Waiting for AF after M/C, anyone else? OCBM

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thanks Lit, Sara and Becky...

you're right life isn't fair.. I wonder why on earth put me through everything I went through last year if I'm not going to be able to have another baby...

my OH thinks he's being supportive... but it's not for me... he asked me what my numbers were, so I told him, he then asked me when I was getting the medicine to "flush it out"... seriously... then got upset when I said that I had bloodwork tomorrow... said there's no point...

Then he said "we're done, you know that right"...heartbroken doesn't begin to describe my feelings right now.. I'll be okay.. right now I'm just really hoping that it's not ectopic...

good luck to you lovely ladies, I'll pop in regularly to see how you're all doing :)
 
You have every right and reason to be heartbroken for a while. Maybe OH will reconsider once this isn't so fresh.
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Ahhh oh no. That's a terrible and heartbreaking reaction from your oh! I am so sorry. You must be so upset right now. I second what Sara said in that hopefully he will reconsider when it isn't so fresh. It really is inconceivable that this could happen to you after such a horrible thing last year already. I don't know why it's so easy for some and so difficult for others. :( :hugs:
 
Im really sorry Kim. Its so unfair that you have to go through this again and with little support from OH. Really had everything crossed that this was your little miracle after everything you have already gone through. Sending you lots of hugs and love. Please know that we are here to talk to anytime you need a rant or just a chat. Hold your head up honey. Xxxx
 
Oh Kim I'm so sorry your oh is being like this. I thought he really wanted another baby too?

Nothing is certain until you get the next set of bloods, you could have slow rising numbers. I'm still praying for you that they've risen and that you see something at your scan next week.

If not, maybe your oh will just need more time before trying again. People keep telling me that everything happens for a reason and I do believe that. We don't always know what that reason is which can make it very hard. Maybe your uterus wasn't quite ready yet. You know it's growing though so in a month or two, perhaps it will be.

We are all here for you. Please do stay in touch, I know this isn't the end of the road for you :hugs: thinking of you xxx
 
Kim - I'm so sorry love. :hugs:. I second the sentiment of the other ladies - after some time has passed hopefully your oh will have a different feeling on things...I bet he's worried sick about you especially after the close call with disaster last time. Really hope you two get to have a good heart to heart on it and he comes to understand how you're feeling x
 
Men display feelings other ways my hubby had gone up n down too at has just arrived for me so I have one last shot at Clomid now
 
I'm so sorry Kim. I hope you are able to speak with your OH. His attitude very well may be caused by him trying to protect you.
 
Hello Ladies,

I was just catching up with all the posts.

Kim -Im really sorry to hear about your HO's reaction... sometimes men try to be helpful and they end up being hurtful... dont lose hope just yet...

To all the momma'S looks like things are progressing and you are all doing well!

bright eyes- i hope your IVF gets approved asap so you can start your treatments!! how exciting!!!

I hope all the preggo ladies are doing well too! time flies so fast and next thing you know you are in your third trimester **cough cough**

How are all the TTCer?? any news? My bf has a co worker that is trying to conceive and they have been having some trouble, so Im putting together some links for her and im lending her one of my fertility books to help her figure out the very complex nature of our reproductive system

update on me: baby started to move about 2 weeks ago and its fantastic. I cant believe after all the pain and suffering we went through we are finally here and heres here and hes moving and growing inside me. I just cant believe it yet. So ladies that are struggling, do not give up hope and keep that little light inside of you on because you will have your baby. have no doubts.

Other than that, I feel great, I went to a buddhist conference last week in Toronto, Im working lots and i have mad mad acid reflux which makes eating in the evening kid of impossible. So im eating lots of oatmeal, bananas, cheese,yoghurt, peaches etc. I have gained a total of 17 lbs since i became pregnant and well... I think I look ok, im not struggling with body image too much at this point, just trying to eat healthy and keep doing squats LOL

OH YAH! OMG I have huge drama regarding the baby shower but I will post later or another day... HUgs and kisses to all I promise I will post a baby bump picture this weekend for sure. :)
 
Sab - great to hear from you. Glad you can feel the baby move now. Congrats on being in the third trimester! I'm interested to hear the baby shower drama. Also that is a super healthy amount of weight to gain at this point. Definitely feel great about yourself!

Whisper - sorry AF arrived. Why only one more chance with clomid?
 
Literati_Love said:
Sab - great to hear from you. Glad you can feel the baby move now. Congrats on being in the third trimester! I'm interested to hear the baby shower drama. Also that is a super healthy amount of weight to gain at this point. Definitely feel great about yourself!

Whisper - sorry AF arrived. Why only one more chance with clomid?
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my gp here says he WILL NOT refer me to a specialist he had me in tears yesterday telling me only person who can prescribe them now is a specialist as id need higher dose so i said ok then can you refer me? his reply was what for what would it acheive your still young let your natural hormones work .... erm if they did that i wouldnt need clomid in the first place
 
Whisper I'm sorry Hun :hugs: hopefully you will get pregnant this cycle. If not, would you consider soy isoflavines? I've heard it's like natures clomid and seen a few girls on here try it who weren't ovulating at all, after a few cycles ovulating on cd14 and getting a bfp so might be worth a try. Xx
 
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Whisper I'm sorry Hun :hugs: hopefully you will get pregnant this cycle. If not, would you consider soy isoflavines? I've heard it's like natures clomid and seen a few girls on here try it who weren't ovulating at all, after a few cycles ovulating on cd14 and getting a bfp so might be worth a try. Xx
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ive tried soy so many times, and maca and neither helped we were trying for 3 years to get lena fiirst cycle of clomid i was pregnant, 2nd cycle of clomid i fell pregnant with the baby we lost , we are going to be staying for a few months in germany with my mother in law so i may try my old doctor there and just pay private for a round :shrug:
 
Sab !! How did you sneak into the third tri! Haha welcome and its a great feeling. Your nearly there. :hugs:

Whisper -sorry the witch got you! Fingers crossed for this cycle! I used royal jelly and what a difference that made for us. Have you tried this ? Xxx
 
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Whisper - sorry to hear your doctor is being a douche. I loved this site full of research after my mc - it also has links to info about fertility/menstruation/ovulation research. Might be some useful nuggets of info in there for you?

https://sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/home
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thank you for that you just awnserd my questions about last pregnancy woth lena and why she had iugr and also the misscarriage i was taken off my metformin! with lena i was taken off at 25 weeeks after that my pregnancy went tits up and this time i was told not to take it and lost the baby:thumbup:
 
Kim, I'm so sorry. Your OH is probably just trying to protect you - thinking that if you don't get pregnant then you can't feel the devastation of a loss.

I'm so sorry - I'm praying that it's slow-rising HCG. You've been in my thoughts all week.

Whisper, I've got my fingers crossed for you this cycle.

Kim, how are you feeling? Sending hugs your way.

Sab and Blue, I'm glad y'all are good!

AFM, still down. Had my saline ultrasound and HSG on Thursday - no uterine issues and my tubes are clear. We'll give it another go, I guess.
 
whisper - Blimey! I just looked up the metformin stuff on there - I had no idea that it was not just an ovulation thing - as in - it should be continued through first trimester especially. That is outrageous that you were taken off it - why is solid research like this ignored?? God, so sorry to see this love....a totally needless loss X
 
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