Thanks ladies. None of my immediate family were mean to me, but I don't think they were particularly happy about it, or had any positive feelings about it. I think really there is too much stigma and stereotypical assumption attached to teenage pregnancy - yes, it's true that a lot of girls in that situation are perhaps troublesome, or living a wild lifestyle, or making deliberate unwise choices because they haven't been properly educated or informed about the enormous responsibilty that babies are, but they still need help. At the other end of the scale, you can be a straight A, scholarship pupil, in the private school system all your life, but that doesn't affect how fertile you are! Yet people still assume that you must be going off the rails, that you're sleeping around, that you must be having constant, wild, age-inappropriate sex off your face on crack in order to have conceived as a teenager.
WRONG. And I ask those people who the stupid one really is? Everyone knows it only takes a single sperm, right? Right? Ack.
When I tell my family, I don't want any comments or concerns coming up regarding the past, namely the MC. You are correct Kate that it has shaped my life quite largely and I don't want it tainting anything else now, especially something that is supposed to be good. I feel like it's my thing to carry. Nobody else has any right to talk about it.
One family member quite recently mentioned it over a meal out, although it was VERY loosely related to the conversation around the table at the time, and I knew they were just doing it in case any of the friends/acquaintances around the table were unaware of what had happened to me. I completely went off my food and just sat there thinking 'FUCK YOU' because I knew they only mentioned it to make people think they were a hero at the centre of a tragic story. That's what I mean about people just bringing it up and bandying it about like it's their personal pain. None of them were there with me in the hospital. Really pisses me off.
Yes, my parents like my OH and I assume his parents like me. I don't know what I'm scared of really. Stuff about the MC coming up I suppose and my dad mainly getting all worried and going around telling everyone his daughter's pregnant but it's oh-so-stressful and high risk because she lost a baby once. It annoys me whenever I think about it, as I'm 90% sure that's what will happen, but then I amuse myself by imagining that people will ask him how old I am, thinking his reaction is so extreme that I must be 12 or something and he'll have to admit that I'm 26 and plenty old enough to have a baby.
Anyway, I'll stop talking crap now. Thanks for the support girls. X