Linny - I'm sorry you had a difficult time getting a bhcg. That's so frustrating. The argument I used when I got attitude asking for testing was that I want to know what's going on in case of another m/c. I pushed for a bhcg after my last bfp, and it was low...it's more information than my dr had before. Investigating afterwards won't necessarily show why a pregnancy was unsucessful. I'm not suggesting that you should be thinking negatively like this, but don't be afraid to use your painful experience if people are being insensitve and difficult! It's horrible that she lectured you about mcs being common, clearly she has not experienced loss.
As for the twinges, I had lots. Mw said probably just implantion and not to worry.
I had very vivid dreams with both bfps!
Celine - I love the rainbow blanket! You are so talented! You should definitely make one for your rainbow.
I'm sorry about your friend. That is heartbreaking.
Ginger - I feel like I can't objectively answer questions about symptoms. I'm hyper aware of every potential difference, so I'm not sure if anything has changed post mc.
Annie - fingers crossed for you! Glad the timing worked out for you!
GRGirl - well said
I also hang out only on here. It's really hard to hear whining about all things pregnancy related when you can't even get pregnant. It's even more difficult to hear people tell you to just relax, and it will happen next time. I think about all my pregnant friends and listen to them talk, they've never felt the fear of losing a baby - not that I would wish that on anyone - but they also do not seem to have any appreciation for how tough it is, or how lucky they are not to understand.
I also fall into the two consecutive losses category
I don't think that you, or Celine, should be worrying about age!
From your chart, Id say it's too soon to tell. See what your temps do for the next day or two.
Boodley - I'm sorry you've had such a long road ttc
I chopped my hair off a few weeks ago. A change feels good
I think a bit of spotting at 6dpo is far more likely implantation than anything. Dont you just love that as with everything else ttc, the only thing you can do is take a deep breath and hope for the best?! On the bright side, maybe that means you'll see a bfp by 10 dpo!
Rachel - I think it takes 2 days after implantation for a blood test to detect hcg, and 4 for urine (minimum), so I'd wait a few days...if you can
I hope it's not turning to AF
Mandi - Sorry you find yourself here, but welcome.
Lexie - Sorry for your loss. I conceived again immediately after mc, but I was only 5w when I mc. My hcg levels also dropped quickly.
I understand feeling like people won't understand your pain - but you won't have that problem here. I've found it really helpful to share here, and I think most everyone else will agree. I think we've all experienced ignorant or insensitive (unintentially) comments from others, but everyone here is all too familiar with your pain and frustrations.
Garfie - your chart looks like mine...all over the place. Is it too much to ask that our bodies follow the 'normal' expected temperature/ov pattern?!! Hubby too stressed for sex is super frustrating...their role is so small compared to the crap we go through! Hopefully your timing was right so it won't matter!
Those are horrible comments
Most of them sound all too familiar. Gives me new appreciation for being supportive while saying nothing rather than saying something that you *think* is helpful.
As a rule of thumb, whenever someone tries to give advice that is preceeded by "you just need to..." or anything like it, I try to ignore whatever follows. TYVM for making me feel like the loss of a pregnancy is trivial. Gah.
LL - good for you holding out on testing. I'm sorry you're feeling like this isn't your cycle, but it's not over yet, there's still a chance.
My best friend is due in March. We started trying at the same time by some weird fluke, and were hoping to go through things somewhat together. First baby would have been due in May, second end of June. I a few opinions about timing when we started ttc. Amazing how quickly you accept that you don't actually have any control over the timing. At first I was disappointed when a few cycles went by and I wasn't pregnant while she was, and then I realized that having a few months between was good because we'd be able to visit each other and see newborns (we live far apart), but now the gap is getting bigger and I'm getting increasingly negative. It's so tough to stay happy and supportive of a friend when you want to be there with them but are not. I shared about my mcs, and it has helped, she is mostly very sensitive, minus lots of "maybe you should have waited" type comments this time round.
Jrepp - I'm so sorry for your losses. Your story is very similar to mine, I've just had two early losses (5w) back to back. It must be so difficult to watch your sister, I'm sorry you're having a tough time.
Slg - how's the headache today? Has it let up?
IAW - how was your scan? Thinking of you.
AFM - I think I'm caught up now!
Had an u/s this morning. The tech was unpleasant and unprofessional, but I'll spare you my rant. I know that techs aren't allowed to give out diganostic information, but I would have appreciated a guided tour of my insides
I haven't ov'd yet. Opks were super dark Sunday/Monday and have been getting lighter. Temps have been all.over.the.place so I don't think I missed it. There were some visible follicles on the pictures I snapped when the tech left the room (yep, I'm that person), so I do think it's still coming. I'm driving myself a bit mad second guessing the decision to take a month off. I don't want to wait. Hubby has been a stressball due to a professional exam today, but will be free as a bird in a few hours and I haven't ov'd yet....But I feel like it's a bad idea to proceed when we don't know what happened, if there is anything retained etc etc. Mostly I'm just terrified it will happen again. But I don't want to wait. Le sigh.
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. But in all honesty I feel like we have every right to do this for our own peace of minds. With more understanding of the facts, more information about our hormones etc we can feel more reassured (or else prepare for the worst in advance)...makes sense in theory! The pink CM sounds promising!
. Not really obsessing about the worst yet. Just keeping my fingers crossed for a good beta doubling tomorrow and eating a ton of chocolate. X
I'm 37 and I think I'm plenty young for a good, healthy baby.
Wish I lived near so we could grab coffee and chat 
