Waiting for AF after M/C, anyone else? OCBM

[bluestars]

Crys that's amazing!!! I can totally see the line ! Congratulations!! have you said to Hubbie yet ? Xxx

Nina- hope your feeling better soon! Have you still been testing at all! I have my dumb suit on a lot haha! The lady that runs a cafe here told me to shut up the other day because I was ruining her idea that I was smart haha!

Aleeah! I hope that you have been enjoying your weekend even though you have been busy! What have you been up to anyway ?

Lit how are are you doing ! Really hope this spotting is ib for you !


Nothing new with me this month. I'm still all stuffy and have a sore chest! Not been BDing as much this cycle. Still getting peak on OPK's (clearblue) but not on cheapies. Temps are all over the place and not sure if I have o'd yet or not! Lol.

 

[crysshae]

Lol Blue! That's too funny.

With that drop in temps, I bet you're ovulating today or tomorrow. Fingers crossed for you!

No. I've only told my friends on BnB. Waiting till I have a line he can see. I'm so glad y'all can see it in the pics!

 

[Literati_Love]

Crys - I never spot before AF. Well, usually AF starts out as spotting, but it always continues to full flow within a few hours. I haven't had any more spotting and of course I was hoping it would be IB...but it looks like I'm out for this cycle. I wasn't going to test today but then my temps went up and I got kind of hopeful, and figured I could use some good news today. I used my free ICs and they were very clearly BFNs. Not even X-Ray Eyes could imagine a faint line. So I probably won't even test tomorrow and will just wait for AF to arrive.

I hope YOU get a darker line ASAP!

Nina - Not sure what you said, but we all know you're a smartie! How are your lines today???

Blue - Thanks. I wish it'd been ib but I think not. That's weird about your temps...but if you're still getting peaks you definitely should still be BDing just in case. Good luck! And I hope you feel better soon.

As for me - it sucks that I'm out, but oh well. As I said I'll probably just wait for AF now. DH at least said if I get AF, he'll buy me wine and fro-yo and let me watch whatever chick flick I want. I guess that's some consolation.

 

[crysshae]

You're not out till the witch shows. I still have my fingers crossed for you!

IC is not darker yet, but FRER is positive!

 

[bluestars]

Yey for frer positive ! how many days PO are you?


Sorry lit! Really is a shite time of the month when bfn are involved! Always gets me so down. Still feel like I'm recovering from last months disappointment and it won't be long till it comes around again. Don't have aHopeful bone left in my body. And to be. Honest dont think i want to be hopefully because just makes me fall lower!


OH and I where talking about if it where easier to just go see a specialist and pay for it ! (Usually on NHS it's free but you have to wait years for it). I know it take the 'fun side out of it but surely after so long it's not longer fun! And I don't have the heart to give up trying. Even for a month or so. Last if we went for paid if we'd know if something was wrong with me or OHs sperm...


You girls doing anything nice with your Sunday ? Xxxx

 

[crysshae]

I'm 11 dpo today.

I so hope this is your month and you won't need to pay for a specialist.

 

[Literati_Love]

Crys - Ooh! I see that faint line on your FRER. That is very exciting. Can't wait to see it get darker and darker. Congratulations! When will your due date be?

Blue - Yep, it really sucks getting your hopes up and having them let down each month. I'd imagine you are getting very, very sick of it. That sucks you're just recovering from last month and soon it will be time again. But maybe this time you will have good news! You just never know.

That is tempting to get things checked out to see what's going on. You guys have been trying for a while now and I'm sure it would be reassuring to at least find out that nothing was wrong - or if something was wrong, to catch it early so you can take action. Are you thinking of setting up an appointment?

No major plans for me this afternoon. I might even take a nap...although going for a walk is probably a better idea for my health. We always have supper with my parents on Sunday evenings, so we'll be going over there in a few hours. What about you?

 

[Literati_Love]

So...call me irrational, but I have been feeling like my left ovary has "bum" eggs and that I'm only capable of getting pregnant from my right ovary. The only reason I think this is because the 2 cycles I have been TTC and *not* gotten pregnant, I have ovulated on my left side. The one time I got pregnant, I ovulated on my right side. This cycle I believe I ovulated on my left (although it was a bit harder to tell than usual), and it looks like I most likely did not get pregnant. I had a bad feeling about this month as soon as I figured out I oved on my left side, even though I tried to convince myself it was irrational. I was especially annoyed because I've now ovulated on my left side two cycles in a row (one was the cycle right after the m/c that we weren't trying). Something just tells me that I won't get pregnant until I ov on the right. Again, probably very irrational since I've only had 3 cycles to experiment with.

However, I just googled "can one ovary be more fertile than the other" and found this article: https://humrep.oxfordjournals.org/content/15/9/1921.long.

It's not very interesting but I'll sum it up for you. Basically the study found that women tend to ovulate on their right side more often than their left side (54.5% for right side), and it also found that right sided ovulation was more likely to result in pregnancy for some reason. The ratio of pregnancies from right-sided ovulation compared to the total number of pregnancies was 64.6%! Wow! I was really surprised by this...and clearly it is still very possible to get pregnant from the left ovary, but I just thought it was interesting that this study did seem to confirm that the right ovary is a bit more fertile than the left. So let's just hope that all of us who are still TTC ovulate from the right side this cycle!

 

[Nina83]

LL, that'[s very interesting.
How are you sure you ovulated from your right ovary though? As I understood, there's no real way, I think other than US, to know which side you ovulated from. Even the O pain doesn't necessarily mean anything. I cannot remember where I read that though, I might be talking about something else.
I usually get O pain on my right as well, and this cycle was on both sides. Hmmm...

I'm going to read that article tomorrow at work, I'm to tired right now, I won't understand anything!

 

[Literati_Love]

I just "know" from which side I feel ovulation pains on. It is always very distinct for me. I'm sure there's a chance I'd be wrong, but I don't see why I'd feel distinct ovulation pains on the right side if I actually ovulated on the left. I can't be 100% sure, but I feel pretty confident I know which side I ovulate on!

That's interesting you felt it on both sides this month. I wonder if it's possible you released two eggs? Or maybe since it appears you are pregnant you were just feeling stretching on both sides.

 

[bluestars]

I honestly can say I couldn't tell you what side i o from... I don't think I feel o very much at all (apart from last months) ... I've been waiting for pains and what not this cycle but none yet I don't think.... Interesting though. Sure it was my left side last month. And you can definitely release eggs from both sides. Not sure how common it is though.


Xxx

 

[Literati_Love]

Interesting, blue! I think it's less common than not to actually feel ovulation so it's definitely not abnormal that you don't feel it normally!

 

[Lindsay109]

LL, any more news? I've got my fingers crossed it was IB for you! Your chart is looking good hun! And you're definitely not out yet... you're not out until AF arrives (hopefully she won't!). Do you know what the sensitivity was on the cheapies? Maybe they weren't very sensitive and it's too early?

That's an interesting article. I get bad ovulation pain every month... worse when I ovulate from my left side. My left ovary seems to be dominant though... I usually ovulate from the left (based on ovulation pain so I know that's not for sure)... but it seems to be about 75% of the time left, and 25% of the time right. The first bfp was from the left side, and this one was from the right.

Nina, sorry to hear you're sick Hope you're feeling better soon! Any more testing?

Aleeah, I hope you've had a great weekend! Sounds like i might have been one of those weekends that you need a weekend to recover from, lol.

Blue, I hope you feel better soon too! Being sick can do weird things to your temps... it doesn't look like you've ovulated yet though. That's a good question about whether or not to get checked out... you're right though, trying month after month it's not fun any more. It might give you peace of mind though... at least if there was something wrong, you could take steps to fix it, and if nothing is wrong, then you would know it's just a matter of time... How was your weekend?

Crys, that is one nice looking FRER Have you told hubby yet? Men are funny about lines. With my first bfp, the test I showed to hubby was at 15 dpo and it was almost as dark as the control line and he looked at it and said "are you sure? it doesn't look as dark as the other one", lol.

I didn't get up to too much today. Hubby was out helping at a friends farm... I am on doctors orders to "take it easy" so didn't go.... went over to my parents for lunch instead. We also usually go over there on sundays for dinner, but my parents are going to a birthday party this evening so we didn't do our usual dinner.

 

[Nina83]

I just "know" from which side I feel ovulation pains on. It is always very distinct for me. I'm sure there's a chance I'd be wrong, but I don't see why I'd feel distinct ovulation pains on the right side if I actually ovulated on the left. I can't be 100% sure, but I feel pretty confident I know which side I ovulate on!

That's interesting you felt it on both sides this month. I wonder if it's possible you released two eggs? Or maybe since it appears you are pregnant you were just feeling stretching on both sides.

My temps dipped this morning and cervix is lower and firm, so I guess I'm not.
I had a major breakdown last night. Not sure how much more of this I can take.

I was actually thinking about that last cycle, how I always feel the pain on my right side, what's wrong with my left? I thought ovulation happened from one side every other month. (one month left, next month right) Maybe that's what's wrong with me? My right side are bad eggs and my left one just doesn't ovulate properly?

I just want to go home and cry and never come back to work. DH told me the other day he really want this baby and I can't give him one. I don't know if it's him, or me, there's just something that won't work. I'm thinking about taking a break. I just can't go through this again. miscarriage, or disappointment month after month. I just can't.

 

[bluestars]

Aww nina I'm sorry your feeling so down! I know what you mean though. OH is getting himself so worked up about not giving me 'the one thing I want more in the word' and I'm blaming myself!! Why won't this happen for us ?

I don't know about you but I feel like I need a break but I don't want to waste the months in case those where supposed to be my bfp months !

I have been looking out for o pains today ... Still not really feeling anything. Xxx

 

[Nina83]

Aww nina I'm sorry your feeling so down! I know what you mean though. OH is getting himself so worked up about not giving me 'the one thing I want more in the word' and I'm blaming myself!! Why won't this happen for us ?

I don't know about you but I feel like I need a break but I don't want to waste the months in case those where supposed to be my bfp months !

I have been looking out for o pains today ... Still not really feeling anything. Xxx

It did not make it any better this morning seeing someone post on her FB page a picture of a guy with a baby and the wording went something like this
"A man is not complete until he has seen the baby he made"

Just effing wonderful.

Plus, another group I'm on here, almost everyone has already gotten their BFP, 5 of us are left. Out of the 5, three of us have been pregnant again and MC. Ugh how depressing.

How are you feeling? Your flu might be playing with O and temps, I'm not sure, but it might delay it, so you can feel better while DTD

 

[bluestars]

Hey honey I know what you mean. Did you ever go to the doc and see if your hormone levels did rise or not? I honestly think you had a bad batch of tests nina! Xxx

 

[Nina83]

I have an appointment next week, I'll ask to test progesterone on CD21.
I'm just telling myself it was a bad bunch and not a chemical. It just makes it easier. And really, what does it even matter anymore.

 

[bluestars]

Have you taken any more tests or frers?

It does matter honey if its getting you down then it matters a lot

 

[MissyMoo88]

Can I join ladies?

I had a D&C on Wednesday 24th July and still no AF , it's killing me waiting. I've had a lot of random spotting, mucus and cramps so I don't if or when I ovulated. So it's almost been 7 weeks.
Did anyone else's take so long? It's getting me down