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[confusedprego]

I had a friend of mine tell me this weekend she had considered aborting her baby when she found out she was pregnant. Her baby is now 6 months. I say take that to the grave or at the VERY least dont say it to a girl that lost a very wanted and loved baby two months ago.

That's my rant for the day people can suck!

 

[keepthefaithx]

that would be just wonderful!

lol

 

[Twinkie210]

Jessy- sorry AF is teasing you! Mine has been really light the past two days, but I had a big temp drop today, so I think my progesterone is dropping more, so I think AF is gonna start full force soon.

keepthefaith... I can't believe that lady said that to you! Even if you baby would have been handicapped, you still would have loved it and still wanted it! How in the world does that even make it better that you MC'd? And I can't believe your friend didn't say anything! That is so rude. Well forget about them girl, they aren't worth the aggrevation!

 

[keepthefaithx]

right??? omg ppl are just stupid lol

 

[keepthefaithx]

i had a friend of mine tell me this weekend she had considered aborting her baby when she found out she was pregnant. Her baby is now 6 months. I say take that to the grave or at the very least dont say it to a girl that lost a very wanted and loved baby two months ago.

That's my rant for the day people can suck!

omgg no way???!

 

[collie_crazy]

:wave: Did you all miss me... or did you not even notice I was gone

Had such a busy day today! Had my first appointment with my babyloss clinical psychologist. I was dreading it - like worrying that I wouldn't know what to say to her! But she was really nice and I felt really at ease. I have another appointment in 3 weeks and she wants to see me right up till my due date

Aww thanks Lisette I was actually only in the couple of hours on Monday - we work 3 days on 2 off and that was the last of my scheduled 3 on - so I was off Tues & Wed Back tomorrow though for 3 on I was looking at my record though and over the last 6 months I have only been in work 5 weeks! I feel like I have forgotten everything. I'm sure it will get easier.

Hehe Jessy whats this hump day thing about? Its not the first time I've seen someone talk about hump day today... but I've never heard of it before! Sorry you're being messed around with bleeding / not bleeding / maybe bleeding - its rubbish! I hope your body sorts itself out and gets you PREGGERS asap! Have you tested again??

keepthefaith - I dont know how you managed to restrain yourself from smacking her! I swear if someone had same that to me I would have been arrested for assault! I remember my OH coming home from his doctors appt. a week after we lost Emily - and telling me his doctor had said to him 'Well maybe losing her was for the best - its no life for a kid' my OH had to practically tie my down to stop me racing around there and ripping his head off! How dare he and how dare she make those assumptions! How do they know what kind of lives our babies would have had!? And even if the did have problems that doesnt mean we wouldnt have loved them all the same! AHHHHHHH *RANT*

Did we have a question today or did I miss it?

 

[Twinkie210]

:wave: Did you all miss me... or did you not even notice I was gone

Had such a busy day today! Had my first appointment with my babyloss clinical psychologist. I was dreading it - like worrying that I wouldn't know what to say to her! But she was really nice and I felt really at ease. I have another appointment in 3 weeks and she wants to see me right up till my due date

Aww thanks Lisette I was actually only in the couple of hours on Monday - we work 3 days on 2 off and that was the last of my scheduled 3 on - so I was off Tues & Wed Back tomorrow though for 3 on I was looking at my record though and over the last 6 months I have only been in work 5 weeks! I feel like I have forgotten everything. I'm sure it will get easier.

Hehe Jessy whats this hump day thing about? Its not the first time I've seen someone talk about hump day today... but I've never heard of it before! Sorry you're being messed around with bleeding / not bleeding / maybe bleeding - its rubbish! I hope your body sorts itself out and gets you PREGGERS asap! Have you tested again??

keepthefaith - I dont know how you managed to restrain yourself from smacking her! I swear if someone had same that to me I would have been arrested for assault! I remember my OH coming home from his doctors appt. a week after we lost Emily - and telling me his doctor had said to him 'Well maybe losing her was for the best - its no life for a kid' my OH had to practically tie my down to stop me racing around there and ripping his head off! How dare he and how dare she make those assumptions! How do they know what kind of lives our babies would have had!? And even if the did have problems that doesnt mean we wouldnt have loved them all the same! AHHHHHHH *RANT*

Did we have a question today or did I miss it?

OK, I know the ? wasn't directed at me, but Wednesday is referred to as "hump day" because it is in the middle of the week (like you are over the hump and the rest of the week is down hill from here?) I didn't realize that it wasn't used everywhere. Well this week Wed isn't really my "hump" day anyway, cause this is my friday off (I only work everyother friday) so after tomorrow... my weekend starts!

 

[keepthefaithx]

Right collie. I hate people lol I don't think we had a question today... Jess usually thinks of funny ones but she was busy today lolo xoxo

 

[keepthefaithx]

Ok I wanna post a question..lol who hates the new layout of bnb .. I DO!!!!!

 

[justwaiting]

I can't believe some of the things people say or don't say. AlthoughI would prefer them say nothing, as I know they feel sorry for me and are just at a loss for words.
there should be rules for what not to say.
I'm gonna start a list
-It happened for a reason
- There was obviously something wrong with the baby
- it just wasn't your time
-"I know" it will be ok next time
- You know when ur period is extra heavy and you think to yourself maybe I miscarried, coz it's kinda the same (um no it's not)
- Are you sure you were even ready for a baby
- Your young it'll happen
- We assume it's your fault because after dh does his thing it's up to you to keep the baby alive (um ok, 50% of infertility and baby loss is man related, 50% of DNA idiots)
- You fall pregnant so easily, why can't u keep them
- I especially love the concern and sympathy from a long time friend who has aborted 2(that I know of) babies in the last few years
- I'll be your surrogate (don't count me out just yet)
- just stop thinking about it, it'll happen
- Take a holiday, it'll happen
- Stop trying so hard, then it will happen
- Have u tried this ..............
- My 16/30/40yr old sister/aunt/cousin/friend is pregnant, she doesn't want it/wasn't trying etc.

Thats all I can think of right now but feel free to add.

jessie - Have you done a hpt? It's confusing when pg/af symptoms can mimic each other. and yes every af I have had in the past 6 months has been different. I spotted for days before af actually showed up, it's been brown for several days then turned red, bled for 4-6 days, 2 days after af stopped lost a little more blood and a clot, af came early 4 days this month or late. I don't think our bodies are ever the same and whether they ever sort themselves out.

AFM - cd13 had third bw for ovulation tracking today, hoping to be told I'm ovulating or about to, if I am I will be told to dtd tonight and tomorrow morning, It feels very romantic that a lady on the phone will tell me to shag my hubby at a certain time!!!! I feel like I'm oing pinching pains on the left side, I only seem to feel o on the left side.

 

[NewbieLisette]

Keepthefaith - I DO I DO Mainly annoying cuz there are all these damm baby ad's starring me in the face unexpectadly Awesome that you are a week from testing! Hooray for that girl! How ya feeling? Any symptoms yet?

Collie - Sending you lots & lots of - I read your journal from time to time and you describe the raw emotions so well! My heart goes out to you hun and I know all us ladies all really "get it"....my bff actually said something today which didn't annoy the hell out of me! Shocker!!!! She said it's normal to be mad...you're not mad at others for being happy you just wanna scream....YEAH....I WAS HAPPY TOO 3WEEKS AGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I wish I knew what exactly people could say to make it better...I wish there was something I could do for myself even to make it better....besides ofcourse going on a massive drinking bindge to finally feel numb for a while but then I think Oh God nooo cuz we're not being careful right now so you never know plus I'd probably be sick before getting to a numb state

Twinkie & Jess - sorry to hear about the witch playing games with ya'll and threatening to be here soon! Even worse when you don't know if she's passed or not?!? Like seriously do we need one more annoying thing to deal with! REALLY?!?!

I have no clue where I am...infact I was all kinds of naseaous last night mixed with a headache and I had no clue why...for a moment I thought could it be? Maybe it's just the witch on her way but isin't that too early now? Who's knows!!! I stopped bleeding and we starting BD'ing Oct.1...any ideas ladies? Oh and my skin is a freakin mess...all the way down to my chest!!!! Very attractive I must say!

Confusedprego - I am at a loss for words! I can't believe your friend actually said that out loud TO YOU of all people! What a sad thing and she has a precious baby! Seriously some people should'nt be allowed to speak. PERIOD! WOW! That's all I can say!

justwaiting - Thank you for starting the list...I swear I've heard them all...more than half today even!!!! Like you say...people mean well...they feel bad for us but some of the stuff is just not helpful! On the contrary! I've been fumming mad and reduced to tears more than once at work today and I hope and pray I can find the inner strength to block people out real soon! Hope you catch your eggy girl And thanks for posting your experiences with your body and how its normal that it'll just do whatever the heck it feels like for a few cycles! Mind you I hate not being able to predict anything at this point but I'll just lump that in with the general feeling of loss of control over my life! lol

To all you lovely ladies & better days tmmr!

 

[jkb11]

I have a couple that really got to me.....I was told
-Just brush your shoulders off and keep trying
-I'll tell you what you need to do, Just go on vacation and get totally wasted and you will totally be knocked up.
OHHH PEOPLE, COME ON!

Jessy my heart goes out to ya! I know that's frustrating. Why can't it just be black and white?????

 

[confusedprego]

I have a question for you ladies..

We are going to officially being trying next cycle (my chart is below -AF should be here soon). I am the matron of honor in my friends wedding at the end of October next year. If we get pregnant fast again then ill be due in July or august but if it takes a few months should we hold off a month or two to make sure I don't have my due date around their wedding day? DH is also in the wedding.

DH says its their problem and if we want a baby then that's the answer which I agree with its just that I'm the only girl in the wedding bc the bride doesn't have many gfs. There are 6 or 7 groomsmen..I would feel awful if she was by herself on her wedding day..

Thanks ladies

 

[Twinkie210]

I can't believe some of the things people say or don't say. AlthoughI would prefer them say nothing, as I know they feel sorry for me and are just at a loss for words.
there should be rules for what not to say.
I'm gonna start a list
-It happened for a reason
- There was obviously something wrong with the baby
- it just wasn't your time
-"I know" it will be ok next time
- You know when ur period is extra heavy and you think to yourself maybe I miscarried, coz it's kinda the same (um no it's not)
- Are you sure you were even ready for a baby
- Your young it'll happen
- We assume it's your fault because after dh does his thing it's up to you to keep the baby alive (um ok, 50% of infertility and baby loss is man related, 50% of DNA idiots)
- You fall pregnant so easily, why can't u keep them
- I especially love the concern and sympathy from a long time friend who has aborted 2(that I know of) babies in the last few years
- I'll be your surrogate (don't count me out just yet)
- just stop thinking about it, it'll happen
- Take a holiday, it'll happen
- Stop trying so hard, then it will happen
- Have u tried this ..............
- My 16/30/40yr old sister/aunt/cousin/friend is pregnant, she doesn't want it/wasn't trying etc.

QUOTE]

Here are a couple more to add:
-It's OK, you can try again
-Remember God has a Plan
-I am sure God will give you a healthy baby when the time is right.

 

[Twinkie210]

I have a question for you ladies..

We are going to officially being trying next cycle (my chart is below -AF should be here soon). I am the matron of honor in my friends wedding at the end of October next year. If we get pregnant fast again then ill be due in July or august but if it takes a few months should we hold off a month or two to make sure I don't have my due date around their wedding day? DH is also in the wedding.

DH says its their problem and if we want a baby then that's the answer which I agree with its just that I'm the only girl in the wedding bc the bride doesn't have many gfs. There are 6 or 7 groomsmen..I would feel awful if she was by herself on her wedding day..

Thanks ladies

I think only you and DH can decide that.
I personally don't think I would try to plan my baby around a wedding, but if you are worried you could take a month off if the due date would be around the wedding. I have been trying for 9 months for a healthy baby and if that happened to be the month, then I wouldn't want to miss my chance you know?

I really think you friend would understand though. But hopefully you get pregnant again quickly and you won't have to choose!

 

[Twinkie210]

OK ladies, I wanted to share the dream I had last night. It is really weird because I NEVER have dreams. I was in the hospital visiting my babies, I had 4! 2 boys and 2 girls. I remember in my dream holding a little boy who was named Owen and he had so much hair. I remember saying I have to go visit your sisters, who were named Lacie and Lena. I don't remember seeing the other one in my dream. Isn't this strange?

 

[NewbieLisette]

Twinkie - crazy cool dream girl And you NEVER dream? I always have messed up intense dreams and when I was PG even more so! How ya feeling today? AF show or are we still in it?

Confusedprego - I agree with Twinkie, as much as I love my bff and would not want to leave her on her wedding day I couldn't bare the thought of missing my cycle and then it taking another how ever many to concieve....my bff is actually getting married June 2nd and with my first PG I would have been due right at the end of April so having a newborn and worrying how she'd take it since she was having an elegant reception a few hours from home...adults only.... Let me assure you...I was more than happy to figure something out!

 

[keepthefaithx]

confusedprego-

i see what u you mean..but i wouldnt plan a baby around a wedding, this is your dream...to be a mom, and whatever is is...if god forbid you cant go to a wedding im sure you best friends would understand, i dont care if i was planning a trip around the world to see all my favorite places...i wud just bd bd bd and whenever i get a baby thats when god wants me to have it!


i would just bd and when its meant to be its meant to be and im sure youre friend will understand!!

xoxoxoxoxo

 

[NewbieLisette]

Hot topic of the day ladies if you like it?!

What tv show/movie's eye candy....eerrrmmmm...."helps" when you're feeling down? My latest fix has been Strike back...plays on HBO Canada right now. Check out two of the hotties

https://www.imdb.com/media/rm2852043776/nm0822982

 

[keepthefaithx]

OT

i had a dream lastnight that someone was following me around my work parking lot and trying to kill me.

he grabbed my arm in the dream and i woke up and i like felt my arm and looked at it. and was like omg...hahha

so crazy!