Waiting to start IVF in January anyone else?

[Mrs W 11]

I've been really tired as well, it must've the stims I think. I always feel vaguely hung over in the mornings!!

Mo - sorry to see you go, hope you to hear good news from you soon lovely xx

Lining - thanks for all the tips ladies. I had a scan back in August as part of all my fertility tests and my lining only got to 7mm, hoping the stims will help as it was 6.5 Friday so we will see tomorrow what it has got to.

Wow some of you have really interesting jobs! We are a varied bunch!! I have a bit of a quandary at the moment actually and I am interested in your opinions and advice......

I to always thought I would be a stay at home mum. I've always wanted 2-3 kids and my mum worked when I was a child but my nan was there with us and she was amazing so I vowed to be like her and give my children the gift of my time. Fast forward to adulthood and here I am working 4 days a week and putting my dd into nursery and it doesn't sit well with me. But the money is good and I do love my job.

However, the area where we live, dh and I moved to for work. We have made friends there through work, nct with our dd and neighbours etc but we have no family near so we spend a lot of time on our own. Dhs parents are planning to retire to bournemouth in a few years (they currently live in Swansea and won't move while dhs nan is still alive, she is 93) and we would love to be close to them, we love spending time with them and they are amazing grandparents. And babysitters

So.... We've sold our house. We've found a house we love (it isn't really cut and dried, we love the house but are not 100% convinced on area.... It's ok but quite near a bit we don't like, however pick the house up and move it to an area we like and we can't afford it.) I am suddenly feeling really scared about offering on this house and therefore needing to relocate in 8-12 weeks. Giving up a big salary for no work. I def won't get another part time job as well paid as I am now, I would have to take lower paid work. Leaving all of my friends. A summer in a new area, knowing no one. Worrying about whether the local schools will be good enough, will we like the area or are we making a mistake?! Do we wait and keep our current security and rent until there is both a house we love and dh has got a job so he doesn't need to commute and I am maybe pregnant or on maternity. Or do we just go for it now and think there will never be a perfect house or a right time. Part of me thinks we will regret it if we miss out on this house. Part of me is scared we will move and be unhappy, see other houses and wish we had waited. If this ivf works its a lot of maternity money I am walking away from. But by the time I know if its worked the house will prob be gone. But then again is time I will never get back with my dd more important than this money in the grand scheme of life.....

Sorry that was long, I think I just needed to get it all out. I am so confused!!!

 

[star25]

Wow Mrs w that is a dilemma, I always find im putting things on hold because of the ivf, therefore all I'm doing with my life is working and not much else!

I think you need to write down the positives and the negatives and see if one out weighs the other
From what you have said it looks like the only positive is the house you have found, we lost out on 2 houses before we got where we are now and I can honestly say we're in the right one so it doesn't matter, it will always work out for the best amd you will find another house you love
It looks like you have more reasons to stay for the time being - your job, dh travelling, maternity pay, friends, security and that dh family might not be there for a few years yet so is it worth losing out on your maternity pay?
The only other thing you need to weigh up now is that you have sold your house and do you want to lose your buyer ( congratulations on selling btw!) if you dont move now just think will it sell again quick when you are in more of a suitable position to move? So I think thats the only other negative thing about not making the move now amd you could be more comfortable staying where you are, especially as your not 100% on the new area

Hope my ramblings helped?!

 

[star25]

Good luck with tomorrow's scan!

 

[Aurora CHK]

Ooh Mrs W that's do tough but I can't disagree with Star's wise thoughts there!

God knows what I will do if this cycle doesn't work. Quit my job, abandon my house and become a nun, perhaps! (Sorry DH!) I've never wanted anything but motherhood. Should expand my horizons really! I never thought it would come to this.

I'm pretty down today. Suspect AF is on her evil way as I feel generally crampy and my temp is getting lower, which is what always signals her arrival and I do have a short LP. Still praying hard for Flopsy and Mopsy though. It's day 10 today (5dp5dt) which is when I got my BFP last time, but I'm not testing this time. I don't dare find out what I dread.
Hope everyone else has a happier day than mine is shaping up to be! I'm gonna watch some arrested development to make me smile and possibly even laugh!

 

[amoreamy]

Huge huge to everyone! Mrs W, I've moved to new areas a few times and it's always possible to build new friendships, and even though the pay is great at your current job, you will still be able to have a decent salary in your future employment. I'm an Aquarius so I'm always on the side of moving forward and making new things! (Sometimes to my peril!) But the weighing up is a great idea also. Don't rush but follow your instinct

I'm feeling the tiredness too. I spent half of the night on the sofa as I was so tired but just so uncomfortable in bed, and I didn't want to disturb my dh. Now I'm on the antibiotics I feel really nauseous most of the time, and as much as I need to eat avocado, the very sight of one is turning my stomach. There's constant muscle ache in my uper body from the buserilin too. I can't wait to stop that. I'm so ready for ec now, bleugh!!

It's fascinating hearing about everyone's jobs. I'm a bit of a jack of all trades, so I'm a playwright, author and portrait artist and I do some part time nannying! Just whichever is most pressing at any one time! I intended to start another play during this but I just can't focus. All of this just takes over!!

 

[Bumpsparkle]

Any ladies having or have had FET's...just a quick question so I can prepare, am I to expect an increase in CM in the build up to what would be ovulation time as normal or, as I'm on oestradiol tablets, should my body be ignoring the ovulation?

Not done a FET before and don't want to be worrying if I start getting ovulation symptoms (or not!) x

 

[star25]

Bumpsparkle, not that ive done it before but ive read estrogen can cause more ewcm, I haf some the other day which isnt usual for me

 

[lizzie78]

Bump I had an increase of ewcm with this FET during stimming phase just like I did with fresh hon xxx

 

[PRGirl]

Mrs W there is certainly a lot going on for you right now but the one piece of advice someone once gave me was never to give yourself the chance to look back and wish you had.

In my case it wasn't moving house, it was starting a business but the same concerns applied. I was going from a good salary with benefits to next to nothing. I had never run a business before and was excited but very concerned.

On a night out with a friend - after too many bottles of wine - she said, put it this way would you be happier carrying on with what you have knowing you never tried? It's easier to carry on but you should never give yourself the chance to look back and wish that you had changed things when you could. You never know what the future holds unless you take risks.

Just my thoughts and probably some hormones in there too but like this process, if you don't try you will never know.

Amo it sounds like you're having a tough time. I hope that you start to feel a little better soon. The tiredness is really difficult. I was lucky not to have to take buserilin for more than one shot. Is there a reason why you have to take it more often?

I hope that all goes well. Is you EC scheduled for Wed?

Best wishes to all. Not long for some of us now.

 

[star25]

Ive ordered 5 one step tests from amazon and 4 frers, for someone whos scared of testing it seems like a lot lol, I might change my mine if I ever get to transfer but at least ive got them just in case!

 

[lizzie78]

Lol star I ordered 6frers back in December never thinking I'd get to the point of needing them xxx

 

[amoreamy]

Mrs W there is certainly a lot going on for you right now but the one piece of advice someone once gave me was never to give yourself the chance to look back and wish you had.

In my case it wasn't moving house, it was starting a business but the same concerns applied. I was going from a good salary with benefits to next to nothing. I had never run a business before and was excited but very concerned.

On a night out with a friend - after too many bottles of wine - she said, put it this way would you be happier carrying on with what you have knowing you never tried? It's easier to carry on but you should never give yourself the chance to look back and wish that you had changed things when you could. You never know what the future holds unless you take risks.

Just my thoughts and probably some hormones in there too but like this process, if you don't try you will never know.

Amo it sounds like you're having a tough time. I hope that you start to feel a little better soon. The tiredness is really difficult. I was lucky not to have to take buserilin for more than one shot. Is there a reason why you have to take it more often?

I hope that all goes well. Is you EC scheduled for Wed?

Best wishes to all. Not long for some of us now.

Love your advice prgirl! Thank you, I've been taking it for ages now! The dose reduced when i started stimming but I've had to continue taking it. I think it's just the thing that suppresses the natural hormones. I can't stand i! If i need to cycle again i hope there's an analternative. I do feel like crap I'm not going to lie! I know I'm not the only one so I don't want to keep complaining. I just hope it's all worth it!

I will hopefully book my ec for Wednesday after the scan tomorrow. Fx'd!

How are you feeling?

 

[Aurora CHK]

PR Girl only one shot of Buserelin? Is that the shirt protocol of IVF? I've had to take it every day for four weeks on both of my IVF cycles and it was almost pushed to five weeks this time. Ick.

 

[lizzie78]

amore if you scroll to the front of this thread you'll see me whining on and on about buserelin lol I hate the stuff and it always makes me feel awful. The good news is that once you're into the 2ww the memory fades. Hang in there, I spent most evenings laid on the bed watching dvd box sets xxx

 

[star25]

How are you feeling lizzie?

 

[amoreamy]

Thank you Aurora and Lizzie! It's nice to hear I'm not alone!

 

[PRGirl]

Amo hang in there! I only had to take one shot because I'm on a short protocol and have to take additional drugs to increase my oestrogen and general hormone levels.

Thinking about you - it sounds like you're doing all you are told, which is all any of us can do. Just make sure you take the time to do what your body tells you. It's difficult as I don't think any of us are used to it but in this instance it's important.

I'm ok. Up and down if I'm honest.
I just want so badly for Wednesday to bring us some good news. We've been on this journey for 6 years now and every step we take is a step either closer or further from our dreams.

We are saving just in case this doesn't work but I don't want to think like that. It is just so difficult to think about anything else.

Still, we will get there.
Fingers crossed for Wednesday for us both!

 

[Aurora CHK]

Haha, I've got about six FRERs and four cheapies in my cupboard as I've always been a POAS addict. However now this is my 'last chance saloon' I don't dare test! I even considered chucking them out today as I'm so scared of testing by mistake and totally regretting it, but then thought that if AF does come I'll want to test to see if it was another chemical or if they didn't even implant this time. So basically I'm only gonna test once I already know it's not worked! I'm such a weirdo!

 

[star25]

Fingers crossed for you prgirl xx

Aurora, I hate testing normally but been trying to decide if I would rather let myself gently over a few days of testing ot having it in one hit if it's a negative over the phone from a nurse, when I asked dh he said he didnt want to wait that long, travel for a blood test then wait for a phone call so that made my mind up, I tthink waiting for the phone to ring would be the hardest part, I know it was for me when I was waiting for embryo updates so if I test early at least this way I know whats coming, even if I would like to enjoy the 2ww longer its not going to change the outcome, I just hope the outcome is a positive for all of us!

 

[PRGirl]

Good luck Aurora