immediately following (2nd) miscarriage. Still waiting. I might make a phone appointment with the doc maybe. x

I miscarried in May last year and didn't have anything AF or a positive OPK until CD49 following it. It was a positive OPK and I did conceive that cycle (with twins in fact) but sadly miscarried them as well. I think you should maybe go to the doctors, mine were useless and just said if they give me something to kick start it, it might mess up my cycles really badly. So really my only option was to wait, I actually then had a positive OPK a matter of days later.

But your doctor might be more helpful, worth a try xxx

Thank you Aleeah. How pregnant were you in May before you miscarried? I was only 5 weeks last time I miscarried, but it seems to have taken my body longer to get back to normal than my first miscarriage at 7 weeks. My cycles reverted back to normal pretty much straight away last time. I have made a phone appointment for tomorrow (as I can't be bothered to walk to the doctors!) so will see what she says. xxx

 

[bluestars]

Yea cup have you tested to see of theres some left over hormones ? Xxx

 

[Aleeah]

Blue - I agree with Linny, take Dons with you. I bet if you made another appointment the doctor will cave just to get you off his files and onto someone else's. Following my 3rd miscarriage they gave me an appointment for 5months time (in which I obviously fell pregnant and had another miscarriage) but he really should be referring you promptly. I don't think there's anything wrong with you, there wasn't with us either but it's so reassuring to know that for a fact. Keep pushing, we pay taxes all our lives and for most of us this is the only real cost to the NHS we have for years, so why should they not help you. You've suffered and waited enough, please go back and keep pushing, or move doctors. Maybe even print off the pages Linny posted as evidence to back your arguement.

LL - I'm not showing much at all but I quite like it that way, means I can carry on wearing my normal clothes, although have caved and brought a pair of maternity jeans for going out. I'm sure like everyone keeps saying I'll be fed up of a bump when it gets big, so enjoying having a small bump for now.

I love, love, love seeing your ticker, it's so amazing you're almost into the second trimester! When will you start buying things??

Linny - Thanks for the weight comment. I guess it will even out in the end, I was slightly under weight to start with, so guess I should just embrace it, it's just tough to know what's normal but I guess everyone's normal is different. I'm sure there's a baby boom going on too, which is good news for other ladies on this thread as it appears to be contagious!! xx

Teacup - I was 8 weeks pregnant and baby had stopped at 7 weeks. I've definitely found in my case, my body takes longer to get back on track following a natural miscarriage compared to one that's resolved using a procedure like a D&C. Was your 5 week one natural? And following all my miscarriages it's taken a varied length of time for things to get back, the longest being the 49 day cycle and the shortest being just over a week. I'm glad you've made an appointment, to be honest she must be able to help just as much over the telephone anyway, good luck missy xxx

AFM - I had a bit of an episode last night. Was on my own and it was after dinner but I went to the bathroom to mop the floor and ended up fainting. Was lucky I managed to fall without hurting myself but was really shaken up by it. Can only guess it's happened because of the excess blood pumping around your body and maybe I had low blood pressure. Taking things slowly today though xxx

 

[bluestars]

Thank Aleeah. I hope your ok! Take it easy!!! Xxx

 

[crysshae]

Aleeah - You be careful, and sit down and drink water if you feel faint. Do you know how long you were out? Did you have any warning signs?

Blue - Take that gynecology referral he offered. Even if there is nothing wrong, they might take your concerns more seriously.

Tea - I hope your doctor can help you with some answers.

Linny - That's a relaxed attitude indeed. It's crazy how differently people think.

I hope everyone is doing well.

My temp does go up like that most cycles but usually later in the cycle. Back down today though, although that could have to do with being up 50 times overnight.

 

[Lindsay109]

Linny, I've got the perpetual stuffy nose too, as well as the shortness of breath - not much fun but apparently normal. Like Aleeah, I have found a bit of steam helps with the stuffiness at least.

Aleeah, I think that's a totally normal amount of weight to have put on. I was up about 12 lbs last week. The fainting episode is scary! I hope you're okay. Glad you're going to take it easy today, you probably need it after the move, etc.

Teacup, that must be very frustrating not knowing what's going on A trip to the doctor certainly wouldn't hurt, and they may have some insight for you.

Blue, I think that's a good idea to go and speak to the other doctor. I also think Aleeah's idea of taking OH with you and printing out those pages that Linny posted would strengthen your argument. I can't believe the doctor just brushed you off like that. When we were first ttc, I saw the doctor on month 7 and she asked if we were getting "tired of trying" yet, lol. I said we were still okay, but she said that if we did get tired, she would refer us to a fertility specialist even at that point.

AFM, I've been having wicked heartburn the last couple days. It had gone away for a while but is now back with a vengeance, especially at night! Thank goodness for tums or I'm not sure what I would do, lol.

 

[brighteyez73]

Hello ladies,:wave:

How is going for everyone? Well I hope. AF is gone as of Sunday night. Waiting to start BD'ing with preseed.